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>>17284874
then dump her you spineless pussy let her date a real man. meanwhile you'll post on here in 2 weeks whining about how perfect she was and she was the only thing that kept you from suiciding, now she's riding chads dick wondering why she ever setttled for your

why don't you try and be honest with her about how you feel? not about breaking up with her, but about how you are down and probably depressed? if she loves yuo, she'll have your back and be there for you, even if you aren't your bubbly self all the time.
remember: to have and to hold, for better, for worse

It will hurt her more if you keep faking it, until one day you break and she has to face the reality that she loves a broken and depressed person, and there is nothing she can do, though she will try and try to make you happy, you will only drag her down until she questions what's wrong with herself.
End it quickly, or prolong the misery for possibly years. Work on yourself first. I don't understand why fucked up broken people don't work on themselves before dragging someone else into their hell spiral.

It takes time. You need to talk to him about it and be open, and ask him to do the same. But if you felt betrayed by him, even slightly, that's not just going to disappear immediately.

>>17284895
i'll see him tonight and i plan to be really honest and open about how it left me.
problem is, the betrayal i feel is all basend on assumptions. there's nothing he can say that i can think off that would be able to get back the previous levels of trust i had

will giving it time help?
i feel very disconnected to him atm and like his words don't have any impact on me anymore

>>17284906
>the betrayal is based on assumptions
Explain

- Get dex instead of adderall

- Which university do you go to that doesn't have online lectures wtf?

- Tell your parents that you were struggling with some stuff that you can't really talk about, but that you think you're better now and you'll do better next time

- Fix your work ethic.

>>17284848
I mean missing lectures as in I attend/view them all and take notes up to one day where I burn out or get sick or whatever. From then on I'm apathetic as fuck and keep telling myself that I'll do notes on the weekend or whatever.

>>17284861

Why do you give up though? Is there a specific reason? Tbh you shouldn't even be struggling with university, I study 2 days before my exams and get D/HD easily. I might be gifted or whatever, but if I can do that; then surely if you just do a few weeks of work you should be fine.

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you are so lost we don't even know where to start.

>>17285030
Back to tumblr ya queer

First, stop going on /r9k/. That must come before anything else.

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I'm not programmin myself but I heard that there is a lot of sites that can help you. Best language for begginers seems to be Python.

>>17284755
C is the way to go for newbies
https://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/C_Programming

C is a solid choice, but Python isn't bad either. If you're more interested in web programming, I'd jump straight into Java or Javascript though. I suggest you check out Codeacademy, they offer free, accessible tutorials.

>>17284739
tell her you spoke to god and he wants her to suck your dick or she's going to hell

get ready for one MEAN blowjob, shes gunna suck the devil right outta your dick.

also if she's catholic she's probably already sucked the pastors cock for "confirmation"

Wait until she marries you and force her, she's brainwashed Christian so she should understand you wear the pants, or you won't be...

>>17284765
what if she doesn't believe me?

>>17284773
what happens if she tells her pastor? I don't want to rape her

Depends what the $160 package was, anon.

>>17284708

You could try keeping it. You might get a court summons through the letter box one day though. See what happens, you could get away with it I guess

>>17284708
This is what morality boils down to. Do you do the right thing out of social guilt, or personal guilt?

If it is only ever social guilt, then you are likely a bad person who simply doesn't want to be caught (leading to isolation etc.) Bad however, is relative - if you consistently have feelings of wanting to murder someone, that is a far different bag of worms than the urge to shoplift.


Now, personal guilt - if you genuinely feel bad for doing bad things, then you are likely a good person. On top of this, if you are compelled to do nice things for others with no expectation of a reward, that is another strong point in the favour of a good person.

But this isn't exactly fair, as most people experience a mix of both, constantly and somewhat interchangeably. For example, a good person would never hurt a dog. But lets say they are having the worst day of their life and want to scream at something living - they might just terrify a dog by screaming at them, and then feel guilt and remorse later. But in the presence of peers, maybe this person decides to not shout, because it isn't socially acceptable - it's twofokd morality. The threat of being socially isolated is a handy backup for when a good person might lose themselves for a moment.

It's messy, but always go with what feels right to you. If that is social pressure, fine, do the right thing for a shallow reason. No-one would think less of you. But don't fight your true nature out of spite - if you genuinely feel bad for doing a bad thing, it will eat away at you until you make it right.

Tl;dr - do the right thing for whatever reason feels right to you.

>>17284650

THERE ARE LITERALLY MILLIONS.

I fall in love errryday. After a breakup when I was 16 (which at the time I was devastated) I learned to respect how unfair life is. If a girl doesn't like you then move on. That doesn't mean I don't feel any pain but I understand that it isn't meant to be and I go and find someone else.

>>17284807
There's the difference between you and me. I don't purposely look for girls. I don't date girls, I think that the whole philosophy of dating is fucking stupid. If I'm gonna be with someone, it has to come up from a random encounter...

>>17284807
>THERE ARE LITERALLY MILLIONS.

*billions.

There are about 3.6*10^9 women on the planet. Well, females at least.

>>17284647
Where are you from? Sounds like southern europe or south america or something.

Just speak to them as if they were guys. Don't give a fuck really, it helps.

>>17284647
eye contact implies sexual attraction and conveys confidence, you looking away signifies that you don't find them attractive and or don't have confidence

Here is my conclusion of the year I took antidepressants

you should use antidepressants to push yourself to a new state of wellbeing, not on your daily life. They should be temporary.

they will do nothing if you aren't willing to study what it is causing your unhappiness.

What I experienced when I took them was that the veil of sadness I always carried with me suddenly dissapeared and it was somewhat easier for me to deal with my problems. In particullar, I became willing to meet new people.

However, they dind't make me completely happy. I would say my mood improve from a 3/10 to a 5/10. The antidepressants blocked my sadness and my numbness. My threshold for coping raised and even if I wanted I couldn't feel terribly sad about nothing.

During the year I took antidepressants I made a new group of friends which now I abandoned and I started to appreciate myself a little more. It helped me to become more sociable and I discovered a few things about myself. Now I would say I am a constant 4/10.

I stopped taking them when their effect started to disappear and I would need them to keep up.

So... that is my experience with them if it is useful for you. They work, but take care.

>>17284606
i've been on them (zoloft, specifically) for a month and a half now. it's been pretty good for anxiety, hasn't done much for depression - so it's harder to get the motivation to do things, but when i actually do it i'm not as scared. i was really worried about starting them at first but the worst that can happen is you decide you dont like taking them and stop (gradually, don't quit suddenly).
if you have any specific questions i'll track this thread

>>17284644
Thank you for telling me about your experience.
The way you've described it to me has given me much more insight on exactly how you feel on them.

How did you find getting off of them later on?

Only if you tell us the backstory behind how this happened to you

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>sides in paradise

why did you walk around naked?

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>>17284538
is that realistic enought?

>>17284528
I had it pretty where it was painful to stretch it back.

but a regime or stretching solved it (mostly, still a little tight)

stretch it regularly until you can get it right back

Pull it back every time you piss.

Pull it back and leave it back while you sleep

worked for me

>>17284548
>I had it pretty
*pretty bad

>>17284548
did you know where i can info about the stretch regiment thing? i had seen it mentioned but never found any links

Sept 10 1987

18 augusth 1990

>>17284529
Ok let me start by saying you always feel like the odd one out you are very picky and like order almost to the point of perfection. This causes you to feel emence issues with self confidence because you set yourself this unbelievable high standard of what is "right" you are complicated but instead of seeing the good in that you see the bad and continue to self hate.

So. As easy as its said and not so easy done stop with the critical side of your nature stop worrying about perfection, this will take awhile as its been engrained into you. Start small let a bit of disorder into your life but by bit and this will start an action where things will improve.

Work/study- You are the type of person that at the beginning is all guns blazing but once in the thick of things you start to procrastinate. My advice here is music, pick a song you enjoy one you can listen to for hours on end and play this song while you study let it be your motivator.

Family- Things are ok in the big picture. You get annoyed but look at the big picture they say it because they genuinely care.

My first thought about you- "Stop comparing everyone to them and you will find the one"

>>17284520
Do you want drugs? Psychiatrists are the ones that do that, psychologists do things like cognitive behavioral therapy. Sometimes a mix of both is most effective. You should probably just find one you can go to for an initial evaluation and hear what their opinion is.

>>17284649
I just want to end the suffering.

which of these illnesses do you recommend? i want attention too. social anxiety is probably best because it also gives me excuses...

>>17284511
I don't need any more details than this

>1 The reason for anything; money. This job pays well.
Well good for you. Learn to appreciate it, faggot.
>2. Getting another job that pays as much may be difficult.
Well then the more of a reason to learn to appreciate your current then.
>3. I am unsure if this same thing won't happen at another job, were I to get one.
There's no such thing as dream jobs. Anywhere, literary anywhere will be downsides to a job AND people you won't get along well with, or who are plain asshole's. Learn to deal with it. Ignore those people and get as small contact as you can with them. Concentrate on and enjoy the rest of your life. You do have a life beside your job, don't you? Hobbies, passions, family, friends, a girlfriend?

>>17284718
A bit harsh, but yes, I do have those things outside of work. Problem is I am stuck with this guy in a tiny room for 8 hours, 5 days a week, kinda sucks.

>>17284511
Can you talk to Your boss, or HR, about it? Not even to get him in trouble, just to see if you can be partnered with someone else instead.