Shutin graysexual femanon here.
I would like to know if there are good sources to make friends online that are not complete garbage.
I have had my fair share of those trashy dating apps, etc. On /soc/ i have made few skype friends but they do not appreciate me the way i would like. I always feel anxious because I know that the other person is constantly browsing said thread or app looking for someone better. I do not want to be around such people as they are a waste of time.
I would like a relationship but i feel that i am not capable of being a mutual priority in someones life unless they are using me for nudes or something. I am a loyal friend and usually end up getting ignored. Although I try to focus on my own hobbies, feeling alone adds to my crippling depression.
I have joined a forum site recently for something that interestss me but it seems like i lack motivation to post frequently and therefore still find it hard to form any friendships. (pic unrelated)
>>17281803
get off tumblr
>>17281803
Post pic so we can deem whether you're worthy of our time or not
>>17281803
What the fuck does graysexual mean?
There are some people who are interested in actually making friends, even on /soc/ - for sure, it takes some effort to find them between the thirsty idiots, and it takes some effort to keep a good online friendship.
Don't feel threatened if they lurk the thread again, it's not like they're going to forget about you if they meet someone else. Friendship isn't romance and you can be friends with more people.
I actually posted my info in a 3 or 4 skype threads and got added by, like, 500 dudes and I'm friends with 2.
>jokingly ask female friend what she's gonna give me for my birthday
>know she thinks I'm cute but isn't attracted to me, per se
>"a blowjob"
Can I really take her up on this offer?
>>17281789
Context is key
>>17281789
Use your common sense to tell if she was being serious or not.
If you don't know, then try and flirt more. It sounds like she's probably being playful and trying to attract you.
Yes, but not if you don't know how to ACT on it.
I'm a straight female, and my last 3-4 relationships went bad. I would say that guys are like this, but I've talked to some of my male friends, and they told me that their girlfriends did the same.
Why do people just stop responding? Why do they just ignore things?
My current... "relationship", I ask him if he's still love me, if he still wants me around, if he wants me to talk to him, if he wants me to fuck off, and I get no reply. I know he sees my messages. Sometimes, he tells me hours or a day later that he laughed at what I said. I ask him if he's busy, he tells me hours later or the day after that he didn't reply because he was watching a movie.
The questions I ask aren't hardcore. You say "yes" or "no". You can even say "y" or "n". But if I post a funny link, if I post a goddamn meme, then "ahahaha omg lol".
Is this what relationships are supposed to be like? One-sided "lol check this link" and maybe they will reply "lol" or they will laugh irl and never tell me?
You gotta wait for the boy to be horny and ask for sex, then the rest of the week, you just sit in your corner and cry, and when you try talking to them about it, just don't fucking expect an answer?
Why people don't reply? Am I doing something wrong? Is this how relationships are supposed to be like?
>>17281781
>am I doing something wrong
I don't know.
Are you enthusiastic about your relationship and yourself?
>>17281786
I was, but with the lack of replies and all the ignoring, I lost it. He's complaining that I don't want to talk to him, but when I tell him that it's because he doesn't reply to what I say, that I asked him all these questions and he still hasn't replied to them... well I don't get a reply kek. He's bitching that we can't have a conversation, but he doesn't reply to what I say, so... what the hell am I supposed to do? Talk to myself?
>>17281781
Your boyfriend should be your best friend, someone you can talk to all day, every day.
Stop dating people just because they are available and it sucks less than being alone.
Date people when you have a real connection with them.
Okay, so I need help to know if I should worry or not. I'm gonna greentext to follow events more easily.
>2 days ago
>Girlfriend and I messing around
>oral sex
>haven't done vaginal yet
>I cleaned and rubbed my dick down after I came
>hour later
>We get going again
>I rub against the outside of her vagina, but don't go in
>She asked if precum has sperm in it
>I freak out
>Don't finish
>I eat her out
>She goes home
I know that its very possible to carry sperm since I ejaculated beforehand, but I wiped it down as best as I could, and tried to get whatever was still in my urethra to leak out. I'm worried if there was even a small amount of it left that could have seeped in and gotten her pregnant. She told me that she starts her period real soon, but she ovulated 2 weeks ago, and her "fertility window" ended 7 days ago. Should I be worried? Am I overreacting?
>>17281765
Congratulations anon, you're going to be a father! The sperm in her stomach will permeate the tissue and make its way into her uterus. That's why they tell you to spit, not swallow.
>>17281770
I guess I wasn't clear enough. I'm worried that rubbing my dick with precum on it on the outside of her vagina could get her pregnant
>>17281782
Even better, the tissue of the vagina is very thin, very permeable.
Something happened to me that I felt humiliated for, which may not even have been an actual situation beyond something that I imagined, and a few follow up fights with my retarded parents and WHOOP, all my confidence that I've worked for the last had and this is completely vaporised.
How did I notice this?
>in store
>girl that I know I left a good impression with last time we met in like 7 years ago is there, she works there
>I get a horrible feeling and turn away my vision
>hmm... I've felt this presence before.. It is.. The betaness. It's back
In all seriousness, this is how I was for the majority of my life until like last year sometime. My social skills are obviously not poof gone but if I don't get to practice them soon enough they will be.
This all feels horrible. What am I supposed to do?
You write in a horrible and inconsistent way.
I won't judge you for now because all i can make up of your story might be wrong.
>>17281777
The humiliating thing was not what happened in the store. I made a number of assumptions, leading up to me making a conclusion that I was humiliated.
As I said, I shyed away from a girl I knew fairly well because my confidence was robbed by my asshole parents and this one assumption-incident. I'm devastated because I'm back to where I was before I became more confident.
Does that help? As I said I'm depressed and it's hard for me to put things into words. I'm also not a native English speaker.
>>17281809
It's still ambiguous. I can't explain why now because i'm in a hurry.
I'm 19 and just lost my low paying job, I have bills coming up and I don't know what the fuck to do, what are some jobs I can do right now until I can go through the whole hiring process to get a more reliable job? I put up an ad on Craigslist to mow lawns but I'm worried I won't make much doing that. What else could I do that I could start today or at least this week?
I don't know how it works, it may have to be full time but I believe you can file for unemployment. That's what it is for, to help you get by while you find another job.
>>17281745
Does your city have sites where people pay for you to do tasks for them? Like picking up things or whatever. Might want to do some of those.
>>17281745
Get your ass outthere and hustle.
also look at the gigs section on craigslist. people always need someone to clean, paint and/or move furniture.
Any other ugly males here have mild depression due to it ? How do you guys deal with it because it's getting in the way of my studying.
At first I thought I could fix it by eating better, getting fit , get a good haircut and keep my fave clean as fuck. Well I think I'm just hopefully fucked. Did this for over 2 years and my body is around 10 percent so I'm not fat and I was never fat.
I'm about to give it one more try and take the day off from studying today and compile a list of foods to eat that may help improve my looks and also add on a couple meals to gain a little more lean mass.
I doubt I'll see results from this and I'm beating a dead horse but I feel like I should at least try it.
>>17281736
>Any other ugly males here have mild depression due to it ?
Not really. Getting shot in the face did but I'm comfortable with myself now. Couldn't care what anyone else thinks of me.
What are your problem areas? Do you have a narrow jaw, bug eyes, a long midface?
All of these can be corrected, but it's difficult to make any suggestions without seeing an image of you.
>>17281758
Well I'm at work so no images of me. I don't really know my problem areas. People say I have really deep set eyes and a slightly larger nose which makes me look waspy. Generally I just feel
Like every area is a problem area.
How dangerous (in terms of getting addicted) is it to take hydrocodone?
I've taken it on about half a dozen occasions over the past year, and I don't want to get addicted.
I would rather smoke weed or something, but I don't have any. All I have is hydrocodone.
I enjoy taking it, but I'm very afraid of getting addicted.
>>17281718
See you in rehab.
>I'm scared of this drug and worried about what it does it my health
>Yes I still take it regularly
>No I can't be assed to find something else
>No I haven't considered not doing drugs why do you ask
Dude just deal with your own boring sober ass.
>need to take some kind of drug
Have you ever considered trying out straight edge for at least a little while so you don't become an escapist pussy? There is no escaping reality, friendo. I used to take hydro, basically ruined my life. Weed made me a shitty person and hate myself, all the other drugs I dabbled in drove me to madness.
What I do is drink, but not very often. Stop being a bitch and get off drugs before it's too late. You're already down that road, taking hydrocodone anon
I want to learn it as my third language, been studying it for like 10 days and i got into basic-middle sentence forms, artikels and declensions: It gets frustrating over time. I also try duolingo and rosetta stone at the same time too but many comments are negative. Any advices?
>>17281713
>duolingo and rosetta stone
Absolutely not. Stop right now.
What other resources are you using? Don't tell me that's it.
>>17281713
Sprechen Sie mit Deutsch Menschen, mein Freund. Im Deutsch.
My German is very bad as you can see, but I definitely think the best way to improve it is speaking in German. When I went to Germany I tried to speak what I knew, and got in a bit of a mess, but it improved me straight away, because you learn how people ACTUALLY talk. And especially with today's internet culture, you will find that conversation language can differ from what a textbook teaches you.
That said, I do think Duolingo is a good starting point, and if you don't have any other German people to speak to then it's a good resource. I reckon do that and try and get a German penpal as well, or just something to get you writing / speaking conversational German.
I'm an Englishman and as I say my German is terrible, so that's just my two pennies. An actual German person might be able to give you better advice.
>>17281723
I try to test myself with some grammer teaching sites like german.net, deutsch akademie
http://www.dartmouth.edu/~deutsch/Grammatik/Grammatik.html
http://www.german-grammar.de/grammar/content/english_german_table_of_content.htm
And solve some quizzes. As well as the stuff i stated. I study one issue and test my comprehension by producing some German sentences about it.
Dont have much choice; cant afford to go for a course. I also watch Katja(Deutsch für Euch)'s videos, shes really nice and comprehensible. People also recommend pimsleur and such stuff but i dont know. Everyone says different things.
How long do I have to wait after taking painkillers before I can drink? Is it even true that you can't drink when on painkillers?
>>17281617
Do you really NEED to get drunk that badly?
>>17281617
You can drink whenever you want. More even, alcohol is neutralised by the compounds in painkillers so you should end up drinking more. Consider doubling or even tripling doses of pain killers if you are drinking to excess to avoid a hangover.
>>17281626
I had plans for today and I also take painkillers because of my back. Just forgot that people says painkillers and alcohol is a bad combo.
>>17281675
It is "light" painkillers so I wouldn't assume it could cause any serious damage, and people do take painkillers as a way to avoid hangovers so it makes sense. But whatever, if I die, at least I died happy.
How do you accept the death of a pet?
So today I just put down my dog that Ive had since she was a puppy. Why does it hurt so much to do the most humane thing possible?
This is the only time Ive come home and wasn't greeted by my dog. I cant get used to this feeling. It hurts too much.
Recollect all your fond memories, photos and write down stories.
Dont blame yourself, putting her down the humane way was for the best, you would not have wanted her to suffer from pain and agony.
The pain dulls after a couple of days, maybe even longer. But you did good, you were her owner and you did your best each and everyday of her life, the giver of food, love and safety. Rest In Peace Pup, may you find happiness running on the endless grassfields of Heavens.
Take care OP, make sure you never forget what she brought your daily life, and maybe see if you could allow another dog into your life. There are plenty out there who needs a loving home.
Curse god, swear eternal anger
>>17281613
I lost my best friend (dog) years ago. I cried like a little bitch all day and night so I feel your pain.
Time heals and eventually you'll think about him/her less frequently and you'll just reflect on the happy memories.
Me now.. I only think about the awesome times we had together. She was an amazing dog and I feel so grateful to have had her in my life, even if it wasn't as long as I'd hoped.
The fact that you are hurting so much shows how much love you had for your dog.
Sounds like your dog was lucky to have you in his/her life.
Chin up and I hope you feel better soon.
Help /adv/
I'm trying to decide whether or not I should join the coast guard
Pros:
>Cool Job, I have a buddy whos in and he loves it
>Free college after including free rent while im in school
>Only have to serve 4 years
>Ill never get deployed unless a war breaks out (even then its a possibility not a guareentee)
>I get to pay off a car and a motorcycle
>New adventures , friends, skills, and lessons,
>Free Medical and dental while im in, 4 years of living bill-free
Cons:
So i'm gonna chalk this down to one con
>I have an amazing girlfriend of over a year and a half and i'd be worried about losing her
>She's so amazing and supportive of me, even my decision to join the coast guard if I wish
>Shes an amazing girl and she says she would marry me first opporunity she gets
Trouble is i'm still worried it will put too much strain on our relationship and things will fall apart, any advice?
Additional pro: you only need to stay in 20 years to become eligible for a lifetime government pension. You could retire at 40.
Your con is essentially negligible, per her own words. Besides, it's not like you'll disappear for 6-12 months on deployment. Coast Guard doesn't do that.
Go for it.
Is it short-sighted to distance from people who constantly lie for lulz, make up stories?
Even if lies are harmless, it annoys me, i fear them and can't trust them at all.
My friends are friends with them and i can't feel relaxed when we get together.
No I don't think so. I value honesty greatly because without honesty, you have pretty much nothing.
Those kinds of people who make up lies for no reason or to look cool are extremely annoying.
>>17281545
Shallow people are the dumbest. They'd either freak out or look at you with a long dumb face if you ever told them something serious like "I want to kill myself, will you please supply the pills for me?"
Well /adv/, I probably fucked up. I have been out on something like 15 dates with a girl and I have not like held her hand or anything. I want to but can't. Anyway, I have run out of ideas for dates. I am super limited in transportation. So basically, all 15 times we went out, we had dinner and saw a movie. Dinner at the same restaurant.
I told my guy friends this abd they called me retarded abd borderline maniac for taking a girl to the same restaurant abd same theater 15 times. What the Fick is happening?
Jesus Christ, the fucking typos. Fuck typing on phones.
>>17281525
That is borderline crazy. And she's just been...going along with it? No complaints or snide comments? Is she fucking crazy, too?
Honest question: does she know these were "dates"?
How to stop having issues with lack of acting feminine?
"Fake it till you make it" is shit advice, i fake it when i have a crush on a person, but it's hard to keep that image for long.
Geez, i miss days when i could hang out with guys, joke, discuss shit and swear. It feels nice being "one of the guys" as long as you don't romantically like anyone there.
Now I'm in my 20s and can't form even meaningful friendships with guys, i'm afraid i slip into "non-feminine" old behaviour and nobody will see me as a girl. Had this scenario played in school and now it's a shitty phobia.
There is evidence guys like girls who act like stereotypical guys (ie try to hide their feelings, blatantly show displease, avoid small talk, don't read between the lines, compete), because it's easier to relate to same sex. But that's perceived as immature.
>tl;dr
Have masculine mindset - afraid guys won't want me
Ironically, my appearance is feminine as fuck and i'm very short, so sex change is even more pointless.
I think its only your phobia that is keeping you from having relationships with guys. I'm a more masculine chick with a feminine outside and I don't have any problems getting male attention.
>>17281523
Seconding this. If you look feminine you'll get drowned in attention. Even if you straight up behave like a guy.
>>17281523
So how exactly do you act with guys? I want to know how to stop my anxiety.
My only friends are girls and i act very gender-neutral towards them.
I don't get any attention, because i look aloof, busy and not approachable all the time. Maybe i should simply get out more though.