Money does not motivate me, nor does living, nor does getting a GF or getting a better PC, or getting a nice paying job, so, yeah, absolutely literally nothing that can possibly materially exist in known existence can motivate me, since motivation itself does not exist in any material form.
Note: I take things too seriously and too literally and it has been a part of my brain since I was cout out of my mothers womb, I'm also dyslexic with dysfasia so it could make things worse.
Self preservation is also not a motivation since its absolute.
>>17316434
do I have to bump this?
Just forget about the concept of motivation and the idea that you need to be motivated to get something done. You don't. Motivation is great when it happens, but most of the time you simply need to just do the thing. More often than not, the results from you pushing yourself through something create motivation for you to acquire more results and it loops in an infinite repeating cycle where your hard work creates motivation and your motivation creates hard work.
Now I understand your problem is you don't have anything to strive for or have any goals. Just a little something I've noticed. Being succesful in life opens up a ton of doors and avenues to pursue other goals. Perhaps you don't have any goals or ambitions at the current time. Fine. But you might have something you really want to do at a later time, but you won't have the means to accomplish it. Being succesful, knowing lots of people, having money and wealth, being fit, having relationship experience, a car, blah blah blah, it's all good shit to have.
Figure out what you're good at right now. Mold that skill into something you can make money from and become succesful. Keep pushing through that slugging period of not wanting to do anything or having no ambition or motivation to do anything. Just do it because having that sort of financial safety net and life experience will enable you to do things in the future should you want to.
If living doesn't motivate you there isn't really much reason to try that hard. Die right now if you want.
For me I feel strongly about self preservation and I am happy to work hard if it means extending my life but most people just seem to prefer prioritize blowing wealth on useless shit instead of furthering science and technology and I know I'm going to die earlier than my potential because of these fuckers.
What was the SPAR like at your high school and college?
-A: Did well in high school, went to a prestigious private college on scholarship. Basically became a NEET afterwards because he couldn't function outside of structure.
-B: Mental breakdown in college due to social isolation. Came home. Went to a local college, got married, is now a housewife.
-D: Had a mental breakdown due to high pressure and now thinks that Illuminati reptilians did 9/11 and is on the no-fly list.
-E: Dropped all of his higher ambitions during college, married his high school girlfriend, got fat, and settled for a mediocre job in middle-management in the corporate world.
-F: Left high school to go right into community college because he couldn't take the toxic environment. Went on to be moderately successful.
-J: Became less neurotic without her mom breathing down her neck. Is now in med school.
-K: Dropped out of the smart-people track and got by on cunning and networking. Reconsidered this in college by switching majors, but then switched back to her stupid people degree in order to graduate on time. Is woefully unhappy with her high paying make-work job for well connected people because the work is unfulfilling. Has told everyone from her mom to me this. Made her own hell by underachieving.
-L: Finished college, but only after getting heavily into drugs and with multiple felonies for shoplifting on her record. Works in a menial job now.
-M: Actually doing very well. Lost a ton of weight in college and came out of his shell. Is now high functioning.
-N: Still in college. Dropped out once due to alcohol use to cope with pressure and social isolation. Might make it.
-R: Basically on permanent vacation working abroad in a shitty job in an area with a low cost of living. Checked out.
-W: Fairly successful, married his college girlfriend.
Only maybe 1/3 of the smartest people I can think of from those days are happy and successful. Is this true where you are?
>>17316433
>It's an "Anon defines intelligence so that he can conveniently push an angenda" thread
>>17316600
Where did I define intelligence?
>>17316765
Some of your characters' descriptions have nothing in common.
How can you make an objective statement when you have no clear independent variable. You say "smart" but you throw out words like successful, which can, both, mean completely other things for other people.
This thread is pointless the way it's presented.
Is it considered sexist by modern standards to want a woman to take your last name if you get married? Not trying to start a debate. Just interested in what the consensus might be.
I think the rule of thumb is that everything is sexist now.
It's subjective. If the name has a lot of history, a girl may not want to give it up.
I say obey the Rule of Cool: take the name that sounds the best.
>>17316412
It's stupid to force someone to do something they don't want to do - just be a decent human being, if your wife wants to take your last name let her do it, if she doesn't want to, don't force her to.
So, I'll be straight to the point here, anon;
I'm still with my parents, and still in the age where they dictate the rules of the house. Now, due to some recent troubles with his parents, Dad has grown stressed and remorseful, so it means he often doesn't do whay he promised doing.
Now, there's this thing that he set up that denies me both computer and wifi during week days(aka school days), but, according to the agreement; I'm able to use both during weekends.
Now Dad's stressed, and he's gone to his parent's house at a city two hours from here. He didn't "unlock" the wifi thingy from his "high-tech" router.
How do I break into the router, since it is password-protected?
I have no trouble using the internet on my computer, since I already changed my MAC adress to his iPhone's. I want to use the internet through the game console, but I recon I can't change a PS4's local MAC adress.
Any help on how I break into his router? I don't have a clue if nMap and nCrack will work for a router, so I'm asking you guys for help.
>>17316410
Tech requests go to /wsr
>>17316410
Just butter him up mate, sureley that's got to be easier? Send him a text like "Hi Dad, know you're having a tough time at the moment, hope you're ok, sorry for being a cunt, let me know if there's anything I can do". Wing it frrom there and you'll have the password in less than five minuites.
>>17316410
You're what, twelve years old? Your father is stressed out and worried about his parents, taking weekend trips there because of it, and your concern is your wifi access and his "promise"?
Yes, your needs are the most important thing in the world. Keep it up.
- Computer science
- Computer engineering
- Electrical engineering
- Mechanical engineering
What should I expect from each major, and which of them is better to major in nowadays?
State reasons for your answers.
I only have experience on the first two. I can only speak from myself but you can expect intense suicidal thoughts.
Those are wildly different. You should major in whatever sounds fun because they all pay.
You like computers and programming more than drafting? Do CS or CE. CE is more hardware than software and vice versa for CS. EE and ME are going to be more physics and "jack of all trades" type engineering.
All can get really boring with high but faster salary caps. CS will let you get those 100k+ jobs you hear about form the bay area, but you'll never leave a computer.
If I could do it all again I'd go chemical.
>>17316382
Sure. Share your experience.
Should I just kill myself? I noticed out of everyone I know I have the worst possible life you could be given within reason.
>24
>have no friends haven't really had a girlfriend in years
>get nervous during sex now and lose boners and can't even do it
>family is poor and we live in a house falling apart that's 200 years old
>live in the country 6 hours from a city
>depression and anxiety is so bad I can't function for a job and I constantly feel the need to fall asleep
>already half bald used to be fat now I'm just skinny fat with stretch marks everywhere
>everyone I meet treats me like shit and I have no idea why
>strangers instantly hate me and I can't make friends even if people are nice they never talk to me again
>people never answer my calls or texts
>have a few people I hang out with
>they're all crazy or something is seriously wrong with them
>even the people I hang out with treat me like shit
>parents are so poor I've never really been on vacation
>never been to a beach or hotel or on an airplane
>went on vacation and before I could go to a beach my parents kept yelling at me and my mom called me a piece of shit and I got dropped back off at the house and literally my vacation was just sitting there for 4 days straight drinking
>did stupid shit when I got drunk now the cops are in my shit for 2 different crimes and I might even get a felony
>for the past 2 years of my life I've had no one or nothing and everything is falling apart around me
>>17316351
Just stick it out. What's the worst that could happen?
>>17316351
Have you noticed that you blame everything and everyone else for your own life situations? If you would take responsibility for your poor decision making you'd be surprised at how much better your life can get.
>>17316351
>>have a few people I hang out with
>>they're all crazy or something is seriously wrong with them
What's wrong with that? I'm stuck here with a bunch of fucking normal-ass people and i'm going nuts. That sounds great to me.
>friends made plans while I was having an introvert-need-alone-time-for-a-month attack
>heard about it last minute got invited and decided to join and suggested we at least get drinks (the next morning they have a boat trip to catch which I can't go to)
>probably our last weekend together as I will be moving soon anyways
>we all have to drive 6 hours to this city and I will only be staying the first night for drinks.
>"friends" will drive 3-4 hours behind me (I wanted to check in to my hotel earlier)
>I waited for them downtown last night and the last I heard of them was when they were 2 hours away at around 10pm-ish
>thinking they ditched me
>but then the drinking part was my idea, not theirs so I'm thinkin it's not their fault
Do I have a right to get butt hurt? A part of me is saying that they could've texted that they can't make it but a more rational part of me is saying that they are tired and have a boat to catch and they were not interested in drinking to begin with.
what do you think?
Not that hard to text " we can't make it" shit friends honestly you're better off alone till you make better friends
>>17316458
This. Either you're not telling the whole story here or these guys are legitimately assholes, a group of friends wouldn't all cancel on another friend without saying something if they were all friends.
>>heard about it last minute got invited
Does this happen often? If it does, it's basically an invite out of charity, so that if you ever heard about a plan you missed in the future, they could say "Well I invited you!".
I feel like I can't continue the relationship with my girlfriend anymore.
We've been together for almost 3 years, but I don't want to keep on seeing her. No particular reason. I just realized that I don't really miss her anymore and don't feel like being with her anymore.
My problem is that in a few days I'll be going on a holiday for about 3 weeks to visit relatives (without her) and after that I'm going on another holiday with some friends and my girlfriend.
How the fuck do I break it to her? Should I do it now, or should I wait until after the holiday together? I know this'll shatter her, and I hate the fact that I have to do it, but I don't see another possibility here.
>>17316341
>No particular reason.
The hell man. There is something wrong in the way you see world man. First and foremost she is a human being that is depending on you, you don't just do that to another human sentient being out of the blue just because "you don't feel like it" (but maybe, she does deserve someone more mature that you). It's normal to lose interest sometimes, you have to rekindle the flame. Talk to her about it. Talk to her about the way you feel and maybe try to save your relationship.
I don't even know what are your expectations of relationship. You want it to be constant rollercoaster and you want for the other person to constantly suck your dick? If she is good, nice person that you like you should try to grow together or every relarionship that you have will end with you losing interest till there is noone left but single mothers for you.
>>17316411
I guess you're right.
It's just that I've always felt a strong connection with her throughout the relationship and I've always had strong feelings for her.
I was away for a week and I just realized that I didn't miss her at all and when I saw her again it just didn't feel like before. I know she's dependent on me and I want her to be happy, but I just can't see myself in the picture with her anymore. Everything feels really forced on my side at this point which is why I'm having these doubts. I wish I didn't but I can't really help the way I feel.
>>17316411
It doesn't have to be a constant rollercoaster for me; as a matter of fact that feeling wore off pretty quickly when I settled into the relationship.
It's just the fact that for some reason I don't feel attracted to her anymore like before.
I'm alone, and I don't feel like anyone has ever really cared about me. Nobody checks in to see if I'm still on the upswing from my last episode, nobody asks if I'm still making ends meet, and nobody asks if I would like to see another human being on a friendly non-contractual basis.
I have had parents, grandparents, lovers, friends, and therapists who said they loved me. However, nobody takes an interest. I assume this is because I broke the contract each of us had. The family disregarded me when I became sick, because they felt responsible and at the same time unsympathetic. The lovers left because after all of the bullshit I became bitter and couldn't promise eternity to them. The friends...well, the fact they are not here means I never had them. The therapists, well they are paid to care.
Is my idea of people caring about one another through life's struggles old fashioned? Should I just be happy that I can form contractual relationships? I would hate to think that every "how are you" of the past was self-motivated, or that I am too despicable to care about.
>>17316321
Do you ever reach out to anyone else?
If you never initiate contact, even a "What's new?" phone call, people will conclude that YOU don't like THEM, and they'll respect your privacy by leaving you alone.
It seems like you push everyone away. You appear to be the type who constantly needs other people to rescue you while never giving a thought to how your neediness drained others. No one is responsible for your happiness but yourself, and wallowing in self-pity does nothing.
If your personality was pleasant and good to be around, these people would still be trying to help you.
>>17316401
I don't know how to break the cycle and be calm/healthy for the next person I meet.
When we broke up with my gf 5 years ago we told each other that we could every now and then have some contact to ask how we are doing. We broke up in good relations and there was no drama etc.
Well, so far i have been taken the iniative and asked how she is doing. She never takes the iniative.
This is ok. but does this mean she don't want to be in contact at all?
ps. im devastated by the fact that after so many years (11years) i just lost a person from my life. We were very close and had a deep friendship on the basis. It feels like a funreal. Even though we say Hellos 0-1 times in a year on facebook, i dont know whats up with her and her life. I also broke up with my recent gf last year and we have no contact. I quess im over sensitive, but i am deeply devastated by losing a person from my life like this. I dont know what to do with this thing. Perhaps i should become stronger or something.
she probably is busy finding someone else or with work, or family. it doesn't really matter what her excuse is. there's a reason you go no contact: so both parties can move on and not have to deal with petty drama like this.
stop putting your energy & time into this. it doesn't matter if you were friends before because you aren't now. put that energy into something useful.
Maybe they're on their hunt for the new person that will make all of this bullshit worth it. Maybe you're better for recognizing the value of friendship. Maybe they have more friends than you.
Anyway, try learning to deeply befriend men and women you don't want to have sex with. I struggle to do this myself...
Pretending someone is not in your sentiments or concerns anymore, even though you loved them, is just one great aspect of the cold modern world. It's also part of the growing difficulty for people to get along without an ideological conflict.
Unfortunately sexual relationships are these huge loaded things in our society, so that having sex with someone you actually like as a person can be shitting where you eat.
>>17316349
>>17316352
mmm, yeah well even if they were in a search of a new its not so hectic they couldn't change a few messages with me. The otherone is in a relationship, the other one probably is just fucing around and dating. Which is fine.
I quess i have to learn deeply befriending then. but how the fuck it is done?
How do I remove or at least cover my tattoo?
>>17316316
go back in time and warn yourself not to become a whore
Where's your tattoo? Why do you want to cover it?
Invest in a concealer/foundation that offers full coverage.
best way to ask a friend from highschool on a date through facebook?
highschool ended 4 years ago
>>17316305
Don't do it. It's a bad idea.
You don't. You call her on the phone and talk to her.
>>17316305
You talk to her in phone or in person, and not in the super friendly "omg haiiii it's been years" way. Make your intentions clear, tell her you'd like to take her out or Netflix & chill.
FUCKING STOP
>>17316299
PERHAPS
STOP FUCKING
How do you act when your friend becomes more and more distant? We live in different cites atm so it's a bit like long distance friendship, but we were very close once and now he texts me less and less, his facebook chat is always turned off and when I message him our convos are short and awkward. I don'tknow how to understand it, he doesn't want to know me anymore?
>tl;dr friend rarely speaks to me and I don't know what to do with that
>>17316286
How far do you live apart?
How long have you known eachother and how did you meet?
What are your ages?
>>17316286
A lot of friendships, especially among the young, are friendships-of-proximity. Kids play together because they live next door, teens become pals because they're in the same classes.
Sometimes these friendships last forever. But just as often, when the proximity breaks - when you go to different colleges or move away - it turns out that there wasn't much more than the proximity holding you together.
That may have happened here. It doesn't mean that you'll break altogether, just that the connection weakens with distance, and as each of you develop new friendships-of-proximity where you are.
>>17316368
We are both 21. We live like 2 hours apart and I've known him since high school
>>17316377
That's really sad because I never felt like we are friends because it's handy but because we like same stuff and have loads in common
I feel like I can't compete with other dudes out there in the dating department. I am 25. Can't drive. My family is scattered. Parents are dead.
I am alone. Self esteem and confidence are shattered. I can't talk to women in this state but I feel ripped off. People younger than me get to have relationships. Why can't I?
I hate approaching women because I know they have a whole fucking roster of dudes pining for them. Sone of those dudes would let the girl shit in their fuckibg mouth.
How can I compete?! There is nothing redeeming about me besides my undying integrity. I have nothing else but my word. But women don't really care for such a trait.
I can't compete with the army of dudes chasing these women.
Is this how life is supposed to be if your parents are dead?
Bunp
Can you not improve yourself? Learn how to drive. Get a job, even if it's a shitty one. Build up your interests and friends.
I'm sure you'd hate someone who mooched and behaved like a child , even if it was your girlfriend, so why would they do the same?
Your "integrity" doesn't mean anything to most people, they don't even know how you could show it.
Well, let me start by saying: learn to drive. If you have a friend or a neighbor, offer them something so it's worth their while. That will be a lot cheaper than payinga stranger for behind-the-wheel time. Get a learner's permit, go to driving school, yadda-yadda, but immediately. Trust me on this. You gotta chip away, slowly.
Also, you'd be surprised. A lot of girls DON'T have a billion guys pining for them. My girlfriend is cute as hell and goes to a really big college and other than a few old men/campus bros she's unbothered. She also isn't desperate for attention, but that's not important.
I can't relate to your parents being dead. That's rough. But you DO have the ability to improve your station in life Just focus on yourself. Keep yourself happy daily, try to save some money, exercise, and practice talking to women whenever you can. It'll come with time.