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>>17325765
>What is the best way to tell them that I actually fucked up?
Pretty much this. There is no good way to tell parents these things, but they WILL find out sooner or later, so you may as well give it to them straight-up.

The best thing I can think of to open the conversation is "I've done something bad, and I think I need some help". Aside from being perfectly true -you have done something bad, and you clearly do need some help- it will at least put them into a sympathetic frame of mind.

It also manages expectations. This is somewhat manipulative, but when someone tells you "I've done something bad and I think I need help", you expect to hear that they killed someone or robbed a bank or some other serious crime, and you brace for that kind of impact. When the truth comes out that you've "only" been lying to them about your college studies for a year, that's still painful, but such a softer blow than expected that it softens the blow a bit more.

That's the best shot you're going to get, I'm afraid. I'm not going to lie to you: things are going to be Not OK in the short term, once you tell them the truth. But the world will not end.

>>17325765
Make up a story how you're depressed and shit. Play the victim card. Also, how the fuck they didn't notice you haven't been going to univesity for 12 months?

>>17325805
>>17325803
That seems like a really good idea, I had something in my mind already, but I'm not sure if it is a good idea. I wanted to say stuff like I have to do a project and fake doing it, then afterwards say that I failed and have to repeat year, start faking a mental breakdown because of it and saying that I have to move to another city and start a different major which I actually want this time. My parents seem to know that something is wrong with me and my dad asked me while being drunk when I will commit suicide, but I'm not sure if this plan would be successful and it could totally backfire and fuck my whole life over, so maybe I should go the truthful road.

>>17325805
One of the major problems is that my father considers even stuff like depression as crazy, even if he is a mess mentally besides his work. And I usually just went outside riding the train from station to station or something else.

>>17325715
>My only 'friends' are my colleagues from work, which you can't really consider friends in the first place
There's your first problem. A lot of my friends that I have currently are people that I got along with at work. It's easy to ask someone at work "Hey wanna grab a drink after work?" Or something like that.

Talk and be friendly with everyone. If you click with a girl ask her out. Get to know her and decide if you like her for who she is (not how she looks)

Its a numbers game so all you can do is keep trying and learning from your mistakes.

>>17325723
>>17325731

I talk and try to get along with everyone I meet. But the only girls I come into contact with are my colleagues and my work clients. All the girls I click with at work already have boyfriends, and dating my clients isn't really feasible either.

I know I need to venture to other places to meet new people, but where? I've thought about nightclubs and bars, but I always consider those places are where you go to get laid, and not for a steady long term relationship.

What kinda age difference we talkin

>>17325721

....about 20 years. I'm 22 she is 42

I know it sounds wierd, but I've always been attracted to older women. She told me that on her age, you are much more uptight (don't know if thats the right word, I'm not native english speaker), and that if we had the same age she would be madly in love with me. she told me to keep out the labels like "being in love" or "having fun" and just continue doing our thing, and wherever it leads us.

>>17325735

**told me to keep out the labels like "being in love" or "having a crush"

>>17325704
prob cheating on you

>>17325712


why and how would I find out? :/ I mean I really don't think he's the type of person to cheat I don't think he'd do that but I know anytnings possible

>>17325704
come on OP what did you do earlier over the weekend?

She doesn't care about you at all. It's just an act. The moment your money is gone, she will be gone too. Then you will feel lonely and shitty again, just with the added ptoblem of not even having any money anymore.

Just pace yourself. Limit your sessions to no more than once per week.

Also, get a job (if you don't already). Nothing wrong with hookers. Just don't bankrupt yourself for one.

>>17325695
I know she doesn't care, I'm just a client and she's just doing her job.

>>17325701
How do you stop doing the only thing that's ever made you happy?

I only saw her once a month, she's not from around here so I just get a message whenever she's in town. I don't even want to see another hooker, just her. And I'm doing better at university and I started working out since I started seeing her. It's doing good for me but I know it's just not a good thing long term. I know that some day she will quit the business and I'll be crushed.

I'm just thinking "Maybe I should get the most out of it before she disappears". I have a LOT of money (through inheritance) and I never really got anything for myself. Maybe this is what I'll get for myself. I don't wanna die with a lot of money, only having experienced happiness a few times in my life.

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Probably by adressing the underlying problem

>duh

>>17325676

But how can I address being a faggot?

>>17325684
By sucking dick and geting your ass impregnated ofc

OP cont.:

This then led me to realize that the issue probably lies in the fact that I don't really have any goals to pursue or a plan for my life to go on with. I'm just floating about like a flag in the wind going with whatever makes me happy for the moment because I simply don't know what to do with myself, what I really want and how to get it.

And then that further led me to realize that the real problem is my depressing, nihilistic perception of life that nothing I do really matters, it's all just pointless and worthless and we all just die anyway. I just don't care much about anything. Not enough to put any effort into it or try to change anything about it. Might as well just get the most fun out of it while it lasts. And that's just what I do, I've done just enough to get through school, got bored of everything back home, didn't want to go the average joe's career path so I fucked off to travel. And I don't even think I enjoy travelling much, I just want to get away from friends and relatives judging me for doing fuck all with my life.

I don't really know where I'm going with this. That's just my thought process and I'm working on a way of fixing my life, find some sort of motivation and grow a pair and go on my path. Any thoughts or advice on any of my rambling is highly appreciated.

I'm in the same position as you. You described a similar thoughts that I've been having lately. I have no wise words (but i hope someone does).

Got kik?

>>17325697

No I don't use kik sorry. Let's just count on /adv/ to help us out.

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Define "work" and "untill you die". Because like that, your statement is not true

It doesn't.

Because no one is going to feed you for revolving your life around sitting on your ass

>>17325637
>>17325637
> conciousness
Pls no gag replies to my first post. Autocorrect wanted to fuck me over before I die too it seems.

>>17325640

It's reborn as a new being, depending on the state of mind during death.

If it's a shitty state of mind, expect a shitty reincarnation.

It vanishes into the void of oblivion.

>>17325621

4 guys 1 girl? it's gay, too many balls touching

Tell her you'll go if she can get some of her single female friends to come.

>>17325634
Basically I can't decide of anything, just yes or no...

>>17325669

Would you fuck any of the friends up the butt?

Not like that. No reference to guns, you're creepy enough without it

Yeah just smile at the camera and watch what you have in the background as that could influence their opinion about you too

>>17325619
Uhm, you have a fake ass smile and a finger-gun pointed at your temple ...

Yet you're wondering why you're a virgin?

derp 0.o

>>17325613

>lol, I am positing on the internet!

Just shit it out, like you shat out this thread.

>>17325613
That must have been one hell of a game.

>>17326359
I was just frisky and very limited on what I could put in my butt

YES. Nope threads, green text stories, DEep webb stories....

fuck ya bro

>>17325605

its be an interesting project. you'd want to scour each board individually seeing what you could find. you might have to digitally recreate some of the lower quality posts or perhaps all of them to get them to fit on pages and read legibly.

you could do a different chapter for each category.

Exactly

>>173 I 25602
>on 2nd line , meant to say "early high school"
Also my dream was to be an Oscar winning actor, but I got lazy with my craft.

>>17325602
Pls help. I'm basically ruining my own life

Bad news. No one is going to help you and what any will say won't matter.
*cue shitty inspirational music*
ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE YOURSELF

Get your shit sorted. Maybe tidy your room. Like everyday. Then force yourself to do one small thing. Maybe it's applying for colleges or for a job. This will give you some routine. Just stay off 4chan. I mean you can go on of course but there is a difference visiting in the evening compared to staying on all day.

The thing I got from your post is that you are failing at basic things. I'm not sure if this is a motivation but plenty of idiot's out there have amounted to more than one you've currently done. In a weird way that gives me hope. I feel like if anyone can hold a job, then I can too.

I'll be around if you want to chat.

Go to sleep at the same time every night. To an extent, sleep cycle changes are normal, but not to the extent you are speaking about.

>>17325604
If my situation seems severe, would sleeping at the same time every night have any effect at all? Or at the least, increase the amount of sleep I get in one session? (even if it means sleeping an extra 30 minutes)

>>17325596

See a doctor.
Don't assume, don't suspect, just see a doctor.
We're not doctors here. We're not reasonable approximations of doctors, either.
Go see one.