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im fat ugly and even if i wasnt fat i have wide hips so aesthetically id look like shit. im a 5'10 manlet endomorph with 20 inch shoulders and wide hips and no girls ever gonna love me and it sucks. ive been out of school since january im staying at my pwrentd place cuz my anxiety is that bad i haven't left the house for anything meaningful in months. i spend my nights crying myself to sleep because of how lonely i am. ive tried to get a job but i havent been able to get 1 (im still an anarcho capitalist not a shitty socialist tho) idk my life is screwed either way.

ive thought about killing myself on live stream cuz of this stuff. i probably will after e3 is over. idk what to do.

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Ok so i'm having what I personally would consider to be a huge issue, I dont feel like I can talk to anyone about it and every time I bring it up with my partner I get ambiguous responses and no clear resolution.

I've been with this girl for 5 years and we are on the cusp of marriage after all this time we know each other pretty well.

The issue im having here is either i'm misreading her 90% of the time or im not misreading the situation at all and she is just lying to me. If you have ever been in a situation where you have asked your partner or friend even if everything was ok only to get a responce stating that everything was fine with their body language facial expressions and general attitude all pointed to them not being fine then your familiar with what km going through, this wouldnt bother me normally but the frequency of it has risen so much that we must run into this issues 3-4 times a week and it always causes and argument and awckwardness between us.

So I guess what im looking for here in some insight to the female mind like is this all my faultam I the one blowing things up is she lying to me is she hiding her feelings for some other reason ?

This whole deal has gotten me really paranod about what happens behind the scenes in our relationship and i'm developing horrifyingly big trust issues with her, its too the point that in some situations I cant tell wether or not she is being honest with me.

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My brother had a horrible car accident last year, hit by a drunk driver and ended up in a coma and when he woke up he lost all his abilities. Has to relearn to use his muscles like swallowing.
This really sent me into a deeper depression, this is my little brothers life, he cant take care or support himself. No girl will want to date him, people already treat him like hes slow... so its been hard on everyone even though hes so optimistic.
The thing is ive spent this whole time cheating on my girlfriend whos upstate in college with two different coworkers, one is basically my second girlfriend and the other is strictly sex, she kicks me out as soon as we're done. But i cant face my girlfriend whos planning our future together and is saving up for us to have a house together. Ive been fighting with her everyday out of anger at myself and she doesnt deserve that, i tried breaking up with her but she doesnt want to and i care for her too much...i even missed her call at midnight to wish me happy birthday because i was busy fucking one of the girls.
I dont care about the other girls but im so fucked up i need someone physically with me, to just hold my hand through these times. I even tell my girlfriend shes causing me to be miserable and lonely...shes transferring to a college nearby this fall. I know im a shitty person, so what should i do? I want to forget i did anything and continue on with her when she gets here...but i really do love her and KNOW she deserves better

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Do you think it's possible for a man with a 4 inch penis to find happiness with a woman?

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Ok I've had enough today. I got kicked out of Applebees for being politically incorrect this evening.

I sat down wearing my Donald Trump hat and shirt when I saw a white dude and his Asian girlfriend sitting across from me in another table. I became really angry at them especially the white dude. I stood up and went to the bathroom. I stopped by at their table and told the white dude that he's participating in the white genocide of this country and he should be ashamed for dating an Asian girl. I went to use the bathroom and when I got back, the manager was there. Manager told me to leave for threatening comments made at the couple and being "racist". I told the manager that I was exercising my right to freedom of speech and that I was going to sit back down and eat my food. Manager then said to leave or he was going to call the police. I shouted at him saying, "White power!" and left.

How is this fair? I want to continue making comments directed at couple who are interracial dating/marriage in public. I'm not a racist. How should I go about making them in public?

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Specifically men that are in long term relationships and are happy. I'm having a hard time dealing with my girlfriend past sexual encounters. I have never mentioned it to her or let her know how I feel about it but I feel like things would have been ideal for us. We both have our history and it doesn't make me think less of her as a person but it is something that plagues me. When she tells me details about her encounters it makes me sick to think about it. I've always been of the opinion that transparency in a relationship is preferable to ignorance or denial. I know that she never orgasmed before me so I'm not insecure about my performance. I think it has more to do with the thought of another man with my girl.
My question:
Is this an error of judgement on my part on a subconscious level causing obsessive and neurotic images that if I had a clear understanding would make me feel indifferent? Do the feelings fade away with time? Or is it one of those things that will always bother me on some level and I will just have to learn to put up with it for as long as we are together?

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Sup /adv/
There's a girl in my test room at the uni who I recently got an interest. All I know about her is that she is like 3 years newer than me and is in a class other than mine. I find she very beautiful and really wanted to meet her, to know more about her personality. If I like her personality, I would love to take it to a more serious relationship.
But what's missing for me is the "kickoff". Like, how the hell I start to talk with her without looking like a weirdo? Like, I need a very favourable situation to start the talk. But the problem is that the only time I see her is when the test season is on at the uni, but she sits like a bit far from where I sit (the sit is fix), and like very occasional at the evenings in the uni when we both stay to study.
Literally have no idea how to start this effort. Don't have in my mind what subject would be good to talk in a very good specific situation. I just can't come out of nowhere and start saying about some random things. She surely will find it odd. Any of you guys has some advices to manage well my intentions?

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Hey /adv/. I need help, desperately. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 3 years now. We met hit off on my freshman year of high school. The catch to this, is that we met online. She told me that she has a medical issue, and she often self-harmed. As we fell deeper in love, I tried to help her with that. I took her under my wing like a father would (her dad is an unsupportive douche, and her mom is a religious zealot). We worked together. Oh my God, we were in love. We couldn't leave each other alone, we were so happy to be with each other, even if it wasn't face to face. Over the course of the year, we started skyping and talking on the phone alot. We finished each others sentenced, and made each other laugh. It was going well, even if she was emotionally dependent on me. That went on for 3 years.
As soon as March started, things started changing. (Side note: I'm not a very emotional person. As a kid I was picked on, and I was a fat little bitch. I saw emotion as weakness, and attempted to rid it through questioning my moral standings and the sort. It lead to me being emotionless besides temporary happiness (laughing at jokes and such) or just plain neutral. I can't feel much, and I'm kind of greatful for that. To an extent it hinders me when it comes to certain situations... But that's another story.) She started being less happy, not quite depressed, but just not happy. She would reply very abrupt and short things to me. When we'd talk on the phone, she'd be fine (not lovey dovey like she used to be, but not short with me). I didn't say a word about it. Every time I said something serious or tried to get personal, she'd be distant and would reply something along the lines of "Ok" or "Lol". Long story short, I let this keep happening. Summer started a few weeks ago, and she was still short with me. I go to the state she lives in once a year to see my grandparents. (About to hit text limit, next post will continue it)

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idk why but my bf is at a concert and I'm scared he is/going to cheat on me?

hes with his cousin and I'm worried hes gonna cheat or something because hes like 3 hours away. I mean hes pretty much been texting me during the whole thing voluntarily, but he just texted me and said he cant find his cousin, which makes me feel uncomfortable because that means they split up? why would they split up and why would his cousin go off somewhere alone? also theres a good chance they were probably drink too

should I be worried? also he didn't even invite me to the concert which I know its not a big deal but just a small part of me thinks its incase he wants to meet someone or something=/

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hey /adv/ I have an interview scheduled with this restaurant called "the melt shop" soon

Ive never done an interview before or had a job so what are some cues I should take to really woo them over and get hired?

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30m here, messed my life up really, really bad. I probably deserve to suffer for the poor choices I've made, but I really feel like shit right now. I literally have nobody I feel comfortable calling at any hour and expressing myself to or asking to hang out. I really need friends, or just one good friend to talk to and do things with for the sake of my sanity. I feel so utterly and completely alone, it's like a crushing weight bearing down on me at all times. I have some family, but I don't feel comfortable calling them and breaking down and telling them how sorry I am for being so distant, selfish, and cold.

For the past 10 years I've used weed to self medicate my loneliness and it's the only thing that excites me and makes me feel happy, but I'm realizing that weed abuse is responsible for ruining my social life, and it inhibits me from making new friends (I would choose to avoid parties and anything social so that I could get high, alone. also when high I'm very socially awkward). I've been trying very hard to quit for the past month. It's a catch 22 situation, I need to quit smoking but I need weed to alleviate the pain, nothing else seems to do it. When I'm sober my life is just utterly shitty, I have nothing and no one. I'm so bored. I'm depressed so none of my hobbies are any fun to me when sober. Anyone have experience pulling themselves out of a depressive, addiction-riddled, lonely state?

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Asked my gf to rate me. Never thought I was the worst looking guy. Get like 6-8 on /soc/. She says "you're like an 8, but if you work out, you'll be a 9 or 10". I was a bit angry because I wanted to know what was bringing me down. It was surprising because she seemed to have a high opinion of me before, but now I'm thinking she doesn't like how I look or some shit.

I asked her what was average on her scale, and she said 7.. which made zero sense to me. I asked her why, and she kept rating a bunch of guys I thought were ugly as 6s. She told me only guys like Zac Efron and Adam Levine are 10 to her.

I think she's like a 5 or 6 without make up on. She likes me and even tho I'm always fighting with her about shit (i make her cry a lot) she still comes back to me. I just hate when she fucks with my ego sometimes... like she will look at another guy while we are driving in the car, or she tells me how hot her favorite actor singer. I asked her what she thought a 9 was, and she basically told me I was less attractive than some famous DJ (who is like a 7.5 in my book). I felt like slapping her shit. Then she's always on her phone sometimes while I just sit there confused. I even told her straight up that I think I am better looking than her, and she gets mad and says she doesn't think so. She tells me to go find a girl who I am a 10 if that makes me happy.

what am I doing wrong?

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>Have qt 3.14 gf
>Half the time we get along, sex is eh but I'm her first so she will get better
>But she's really judgemental of my interests and wants me to drop certain hobbies, she can be really selfish and makes little to no effort, Very superficial and rude

I don't know if it's going to work out, so I either have the choice of talking it out with her and hoping for the best or leave her for this girl who is nowhere near as cute but supports my interests and hobbies, is a lot less selfish, tries her best not to judge, and emotionally is the opposite of qt.

What do?

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should I leave my bf?

I really love him and as far I know he loves me too. I'm 23, hes 24.

but I always have this fear he will cheat on me. I don't know why. hes at a concert with his 16 year old cousin right now and I'm worrying about him cheating on me. I'm also going away for a week to visit my sister and I'm scared during that time he will cheat on me.

what should I do? I honestly don't know if its him or me.... I kinda think its both.

well we've been together for almost a year and a half. idk why I feel this way, as far as I know hes nevr cheated on me, and we both talk about our future together, marrying and having children eventually. we're even going on a vacation together next month.

I don't wanna sound like a hoe, but there is someone I'm kinda semi-interested in. so maybe I'm just projecting. id never cheat on my bf and I don't even text/call/see this guy, but hes tried contacting me a couple times, and I just sorta see myself with him, feel like I would fit in with his family/friends, and I don't think id ever fear him cheating on me for some reason I just THINK I would be more trusting of him because he seems like a really good guy. not that my bf isn't, but for some reason I worry. also, I don't really fit in with my bf's family/friends. idk.. idk what to do=/

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I have liked this girl on and off for almost two years. Thing is, she always ends up dating someone else, and she's dating my friend now.

I feel very awkward around her in general because she still initiates conversations with me even when she's in a relationship. She sounds rather sad and acts comparably awkward when talking to me (as opposed to talking to others) which to me has always meant someone liked me. But, she dates other people and is dating my friend now.

I never initiate conversations with her out of respect for their relationship, but she keeps trying to talk to me and acting adorably flirty and nervous. I normally can't manage more than a "Hi." and shortly answering her questions while avoiding eye contact. I don't know if her nervousness is because she thinks I'm creepy or for some other reason.

Should I act more friendly, or cut her off even more? How do I stop our teenage angst from bouncing off each other like a light ray between mirrors?