I'm tired of being a fucking waste of oxygen. I wanna be a better man, fun to men and attractive to women. How do i do it /adv/? I spend most of my time home playing videogames and watching anime.
Stop spending most your time at home watching anime and playing video games
>>17314240
What should i do instead? How do i deal with being afraid of approaching other people?
>>17314247
By being fun, be filled with energy, but not like autistic jim carrey jumping on couches energy.
Just broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years. She caught me cheating a few days ago and we tried to fix it. I couldn't stand the pain I put her through so I called the whole thing off. The relationship was rocky the last 3 or 4 months and I always thought it was because she was just too clingy and I felt suffocated, but looking back it was me that was distancing myself. I was treating her like shit. I was looking for a hotter person in all honesty. I'm seeing the girl I cheated on her with now but can't help but feeling like shit going through our pictures. We were so happy and I ruined it. That Bruno Mars song comes to mind "When I was her man" or something like that. In a way I hope she finds someone that will put in the effort to make her as happy like she did to me. At the same time however, I hope we can rekindle what we had under better circumstances. I'm 21 and she's 20 so I guess we have a while to see if somehow we can cross paths again. I've never wanted to stay friends with ex's before but this time I do. If she gets a flat or is moving or something I still would want to help. Well that's vent don't really know where I'm going with this but share your experiences bros. Or offer encouragement/advice?
>>17314176
Live with the hurt, let it electrify your core. then when sink into the sheets at night pretend you are petrified. fade into black.
>>17314176
Instead of cheating on her, you should have broken up with her and gone after whoever. Cheating on someone fucks them up, especially women. This is because women are feels based.
So now she's going to become bitter/jaded and take it out on the next couple of guys who will want to stick it in her. When guys come on here saying shit like "Why do women just ghost guys?!" "Why are women cunts??" "Why are women so cruel?!?!?" Know that you had a hand in creating that.
Learn from your mistakes. Break up with the basic bitch who accepted being with a taken man. A woman who accepts being with a taken man when there are plenty of single ones is a woman with lower value than other women. One of you will end up cheating on the other anyways, no doubt.
Admit that you were wrong, reassure her that she is an amazing person and deserves much better, and never contact her again so that she can find someone better.
She seems pretty hot, you saying you upgraded?
Does anyone else in a LTR miss dating and one night stands?
It's not that I am dissatisfied with my current gf, it's just that a kind of yearn the days when I would hook up with a stranger, or date and have sex with a completely new girl.
Lord of The Rings? Hobbits and Elves?
I am confused.
>>17314608
The acronym for Lord of the Rings is lots, bro
2/10 you tried your best
>>17314608
long term relationship
My gf eats way too much and uses it to comfort herself. She used to have an eating disorder so I feel like a dick whenever I make a subtle comment to try to get her to eat less. It's like there's two extremes for her, but neither is healthy. It's either way too much or no food at all. How can I help?
Try to address with her the issue(s) that are causing her to lean on food as a comfort. See if you can help switch it up to something a bit healthier (anything from knitting to weight lifting) if the issue itself can't easily be solved.
Personally, I would approach this very delicately. Don't be an asshole, and don't frame this like you're concerned about her appearance.
Let her know that you've noticed how she's been eating, and tell her that it worries you because you've heard about comfort foods or stress eating and you want to know if something else is bothering her. Try and have a conversation based on that instead of just saying "you eat too much!"
>>17312223
Don't get her to eat less, get her to eat healthier. She didn't need to worry about starving herself if she's eating veggies and chicken.
Go to /fit/ for more advice
Hey 4chan
My mother is crazy and had me circumcised at 2 years of age.
My question is if I use a foreskin regrowth device will this chapped skin go away? I also have coconut oil to use.
>>17310440
2? Mine was rite after birth.
>>17310468
She bit mine off yesterday when i was banging her. She teased me by runbing it against her teeth like floss. :)
>>17310477
Hot
Pic maybe related.
A few years ago my now ex introduced me to one of her friends. Her friend (we'll call her K since her name started with K) and I became really good friends. Better friends then K and ex even.
Ex and I break up and K is still really good friends with me. After a while she gets slower in her responses but we still play games and stuff.
November of last year she vanished from the face of the Earth. I try to say hi at least once a week but no responses ever.
Last week K removed me from Skype. Today I hoped on our favorite game to play and, to my joy, K was there. Right as I was about to message her, K removed me there too.
I have no information on why K cut all contact with me. The only thing I know now is that K is alive.
It's not that I ever had feelings for K, but we had something special together.
Is this a normal thing to go through? Should I just let K go or should I try and find out more info (from other friends, etc)? I'm at a loss and it's really bumming me out.
She's probably avoiding you because she wants to be a good friend to your ex.
Girls do it all the time. I've gotten along great with some of my lady friends boyfriends but once their relationship is over I slowly start to cut contact. Gotta look out for each other, or I guess bros before hoes as men would put it.
>>17315521
Maybe but K and I remained friends for about a year after. Maybe I should have made that more obvious in the post. My bad.
>>17315530
How long were you two hanging out in real life? Maybe she just doesn't like you and didn't know how to tell you and thus slowly backed out of your life before deleting you off skype.
I approached a girl I was attracted to. However, I panicked and instead of asking for her number I got her Instagram.
How do I get her number and show that I am interested in dating her? I just sent her a dm thanking her for following me back.
Thank you
>>17315503
How often do you see this girl? Your best move would have been to be up front and just ask her out to coffee via DM, but at this point you run the risk of over-messaging her so if you can talk to her in person that'd be best imo.
Plus, don't approach this as "I'm interested in dating her." Approach this as, "I want to find out whether or not this is someone I would like to date." Start slow.
>>17315516
No I just met her a few hours ago. I took her photo because she's a cosplayer but instead of a number I asked her Instagram.
>>17315516
Here is all we talked about through dm.
Just moved out but
>room with 2 roomates from college
>pregame and party, they would play the same few songs every time, all of them sounding exactly the same, poppy bullshit
>offer to play some of mine that's electronic like theirs is and is melodic but different
>get scoffed at, says my music "isn't fun to pregame to, it kills the buzz"
That was the general tone of my time with them in general. Condescending, no respect, so when I got my new job I just moved out.
But I can't help but feel disdain and contempt for all of that. Anyone feel similar?
>>17315493
Not everyone is into electronic music, it's called preferences man.
>>17315514
But that's what they were playing themselves.
>>17315493
They just don't like your music.
Take it from another person who was just like you; even the most "normal" or "radio firendly" song you could play would still be a shock to their senses. There are very few options to pick, either continue to be "that guy" who "kills the buzz" or get together with people who actually share your music taste, or I guess just stop playing your music around them.
Should I try to reconcile with these people in my life?
Basically:
>Have circle of three friends I've been hanging with for the last year and a half
>know one of them for years
>he's great friends with the other two
>eventually they come into the fold and I end up spending time with them all
But
>those three people are very insular
>pretty much hang out only with each other (and me, though usually when going out because I have a car and can drive)
>at many times just talk to each other and I've even noticed them texting each other while everyone is in my car
>fuckers hardly pitch in for gas when we go to far away places (which used to be often)
>they complain about not being able to pitch in, while they spend their money on one another
>they have some weird almost three way relationship with each other (two of them are a couple) with ow often they're all together
In short I'm fairly convinced these people use me as a taxi of sorts and really didnt care for me. This feeling was reinforced as they invited me to a vacation (in which I had to drive of course) but I cancelled citing my finances, to which they stopped talking to me. I found out they still have their plans, and found someone else to drive and that person has been with them for the last month or so, making it feel like I've just been a taxi. Is it worth it to talk to them again? they are shit people but they were always up to go out and ever since I stopped talking to them, I've gone out much less and its starting to get to me in that I'm not as outgoing now since the other people I talk to arent nearly as down to go out as these people.
tl:dr Should I reconcile with very shitty friends of mine because they were the only people willing to go out a lot with me?
bwetter to be alone rather than with some who doesn't give a single shit about you. know your worth, you will meet some friends sooner or later
>>17315433
Fuck them, they were using you.
>>17315445
Yeah I've suspected that for a few months now but fuck, I did like going out a lot, made me feel like a normie.
I have been saving quite a lot more money ever since I stopped spending time with them though
Hey /adv/, I'm a 24yo guy, getting ready to restart college in earnest.
I obsess over what major will be best for me both financially and emotionally and have literally spent 2-4 hours per day researching careers online for the last 7 years. I've memorized the BLS stats on dozens of careers I research and second guess until I give up and slip into despair until something else grabs by interest.
Has anybody else struggled like this? How can I break this cycle? I'm a relatively smart, passionate individual and I want to do some good in the world. How do I make up my mind?
How do u think about electric engineering? Im 18 and I start in this fall
>>17315438
Unless you go to MIT or an equally prestigious university you will probably have a hard time finding a job.
computer science is your best bet OP. I'm being dead serious.
I don't want to write out a huge wall of text because if I do people aren't going to read it. Here's the short version
>be me
>born fighter
>inb4 edgelord, I'm a competitive fighter/martial artist. I don't go around hurting people but violence is an interest of mine as much as I am ashamed to admit
>being that I'm not a shitbag and not good enough to go pro I figure I should at least try to channel that energy to something useful
>try to join the Marines, denied due to medical condition
>well fuck, decide to go to sea because why not
>about to get dropped from my apprenticeship partly because of a buearocratic fuck up on their end and partly because I filled out an envelope wrong
So I don't really have much going for me right now. Being the violent person I am, I legitimately think the world might be better off without people like me. Assuming I do get dropped, I'm not really sure where I should go or what I should do.
>>17315400
Violence is due to a lack of discipline.
You are not a boy of violence. You are a boy without control.
Everyone has violent thoughts. Everyone wants to hurt people who wrong them.
The difference is how you deal with it.
I used to be a violent kid too. I used to attack kids on the playground who disrespected me.
I even took martial arts training.
But as I got older, I learned how to let it go.
It doesn't matter. Nothing does. Anyone who makes you angry is worth nothing.
If you're valuable, you can make yourself worthwhile.
If you truly have an apprenticeship, challenge and dismissal and point them towards your valuable contribution.
You have contributed, right?
Let go of your juvenile temper and focus on what makes you worth having.
>>17315409
You misunderstand. I don't have a temper I don't go around beating people up because I'm angry. When I fight, I'm not angry. I'm cool and efficient. Making maximum efficiency of body movement to overcome an opponent is not only satisfying but it makes sense to me. It's one of the few things I'm good at.
>>17315418
Sure you are.
You're just another angry little boy who feels like he's righteous and correct.
When you get older you'll realize that you were a faggot.
Look, when you get smacked in the face by someone stronger than you are, tell me you're "cool and efficient".
You aren't.
Let it go.
Will a condom prevent sexual disease? I\m planning to have sex with a prostitute.
>>17315397
Yes. Most of them.
Most likely yes
I once got tripper (or whatever its called in english) with a condom from a affair
Doc said: if you finger her and got the stuff on your fingers and you touch your dick you can get it
If you are very unlucky like me: 5 days antibiotics and its gone... Nothing serious
>she will put the condom on so no you wont get something
>>17315403
*most likely no
Should double check next time
What's necessary for "The Good Life?" What is essential? How do you imagine it? Do you live it?
One word: knawledge
>>17315364
Without wading too deep into metaphysics, I'd say that the process and state of understanding that you are one with everything constitutes "The Good Life".
There's a medicine wheel metaphor that comes from Native American culture.
A human is four parts, mental/physical/emotional/spiritual and a person is happy when they satisfy each of these four qualities in their self. Spiritual is a wishy-washy word, but look past that and think of whatever else you want here (transcendental, religious, some kind of feelings towards something greater than yourself)
For me that's a park on a sunny day, or the summit of a mountain bike, mostly things in nature.
The pic I have some suggestions for how it applies to one's life, but it's more important to think how it applies to you. If this is useful to think about, then keep it.
Hey /adv/ I have a dilemma. Theres this 9/10 qt3.14 that want to bang me bad, problem is Im a virgin and Im anxious/nervous that she'll reject me because of that fact. Also Im 18 what do?
>>17315336
just pursue her and if sex is on the table then give her a heads up and explain that you're a virgin
If she likes you I doubt she'll care. A lot of people are still virgins at 18 (I was 19) so it's not like it's super uncommon or weird at all.
let her know youre a virgin. if shes too much of a bitch to the point where she'd judge your for that then she's not worth it.
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originally wrote this out for a friend that's good at blunt advice, but he's not on right now.
Honest question: How do you learn to not give a fuck about little things and shit that happened in the past? I'm realizing that the majority of shit in my life that stresses me out is little petty shit that i care about way too much, especially on the internet (but applies just as much in real life). I know that on the internet shit that i dont agree with or bothers me, i shouldnt give a fuck about, because its, you know, the internet, i can do whatever the hell i want. yet i have a compulsive stress response for almost everything bothersome i see, even if i dont want to give a shit about it, ill just keep thinking about it, and ill think about it occassionally for days or even weeks, and sometimes everyday for years about certain people. for example, i may have to talk to myself for a good 5 minutes about why i shouldnt give a fuck about something if i so much as see some guy being a jackass about a thing i like on the internet, but it still pops in my head days or even weeks later. then there's a bunch of shit of people i had bad encounters with on a site a used to forumfag on from all the way far back as early as 2014 that im still thinking of multiple times literally every day, even though i dont want to, and acknowledge that the people that i had bad encounters with are pieces of shit that aren't relevant to my life. yet so much as watching or playing something i enjoy, my mind will latch on the shitty person's name to that object im enjoying, and BAM, i think about them every fucking time i see that object.
>>17315286
so much as thinking about their name or a phrase they said to me triggers stress involuntarily, as well as so much as thinking, saying, or hearing a word that my mind has associated with their name or just a thing or concept that my mind has associated negative thoughts with due to 1 random shitty association my mind made that latched on (and very often, that 1st thought does latch on like fucking cigarettes). I think that if i continue to demean them in my mind (i started doing this recently, i think its helping), ill eventually not give a fuck about their well being, and my extension, not give a shit about them and forget about them, and hopefully have thinking about their names not trigger stress. Will learning to not give a fuck about them, and eventually, every little thing (or vice versa) cure this? and what other advice if any do you have to cure or just treated this fucked psychological complex (if thats the right word)?
last bump
>>17315286
Stress is nothing more than our built-in in "fight or flight" system. Understand that.
The petty things you stress over are nothing more than indicators of usually deeper problems you may not even be aware of. What do you read that stresses you? Why does it stress you? How can you prevent it from stressing you?
The fact of the matter, when weighing stress, if whatever you are stressing about does not directly effect your livelihood, state of being, or life, then you need to tell yourself that.
You have real reason to stress if you are face to face with a Lion, a Tiger, or a Shark.
You don't have reason to stress over anything that doesn't not directly affect you now or in the near future.