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>>17285324
I don't know. I have no idea. I would never hire a hooker, I would completely lose my boner knowing the girl was in pain and crying, and don't touch strange buttholes.

You requested a service, and the service was not delivered. I see nothing wrong here.

>Inb4 all the whiteknights and Tumblr

>>17285324
Anal isn't pleasant, especially 15 fucking minutes of it.

>>17285301

Do you have 9"? See...

>>17285301
That's a rule of thumb, not immutable law. Their bfs are probably good looking, tough talking(confident), willing to lie and cheat others for what they want(ambitious), and always down to party (fun)

You only have a job and a car.

>>17285301
Ah, but do you have a personality? Girls will choose ugly interesting guys over pretty blockheads any day.

>>17285292
Well it looks like talking hasn't changed it. But you need to make it known that you have needs and if you aren't compatible it may be in your best interest to find someone who is.

If he has sex once or twice a week with two other plates as well, it's normal.

>>17285292
>lasting 3 minutes
Buy him Viagra, or dump him and get a man who can duck you well.

The advice everyone is given for getting over a relationship is to go out with someone new. People do that and end up on dates when they really aren't ready to be. No way of knowing if you could have done anything, we'd have to read her mind and be able to measure how not ready to date again she was.

>>17285270
>No way of knowing if you could have done anything, we'd have to read her mind and be able to measure how not ready to date again she was.

Not sure if this would help, but to recap some of the things she said

1.) She had started dating a guy almost immediately after moving down here
2.) She then got involved with another guy for a very short period
3.) She mentioned that she can be "difficult to handle". She said maybe some day she can find somebody who can handle her flaws. I ask what her flaws are and she said that she can be closed off and just start ignoring people etc. (to be honest this sort of thing does not bother me at all, I've learned to not take it personally).


I figure either she's trying to let me down gently, or she's actually kind of afraid it won't work out so she's pushing me away. Both seemed equally plausible, I was just curious to know if folks here thought this was her "friend zoning" me (I mean this in a non-resentful, non-bitter way) or if it's something else.

>>17285311
Both seem equally plausible to me. Just saying it's hard to tell if you messed up or not. She may have been the one who messed up and went on a date when she wasn't ready to commit. Avoiding talking about her ex possibly could have helped the date, but she still may have thought of him herself the next day and texted you saying "I'm not over my ex, I'd rather just be friends for now." And you'd still be confused, wondering what you did wrong.

I'm not 30 but I think at this age, you are at the moment of your life when you are the most in control ; a steady situation in general.
There is a thing that lots of people do that I call almost a harem ; you befriend lots of girls and invest in your friendship, and then you choose. Also, trust me on this, it's better to be alone than with people you don't like.

At least you're a man. I'm a 25 year old woman and all I have to look forward to is being a spinster. Each year is lonelier than the last. My friends are mostly in relationships and/or exciting careers. I couldn't find a real job after graduating and it's just a long, slow wait for death from here.

My life started becoming really good at around 30. Of course that's because I worked on turning it around. As the end result I have a great career going and a well paid job and can do all these things I never could afford in my 20s.

She's just a cold bitch, she knows that she can use you whenever she wants, so she won't stop untill you'll tell her to. Or at least ask her for a head few times a week as a refund, you pathethic pussy.

>>17285242
Next time she messages you just say you're busy or won't get time to do it. She'll have to go herself and eventually just get used to going without asking someone else cause it's quicker.

I don't understand why you let her walk all over you. Next time she asks you to buy shit you don't use, ask her for money
Money is still money and i don't see why you should spend yours for here repeatedly if your only roommates

>>17285241
it is best they are not in the same city or frequent the same places. I also do the same type of activities with them both and easier to manage conversation. Sometimes it's easy to confuse the two or three in conversation. I even encourage the same sex acts and compare and contrast for my own amusement. Good luck

>>17285241
>As long as I make both happy
I'm quite certain if they knew you were cheating on them they would no longer be happy.

>why would it be bad?

Because they think that they have something they don't- your loyalty. If they knew who you really were neither would want you.

Faggot

A bit of backstory.

She's a hairdresser. That's how we met. I walked in during a quiet part of the day. She was dressed like a Barbie doll in a tight black dress. She's 5ft tall About 110lbs. I thought she was gonna be one of those "plastic girls" who's main staples of her vocabulary were 'like' and 'totally'. I was completely wrong. She turned out to be one of the most interesting people I've ever met. We hit it Off completely and my 15 minute haircut lasted over an hour. She's 24 I'm 26 btw

>>17285223
If it didn't work out there are still other people out there, people that will put her to shame. Go out and find them.

I immediately asked for her number and arranged to take her to dinner the following Saturday (we met on a tuesday).

Every night leading up to our date we talked for 3 or 4 hours. You know, the usual. We decided to just hangout on Saturday instead. Because we just wanted to spend time with each other.

Saturday rolled around, she showed up, I had a dozen roses waiting for her and I immediately kissed her. Needless to say the date went amazingly. We did small stuff, ran to the mall for a few things. I ended up getting her mom flowers for her garden and then I decided that I still wanted to take her to dinner.

FF to night time. We end up in bed. Things get steamy and it turns out we are super compatible in bed. We end up fucking like 5 times spanning like 4 hours.

>>17285217
Fellow bipolar & ocd sufferer here, I stay away from drugs and alcohol because they make everything worse. There are plenty of reasons to live OP, just gotta find them. All life is precious, please stay strong, and don't hurt yourself. You're worth more.

>>17285230
I understand it's different in the case of bipolar, but does medication help you?

I was thinking about drugs as a one time experience as I've read and heart about quite a few awe inspiring positive experiences that changed people's perception and overall mood and has got me really curious

>>17285239
Are you talking about recreational drugs or medication? I am not on any, never have been and I don't know how I feel about it because of the pressure I put on myself to deal with the issues myself.

>>17285196
Talk, listen, be attentive and keep topics like religion and politics to yourself.

>>17285199
wouldnt she be bored? I would be

>>17285196
talk about what you like and find intersting, talk about politics and religion. Don't talk about sex or a relationship.
in the best case you really have just met someone you find very interesting, ask questions.

extroverted outspoken girls are easy mode, they will basically lead you through the talking and will ask you quite a lot of questions.

Also the place and the setting isnt that important, it will always matter more, how you two get along. I had a pretty bad idea: took my girl on the first date to a english second hand book store, when we are in a non english speaking country. She is also introverted and relatively quiet, so we didnt talk a lot, but it still worked out and we are now BFGF.

where do you live
what's your age and sex
what's your highest education level and work experience?

>>17285171
I'm sorry to hear about your family, but you will make one of your own. Some day you will be there for someone who needs you, and that is your reason to stay alive.

>>17285171
Oh boy
Dont be fucking pussy and man up
Let me tell you something you already know....
Im kiddin boy just be stronk

>>17285150

Make sure you talk to your friend first. If you wouldn't want to talk to your friend about it then don't do it.

>>17285152
I hear that loud and clear, but I feel like I don't wanna talk to her before I even know if it's gonna happen, you feel? Like, telling your family you've found an awesome guy before you've been on a date? Not just because why worry her if there's nothing to worry about, but like it would ruin it somehow?

>>17285156

Yeah then I can't really you help. I don't know the girl personally. I use to bag my best friend about his hot sister all the time and even asked jokingly in a serious tone if he'd mine if I got with his sister and he was completely fine with it. He's a really chill guy though. I know plenty that would flip their shits.

>>17285111

These are the dumbest questions

>How do I get a girl?

What the fuck do you want us to tell you? There is no magic answer. Just fucking talk to her you idiot.

Pro tip: It's never going to happen virgin.

Tell her you'll marry her and take care of her offspring.

Go Elliot Rodgers allover her ass.

>>17285095
>holiday trip with my oneitits
>1 week in another country, just us two
>I don't know where we stand to each other
What the fuck?

>>17285120

Supposedly oneitis is where a (usually beta) person is extremely infatuated with a member of the opposite sex who is a part of their life, to the point where they believe they're 'the one'.

Just calm down OP. Use social ques to identify whether your friend is interested in you. Your life is not over if she isn't. Worst case move to Sweden where every girl is at least a 8/10.

>>17285126
Yeah, I know that. What I want to know is why this oneitis would go with him on a holiday trip alone if they were not in a relationship already.

>>17284942
Maybe you could choose a special edition based on something he likes? That shows it's more of a "thoughtful" gift and less of a "hey look at how I spoil you" gift.

My gf has bought me things like this from time to time (we are both pretty poor so we usually talk about it first) and it makes me feel good because I know it comes from a good place. But you need to make it clear you aren't buying it to show off, but to show you care and to give him a way to relax now and then.

>>17284942
Why the dubts? how can expensive gifts do any harm? if you can afford it and you don't think you will regret the money spent, then do it.

>>17284950
Yeah, his life is fucking miserable and I won't be anywhere near him until October and I want to do everything I can to make him happy.
He emphasised a game he wanted so I'll be getting him that as well.
>>17284952
I just have fears about him feeling extreme guilt or feeling like he owes me.