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>>17279502
There are several contributing factors that cause this effect and you're not alone. It could be due to the type of camera.

And there's also something called the Mere-exposure effect which causes people to become comfortable with the way we look at things. We're far more familiar with how we look in a mirror that when we see the reverse, i.e. in photos, we become uncomfortable.

Just about everyone thinks they look bad in photos, so don't worry too much about it.

Similar problem here.
1) How good photographer is matters
2) My face is slightly asymmetrical and mirror image does look better. It is very obvious when i take phone selfies, think they are ok, and then they get flipped, become worse

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>>17279515
Another example of how a camera makes a big difference.

>>17279395
I like feeling a girl orgasm especially if it's during penetration. Also, blowjobs if they're good and the girl is super into it.

>>17279395

definitely a blowjob when the girl is really into it. especially if the girl is playing with herself while giving the blowjob. feeling my ex moan with my dick in her mouth was the best thing about our relationship

>>17279395
For me it's her begging me to cum inside her. Then, right before I fill her up, she pulls me in with her legs and holds me inside her as I unload. After I'm 100% done she holds me longer inside and tells me how hot that was/she can feel me twitching/etc.

This thread has reminded me how much I fucking love my girlfriend.

>>17279324

no, there is not age restrictions on medical school

>>17279324
never give up brah, you can do this

>>17279324
No.
Never is too old to go where you belong.

>>17279318

How are you still alive?

how the fuck do you afford that? that's like what 5 packs a day?

>>17279318

yes people have managed to quit smoking. no, its not with some secret that isn't known.

the way people quit is the way you've heard all along.

weening, patches, and self restraint.

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>>17279300
Go to dentist
Clean around your house
Buy fresh vegetables, lean meats, whole grain foods, etc. They aren't that expensive if you stay away from those fancy supermarkets.
Charge your phone, or change the battery if it loses charge fast

>>17279311
You don't understand, I sleep 4 hours a day, half of the day I have a killing headache and its also nigh and the rest of the day I'm really tired.
I want to do all those things but I can't, its even hard to shower since the lights went off and I have to wait until the morning to do so

>>17279311
The pain in my tooth isn't real, im just so stressed I keep imagining that pains I had this year come back to the point where I feel them like the time I woke up with neck pain or the time I woke up without being able to move my arm

>>17279282
If you think she'll respond in a constructive way, go for it. If you feel she'll just give you some bullshit excuse and beat around the bush, don't bother. Looking back's never the best way to move forward though

>>17279282


It will hurt you. She will either bring up your actual inadequacies or shortcomings, or she will name things about yourself that are perfectly fine that SHE had a problem with and likely force you into a period of self-loating based on this OP. You don't need to know. If you focus on being the best man you can be, it won't fucking matter at all. Don't let her call shots on how you act or grow.

Burn it down and walk away.

>>17279286
I want to do that but it just keeps popping into my head, like the shit she said to me, and where I went wrong, stuff like that.

If this won't help, what do I do so I can move on? This is not rhetorical, I could really use some suggestions.

Really want to fuck with her head?

Pass, and let her go. Still be friendly if she contacts you, but keep her at an acquaintance level distance

obviously it sucks at first because you don't get sex, but later on you get the satisfaction of knowing you kept your dignity

plus it will rack her brain like crazy why you are passing up free sex

the only thing you have to do is just be able to bear the thought that she is gonna get plowed from other dudes asap (probably already is now) and that ultimately this is move where you are cutting your losses and there is nothing to gain.

There is no way to fuck with her. You can either continue to get your nuts off or drop her. Your call. There's no revenge plan other than becoming the man that got away.

>>17279237

I was really considering this. she was actually stunned when I finally agreed to have the break (I think she wanted me to fully break up with her) and I think my agreement naturally fucked with her head already.

But you might have a point. Refusing free sex from her could fuck her head up a bit, or at least until she gets slammed by some random BBC ( she said no sex was part of the break but she might be prospecting it as you mentioned)

Not a psychopath but kind of a retard. You are wasting their and your time. What the fuck is the point?

>>17279223
i find it interesting. To watch them. I don't see anything wrong with me.

>>17279213

you would make a great therapist.

>>17279182
Your first misstep is thinking that it's 'rude'. If this girl isn't currently in a relationship with this other man, it doesn't matter at all. You're counting yourself out of the game without even starting.

Another thing is that acting swiftly will lead to nothing but you forcing it. If you force it, you will fail, and you'll watch those two get together. Keep being yourself, remain confident. If it doesn't work with this girl, then what does it matter? Move on to another girl.

Basically, do you. Flirt like you always do, and take your mind away from her until you're with her. Then, make plans when it seems like she's focused on you.

If not, move on to the other girl you know who works at the coffee shop or wtf ever.

>>17279182
By "with her", I mean physically near her. My mistake.

>>17279182
>Is there any way I could drift her emotions away from that man so I can safely ask her out?
No. But here's the thing: it's NEVER safe to ask someone out. You just have to do it anyway.

Look for roommates on craigslist. That's the only way m8

>>17279128
I've definitely been on that, but I mean what are ways I can make more money than 300 a week?

>>17279126
Gotta move away from Long Island if you want to live on your on own.

You MIGHT be able to wrangle a whole bunch of roommates and get a place in Brooklyn, but even that is going to be obnoxiously expensive. Expect to pay at least 600 a month for rent in a city that isn't as expensive as New York.

Save up as much money as you can (I recommend enough for 2 months of rent) and make the move to a different, less expensive city.

It sounds like you need to be fancied and wanted to feel good about yourself , cos I'm the bloody same

>>17279106
"Accidentally flirt"? Dude...keep doing that.

I think you feel this way because you feel guilty about your sexuality. Who tells you that you "accidentally flirt"? Women, most likely. Keep doing what you're doing and fuck whoever tells you that you're wrong.

The reason you do what you do is because you're a male who wants sex, so you're going to try, whether you're aware of it or not, to get sex.

This is a pretty big thing that puts men and women apart. Men go out and actively (or passively like you, you lucky motherfucker) attempt to get girls, while women can wait around for men to come their way and try.

Huh.
Never thought about it like that. Cheers mate! Needed that.

>>17279092
If I take natural herbal sleeping pills then will I develop a tolerance for the real thing? - fixed

>>17279092
>same for a herbal counterpath for xanax?
there is no such thing ?
alcohol would probably be the closest thing to diazepams

the only things that could work as natural counterparts to sleeping pills would be either alcohol or poppy seed tea.

It's too bad there isn't a natural herbal pill for xanax and anti depressants in generals.

Sounds like you're nervous. It'll stop after a few days. It's actually pretty common when moving to a new position to be very nervous.

>>17279056
The problem is Ive been here for nearly 3 months. This all started last week when i found the other guys in my department whispering about something. I immediately assumed it was about my performance and have since been worried they think Im garbage and that Ill be fired soon

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Three Conscious Breaths
by Pema Chödrön

Our habits are strong, so a certain discipline is required to step outside our cocoon and receive the magic of our surroundings. Pause practice– taking three conscious breaths at any moment when we notice that we are stuck– is a simple but powerful practice that each of us can do at any given moment.

Pause practice can transform each day of your life. It creates an open doorway to the sacredness of the place in which you find yourself. The vastness, stillness, and magic of the place will dawn upon you, if you let your mind relax and drop for just a few breaths the story line you are working so hard to maintain. If you pause just long enough, you can reconnect with exactly where you are, with the immediacy of your experience.

When you are waking up in the morning and you aren’t even out of bed yet, even if you are running late, you could just look out and drop the story line and take three conscious breaths. Just be where you are! When you are washing up, or making your coffee or tea, or brushing your teeth, just create a gap in your discursive mind. Take three conscious breaths. Just pause. Let it be a contrast to being all caught up. Let it be like popping a bubble. Let it be just a moment in time, and then go on.

Maybe you are on your way to whatever you need to do for the day. You are in your car, or on the bus, or standing in line. But you can still create that gap by taking three conscious breaths and being right there with the immediacy of your experience, right there with whatever you are seeing, with whatever you are doing, with whatever you are feeling.

>>17279045
>-won't be certain
What the shit does that even mean?
If you want to kill yourself, eat a pistol. Remember: bullets travel faster than sound, so you won't hear the gunshot that kills you.

I don't condone you killing yourself m8 but making a smoothie with a bottle or two of pills of your choice is pretty effective. That's how one of my best mates ended himself..

>>17279052
don't want to make a mess

I want to be able to go to bed after taking a pill, and have the uncertainty calm me down to sleep

>>17278956
You need professional help. Talk to a psychiatrist.

>>17278962

I'm afraid not, I find psychiatrists to be second-rate at management, especially of the mind, so i do not go to them.

>>17278962

Besides I never really do anything that is considered remotely dangerous and always remain in control in the best way.