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>>17319085
I don't know the laws where you are but I'd be very surprised if it's illegal. It's not even unethical, unless they are being particularly harsh about it, or focusing their criticism on certain people while ignoring the faults of others.

I'm assuming this is about you; if you feel that you are being unfairly singled out for criticism then you can either discuss it with the manager (or their manager if you feel you can't confront them) or just put up with it (do this if it's a short-term position that's unlikely to be relevant to future jobs.

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>>17319085
Its completely legal
Get an easier job if you cant perform to at least the company standard.

>>17319071
I think it can be strictly platonic to the point where the guy doesn't make any direct effort to get with her and doesn't harbour any conscious attraction. However I think the difference is though that in the right circumstances (alcohol + dry spell/desperation) a man will sleep with pretty much anyone. So to answer your question: while I think yes guys befriend girls without wanting to shag them, they will always have at least a subconscious desire to sleep with them even if they don't act on it.

I just befriend a girl cause i fancy her, or at least you will probably get to know her friends

>>17319071
It's possible to not have any attraction whatsoever to a girl, and so it's possible to have platonic m-f friendships, but yeah, most people will befriend girls only to hook up with them
>>17319078
>a man will sleep with pretty much anyone
It might be true of a sizable part of the male population but it's definitely not true for everyone. I had a close female friend through highschool and I thought about the possibility of fucking her, but I felt literally 0 motivation each time. She wasn't ugly, but she was simply not attractive to me in the slightest.

>>17319062
>I don't want a relationship right now
Translation:
>I don't want a relationship WITH YOU right now (or ever) but don't want to hurt your feelings

This relationship is a false-start, start looking for something else.

>>17319068
op here. why cant women just be honest? im basically over here now but now im kind of left a bit confused. i would rather have my feelings hurt than be given false hope. they wouldent like it.

>>17319072
You're probably plan b
Seriously don't even bother

>>17319031
You don't feel shit. Enjoy the high.

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The sounds of extraction are pretty grusome, but I didn't feel a thing, it healed quickly, and they prescribe wonderful painkillers.

If you've been under anesthesia before it's nothing different. For me it's a shaking and cold embrace, but uh hey. Might be better for you.

Don't use straws. I'm sure they'll tell you that but for real. Don't use straws.

>>17319005
Do they actually pay money for that? I thought some "for science" idiot always shows up who does it voluntarily.

>>17319012
I don't know, I guess if they help me pay for my medication and a place with internet, and that i am healthy. I totally would let them use my hands or what ever.

>>17319018
Maybe you should directly ask the head of an institute in the field of medical science of a university, write him an e-mail and ask about if there is such a thing.
If there is he would probably know it.

smush it

It ran away and I can't find it

>>17318956
By "brown recluse" do you mean a Mexican with agoraphobia?

7.5 grands will get you nowhere in western europe. Instead of burning it all on a very frugal 2-3 month trip where you're out of cash in the end, go back to america and get your shut together.

Do you have any remaining contact with your gf or her family? If she isnt a total bitch, she should feel responsible for helping you in some way.

>>17318952
Go back to the US. Travel a bit if you want, but you can't stay there indefinitely with no plan.

>>17318952
What is your usual preferred coping method? Do you prefer to seek solace in family and close friends, or do you prefer some time to yourself? Do you prefer a break from your usual routine, or to keep yourself busy with hobbies and work? Do you heal better with a bit of a hedonistic wallow or some dedicated self-improvement.

So those are your considerations, my two cents: Solo travel can be good after a breakup as you will have some fun new experiences and meet heaps of interesting people. I think in your situation though it's too soon, if it was me I'd just head home ASAP, take a few days/weeks to get my shit together, if I still wanted to travel I could do so at that point. Travelling, especially solo can be stressful and has big swings between high and low points which you probably aren't in a great situation to handle right now. Plus Western Europe is a popular destination for couples which is probably not something you want to be surrounded by right now.

Well, the time is coming close to where my decision will make a difference. Any advice anyone?

>>17318979
I have the same problem, somebody help.

>>17318981
OP here.

Decided i'm going to go with first option since it seems the most logical in my situation

Anon same is happening to me. I have a SHIT LOAD of free time, and I am not doing shit. Occasionally going out to smoke some weed, but mostly in my house losing time. I don't know what to do.

It might not seem like helpful advice but honestly, buddy, the way to do things is just to do them.

>>17318850
Yea, but how do I "trigger" myself to do it?

If you use a condom it's really low afaik. At least not worth worrying over.
STD's like HIV are already very low chance to get (as long as it's piv and not anal) even without protection. But it's just that the very small risk of getting it isn't worth it. By using a condom you make that risk practically 0%.

>>17318806
She's a stripper though. Surely the chances are higher

>>17318794
I don't think you have anything to worry about. She's only a stripper. If she were an escort or prostitute, then your concerns would be justified.

>>17318764
She's had bad experiences yet she's still on there.

"Hey listen, we're both on here because we're searching for someone. I find you interesting and you CLEARLY find me interesting *wink* otherwise we wouldn't be talking to each other as much as we have. I'd like to move forward with you and take you out on a date"

Be confident and forward and make it clear that you are looking for an off site relationship. If she's not willing to do that with you despite her bad experiences, then you have to keep moving ahead. Most women will not let go of a man that they think has the potential to be a real catch.

I'll give it a go. :)

She actually agreed, and now I feel stuck lmao, ain't had any luck with girls for over a year now.

Not sure how to make the date a good one. I've never been on a date. I just fell into my last relationships.

If your gonna do it, then do some crazy stuff before, take a loan, take a trip to some far off country and start new, just have fun.

>>17318763
Some kind of narc but that might feel pretty shitty unless it's sleep meds.

I know you said don't say it, but....don't do it....I think about doing it myself all the time even when things are going right in life....its just a thing you're feeling and may feel when you're in your high points in life, but when those highs come you'll still be able to enjoy them, trust me, even with sometimes feeling like you don't want to experience anymore, you'll be surprised by how much you enjoy the next event...just don't do it.

>>17318763
If you really want to kill yourself, you wouldn't give a shit about the method.

>>17318711
What?

>>17318738
I assume you are asking about the horrible grammar. I suck at mobile. Typing is a nightmare since I'm at work. I'm applying for a job but it's been a week since they said they'd call. Should I worries?

>>17318711
You send them one email and gauge their interest in you based on that.

If you're rejected, you thank them for their time and ask that they keep you in mind should they require someone in the future.

Then you graciously move on and keep looking elsewhere. In fact, you really shouldn't stop looking for job even if you really want this one.

>waaaaah, women don't obsess over guys the way guys do over them
Maybe if you had other things going on in your life you wouldn't be so pathetic

>>17318709

Reptile detected.

I'm not a woman so I don't know from personal experience, but since they're human I assume that they probably do think about guys they like, pine for them, fantasize about them when they're away, etc. Kinda silly to think otherwise

The reason they might not try to be forward and initiate contact like a man would probably do with a woman he's interested in is because socially they are expected to receive the attention and select from their suitors, whereas men are supposed to take the initiative and make their interest clear.

This is only speaking in crude, general, and somewhat outdated terms, though. While the long-standing cultural traditions of gender roles in the courtship process still hold very strongly and are buried really deeply into our subconscious, many exceptions do exist. My first gf initiated contact with me first, flirted with me heavily before I even realized what she was doing, and ultimately she was the one who asked me to date her rather than the other way around. The girl who eventually became my second gf was so attracted to me that she spilled her spaghetti and basically said to my face that she had feelings for me after the first time we hung out together.

Women are humans, Anon. And a lot of humans are kinda shitty. But a lot more of them are decent. Find the decent ones.

Treat them better than you treat your mother

That photo is the result of layers of makeup, hair that takes hours to perfect, and lights and angles. Girls who aren't high maintenance don't look like that irl. If you do want a high maintenance girl, that's going to take patience and money

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it's takes a lot of effort, time and money to look like that. sure, some girls just get lucky with metabolism, skin, hair and so on. but maintainance is a bitch. also, if you look like that, you will want to underline that effort with nice clothes, shoes, bags and so on. oh and you can't look like that and then have an ugly old car. or a cheap appartment. it's a whole lifestyle that needs to be kept up. make sure you can provide that, because she most likely invests every spare minute into hair, makup, exercies and hopping and has no time to pursue a worthwhile career. if she does, don't even bother unless you are the sole heir of some old money with a castle in the provence and a spotless bloodline.
also, 90% of the cases, she will be entitled af and thinking the world revolves aroun her - which she does. good luck with that...