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>>17315432
The girls are only there for attention and possibly free shit. Don't bother.

1. be hot
1. a - be a girl
2. Don't take anything online seriously
3. It really is for getting laid, and everyone involved knows this to some degree. Getting a match is equivalent to looking at someone else at a bar and returning smiles. Going up to that person will probably mean getting ignored after a few words, or not being able to hear them at all. So say something ridiculous to get their attention.
4. Move towards a meetup where you can either have sex or see each other beyond your phones. There's little purpose to talking on the app.

If you're not a girl it sucks. Seriously. The same girl that would probably suck your dick if you would just talk to her at the bar or on campus will likely never swipe right on you, simply because girls can pick and choose who they want on that app. And yes, this means they will almost always either fuck Chads or niche types.

Read and get experience. If you learn your lesson, you can be pretty good at first time.

Find someone that you feel comfortable with and don't try to force it just because you think it should happen. Sex can be natural and beautiful, and if you see that before seeing any other aspect of it you will gain experience greater than years of encounters with huge ranges of partners.

Are you a virgin, yes or no

How did you get so far in debt?

Can you receive student loans? If not on your own, can you get a co-signer for a student loan?

Are you able to save money in any fashion? Can you reach a settlement with the bank?

>>17315367
It's a lot to explain. The short answer is the money is from the school. It's my fault as equally as the loan companies, but I still owe all the money from previous loans. I have saved up only about $2,500 in the bank. I was saving for a car until I got hit with this. I have to call them tomorrow and work out a plan

>>17315360
Leverage whatever experience you have and get a good full time job, keep the part time job you like (if they will be flexible with you) and PAY THAT DEBT OFF ASAP.

>>17315351
They are probably taking your shyness and thinking of it as you not wanting to be around them, etc.

Don't be shy. I don't buy into the awkward shit, it's almost always cool to me.

>>17315377
This OP.

Whoever said you were a bitch obviously has their own insecurities.

>>17315351
>Hi /adv/ I'm really shy and awkward around people I avoid people a lot because of that..
>overheard a couple of guys call me a bitch
If you avoid people, they're going to think there's a reason for that (eg you don't like them).

Also, if you're borderline/avoidant then keep in mind that it's not the anxious traits that bother people, it's the sociopathic ones.
This probably doesn't apply to you, but i've seen cases on /adv/, and it usually takes 30+ posts before the OP finally says "yeah i've been diagnosed with BPD" or gives some other clue.

>>17315321
The new girl could be shy, chose you on a call and didn't want to really mess with anyone else. I wouldn't read into it much more than her initially viewing you as someone she felt she could trust.

But hey, you could be onto something, but should you pursue it? Don't put yourself in a "position of power" and start making moves on anyone, if it occurs naturally, so be it; but it's not risking your hard work for at this stage (if ever).

>>17315340
isn't that a pretty big deal? gaining the trust of an individual upon first meeting them? i don't think it was trust necessarily, all the interns are very nice people and seem genuine. her shadowing me on every call that she was able to just felt very purposeful. i know i would do the same if i was remotely interested in someone or just someone i liked.

i don't understand this "position of power" thing. you're saying don't make a move ever? i feel like being proactive when it comes to pursuing a person you're interested in is very important.

the conundrum is whether or not it's worth risking for a chance at something better. i don't necessarily mind being single. this new girl seems real nice. i care about my SO a lot.

i'm not sure.

>>17315321
As of recently, Ive been thinking of leaving my wife of 9 years. Shes got some serious mental problems. Ive been helping her deal with it but I can only take so much more. Plus Ive met someone who I have completely fallen for, and I really think shes into me aswell. so yeah, I think about leaving quite a bit. you're not alone

A woman at 5'8" and 170lbs is very much most likely not athletic. Since you describe her with her that word, I suspect you are not athletic, either

>>17315284
Athletic might be the wrong word, but she does well in both of the sports that she plays. She's the first seat at her school for tennis, and starts every game that she plays in soccer.

I play varsity lacrosse as a midfielder, and used to be a center when I played basketball.

>This didn't answer my question at all

>>17315284
this,
the people that are rating you are only telling you what they think because they have something nice to say. Doubtful that your gf's bodyweight is muscle and not fat

isn't there really loud music and it's impossible to have a conversation?

pretty sure people just party at raves without really talking

maybe you can talk to people once everything's packing up and go like hey did you enjoy yourself

Do the thing where you point at peoples chests and when they look down you flick their nose. Then put your finger to your mouth and go 'shhhhh'

Use your legs (or walk over on your hands to seal the deal)

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>>17315117

>Problem is she's a single mother of 1
>Mfw I don't want to be a cuck

>>17315117
Run.

Run away and don't look back.
There are lots of cute girls out there - cute girls that don't have fucking children. Don't you dare get stuck with one.

my dad married my mom when she had two girls. it turned out well, no cucking involved. Go for it?

ruble ruble

>>17315028
What do Russians have to do with this discussion?

>>17315021
get drunk, before doing it.

>>17314855
Also, if it helps, my region is Southern California.

Sell plasma or sperm

>>17314855
Escorting pays well and you get to spend time with handsome men/women.

>>17314844

Worldbuilding is a great hobby with a lot of different aspects. It's a great motivator for researching and learning about stuff, be it political, cultural, learning about climates, too many things to list really, but all the stuff you research directly transfers to building a more interesting and believable world.

>>17315873
What do you mean by world building? >>17315873

>>17315887
You basically brainstorm and create your own fantasy world and fill it with cultures and civilizations that you've created, drawing inspiration from real world history. You can draw maps, draw characters from your world, do some kind of creative writing, like poetry from your in-world characters, or just do some descriptive writing about some element of your world, it can be anything. And the best part is that since there are so many different aspects to the hobby, you can hop around to another aspect when you get bored. And, like I said, it involves a whole lot of research. You could, for example, research and learn about some way a real world civilization organized their government, put some creative spin on it, then write a description of it.

What is 22% and do you live your girlfriend?

>>17314617
about $16k. no we live separate. dating 3 years.

Honestly man... it depends on how happy you are where you are.

As the other Anon said though what's 22%? Your pay increase may be a % but everything in life costs dollars in absolute amounts.

>>17314589
>Why do people even start?

>>17314601
Because we were dumb impressionable kids, can't change the past.

>>17314589
>16
>23
>2
>negative
>e cigs

>>17314451
If only you knew anon. You are on the exact road you need to be.

You're going to be making gains for her for the first while.

But the more gains you see, and the more attention you get from others, and the more confidence you get, the less you'll think of her.

Again, you'll likely not forget her, and you'll think of her with fondness and the great times you had, but it wont sink your chest. You wont cry, you wont even wish it were different.

>>17314483
just takes time, so much time you don't notice it. Untill you realize WAY down the road that you don't even miss her.

>>17314483
>>17314486
this is good to hear.

time and self-improvement are always things I see when getting looking for advice for getting over a break up.

she was my first so oneitis is definitely a factor too.

kik

What?
I don't really get what you are trying to say. If you want to fap just do it. There is nothing wrong with that. Just clean yourself afterwards.

>>17314515
meeting up people from craigslist.