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How do I stop myself from liking any attractive girl that gives me attention?

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>Be me
>Passed my exams and finally got a girlfriend
>She was smart handsome and sweet
>Always busy with school but I gave her all freedom to study
>Never argue or fight
>Give massive amounts of freedom
>2 months later she comes and tells me she doesn't love me anymore
>We break up
>Ask her why she did it
>She says we are too different
>I ask for an example
>She says she studies more so we are different
>Find it bullshit
>Back to my ordinary depressive life that she removed from me
>Totally confused about why she broke up with me even though I did everything for her
>Can't get over her

She still has our pictures on her background and in her room. I'm so confused

Please can you guys help me.

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Hi.

Im a retard.

I took /pol/ seriously, was part of gamergate and believed in the horrors of the feminist.

I have realized in the last few months that all of that was total and complete horse shit.

How do I be happy? I have no friends because all of them were online, deeply entrenched in that hatred, and shit.

I dont know what to do. Help

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I was called up by a detective

>went to meet him
>accused me of a bunch of non-sense
>had no recollection
>eventually walked out of the building
>told me he could arrest even though I walked out of the building
>he told me I'd be hearing from him again, and his name will be coming up again

don't know what I should do. I don't know if they're pursuing charges or what.

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So.... How badly did I fuck up?

I am at the point where I want her even just as a regular friend. But I am so socially retarded that shit like this happens.


So. What could I do about the now? I guess just wait it out, and hope it does not effect much?

Note: After I sent that last message, I checked her towns HS to see if the graduation was that weekend. And it was....

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This woman won't stop harassing me. I told them police and they've done nothing but allow me to report since apparently you can't get arrested for it. Ivery tried getting an order of protection and the detective she can't be arreated. I've made several police reports complainthat # 3216 on (6/17/2016)for putting my address on Facebook and basically telling ppl to cone get me & # 003192 (6-16-2016) for posting semi nude photos of me and my father, pubically humiliating us after when she came and harassed me at 11 at night. I don't know what to do.... she came to my house on the 13th and had her daughter impersonate a police officer to inflict fear so she can gain access into my home. My father is 65 years old her was scared. And this woman got away with it. Because she lied to the cops. That's its my word against hers. I already have people coming to my home harassing my neighbors asking if they've seen me. Idk... who these ppl are... it's fucking scary and totally fucked up. It's not fair... she's been stalking in front of my building too according to my neighbors. They told my dad. But he's too old and doesn't want to cause more drama. So idk wtf to do. My address is out in the open & this bitch made me a walking target. But the cops won't do anything unless I get physically hurt. So I have to live in fear now?. This bitch is a liar and a fucking psycho. I need help. She's tracking my ip address and everything. I'm freaked the fuck out. I don't want to hurt her but honestly when u back someone into a corner they bite back to protect themselves. I need advice badly... like this shirt hasn't stopped at all. I thought of I stayed home for a week it'll go away. But she hasn't stopped. If they police won't help who can? Cause karma has yet to bite this bitch in her ass.

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Hi /adv/.

I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. I came in with baggage and emotional damage and anxiety and depression. I was honest about that and was accepted. I've been working on myself, going to therapy, learning about emotional responsibility, non-defensive communication, validating others' emotions, basically, how to be an adult and a healthy person. I've made a lot of progress and I'm happy with who I am and the path I'm on.

Now, my boyfriend and I have been having arguments and I have a new sense of awareness that he blames me a lot for his actions. He doesn't take a lot of personal responsibility and often turns things around on me. He invalidates my thoughts and feelings, and talks very callously to me when he's emotional. He says he doesn't "get emotional" in arguments. He says he doesn't "get angry" but I see actions and hear words that indicate he absolutely does.

I'm spending time by myself away from him to get myself composed after a could shouldering, blaming incident that hallened yesterday and I'm kind of stuck.

Yes, I love him. Yes, I've changed and grown. A lot of it was more or less because of him. He talked and talked for months about how my emotions and actions are my responsibility. My mental health is mine to manage. On and on. He encouraged me to get therapy when I said I was tired of being so reactive and anxious.

Now I'm kind of noticing he doesn't practice what he preaches and is in fact, kind of toxic sometimes.

I would like to set some boundaries, and point out his inconsistencies but I'm concerned he won't hear me. Is there any way I can talk to him and not shut him down?

Tl;dr I'm learning to manage my emotions better and it's becoming apparent that my boyfriend does not manage his emotions in a healthy way. How do gently bring this up to him?

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Hey guys,
So my girlfriend's birthday is coming up on the 3rd. Last year she didnt have a very good birthday, so this year i really want to have something awesome to buy her and do with her so she has a good time. However, she doesn't have very many interests.
She likes to sleep, smoke weed with me, be outside (most of the time), eat, explore, do cocaine, drink water, and play with our cat/mouse. She's a little tough to shop/plan for to me.
Have you any ideas?

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I have never got any haircut before and want to step my game up, any tips on what to get?

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Alright so I need some advice or something.
So my gf is polyamorous and I'm sure she has another partner.
About 3 months into our relationship she told me she started to have feelings for someone else and that she still loved me but she just felt bad because of those feelings because she knew it would hurt me and soon we talked it out and we were still together just the two of us. But earlier this month these feelings began to bother her even more to the point where she started wanting to commit suicide. This is when I told her that she could go on and date whoever else she wanted because I didn't want her to hurt herself anymore. I told her that it wouldn't bother me and if it did then it would be my problem. But since I am quite the emotional crybaby it has been bothering me lately and I can't help but feel jealous. This also seems to be tangling itself with my self worth issues and other things like that and it has been causing me much stress. I have been told by my friends that I should talk to her about it and I know I should but I am afraid of the outcome. Like what if she gets upset with me? What if she decides to leave me for this? What if she has to hurt herself again because of my own selfish reasons? I honestly feel so helpless right now and it's been so emotionally draining and I just need some advice and or some comforting words.
Thank you to those who read this I honestly feel a bit better saying this all.

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It's fucking ridicolous. 20 YO virgin speaking. I regularly masturbate on boobs and asses but vaginas really turn me off. That's quite fucked up, i feel anormal and i'm really looking forward to get my dick sucked and i guess i could like anal, but finding a gf who doesn’t want to be penetrated is literally impossible.
>inb4 trannies
No money, and dicks turn me off as well.

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My girlfriend of over 3 years has recently had anxiety about her stagnant life and relationship with me to some extent, thought we were on the verge of breaking up, but she said she still loves me and doesnt want to let that go and thinks shes just confused etc. Now that we didnt break up we talked about how we need to communicate more and express our fears/concerns to have a stronger relationship. During what i thought was the break up she mentioned how she wanted to move overseas where one of her best friends recently moved and try studying there and then moving around the world and working/experiencing things, now that we are staying together she has turned this into just little trips and seems to be happy with that. My concerns now are about her travelling overseas without me where her single friend is living it up after recently breaking up with her own boyfriend, she wants to go for about a month, we see each other and speak together on a daily so this drastic change when she leaves will probably leave me pretty sad, im also unsure if this is any kind of flag? i was hoping someone could give me some insight from an outsider perspective or from past experiences. I trust her, but it doesnt stop me being sad she wants to go without me for such a long time.

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It's almost half past two in the morning.
My eyes are wet.
I can't call her.
I'm drunk.
She was last online on fb 3 hours ago.
AMA

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This chick matches with me and is willing to talk to me but can't be bothered to have a give and take conversation.

What is the point of her doing this?

Maybe I should just ask her number?

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There's a girl I'm kind of friends with, I asked her out on a date and she smiled a bit and said she's busy studying these days but I insisted a bit and she said she'll text me. I've asked her to do something more casual some weeks ago and she had the same excuse but acted like it bothered her at least a bit that she couldn't go. It can be legit since she's falling behind with college but I don't know. Should I text her first if she doesn't? How much should I insist? Needless to say I really really like her.