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Gambling/Discipline issues 2016-06-12 16:38:42 Post No.17248300
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Here goes /adv
I'm 21 and recently I started gambling, it started around 6/7 months ago on the roulette machines you find inside bookies.
I was paid £550 the Friday just gone and had withdrawn £200 to payback a small loan from a friend. I stopped by a bookies and put in £30 just as a small bet and said to myself I would walk out of there.
45mins to 1 hour later I had gambled £400 away and followed it up the next day with another £140 so I lost £540 in total. The rest went of things for myself just to ensure I was covered for the month.
I just couldn't stop, I'm a do first think later kind of guy and now I'm fucked for the month. I owe my mobile provider £54 and have £8 in my account, loans are a no go due to low credit score.
My entire life I have been the guy to do what I want when I want and had no regrets, I don't even regret this. I just want to be able to stop gambling and need to somehow survive until the 8th of July which is my next pay check.
I'm fucked up /adv, help..
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>>17248300
Cold turkey.
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>>17248300
Realize that casinos exist to make money. You can't win, most of the time. Shit's either rigged or you need to be really really good. See: poker.
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http://www.gamcare.org.uk/
Go here immediately. use the hotlines cause these people can help you more than anyone else here can.
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My former employer has to give me my last paycheck on Friday. I called him and recorded the conversation. At some point he says I have a big mouth (I called him cheap over text message) and that I should try to talk to him face to face it that he might even show up at my new job site. Doesn't this constitute assault? He threatens me and says that he'll show at my workplace. Could I get a restraining order based on this? I live in Toronto
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>>17248289
Calm the hell down. You certainly played your part in instigating this whole stupid bullshit situation. Leave him alone. Don't talk to him any more. Show up on Friday to get your check, then fuck off. He isn't going to do shit. He, like you, talks out of his ass when he gets all riled up.
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>>17248296
He had to give it to me on Friday. It was his last day legally to hold my money inside the company. I'm thinking about going into a police station and at least ask for their advice. I know he knows where I work
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>>17248289
You have the basis for a wage claim, file one.
Been with my girl a year now, I think she's the one - cute, smart, funny, sweet. Problem is that she has PTSD and an eating disorder. When she's healthy, she's amazing, but when she's sick she's like a completely different person. I just want her to be healthy, which is why we've been long distance the last two months while she's in treatment. But she recently switched to a new treatment center and finally told me that she's completely relapsing. I'm not sure what to do, or what I even CAN do. Any advice? Anyone ever been with an anorexic girl?
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>>17248258
How does she do sexually?
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>>17248258
I could never even imagine how to begin dealing with idiots who make up imaginary problems because they don't have real ones. Or worse yet, if they do.
I can't even begin to understand it.
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>>17248258
>I'm not sure what to do, or what I even CAN do. Any advice?
Just be supportive and don't encourage any self destructive behaviour.
You can't do anything yourself to actually fix her, that's for professionals.
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Motivation and discipline 2016-06-12 16:02:44 Post No.17248208
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I have a massive motivation/discipline problem that has become so bad that I basically spend every waking moment wasting time until I go back to sleep. I have so many skills that I'd like to learn and work on every day but I just don't even try anymore.
It's slowly killing me and I can feel myself becoming stupider by the day as a result of literally doing nothing but wasting time and drinking in order to speed up time.
Can anyone help me and give advice regarding how to actually start doing things and stop wasting away.
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>>17248208
There is no advice besides "just do it now." With that in mind, start whatever you want to be doing right fucking now. If you can't decide, post a list and I will decide for you.
For the next 3 hours, report to me every 30 mins on what you got done.
Go. Now.
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>>17248208
Think about what your life is going to be like at rock bottom, because that's where it's going to be soon if you don't get going.
What are you wasting your time with? I think the best way to stop yourself from wasting time is to completely remove yourself from what you're wasting time with.
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>>17248226
What this anon is saying is the "remove all negative" influences first strategy. Basically, two things comes into play here:
1. Not doing anything is easier than doing something, so it's a decent first step.
2. Look at chart - when you go from being bored to working, it's not nearly as painful as going from fun to working, so again, it's breaking up a difficult task into two easier steps.
There are a few problems with this approach:
1. Don't see results nearly as fast.
2. Lose all motivation to be alive.
It's still a decent strategy though.
But you aren't going to do shit, are you?
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>dad had job in finance/insurance
>makes >100k a year
>2008 hits
>let go of job
>we keep our house/other expensive loans
>his credit gets bad
>employers don't want to hire finance people with bad credit
>2016
>he's worked as a car salesman for two years
>looking for job again
Any job suggestions for a finance guy with lots of experience but bad credit?
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>>17248199
Healthcare. Always a strong need for people with insurance and finance backgrounds. Your dad could probably stand to update his skillset. He should look into getting a CPC and the CRC certification within the next few years. Professional coders and risk coders are highly saught after . He'd have to study though as its new stuff and the cpc is a very hard test.
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>>17248216
Thanks, so let me get the information straight.
He would have to take a few difficult classes for one to two years, but then would be qualified to work as a professional/risk coder?
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>>17248216
>>17248281
I glanced over the certification description and I don't really understand what is is. Explain to me.
@OP: Do you know what he actually did in finance?
Sounds like he was a salesman, right?
So try go go back to Series 6/7/63 jobs / "Account Executive" jobs at Fidelity, Schwabb, etc.
They are competitive as fuck though and about who you know.
Of course, those two companies check credit...
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Since my Childhood, I've been biting on my nails and the skin around them (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nail_biting + https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dermatophagia). Sometimes I even do it until I bleed.
It annoys me and probably makes me look really awkward. But sometimes I just get the urge to do it and just can't stop. My brother used to do it, but he quit. I've tried putting stuff that tastes gross on my nails, but that didn't help either.
What should I do?
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Oh yeah, I also crack my knuckles all the time, but it doesn't bother me as much and probably isn't connected.
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>>17248192
When do you do it the most? When you're bored, nervous, nothing better to do?
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>>17248209
All three probably, but sometimes I'm able to not do it when I'm nervous, as that probably is in a social situation, and as I've said, I'm really self-conscious about it.
However I also do it in situations like coming out of the bathtub, since it's easier then I guess (with the skin wrinkling up and all)
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I want to record myself drawing so I can speed it up and put it on Youtube.
I only have an android phone to record with but no stand to hold it in place. The camera would need to be positioned above the paper and looking down.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
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Shower curtain rod, coat hanger, and either some rubber bands or string.
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>>17248151
You need something to hold and stabilize the phone.
What's your budget?
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>>17248161
£100
I'm addicted to getting girls pregnant and then dumping them, how can I stop myself from doing this?
Its the only way I can get turned on for sex is thinking about pumping and dumping... what the fuck is wrong with me?
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1. Get one pregnant
2. Destroy your future
3. ????
4. Kill yourself
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Are you black or something?
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Fantasy and reality are two different things, learn to differentiate.
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i think sex is extremely over rated. I have more or less done everything in regards to sex now. a few nights ago, i got a hotel room with my girl friend and we spend the night having sex, we more or less done everything, oral, anal, bareback. prior to this i had very little sexual experience. we both came 3 times.
I thought it was just ok, and i have honestly had better wanks. i was expecting it to be mind blowing and to cum in a couple of minues, it took me a good while to cum, and when i did it was more satisfying than masturbating although the beginning and middle was pretty shit. With a condom on, it felt awful. I dont know how anyone can be happy wearing a condom, i had to fuck her in the ass and do it bareback. I actually cant believe the sacrifices some people make to have sex. the best part was the fact i like my girlfriend and it was nice doing it with her, if it was with a random girl, i would of rather masturbated. feel like i have been lied to my entire life. im 22, gf is 23 and she is at least a 7/10.
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It's individual. Not everyone likes sex equally, despite virtually everyone liking it, same with music for example. Mankind as a whole gushes over it but that doesn't mean that every single person values music lots in their own life.
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>>17248108
Using the same metaphor, not everyone has the same musical taste, find what actually gets you going and watch less porn, its artificial and fucks up your expectations. Play with s&m or something if vanilla seems crap.
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>>17248112
This is a valid point as well. And I particularly agree with the porn angle. Nothing wrong with enjoying it occasionally, but the fact is that many guys solely rely on porn for their masturbation sessions, and that feeds you an entirely different kind of stimuli.
In porn you get stimulated bam-bam-bam, everything's exaggerated, everything's quick, the extremity keeps increasing. It's pretty much the psychological equivalent of masturbating fiercely with a firm grip. It decreases your sensitivity towards everyday eroticism, which is much more subtle and elusive and requires you to look for it, rather than presenting itself to you in clear cut manner.
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is it creepy to tell a girl you have a crush on her?
im 99% sure shes into me and also has a crush but we are both to shy to make any moves
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Dial it back a bit- tell her you like her and would like to know her better.
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What's creepy is reposting shooped garbage like what you just did.
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>>17248071
>is it creepy to tell a girl you have a crush on her?
when was that ever creepy?
>im 99% sure shes into me
fucking great
>but we are both to shy to make any moves
THEN YOU DO IT!
Is there anything more despised than a quiet guy?
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Yes. A noisy, obnoxious, know-it-all guy.
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>>17248050
Criminals, I imagine.
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>>17248050
It depends on who's calling him quiet. A guy who other people call quiet is generally actually fairly well-liked.
A guy who calls himself "quiet", however, is a lot like a girl who calls herself "Rubenesque": inevitably it's dating-profile-speak for something a LOT more severe than the word implies. Even self-described "quiet guys" are generally not actively despised for that reason alone, but the severe isolation often goes hand-in-hand with things that are not so well-liked.
Bottom line: it's not your "quiet" nature, dude. I can't say what it is -I don't know you- but you are barking up the wrong tree.
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Fucked over by employer, what next? 2016-06-12 14:52:56 Post No.17248021
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I've been applying for a part-time gig for months, until one of the places I applied to called me back and invited me for an interview.
He told me I would have training for 2 to 4 days after which I would sign the work contract. I worked there for approx. 10 days as opposed to 4, from 9.30 to 3 or 4pm depending on how busy the day was. The business entailed selling (what I'm now suspecting is fake) jewellery to Chinese tourists at a massive markup. I did my job and then some, they also asked me to stay behind and take some product photos for their catalogue which I did.
In the meantime one of my coworkers told me there had been many people working for a week or so who would then mysteriously be replaced with new trainees, usually young foreign students who couldn't get a job elsewhere due to the language barrier. That was my first clue. The only people with the contracts were those who had been working since the company's inception.
After about a week of working there, the owner told me he'll prepare my contract but everytime I wanted to sign it something would come up: the printer wasn't working, he forgot etc.
Suddenly one of the managers told me it's okay to take a day off (where I live it's illegal to work 7 days a week) so I did. On that day she messaged me and asked me to give her the pictures. I told her they weren't ready, she said she'll wait.
I gave her the pictures the day after and she told me I can rest some more because they have new trainees coming in. I went to work anyway because I'd forgotten something. She told me I was being unfair to other workers and sent me home, telling me she'll message me about the contract. On that same day I got the message from the owner telling me I'm fired.
According to my friend this is very common and this way they essentially get free labour.
What can I do? I'm going to the unemployment office to complain tomorrow. I still have all the RAWs.
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Contact fair work or the tax office IMO. They're not paying proper wages, which means tax evasion. If there's one thing the government doesn't like, it's tax dodgers.
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>>17248029
Thanks m8, will do. Is there anything else I can/should/shouldn't do?
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>>17248029
This
Also complain to the better business bureau and get them screwed over for their fake jewelry.
https://www.bbb.org/
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So me and an ex broke up awhile back because I flipped out on her for messing up her uni course and getting distracted. It was bad of me but we had known each other for 7 years and dated for 3.
Some time has gone by, but I want more time to go by before I do anything. I've been with other women and had a few dates here and there, but I still think of her. I've also improved the faults I had during the relationship and I look much better aesthetically than I did before.
She was special to me and I've been thinking of trying to do something special but just for her? Not in a public place but outside her house. Maybe sing her one of her favourite songs? I went NC and everything. She was special to me and I want to try to win her back and no regret it in the future. I feel stupid but it also feels right, opinions? Would it work? Our break up wasn't a gradual loss of interest in each other but a giant explosion of anger and foul words that resulted in us parting ways.
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>>17247950
Oh for fucks sakes. This isn't a movie, you throwing stones at her window and holding up a boom box playing her favourite song isn't going to work. You broke up a long time ago. It. Is. Over. Move the fuck on. You're only going to massively embarrass yourself.
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>>17247957
I tell myself the same thing desu but even though I've been with other girls and even had a relationship for a few months, I still miss my ex? I mean surely I should try to win her back. I don't want to grow old and regret it, that's my biggest worry. I don't care much about embarrassing myself lol.
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>>17247969
Was she first gf?
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I was wondering how to go about telling my parent that I want to drop out.
Also wondering how I should tell them about my "issues".
Also there is a pretty long story behind why I want to leave and my problems but I'll only post about it if someone really wants to know.
Just fear how the news will impact my family.
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>>17247931
Tell the story, anon.
Are your parents not very accepting? I think you should just tell it to them straight, explain your reasoning and whatnot. That's all you can really do. That, or lie, which always snowballs.
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>>17247936
They're religious nut cases so yeah not at all accepting. I have already said something hit not everything and my father threatened to kick me out.
If I had anything to my name at all I would gladly leave.
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So far only thing keeping me sane is some of the advice I got from here.
Just hoping to get a job for this summer so I don't go NEET/homeless.
Okay I'm at a loss here, and it's starting to annoy me. How to get better at running?
I'm a casual runner but I want to eventually do 4:30 km/min. I've done half marathon (with around 6:00/km) and I usually run between 5 and 10 kms between 5:00 and 6:00 on average. I'm in worse shape than the last year, but no matter what, I can't seem to progress anywhere from that 5:00 and 5:30 mark (and that's for 5km only).
How do I improve?
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Ask /fit/
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running is terrible for you, that's why you can't progress. But if you must run, run on grassy fields.
Doing sprints on grass also helps.
honestly you're better off walking and having a sensible low fat diet instead of running - running is a waste.
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>>17247930
You have to build up to it, duh. Make a schedule for yourself, and make it increase in difficulty gradually. Be aware of shin splints, as other anon said. You should also increase your general fitness - don't just run, do other shit too.