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>>17313849
dyson
find one used on craigslist

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Just get the cheapest you can get, and count on throwing it away when it wears out.

I've tried 'em all, and they all last about the same amount of time and one does as good a job as another.

In theory they can be repaired, in practice it's so expensive there's no point in it.

>>17313891
Can confirm, this is a good idea

>>17313845
Find common ground, or have the other person talk about what they're passionate about. Also try to keep up and pay attention or at least pretend you're interested. It will mostly be boring things about them and what they do.

>>17313934
I guess so, I'm just bad at talking for long periods even though I'd love to. I wouldn't want to switch to topics only im interested in

>>17313845
Be interested in the other person - ask questions, make comments, tell anecdotes that are related to what they just said.
Try to find common ground - either something you're interested in, or experiences in your childhood, or your plans for the future, or what you're doing in your daily life.
Be funny - joke around and make the other person laugh.
Learn when the conversation is over.
Don't talk shit about yourself or the other person, never.

>>17313842
>I have an insanely jealous mind and just lose my shit about every single thing.
I don't know about philosophical matters, but in this particular case it sounds like you have a crush

>>17313856
But it's like this with pretty much every woman I meet, I can't really develop healthy relationships with women because of it

My best friend is hot as shit, definite 9/10, obviously I thought about wanting to bang her but that doesn't stop me from actually being a friend and not letting my primal instinct get in the way of having fun.

As a fun side note, she admitted to having thoughts of sex with me aswel.

Honesty is key, not letting pathetic emotions get in the way is important aswel.

>>17313832
"No Fear Leads To Shitty Tattoos"

"No Fear, Trump Is Here"

"Snow Fears My Bladder"

>>17313840
(just gonna point out that I'm not being serious with these suggestions, but hey nothing like a free bump)

No Fear
Just Regret

>>17313822
tell him exactly what you wrote here. that you can't see this working out and that he has to change.

maybe just a notch nicer, you feel?

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>>17313829
>>17313829
Thing is, I doubt he would change. He's older than I am and a neet. I don't to be raising a manchild and children. I've never broken up with someone before, it makes me really anxious and I feel horrible. I have more respect than to ghost him, too. Thing is I don't want to break up because although we're not compatible that doesn't mean I want him to kill himself. I just feel like that's such a horrible thing to say and really manipulative. He reminds me a lot of an abusive ex I used to have. Also, I would never be approved of a house loan if we married because his credit is so bad that he can't even open a checking account.

I just don't know what to do. It's really hard because I care about him, but I don't love him like he does to me. I'll feel like a giant cunt if I dump him.

>>17313870
love yourself before you love someone else. i he won't change you probably can't help him.
personally for me breakups have been a pivot-point every time. i started to improve in almost everything after a breakup. maybe it's just what he needs. but if you think he really could go for the suicide thing, you should get some help (suicide hotlines) etc. He will need support. But as long as you're not my gf, you should still go for it after preperations are done

I want to know how to do this too.

>>17313762
Holy guacamole three years is a long time. And you will never make her regret it ok. Just move on, man.

not sure if this will help you, but here is my story:
ended 2 year relationship; it ended very dirty, found out she cheated on me with one of my "friends"; cut all the contacts to both of them, she would also run after me for a while (ignored her) but then after a while she stopped it and got with him together; this is where I got sick from all the hatred. all i would see is them together and imagining how they better off me etc. so basically being a faggot and get overemotional; at one point i couldnt sleep and eat because of all the hatred. this is where i talked to her (in my case she was always open about it) and told her i excuse her and all she done to me; after that we have no contact (she wanted to have contact and stay friends, while she is with him ... she is sort of stupid (and i know i am)). but i apologized her from the bottom of my heart. i let her go and i feel now better. you know, we always think that we are too good for someone and try to act "tough" and at the same time we feel hurt. this is what you need to get rid of, then you will get your peace. also, she was my first one, i totally understand how you feel. good luck sir.

>>17313757
step one: be actually interested in what someone's saying


you could always fake it. Smile, nod, ask questions relating to the person and their experience(s). You don't have to have an excited voice, and if you're really interested, you won't have to fake a thing. Your interest will show.

>>17313826
>if you're really interested, you won't have to fake a thing
Trust me, I do. Unless I'm extremely interested in something.

>>17313757
I just smile with wide open eyes. While they're speaking I move my lips in order to pretend I have an important response to what they are saying.

>>17313741

theres no guarantee they respond well. if you dont like something stand up and say 'stop calling me that' if they do it again say 'im being serious, and im being nice, dont call me that'. if they continue, you leave.

>>17313758

yeah if it comes to the point again where I'm really angry I'm just going to get up and leave and find new friends

You sound like a pussy. Asshole friends are the best kind of friends.

Dont mean to harsh your vibe bro since im in a similar position but id wager nowhere
You might be a 7-8/10 but there are guys who are solid 10s hunting the same girls as you are, why do you think you have a chance?

For guys its a numbers game and its based on luck, even the shittiest, trashiest most boring girl has tons of options when it comes to guys so if you set your standards that high youre narrowing yourself down
Expect a hard road ahead mate

>>17313824
I'd honestly rather be alone than date someone far below my standards. I won't be happy with someone like that at all.

>>17313833
Well, i dont know what to tell you friend
From my experience for guys its either settle for something below your standard or settle for nothing

Before this goes all r9k i just want to say that its very hard to get a girl because well demand for girls is insane since there are alot of single guys looking for girls.
If you narrow your search then it doesnt get easier, but rather harder. Logical right?

How you avoid this problem is a very hard one, most men would tell you its a numbers game and from experience i can tell you this is true.
If you do manage to meet a girl you like who meets your standards after a long time of searching its gonna hurt more when things fizzle out and you dont get that date you want with her

Id say stick with high volume and try to make the best of a bad situation or settle for not having a girl at all, unless youre very lucky these are your best options

>>17313720
Yes. I'm assuming you and your wife are a strictly monogamous relationship. If you guys weren't then there would be no problem here.

This is giving me Crucible vibes.

>>17313732
The wife believes we are monogamous, but she is largely irrelevant to the current situation. I'm wondering if the mistress would be offended if she had another pole sister.

>>17313750

Depends on the person. I would be careful because women can get really jealous. Unless you can tie her fate into yours, there is always the chance that she can tell your wife and fuck up all your shit.

>>17313685
Congratulations, you got yourself cucked

>>17313685
Well is she or isn't she?

The free market will fix this

>the mall
Start out by coming back when you turn 18

>>17313628
POMF

>>17313628
don't even bother with them
they're trying to find every reason not to hang out with you
plus people who type like that are stupid

>>17313618
You're old enough to make your own decisions without worrying about ppls opinion of this relationship.

>>17313618

>to work

define 'to work'. you are well aware that plenty of people get married despite said age differences, so if thats what you mean why are you asking?

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>>17313631
>types a perfectly fine sentence
>chooses ppls

That rly grinds my gears

>>17313537

>los angeles anon

neighborinos.

>is it better

define better? like whats the goal here. what is 'better' ?

>>17313546
By better I mean like the chances of getting accepted. I could apply directly to the UC but I doubt I'll get accepted with my GPA and lackluster extracurriculars. So I'm looking at other options.

>>17313537
CC is filled with losers and scum with no aspirations. Some are good people. Do yourself a favor and surround yourself with people who challenge you and who will shape and mode you.

She said "possibly". She's ok with it. Go ahead, what's the problem?

>>17313552
I dont know what to text in response desu

>>17313555
"10 o'clock then?"