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>>17295108
ffs ask her u lill shit

>>17295108
she wont care, but it depends on her values, some girls are complicated

>>17295108
>Won't get addicted
>Twice a week
>Can really get stuff done
LoL. I used to smoke weed a lot, but I would dump a guy in a second if I knew he did speed. Better find out how she feels about it. Or do Adderall like a civilized person.

>>17295088
Boring backstory, but i think it's important to understand the setting:
> be me, 5 years ago
> 28 at the time
> work on a ship, 5 week rotation, 12 hour shifts, pretty much cut off from the rest of the world
> spend 99% of my shifts in a control room with 5 others, each of us with our area of responsibility.
> at times very calm days, where people try to break the silence
> me decide to ask a question from Fight Club:
"If you could fight any person in history, who would you pick?"
> Seemed most people had never seen the movie, and actually found the question intriguing.
> clarified that winning the fight was not the goal, neither was beating someone up. Purely engaging someone in a fistfight.
> turned out my question sparked a loooong discussion on the topic, lasting for the remainder of my shift.
> other shift was debating this when i returned the next day.
Answers fiven, that i can remember:
Our boss
Wayne Rooney
Justin Beiber
Bob Saget
Mother Theresa

>>17295088
weather
sports
movies
TV show last night
celebrities
news
new store/restaurant/bar in town
gossip

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>don't have any friends

I think it's because you used the word "banal" 3 times in your OP.

He was my first real boyfriend, and for the longest time I thought I just wasn't sexually attracted to HIM, and that I was missing out by being loyal to him instead of just finding a guy I'd actually be into, but the longer I try the more obvious it becomes I'm really just not interested in sex, at all, ever.

So wouldn't it be just the same if I'm dating a guy I don't like sleeping with, if I just don't like sex anyway?

>>17295114
Damn, both your lives are sad.

>>17295140
When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade.

When life gives you rocks, you eat sand.

Learn about the company beforehand, make sure you know them well.
Remember that it's not just them interviewing you, it's also the opposite: ask question, be inquisitive, and be interested. Never discuss salary during the first interview unless they bring it up. Beforehand, pick a possible start date.

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>>17295078
>Maintain eye contact.
And if you are nervous at that, look between the eyes.

>When asked to say about yourselves, keep it considerably short and don't try to make it long and expect them to have a sympathy on you.

>Watch videos on being confident.

>Don't fap like at least 1 week from the interview.
(Assuming you are a male.)At the 4th day of abstaining from masturbation, your testosterone levels rise to a level where your confidence levels starts to rise up.

And pretty much what >>17295152 said.

Goof luck.

there is no other way than to try and fail, that is the best way to learn

go to an interview and even if you end up being nervous and shy and shitting your pants, you have to do it again and again in order to overcome it. no matter how many times it takes you just be persistent.

>>17295077
I just read that "am I right" at first glance, so I guess it's terrible

>>17295084

slim shady?

>>17295084
It is a foreign name, because you know I am foreign, "am I right" is not so bad... am I right?

>>17295071
>Trying not to beat off for 2 whole weeks. On day 3 now. Tips to control yourself?
Busy yourself with something else.

>Also how can you sleep without unloading your handgun
Safely.

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>>17295071
Bolt action handgun should work

Recommended choice is the welrod

Cut off your benis

Anyone that can offer advice?

One last bump since it seems there's no interest.

No one can answer that for you. Do what you think is right.

>>17295017
>it kind of sounds like I'm cheating on my boyfriend
This
Be honest about your boyfriend, even that he knows about what you're doing and he's ok with it.

>>17295019
So would that be the main issue for you then? Worrying I'm cheating on him rather than worrying about my lack of commitment to the date?

It depends on whether you give a shit about the other person. If you just want to get laid, then you can either just make it clear to them that you aren't looking for anything serious and just want to have some "fun" or you could lead them on, get yours and then split.

If you do care then just be straight forward about it (keep in mind this is likely to going to make it harder)

>>17295009
>another problem is how do I avoid going out when people invite me.

Even if you're a homebody in general I can almost guarantee you are going to regret this. That's how I went through college - not accepting invitations because of a combination of being a homebody, shy, and not particularly liking some of the people inviting me, until I stopped getting invited at all.

Just be honest and out right.

People who make up dodgy excuses and bail on plans are not well liked.

I was in a similar situation, being a NEET and all, and told like 1/4 of my coworkers. They'll get over it.

As for declining invitations, I literally just say "Nah, I'm just gonna go home and watch a movie or something". I've made it clear that being around a bunch of people tires the hell out of me, and I'll really only hangout with like 3 or 4 people from work. And consider inviting them to do things as well; they won't invite you forever. Or at least accept an invitation every now and then.

>>17294994
Hey anon, i struggle with almost the same situation.
I am 3 years in and married to her, she also changed and took the attitude you described.
I tried to talk to her about it and always try to figure out something but i run against a concrete wall. My arguments get opposed with emotional tantrums.
My wife is really frustrated all the time, at the most delusional things, she doesn't take drugs but spends her whole freetime on her phone these days.

First of all, feeling sorry is not a reason to stay with her, in my case i love her still.
Mine tries to make changes too, but she doesn't try very hard at all, and she acts like every single thing that she does different changes everything and then flings back to her frustrated self letting her mood out on me.

Sorry i could not provide you with any help, i just feel the same way.

Whilst you can still see yourselves getting through it dont give up prematurely as you may regret it, having said that eventually you may get to the point where nothing but the shock of a break up can bring the both of you back to normality and that general feeling of happiness/content returns your day to day life. Its hard to see the future but you need to bear in mind that a huge amount of people get stuck in a situation like your gf and find that although it seems cruel at the time in 10 years she will see it as a life changing moment for the better and you yourself will realise how unhappy you are.

Trust me you may think you are okay but being in a situation where you feel forced to have sex with someone you dont want to due to contempt will be seriously affecting your mood and wellbeing

>>17295051
My problem is that she really isn't taking her frustration out on me. She's really loving and caring. It's just that her life is empty, she got extremely clingy, passive, and wants literally everything from me. She wants to live in a perfect fantasy world to escape her depression, at least that's what it seems to me.

>>17294983
FUCK HER, jesus man you are 17, im twice your age! Trust me women will ALWAYS break your balls there is no secret formula no NOTHING, trust me far smarter men have tried to crack the code but no luck so far.

Look I see cases like yours everyday on /adv/, I know I know "b-b-bbut she is the one, I can feel my sould connection" Nah bro, you are thinking with your dick, Its ok to admit it, seems to me like her friend is the better option, I mean you treat her to Nemo 2 and this cunt says NO to YOU!?!? Then she can go fuck herself, I mean Nemo 2 is not a guy movie like at all.

Anyways, dont fucking sweat it, shes probably talking on facebook with some chad douchebag that will date her for a month and dump her, then she will post retarded "love quotes" or say good men are hard to find blablablabalbal.

Ive seen it a million times, im not saying there is no such thing as love, all im saying is that you barely started life dont go bananas for every pussy, there are millions of pussies in this planet.

Just dont be so hard on yourself, let her be and go do your thing dont waste anymore time in your room listening to songs that remind you of her while that cunt is just not giving a shit about you.

Look, im gonna let you in on a secret about women, they arent so loyal as they claim to be, they talk about us saying things like "player", "dog", etc but the hard truth is that everyone here is out to fuck, its all a big act, doesnt matter if you been with your gf 5 yeas, one crazy shot night and BAM she fucking cheats on you, look there is no escape, the only play you have is to be yourself, be independent, dont play their bullshit games and you will see the results.

I don't think you could come up with a more teenagery post

>>17294999
This guy has trips for a fucking reason.

>>17294968
That sounds incredibly convenient. Some guy spooges in you, all you need to do is put on some white panties and crisis averted.

You know that generally your period should start at the same time each month, right? And also that there are things called panty liners that you can wear to stop your underwear getting stained when you're expecting your period?

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>>17294981
I got no sense of time

>>17294956
wait are you trolling or does facebook notify when someone saves a photo... this may be an awkward situation for me if true..

also, sorry to hear about your troubles OP. I hope you are able to move on and find someone you love even more!

>>17294961

I will sacrifice love just to know that I'm not being considered a weirdo loser.

I'm not 100% sure if it does notify them. If you use the Facebook link to download, instead of 'right click > save as', then you might be in trouble

>>17294969
I know what you mean..
I am fairly certain i used the facebook 'download' button when i saved a photo of my ex a few months ago just after we broke up.
Welp we might both have just been made out to be the creepers we are OP, fucking facebook and it's privacy bullshit! I just wanted to save a sentimental moment dammit.

What can you do though, not much. if we did notify an ex of saving a photo.. at worst you look like a creep and at best you look like you still care.

Don't try. The women who are dominant are almost always batshit and take their insecurities out on you. Women who are actually dominant and not batshit are one in a million. Rarer than a unicorn.

>>17294948
You should go for petite latinas, they are for sure feisty.

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>>17294952
>wake me up inside
I'm not putting up with the typical 'doms' that are bi and poly and cuck everyone. :/

>>17294955
Yeah, I don't care for traditional people.

Bitchy/whiny/promiscuous women are not dominant, sorry to say.

Also, Latinas seem to be really stuck up nasty cunts, I've had 2/10s and 4/10s cringe at me and treat me poorly just for trying to talk to them. (As a low 5/10)

>>17294941
Use a picture of a dog as your profile picture. It works a lot better than a picture of Nick Cave, I assure you.

>>17295000
how about uploading pics.

is there a way of doing it from your pc

>>17295002
I don't know. I just followed people with public profiles first, then later sent requests to girls with private profiles. Most of them added me without any pictures.

I should say that you might end up feeling creepy and deleting the account.