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I have a huge crush on my best friend. I told her a while ago but I can't move on. I don't want to do no contact because she's one of the best friends I've ever had. Reliable, trust worthy, and just plain honest. But I don't know how I can move on if she's such a big part of my life? Please somebody help me. I feel so lost.
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Move on like forget your feelings about her or move on like keep trying to Make her fall in love with you?
I'm kind of the same situation as you. Can give you one or two tips about it.
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>>17288029
You can't move on if she is a big part of your life. That's how it works. When she gets into a relationship, it will hurt you. Either because she stops spending as much time talking to you, or because she will talk to you about her by, or both. It will likewise m are it absolutely impossible for you to become involved with someone else properly.
So go ahead and beta orbit this chick for the rest of your life, just know that the temporary relief you get from texting her will not enrich your life.
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>>17288042
I don't know. Sometimes all I want to do is move on, but I just love her so much that I can't imagine being with anybody else.
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I feel intensely sick. My stomach is painful and churning, it's been this way for about 2 weeks and my doctor has said that it's likely just a stomach virus which is taking time to pass.
It's coming up to the third week now and I'm struggling to cope, I'm in so much discomfort I'm considering suicide if this turns out to be permanent.
I get sick when I don't eat and I feel dizzy and sick when I do eat, I'm sleeping 16 hours a day just top avoid consciousness.
This can't be right can it?
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>>17288002
Don't come to the Internet you fucking idiot. If you're that worried go to the doctor again or emergency at the hospital
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>>17288002
Yes, medical attention broski. Or! Or, you could try smoking some weed. Idk, go to the hospital faggot.
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I don't think this is hospital severity, I'm in a lot of pain but there's no bleeding or anything
My local practice is opening in an hour so I'll call them
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Hey /adv/.
I feel like maybe I'm starting to get bored with my relationship.
I'm only 19, I've been dating this girl since I was 15 years old. She's the only person I've ever had sex with, and my only long term relationship ever. Is it normal to feel this way after a few years in a relationship?
I feel like we're both young and wasting our youth. I feel restricted sometimes, not because she's a restricting person but because I haven't known what it feels like to be single for such a long time.
I have dreams sometimes about dating other girls I know, some that I've never even found attractive, but I always seem so happy in those dreams. I never tell my girlfriend about these. I mean, I love her. She's been so amazing to me and has been my best friend for so long. I just don't know why I'm feeling this way.
Anyone ever been in a similar situation? Is this a sign I need to break up with her?
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>>17287988
i left a girl of 5 years cause i started smoking weed and felt indifferent around her cause she wasn't putting out... i left her and she refuses to take me back... it's been 4 years since we broke up and i'm slowly starting to like myself again because the girl after her fucked me mentally and physically...
honestly anon, talk to each other, find new things to do together, anal maybe? but don't leave the girl. most girls nowadays are hoes and fucked up so you may not find bettter altho the grass may seem greener elsewhere
just talk to her bro, do new things together, have a baby or someshit
but trust me, loyalty is scarce and your love life will be fucked up if you leave her for some new poon
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My best friend went through the same situation and wanted to take a break, ended up taking the break and realized it was just hormones and asking her back. She got pissed that he basically just wanted to fuck someone then come back to her and he lost her.
It's your choice, either you find a way to get over how you're feeling or you take a break, which can go either one of three ways; you both realize you miss each other and get back together, you realize you don't miss each other and don't get back together, or you go on a break and your girlfriend never takes you back because she feels like she's not good enough.
Most girls (people in general) won't forgive you, just warning you. but if you're having doubts and can imagine yourself breathing a sigh of relief by being out of the relationship, chances are it's what you need to do.
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>>17287988
>I feel restricted sometimes, not because she's a restricting person but because I haven't known what it feels like to be single for such a long time.
>I have dreams sometimes about dating other girls I know, some that I've never even found attractive, but I always seem so happy in those dreams.
Are you happy with your girlfriend? Genuinely happy, like, you could imagine spending your life with her and living with her while you both work some boring day-job and take care of your pets/children?
If so, then take a deep thought about what could future bring if you break up. You could meet some better people and be even happier, or you could end up alone or with someone who you don't really enjoy that much as a person. Both options are pretty plausible, but since you're 19, you'll probably have a lot of relationships ahead of you and the former is very likely. However that depends on a lot of external factors, as your sociability, character, mental health etc. If you're a depressed loner who never gets out of his mother's basement, I would sincerely advise you to stay with the girl. If you're a fitness-enthusiastic party animal, then you'll probably be better off without her.
However, if you're not really happy with her, then the answer is pretty obvious. Why the fuck are you still with her?
(aw yeah im so smart motherfucker)
yeah btw disregard all advice in this post, I'm just a depressed 19yo loner who shitposts on /adv/, /fit/ and /r9k/ because I can't do anything with my life.
Good luck op
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need some advice from someone who's been there...started with the 10mg whites, then half blue, then full blues. Been on it every day for about a month and a half now, which is the longest stretch I've gone. I'll split em up and take a half in the morning, and half around 6pm. Makes me feel great and I feel like I can do anything when I'm on the high. Hasn't really affected me negatively (yet) in life and no one can tell. Anyway, I've quit once before after my last 2 week bender when I did this about 6 months ago and remember the w/d's were intense. They only lasted about 2-3 days, but I definitely could barely function at work. Watery eyes, cold/hot skin, bathroom, rls, etc. Now that I've been on it for a month and a half, I could only imagine how much worse it will be. I can't afford to miss work, and I can't let my gf know. I get that many of you will call me a pussy as maybe the amnt described isn't that much to some ppl. But from those who have been there - how do you suggest the best way I go about this when I quit Monday? Will I be back to normal on Thurs? Got a trip with the gf and her parents this weekend so I have to not be a piece of shit. Any advice on how to get better quickly, or anything will help. I realize that OP is being a shitthead so thx
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you're going to go through withdrawals no matter what you do, and you're going to feel like complete shit.
most you can probably do to make it through is tell people you've caught the flu, and take cold medicine after you're off of it to help with withdrawal symptoms.
I came down off of opiates and it took two weeks before I stopped shitting myself and throwing up randomly.
the longer you've had the drug built up in your system, the harder it's going to be to get off of them...but all I can say is to be easy on yourself and try not to feel too guilty. if you feel bad, let other people know. You don't have to tell them the exact reason but it can help when people are more aware that you're feeling like shit.
anyways good luck anon
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how long were you on the opiates before you came down?
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no way you will be back to normal in that amount of time, forget that.
Tell people you are sick and dont ruin your health because of work, its not that important. maybe cancel the hollidays with your GFs parents and stay home sick, thats the best guess how you can avoid them finding out
maybe consult a doctor who has experience with drug withdrawels, they have a few tricks up their sleeves but be blunt and honest with him.
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I feel like a wreck right now and could use some exterior advice.
I've suffered from depression ever since I remember, but about half a year ago, I went through a very hard phase which was even more fueled by my drug experimentation at the time. Long story short, I went to a psychologist and a shrink, got on antidepressants and things were pretty alright, I didn't drink or do drugs, I worked out and things were okay. Eventually I started drinking and taking drugs (not every day) again so I stopped with the antidepressants because they didn't react well with those, and I ditched my therapy sessions with my psychologist because she insisted that I stop taking speed completely.
Anyway, if I decided to go back to therapy now, would I be stigmatized as a drug fiend in their eyes? Should I just search for a new psychologist or continue where I left off with an old one? Or do I not deserve therapy at all, if I can't even do the simple things they tell me to do?
Fuck, any kind of perspective is okay. I just need outside information, I feel like I'm going insane.
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i feel like shrinks and shit don't do much but just provide an ear and a shoulder and charge crazy fucking fees in the process so i'd opt against a shrink
i self-medicate with cannabis and have for about 2 years cause of depression, not into other drugs as i don't trust that shit so i'd suggest cannabis instead of other drugs
continue the working out, meet new people and shit, slowly cut out drugs and you'll be fine
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>>17287940
If you were steady on the meds, and doing better that you are right now, I think you have your answer
The old one will prob characterize you as an addict, but that doesn't mean he will look at you differently, just another page in the notebook
A new guy will start fresh, and have to dig into your shit to get a baseline. So if you liked the first guy i think you should stick with him
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Why would your previous psychomancer not want your continued business? Don't be silly. It only makes sense that they'd want you to come back and convince you they can help. If you're afraid of people judging you just realize that's been happening before any fabricated guilt you may have.
Like anything, give it time and persevere. You'll get there if you want to.
I had super narrow shoulders for a man, never seen guy narrow like me
Then one of my best friends suggest me to swim long periods
After 2 years of regular swimmin now i have really broad shoulders and i am happy
But there is a fucking big doubt on my mind about how will my wife would react this fact?
Because if she had seen my genetic shoulder size, she would not find me attractive
Do you think she cares it?
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>>17287903
What the fuck are you talking about?
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>>17287903
>Because if she had seen my genetic shoulder size, she would not find me attractive
Hard training and your genetics enabled you to grow your back and shoulders. Why would you even give a shit about the past now that you're much bigger?
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>>17287926
I am some kind of perfectionist and always felt insecurity about my shoulder width even i have broad shoulders at the moment, now i feel like my future wife will be shocked, and think twice about me:D
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Can anything be salvaged from this tinder match???
I'm autistic pls help
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>>17287901
Nope. Nothing for you to do but wait to hear back. You most likely won't. The ball's in her court. Messaging her again next week makes you look desperate. If she's truly interested in you, she'll hit you up when she gets back. That would be Monday. If by Wednesday she hasn't messaged you, it's way, waaaay over.
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Just leave it as is.
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>>17287901
FAIL - next should of been - when are you available
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If there are any German anons that can help me out I'm trying to figure out if I can go to university in Germany.
I'm a dual U.S/German citizen and could live with my mother in Germany so economically I'm set.
The problem is actually getting in to a university, all I have is a high school diploma and my GPA was bad 2.7 enough that I don't think any universities would take me.
So is there a pre-university program I could do for like a year or something and then take an exam?
It's hard to find information because my German sucks right now but I'm already working on it
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Was versuchst du zum major?
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>>17287865
Engineering
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>>17287868
Ho boy. Das sind durchaus konkurrenzfähig und die meisten Menschen in Deutschland versuchen, Ingenieure zu sein. Warum in Amerika studieren nicht?
/adv/ years ago, my best buddy in the entire world ended up killing himself, right in my backyard. I didn't grieve properly, I tried to be a tough guy stoic, clint eastwood. It's really caught up to me, I lost a relationship with a girl I truly loved who truly loved me and I need to grieve over that as well. It's been 5 years, am i still able to grieve properly? I don't even remember his face anymore.
How do I go about this please help.
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Find a mutual friend and reminisce. You ain't got to boo hoo your eyes out, you can remember the good things, the little things. You can grieve through laughter and happiness. You just sound like you need a face to face with someone you can carry on a convo with
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>>17287838
thanks anon, I have a mutual friend
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>>17287838
Agree xcelent advice
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What do you guys make of this?
My girlfriend of three plus years has always said things like "Don't worry about me during sex, it pleases me to please you." I for the most part do, but sometimes I want to pleasure her. She can't cum from penetration, says she doesn't particularly like oral (that it feels kind of good but she's never cum from it). Initially I would get her off with my fingers every so often but it took a while and my hand cramped. It's been a bit different recently, she seems to get hornier, more wet and when I tried to get her off after a long time of not trying, it didn't take any longer than it takes me to jerk myself off.
I talked to her about sex a bit today, I asked her if she ever masturbates, she said not in a long time. I asked her if she would appreciate if I did it for her more often and she said not really. I asked her if sex, masturbation and orgasm feel good for her and she said they do. I said even though she doesn't necessarily want me to get her off more often if she would mind if I did it more often of my own volition she said she supposes so, that she doesn't really mind either way.
After a while longer of talking, I came to the conclusion that she legitimately enjoys sexual pleasure but is also legitimately indifferent to it. She agreed with that notion and I asked her if she knew why, she told me she's never really thought about it that much. I asked her if it was anything traumatic but she said no.
Do I actually have a free pass to be selfish in bed? She's pretty willing to do most things in bed, quite submissive. But how is it possible for her to enjoy it but at the same time be indifferent? Is she playing with my head?
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Hey OP.
I think if she's been able to orgasm in the past, it's a good bet that she'd be extremely appreciative of you if you dedicated a lot of your sexual efforts to getting her to cum no matter what.
Buy special toys, communicate with her so you know when you're near the gspot, ask her what feels better than other things, etc.
Maybe she's just too nervous or unsure about her body to give you a real answer and she doesn't want to upset you if she said "yes I want to be able to orgasm with you".
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Nah, she doesn't process it quite the same way you do. Girls focus on the relationship and sex serves as a connection, not just a feel good time.
It's tricky though. She may also be inexperienced or naïve. I would side on the idea she enjoys you being into her body, and the foreplay and sex is her validation. So ignoring her for a quickie isn't a free pass. My girl is similar, she doesn't think anything turns her on except sex, but some quick foreplay ups the game from a 4 to a 10
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Is what I did really that bad?
I was working out of state in Iowa(from California). Took my fiance and was in out there and we lived there for two months. After this, we got into it and she was going to go back to California for a month or so.
When we left, and not on the best terms, she made me promise not to masturbate or watch porn. Seeing as we hadn't had sex for 5 days, that was the first thing I did when I dropped them off. I told I didn't. Fast forward to this morning and she finds out I did(im still not sure how she saw it. Should have just stayed incognito). She rushes me and starts punching me. I eventually get get off of me and get my keys and drive to my dad's.
I realize I lied, and I shouldn't have promised her not to, but I'm a 25 year old guy. I love her, and I go from being relieved of getting away from someone like this to missing her a ton. And yes, I have cheated on her, and she knows, but there's a big difference between me jacking off and fucking someone else
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Sorry, she left to California about a month ago and I was supposed to be there for another year, but the job ended and I got back last week.
Posyed in a haste and from my phone, so I apologize for any typos or incoherent sentences.
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I ain't gonna sugar coat it, you fucked up. I ain't interested in your penny ante reasons, all I know is you gave your word to this girl. You should be pissed at yourself for it. Your word is all she asked for and you couldn't hold yourself to it.
She deserves an apology. Get yourself together man
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You're both retarded and don't belong with each other anymore. You cheated on her, so the suspicion will always be there, and it doesn't matter that you didn't cheat again. It's that you made a promise and broke it.
You literally have no remorse, and she's stupid for not leaving your dumb ass.
>tl;dr do yourselves a favor and break up
It's currently 6 in the morning, I can't sleep nor can I stop crying. I really feel like committing suicide right now
What do I do?
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Call the suicide hotline. Seriously
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>>17287747
Do you thing you'll be happy in the future? If yes, don't do it.
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>>17287751
I don't think I could ever be truly happy
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My dad's manipulative ex wife called and said some terrible things.
I don't call her my step mom or anything because they married when I was already an adult and that felt weird
So she called him yesterday and seems to know exactly what to say to irk my dad. I am the only person that still has a relationship with my dad. Of most of his siblings, my siblings, my mom, everyone lost contact. Except his sister, but she lives on the other side of the country.
She said that she talks to me regularly and I spill all this shit about him to her. I have no idea what she said, but it was convincing whatever it was.
I have never spoke ill of my dad. Especially after their divorce because she really showed me what a bitch she was. Also, she blocked me from everything, her phone, social media, etc. I had one argument with her at time of divorce. I knew anything I said would be held against me at some point. So all I said were positive, if not neutral things about dad and didn't give into her trying to escalate me.
She got upset and blocked me so that's how that happened.
Dad called me today, almost on verge of tears, thinking that I did this. Even when I said i didn't, he wasn't completely convinced.
What do I do from here?
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>>17287723
Remind him of the type of person she is. Tell him what you just told us. Tell him she is trying to take you away from him so he'll be hurt and alone.
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Dont call him. Sit him down face to face and explain it.
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He's overly emotional right now. You're family. Your word should always come first. Remind him of that
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So, I have been dating a girl for about 2 years now. For most of our relationship everything has been really great. We hardly ever fight, I think she is a great person, and have felt like I loved her until recently. For no particular reason it seems like these last few months I have just stopped wanting to be with her. I still care about her, and hope shes happy, but I have no desire to stay in a relationship. the things keeping me in the relationship are my fear of hurting her, the hope that things will be like they were, and the fear of what my life would be like without her. I have never shared these feelings with anyone, but it's been getting worse. I dont know what to do. Any advice?
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>>17287652
In order to make a logical decision, you first need to identify why you feel this way.
Can you give us some background on your relationship so we can give you specific advice?
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>>17287652
things get old man - rice krispies every morning, every day, week, month...
either try to spice it up with her, if you really have a good one... or if you are cold enough, look for a side interest, but know at that point, the true connection with your girl will be messed up going forward, with the deception thrown in the mix
remember the things you fell in love with her in the first place, and focus there - maybe go out and spend some money on a new activity together, if you really love her, you would at least try to spark the flame again
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>>17287652
Focus on the good things about her. Write down all the things you love about her and what you would miss if she decided to leave you first.
If you find it hard to write anything down and you legitimately will not miss her and her affection in your life, it's time to move on.
But just remember that when it's over, it's over for good.
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>be me
>no hobbies
>take a few days off work for a staycation
>literally spend it browsing the web (4chan mostly) and lifting
how do i get interested in things and be a guy who does stuff in his free time?
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>>17287641
>staycation
what kind of normie shit is this
I hope you slip and fall into moving traffic
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>>17287645
>tripfag being a retard
what a surprise
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>>17287641
Bump. Looking for the same advice.