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>>17282543
Get out more, do something physical. If you a fantasizing about a fictional girl all the time your minds is rotting and that is what leads to these kids of depression. Get busy with something outside and you will have other things to focus on.

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>>17282543
>searching for rare artifacts
Fuck that noise, you should be searching for rare pepes instead. I have almost 400 different ones and my life is great because of that, I'm happier now than I've ever been, but I'll be happier still when I've collected another 50.

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>>17282618
>implying pepe isn't waifu4laifu

>>17282484
It is standard procedure to ask her out for coffee. Start there and talk about things.

Just ask her to hang out,there is nothing bad there,don't worry too much.
Btw.Try meditating,it helps.

>>17282495
I'm not really a coffee drinker, and I don't think she is either. What would we talk about?

>>17282499
So if I ask her to hang out and she comes over, what do I do? I don't really know how to entertain guests. Do we just watch tv? Do I cook us dinner? Do we just sit on my couch and talk? And how do I even approach the topic of mutual attraction?

they should be putting on weight if they're clean tbqh

>>17282397
Don't date girls like that.

They'll lie, cheat, and steal.

>>17282397
Sounds suspicious. While you're staying there, maybe hide a camera to see in case it happens again?

>>17282382
Cool blog post

I always make mistakes. Pissing off the wrong people, getting myself in trouble, flirting with girls too obviously, being awkward, being at the wrong place wrong moments, having some shit happening to me while I'm at work, forgetting important things etc...

>>17282395
Don't do those things.

>>17282223

if you cant accept people for who they are, then you shouldnt bother dating or talking to anyone.

you have decided that ap erson who doesnt do drugs anymore is disgusting cuz they used to. by that logic you cant have sex with them cuz you know they've taken a shit before and might as well be taking a shit while ur fucking her pussy.

>>17282231
I see, i just want to get it over it cause it's the past

>>17282240

thats what im saying. but tto get over it you have to mentally will it.

What word describes my behavior* as in whats the root cause

>>17282162
>>17282162
Aren't certain women kinda fetishized too? Just a question tho.

My sister is into that. I find it to be a really bizarre fan base. And my sister's wall is plastered in 2PM posters, she has a damn shrine of one of the members. And we are in our mid twenties for christ's sake.

Honestly, I don't even see it as a asian fetishisizing thing, it's really just a weird boy band thing. Any girl who obsesses over boy bands and is over 15 (and that age is even cutting it close) seems really fucking immature for some reason.

>>17282162
There's insecurity here if you're thinking that enjoyment of kpop has anything to do with fantasies about Asian men! Some people like rock, others rap, etc. and would never IRL think more of it beyond enjoying the music. Most pop idol worship is just for fun and just a phase. Stop worrying about that and think about why it really bothers you...why do you even care so much about it?

Have you tried /trash/ op?

>>17282078
im serious

>>17282110
I am too

Think if it's a "real" problem or not. Like how much they do trouble your life or not. At least you say you've been succesful with these women so far. I think it's alright. Besides normies probably have problems of their own too, they are just less visible.
I have the same taste as you tbqh.

chances are your mother was probably troubled in some regard since most people naturally look for mates similar to their parents

>>17281990
I'm trying to go in the polar opposite of my mother desu

Maybe it's a subconscious thing

>>17281880
>graduate graphics design study

Fuck the arts unless you have talent in your particular art.
Get a job flipping burgers or something while you build a portfolio of your own work.
Be good.

Find a job (any job). Continue applying for entry level positions in your desired field. It's better to have job experience in something completely unrelated, rather than nothing.

>arts degree

Well, you tried

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>>17281846
That way she and I originally described the trip was "testing the waters" to see if we could click a second time around. But as time wore on, it became "I just want to be with you" and "I can't wait for you to hold me and fuck me in person again." Way more from her than me, but I definitely said similar things at some point in our conversations.

To throw an even bigger wrench in the works, while I said I felt "okay with being single" while she was in the picture I did actually meet somebody. I felt this extreme urge to get out there rather than waiting for this girl a thousand miles away, and started putting myself out into the open on dating apps, at bars, in my social circles, etc. This girl is totally aware as I slowly injected the idea into conversations, but I think she's overconfident that I will be true to her. And, last week, without her knowing, I met somebody who is not only a really fun, interesting match, but she is local. Which is huge. I've already taken this girl out on a date and hung out with her two more times, and it's a feeling I haven't had in a while -- not even with the girl I met on the vacation.

It's almost like this girl from out of state was my stopgap to satisfy my urges until I met somebody who satisfied my needs.

I feel like a tremendous fucking idiot. I have no idea how I want to handle this, but my gut is telling me to ditch the girl from out of state. Even if it means slowly being a "terrible host" so that she comes up with her own decision to drop me. I don't know how else to handle it and still land on my feet.

Help?

>tl;dr have a girl I met online and in person flying out to visit me for a week, but I'm not feeling it anymore and only recently met somebody else who is a better match and also not a thousand miles away and inaccessible. How do I let down the girl from out of state?

>>17281846
By long-term relationship I met "long distance." Oops!

I want nothing more than a LTR, but it can't be with somebody who I can only twice a year...

Boring. Just fuck them both, nobody's promised anything yet

>>17281788
You need to suck it up and do things you're uncomfortable with, because you can either do them now or later, when you're homeless.

>>17281798
it's a practical issue, not one of willpower

I am prepared to do what I have to, but I'm not sure what that is

it's not about what's uncomfortable, I live in a perpetual echo chamber; I'm not really sure how to explain it to someone else but if I'm under to much strain I simply can't cope, trying harder doesn't make me more functional

I jump at noises and flashes, I get overwhelmed if too many things or people are moving, I struggle to do things sequentially

my father shows me little respect in the household, he constantly pushes me to spend my money having fun; yet doesn't understand I don't have fun like other people do and tht while he threatens to kick me out I need that money for personal security.
he is an alcoholic and is often away, he eats out every meal then blows it at me for making dishes; he leaves the house unlocked or the door wide open when I'm asleep, I can't keep living with him.

>>17281788

there are middle grounds. its not just 'minimum wage vs university'.

while im sure you struggled you could attempt to go to community college. all you need is a shitty generic business type degree to land an office job.

i went to a fucking film school to get my associates degree and now i manage a business. the point is that you just need something on paper saying 'I LEARNED' to do generic work that is above burger flipping.

also consider trade school. also consider driving for lyft or uber. my friend has legit autism and he does that, makes a little extra money whenever he gets something published in the san diego times.

>>17281697
And by shit I mean theres like diarrea al over her asscrack

Be honest.

>I can't see you anymore. You don't wipe your ass properly and it's a deal breaker.
>It's so fucking disgusting that it makes my dick limp.

>>17281697

That's pretty disgusting.

Dump and move on my friend, that's the best advice I can give you

Either hit and run or just run.

Kill the fucking bitch.

>>17281680
It sounds like you found what you are looking for!

Keep knocking it off until she disappears, then move on to someone else

Just keep your emotions close to you, and don't let her get into your head - keep it physical

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>>17281612
A lot of the times I find people who are just 'chubby' or a little chunky just dont have that outside motivation to eat better or excercise.

I used to be 5'7" and 198lbs. I got a girlfriend 2 years ago and now I weigh like 145.

Honestly if you actually like this girl, and care for her, date her. Warm up to eachother, and start going to the Gym together, buying yummy Fruit/Veggies, etc.

There are so many 'chubby' girls from Highschool that transformed into busty, plump ass adults once they dropped a good 20lbs.

>>17281612
>She's definitely not a land whale. She actually decently well and is motivated and good hygiene

Why not ?
I've dated chubs and am with one now. It has is pro's.

>And i don't want to hear from family and friends

So you're worried what they say ? Fuck them.
Man up. You like her. Date her.
Any real person in your life won't judge you. Only shallow fuckers you probably don't need to be around.

>>17281612
>And i don't want to hear from family and friends about her weight and I'm sure she is going to be insecure.
Tell them to piss off then? None of anything you said sounds like a problem. Just date her.

It doesnt sound realistic

>due to lack of work in the construction field

where you at op? Cause it definitely ain't slow for me or anyone in my area

Currently in Michigan, USA