After masturbating I become complacent and lose the motivation to pursue women for a few days and overall don't feel a lot of sexual urges driving me, but when I don't masturbate I feel like I'm going crazy, I feel the urge to just tear the clothes off the next attractive women that walks by and take her right there in the street (I would obviously never do this since I have self control and some modicum of humanity and decency). The problem here is that there is no middle ground. If I masturbate I'm lax and don't care about pursuing sex and feel lonely, and if I don't then I become a thirsty motherfucker. Either way I think it shows in my behaviour a bit and it's pushing women away. What the heck and I supposed to do in this situation?
Nofap
>>17276451
That's clearly not working at the moment. There has got to be some way to be motivated and radiate the confidence and sexual energy that comes with abstaining from fapping without becoming thirsty AF.
>>17276571
You aren't doing it for long enough.
Yes, for a short period after you start nofap, you're going to have heightened sexual urges, but these will diminish back to normal levels after a period.
Just chill, dawg.
I stole a bunch of prepaid mastercards and was wondering how to activate them myself. I am desperate for money at the moment I'm leaving for a paid trip but I have no pocket money I just need to find a way to activate all these cards and put them into my paypal I need around 1500
And if you know any other ways to make a quick 1500 in a couple days let m know I also thought about stealing phones from people but I don't wanna fuck people over is rather just shoplift at Walmart or something and sell electronics stolen there at a pawnshop or Kijijji
If this is the wrong place for this tell me which board I should post to
I might just steal phones and sell online I can't shoplift to spooky
Are you a nigger or a spic?
Hey people, first time posting on /adv/
I'm with a girl for about 3 years now, living at her place. She loves me more than I do, here are the reasons:
1) I don't think she's really pretty now, I always stare at other girls at the street who are more beautiful and miss the opportunity to talk with whoever I want, to hangout with whoever I want
2) She gained weight after a year of relationship, she has gym membership for last two years but never goes there. I can't fucking stand cellulite and she has it, also a flat ass. We've been talking about this and she was promising me for two years now that she will lose weight but nothing changed and I guess it will not. We had something like a small fight, she told: "I don't want to go to the gym, I'm not in the mood. If you don't like something go find someone else". Should I?
3) She's not interested in anything, all she does is scrolling social networks, buying shitty clothes, just doing nothing. I've always came up with some ideas: wanted to help her to learn foreign language, wanted to learn to code together, wanted to teach her to write music. She doesn't want anything.
Now after we both have finished university, we thought about moving to bigger city for work.She doens't know anything useful and has no valuable skills to get a good job. But I don't want her to go with me. I don't feel attracted, I don't want to have sex with her. I don't want her to be with my anymore I guess. I'm I a bad person for keeping this relationship alive? Thank you.
picrandom
>I don't want her to be with me anymore I guess
Judging by everything you're saying you're 100% not fully in love with this girl and that sentence alone should be incentive to end it.
Sit her down, honesty is the only way.
Do you even lift bro?
The reason I ask is because maybe if she saw you become fit (assuming you're not) she would feel bad about herself and want to work out too (also assuming that her working out would fix your attraction issue).
I wouldn't say you're a bad person, you're just a person. People get "stuck" in shitty relationships all the time. You've realized there's an issue and there's probably no fixing it. Stop wasting both of your time and just end it. You'll both be happier in the long run.
So my new co-worker is a total chad who is actually pretty cool. He was asking me about who I had been fucking recently, and I told him I'm a virgin. Now he is hellbent to get me laid at a party sometime.
Here is my issue.
>I'm kind of socially retarded, never been to a party. Not robot tier, but cyborg or failed normie at minimum
>not horrible looking
>0 self esteem
And the icing on the cake is that I actually don't want to get laid. It is very unappealing to me. I've gotten a couple blowjobs from my only gf, but that ended about a year ago. It was meh. I jerk off all the time, but the idea of actual intercourse is honestly repelling. What's wrong with me? It's hard to get a boner, and I know I'm not gay. I haven't realized how little I care about sex until now. I don't know what I'm supposed to tell worker bro? I don't want him to net a grill for me and then have me just say "no thanks", but I honestly don't know what's wrong with me.
tl;dr don't know how to communicate the fact that I may or not be asexual without sounding like a faggot.
Bonus points to anyone who also tell me what I'm supposed to do at a party.
>>17276311
>>I'm kind of socially retarded, never been to a party. Not robot tier, but cyborg or failed normie at minimum
>>not horrible looking
>>0 self esteem
Given that your chad friend seems like a bro-tier dude, just ask him for advice
If it doesn't work the first time, alright, you'll always have a second chance.
>>17276311
Wow I wish I had a Chad friend that would try to get me laid.
You should just go with the flow on this one. Of course it will be awkward since it's your first time but gotta get over it and you may like it after
it sounds more like you may or may not have some intimacy issues that are stemming from your social anxiety and self esteem issues.
I was the same way, thought I was asexual for the longest time but it didn't make sense because I was still attracted to other people.
Just as soon as the thought of sex came up I'd freak out.
But yeah, you're going to always have issues with this if you don't learn to overcome your social anxiety and issues stemming from your self esteem.
Take him up on his offer to go out, have fun and don't think too heavily. You don't have to actually have sex with any of the girls he throws your way.
Work slowly, talk with people that work at grocery stores or retail to get more experience. Then slowly start talking to other people.
Anyone have any experience with hiring agencies? Do they work and how much do they charge?
More information is required. What are your needs and what kind of professional do you wish to hire?
Havent given much info. But mainly This differs depending on country.
>>17276145
I'm looking for a job
I just recently graduated majoring in chemistry. I wana work a bit then go back to grad school.
I have a fuckbuddy who is a little strange. We started having sex when she just flat out asked me one day if I would fuck her. I was honest with her and told her yes, to which she pulled her panties off and I fucked her on the floor of my apartment.
We've been having sex for a few months, three days a week just about, and its just been weird... she always tells me do whatever I want to her. I don't know her boundaries, in fact I don't know if she even has any. I have choked her, smacked her, tied her up, stuck toys inside of her, done things to her in public, but she always seems to enjoy it... she gets off on whatever I seem to do. I even pissed on her without asking and she was grossed out for a few seconds then almost seemed to get into it instantly.
Is she faking it all? her orgasms feel real, she gets really fucking wet, but can she possibly be faking it all? How far can I try pushing her? I've threatened to tie her up and let my friends use her like a fuck toy and she just seemed to get aroused by it.
I recommend that you ask her about boundaries. It is a very important discussion which cannot wait. The longer you put off this conversation the more you are likely to randomly hurt her by mistake. The inverse is true, she also risks hurting you if she pressures you toward something you aren't prepared for. Communication is very important. Ask her about her boundaries and discuss your own.
Holy shit you met a goddess of sex. Tape her.
>>17276083
>Is she faking it all?
She wants to be used. I don't think it really matters.
>How far can I try pushing her? I've threatened to tie her up and let my friends use her like a fuck toy and she just seemed to get aroused by it.
I think you should have fun but also be aware that this girl obviously has a screw loose. Make sure not to fly too close to the sun on this one. Things can turn from a lot of fun to a Saw movie real quick when you're dealing with girls like this. If she starts going coco puffs you might want to consider an exit strategy.
Also, you opened by calling her strange but I'd personally feel more than a little strange tying up a psychotic woman and watching my buddies drop trou and pound her.
That's a little unnecessary don't you think?
/adv/,
I want to start a career in the Medical Field, however; I currently have a full time job now.
I'm wanting to start a degree program for something in this field. My primary desire is something that's stable, paycheck is secondary to this.
Any suggestions?
What do you want to do? Be a doctor? A nurse?
Cont from first post.
I've considered becoming an RN, however; the program for that seems pretty damn tough. I don't know if I could make it work with my current work load.
>>17276013
A doctor seems unfeasible. I'd give a left nut to do it, but I don't think I could support myself for 10 years while racking up the insane amount of debt for school.
To continue off of >>17276014 from what I've seen the RN program requires doing clinicals, at certain times on a regular basis, something I don't think my schedule could afford.
I'm really wanting to find something that I can work my ass off, when I'm not preoccupied with my current full time job, and work towards, preferably something online.
So I just met up with someone to cheat on my gf (travelled a few hours actually), and had sort of accepted that I was a bad person for doing so.
But when I actually met up, I realised how much I love my girlfriend, and I couldn't bring myself to do anything. I told the girl how I felt and that I was sorry for leading her on.
Thing is, I still went to meet and fuck this girl, and even though we didn't fuck or even kiss, the fact that I did this and went on this date scenario with her makes me feel like I cheated, enough so that I have the guilt.
What do?
FFS, if you're insistent on being guilty, then you might as well do something guilt-worthy.
You didn't; you made a stupid decision, had every opportunity to go through with it, and decided not to be unfaithful.
Take it to your grave and treat your girl right.
>>17275973
>What do?
If you want to have sex with this girl, break up with your girlfriend. End of story.
I'm thinking about becoming a truck driver.
Any truckers out there?
Wait, let me guess:
>Pay $ for CDL, but no one wants inexperienced driver
>Get job, but have to drive ridiculous hours to make decent pay
>Sit all day = hemmorhoids
OK, got my cynicism out, now what's it really like?
>>17275929
I hear their asses get numb and they do a lot of drugs to stay awake.
Also, hookers.
>>17275937
I hear they're called Lot Lizards.
The hookers, that is.
Also, if a woman drove a truck & she had kids, would she be a mother trucker?
So I'm working with a Co worker and shes great. Hot body and the works. Been texting past few nights. She wanted to get to know each other. So we took turns saying things about ourselves. She admits she deepthroats outta the blue. And a bunch of other really sexual shit. I got agirlfriend of a year and half. Love her to death. But I'm getting good vibes with this girl and love to bang her secretly. Any advice would be helpful in what I should do in this situation. Thanks anons
Bang her secretly?
OP. I'm thinking bout it.
Get a Second phone,
dont Fuck her at your Place,
don't meet her, where your Girl or her friends might be,
Have a waterproof alibi,
consider wether some Random fucking is actually worth your relationship(most People consider this already aus cheating).
Be aware that you have to live with the guilty feeling afterwards, assuming you are able to feel that way
Probably going to be homeless soon. Anybody here have any experience with that? Any tips or words of wisdom?
Don't be homeless?
>>17275882
You got a drug problem or problem following orders? Out of shape? Criminal record?
If not, go enlist in the Army or Navy right now
>>17275882
Do you have a job mate?
I just moved in with a friend and his GF to help them pay rent(their last roomie left 2 days before rent was due with no warning). The only stipulation was that they have a 10 month old baby. Growing up my mom had an in home preschool and I learned a lot seeing someone working with kids.
My problem here is that they park the kid in front of the tv strapped into a little bouncy thing. It sits at a 45 degree angle and he's maybe 5 feet from a 50 inch tele. I have friends with children younger than this boy and they're crawling and damn near walking while the kid I'm living with is no where close to any of this. If I had to give a rough estimate about how long he's in front of the tv in this thing a day it would be probably 10+ hours.
They're both pretty overweight and just overall lazy fucks. They've let the tv do the raising of this child. I love the little fuck and really just want to see him succeed or at least given a chance at it.
So the advice I need is how can I tell them they're doing it wrong and they'll delaying the development of this child's mind. I've seen how the mom reacts to a grandmother telling her she's doing something wrong and its not pretty. What I've been doing so far is nothing and it makes me feel like shit.
Also sorry if my post is scattered. There's just so many aspects of this that bothers me.
>>17275693
>how can I tell them they're doing it wrong
You can't. Parents, especially young parents, hate nothing more than being told how to parent. If you say something, then that'll be the beginning of the end for your friendship. Why don't YOU play with him or take him out or something?
>>17275697
yeah thats what my fear is. I've for sure tried but this is kind of how it goes.
I'll take him out and set him on the floor with him sitting up. He'll play with the toys and stuff while the tv doesnt have his attention. But as soon as the kid finds himself on his belly it looks like he gets mad that he cant move or something and starts crying. Immediately after I'm told that I've upset him and they're putting him back in the chair thing in front of the tv. When they put him back he cries even more and then I get treated shitty for making the baby cry.
So sadly I dont much feel up to that task anymore. Part of me just wants to say fuck it and watch it all go down. I'm beginning to think that this is my only option
>>17275727
That's really all you can do. Bad parents are some of the shittiest people you will ever meet. They're willfully ignorant and aggressively so.
Let them know straight up that youcare for the poor kid and want him to turn out okay. After thst let it go. No snide remarks, no backseat parenting, just let it go.
Fellow anons, I've come to a conclusion that I fancy my male friend (I'm a girl myself). The problem is however that I'm not very attractive because of various reasons (fat, freckled, gotta wear glasses, shitty thin hair ect) and he's fit enough (has potbelly but who cares) but emotionally fucked up so he is tfw no gf, that's beyond the point
My question tonight is, how do I tell him the truth that I fancy him without being creepy? Planned on getting drunk and texting him that casually, do you think it's a good idea? I really expect nothing, just want to get it off my chest, get rejected and move on with my life
>I know I'm unattractive but I'm not going to make an effort to change that
>>17275711
Dude, I change what I can but you don't stop being fat overnight and I can't exactly avoid sun all the time to ensure delightful lack of freckles, can't do shit about my fucked up eyes which won't tolerate lenses either so what, gotta live with what I got
>>17275717
>excuses
I have eaten 2500 calories today it is 3:00 pm should I make myself throw up
Just do 30 extra mins of exercise you psycho.
Fucking seriously, why do people think vomit is the answer to being fat? It doesn't do any good, only harm.
>>17275311
Depends on what you ate.
>>17275311
I dont even think i ate 2500 calories in the past 3 days kek
I've fallen for someone so hard that I can't have that I'm even dreaming about them frequently now. This is fucking annoying and I just want it to stop.
How do I get myself over it? I can't get away from her. This isn't a oneitis thing, like I'm yearning for someone out of my league that I don't talk to, but someone whose situation precludes me from dating her. She's into me too, so it makes it even harder.
>>17275027
It's all about focus. Talk to other women and keep yourself involved in other things. Remind yourself that she's just another person--with all that that entails--and that it's much better to move on to someone who is more available. GL!
I was the same way.
Took me a solid 5 months of focusing on school, my friends, and working out to get to the point where I only think about her every other day or so.
Just keep working at it and eventually you'll get there. It's just going to really suck along the way.
Pic related.
Works almost every time.