Girl from Australia here. I picked German as a foreign language tot study as I chat a lot with a guy I have met online and I thought it would hence be easier to learn German (I thought being able to speak another language fluently was cool and German is widely spoken). We met via a common interest in Game of Thrones. I later had the opportunity to fly to Germany and when the question of meeting irl arose he started acting in a strange manner (eg. clean Facebook, wanting to bring a brother to our meeting when I have never talker to him or see photos of him, never confirming our itnierary etc. I cancaled our meeting.
After traveling to Germany, I fell in love with German culture. Used to dislike it as all I knew about it was WW2.
Is it ok if I share this story with others as just an interesting wtf-tier story? Is it ok if I share it with acquaintances, my German teacher, the German coworkers at this German company where I am working part-time, etc? Will I be judged for it?
>>17327168
We already had this some days ago.
I don't see why it would be relevant to anything.
>>17327174
What if someone asks why you can speak so much German though?
Anyway, can I just share this as some wtf story to kill time or small talk? I suck at small talk. Will I be judged for it?
How do I combat my tendency to mentally tune out and become quiet when meeting people? Makes me really awful at first dates, flirting.
I think it's my brain's response to anxiety. Sometimes it even happens with close friends and family if I've been feeling stressed.
>>17327144
unless you want to warn them and ask them to reign you in, its up to you. you can set your phone to give off an alarm very ten minutes to 'snap you out' ofi t and remind yourself to stop being like that. but ultimately its up to you to will yourself to focus
>>17327144
You could try pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Some people recommend throwing yourself into the deep end but I recommend taking it slow. Go to places that make you uncomfortable, Maybe talk to your friends and family about it and ask them to help you. My doc told me to distract myself from the situation. It helps a little bit for me.
>>17327144
Have you tried having some alcohol? Too much will make it obvious but having just one or two beers might make you talk a little bit more, even if it's about random bullshit.
I just started a new job yesterday working in an office of about 12 people most of them girls quite a few around my age (22).
So today with about 30 minutes left the lady manager (she must be in her 40s) who employed me wanted to have a catch up with me. I told her how I was finding it and what I've learned so far. She was like yeah great now there's just one issue I need to discuss with you and it's a bit difficult. She was beating around the bush so I just told her to say it and she said it was my hygiene. that I basically have bad B O and she can smell it and it's not nice to have to be around and I'm just going to drive away my colleagues with it. She said it offends her and she didn't know if anybody else had ever mentioned it to me, I said no because nobody ever had. She asked if I had a girlfriend as well, to which I said no and she gave me a weird look. She said if this continues she'll have to go a more formal route about it and it could lead to a dismissal and that she expects to see some immediate improvement tomorrow.
She let me finish immediately after this meeting, and I drove into the middle of nowhere and cried like a little bitch to be honest because I wake up early, shower, shave, use shower gel, use deodorant, aftershave, brush my teeth, even went in with chewing gum today. I do absolutely everything I fucking can to take care of myself, and to be told all that, especially in the offensive and hurtful way she was saying it to me was really painful. It hurt the most because I've already done everything I can possibly think of to stop it. It's a hot office with no air conditioning only windows, and I'm doing a job I have no experience in being forced into really awkward situations with pretty girls my age that I don't know and I have very bad anxiety.I don't know what to do.
I'm going to lose this job because of this and I feel like I'm trapped.
I'm miserable at this job already and am fucking dreading going in tomorrow. What should I do.
>>17327113
Cry about it, or get a new job. It aint the end of the world, jesus.
>>17327113
>buy deodorant + antiperspirant. Probably the aerosol kind
>slather that shit on every part of yourself from your neck down
Godspeed homie
>>17327113
There's one of two things going on here. Either you've got a legitimate condition no one has ever noticed before or you're lying about your hygiene which, again, no one has ever brought up to you before. Do you actually not hang out with people outside of work? Surely SOMEONE would have said something by now if you actually smell bad. I find it difficult to believe this is something your boss is just making up.
I'm a normal guy who doesn't have problems with girls. I've met this girl and we start talking and shit... Last week we make "sex", but I cum in less than 1 minute. Other day, I wasn't able to cum. In my faps the cum comes soon too. I'm stopping with porn and masturbating with a death grip. I think I have this problem because I do kegels almost all day long, in fap too. How can I cure this shit? I'm becoming sick. Sorry my terrible English.
>>17327088
A bump for you my friend.
>>17327465
Thanks. Anyone?
Has this ever happened before with other women or is this a new experience for you?
I got blackout drunk at my friends wedding and broke a family base worth about $300. I bought them a nice afghan rug that was about 400 on sale as a housewarming gift to make up for it. However, after putting it down in my own apartment, I really wanted to get myself one as well. The room felt so much cozier and tied together with a rug there.
But I also don't want to be selfish. I'm trying to stay on the path of Buddhism but it is difficult. I really want a rug now. Should I buy myself one as well? I guess I could get a cheaper one. Pic related, it's the rug.
Fuck it keep the rug man. Buy them another one later.
>>17327102
I already gave it to them.
>>17327104
Well then buy another one. If you like it you like it, there's nothing wrong with that.
My gf visited me on the seaside.. we went for a swim...came back to my place where we did it.. used condoma and everything
But two days later she says that she started bleedin and that it kinda burns when she pees..
Could it be a minor infection or smtin couse of the salt...water...maby stress...i looked it up and it said only a minor infection..but i need advice guys...plss no trolls
its only a minor infection
How sure are you?
>>17327042
Maybe got sand in her vagina.
>used to be as socially awkward and insufferable as picrelated all my life
>fixed myself in freshman year of college, now try my best to say hi to people i know, do small talk and accept any invitations to hangouts
What else can i improve?
>hanholdless female, looks are average, hobbies are picrelated
>female
Exist.
Show up in groups.
Take care of your hair and face.
Don't get fat.
>>17327030
As the cliche goes... Fucking work out, and dress like people your age. Take care of your hygiene like cutting your hair and shit.
stop watching anime and go out
Oy there /adv/,
Background: I just got a kick ass job that I start in two weeks
Problem: smoked weed two weeks ago
It should be about the 30 day but how do I ensure that shit's out of my system?
Side quest: How often do jobs drug test employees they already have?
>>17327016
Go for runs and sweat a ton, drink way too much fucking water, eat a lot of fibre and shit a lot. Flush your system. Caffeine also helps (makes you sweat, makes you need to pee, makes some people need to shit as well). If you are even a little lactose intolerant, drink a bunch of milk products and spend a day with diarrhea.
Side quest: Totally up to the company policy. Sometimes never. Sometimes it's once a month. You'll find out soon enough.
>>17327016
you just have to wait a week. unless they do a hair follicle test which i highly doubt.
drink lots of water and do a bit of cardio to sweat it out a bit more if you want.
Don't take any risks..
For $10 you can buy fake piss online.
They're going to send you into a bathroom by yourself after asking you to empty your pockets. Just keep it somewhere it won't make a bulge/wear cargo pants.
It's not the police, they won't pat you down or look at your dick.
Can anyone post any information related to forcing an abortion? I don goof and having one is illegal on my shitty country. Pic unrelated
Take a holiday to somewhere where abortions are legal.
>>17327046
We are 19yo and don't want anyone to find out
>>17327077
Take a holiday to somewhere where abortions are legal. You dont need to tell people why you are going there.
19yo is an adult in most countries. Do what you want.
Hello /adv/
I am in need of some legal advice with regards to selling Aku Aku masks(crash bandicoot masks)
I can sell them for 120 eu each, since a lot of people are interested.
However, i dont know if im at risk of being sued.
Is there anyone here who can help me?
>>17327014
those look like kak kak masks to me.
i see no resemblance.
>>17327028
fuck off
>>17327014
You realize people make cosplay and sell this type of shit all the time. As long as you're not claiming that they're official or made by the company, you're not liable. Additionally should you get in trouble, they just send a cease and desist.
What's the best way to improve self esteem? Even when good things happen I always find the worst in them. For example:
>random girl flirts with me
>"y-you too"
>spend the next two days upset about how I didn't follow up on that and try to get her number or something
>tfw that will never happen again
Anxiety is awful but I'm thinking low self esteem might be even worse. I tried to be happy that anyone was even interested in me, but I can't.
>>17326952
it seems to me your issues stem from all your self esteem being based on interactions with women.
>>17326988
I don't get to interact with women so often because if I'm being completely honest with myself, I'm terrified. The only times I interact with women are when they take a particular interest in me and I always fuck that up. Even when communicating with guys I find myself drained afterwards and feel like I came off as a bitch or something.
It doesn't help that I think I'm ugly.
>>17326952
what betas or fake alphas believe self-confidence is:
>my value as a person is strictly dictated by my ability to impress and attract members of the opposite sex
what true self-confidence is:
>i hold value as an individual and actively pursue bettering myself for my own sake (which happens to help in attracting members of the opposite sex)
Is it possible with a lot of free time to learn to play the piano by ear using only online resources, without a teacher?
>>17326942
possible yes. plausible, no. ideally you should get some very basic piano lessons for someone to catch you up to the point where you can play a song that requires your hands to be doing two different things at the exact same time.
once you break that point you can pretty much learn on your own. if ur not dedicated to pay 15 bucks a week for some basic ass lessons than you aren't dedicated enough to learn on your own anyway.
>>17326942
Do you have rhythm? Piano is very difficult because not only are you dealing with counter point, and counter melody very early on you're also incorporating poly rhythms quite quickly
>>17326942
Most definitely.
I never had a teacher and I've been playing for about 10 years now, YouTube is your friend, eventually you'll start to notice patterns, you'll know what I mean when it happens, but yeah, you most definitely can, it just comes down to persistence.
Hey /adv/ I need some advice.
This guy and I have really clicked and we hang out a lot. When we first started hanging out he was more flirty and touchy but after I sort of confessed to him he's been more reserved.
I figured he lost interest or something but people around us have only started telling me they think he's really into me more and more. They say he talks about me in a special way and gets nervous when I walk into the room. I don't really see any of it and it just seems he's not that into me. I mean he's had every chance to make a move but he hasn't.
I don't know what to make of it. Is it possible that he was okay with meaningless flirting but then got nervous when he actually started liking me? Or is it more likely that people on the outside are just misunderstanding the situation?
Any advice is appreciated, thanks!
>>17326937
well, what did he say when you brought this up with him you shy bitch?
>>17326953
>you shy bitch
Well that's uncalled for.
as always, there's two options: he's either attracted to you and shy to make a move or he's not into you. The easy way to find out is to make a move, say you like him and ask him out.
are you flirty with other people? he could've thought you were into him then realized it's your normal behaviour.
My workplace occasionally gives me random soft drinks and snacks which I take home because my son likes them (and I don't have any soft drinks and shit at home). But yesterday they gave me some kind of modern, faggy, fruit-flavored sparkling water that I didn't realise had alcohol in it and gave it to my kid.
Will this have any serious consequences on his development and what should I do?
ya blew it
hes gonna be retarded within a couple of months
>>17326929
>Will this have any serious consequences on his development
None
>and what should I do?
Sue the pants off your employer. Because AMERICA!!!
>>17326929
It won't. Kids in Lebanon drink from 10 or 11 and are fine. If it's just one serving, it's fine.
> Be me on holiday with GF in Paris
> We're buzzed, I convince her to try something new
> We watch some porn together, start off with lesbian porn because she picked it
> She goes fucking off, cums in seconds
> She's always been incredibly difficult to make cum. Like seriously, it took me 6 months of regular sexual activity with me before she had her first orgasm.
> We watch some straight porn
> 'Lets go back to the lesbian stuff'
> ok.jpg
> She cums again after like 5 mins of fondling, which is still relatively quick for her
> She's never cum twice in one session before
Fast forward to now.
> We barely ever have sex (twice a week if I'm very lucky)
> It's always been like this, one of the biggest issues in our relationship is that I want to have sex more, and she wants it less.
> She never seems interested even when we do
> That is, until I whip out the old iPhone and pull up Redtube
> We regularly watch lesbian porn together
> She REFUSES to even mention it when she's not horny. No words.
> I've asked her stupid things like 'would you kiss her if she was here?' while watching the videos
> BIGNO.png
> she actually has trouble finishing without the porn now
All of this leads me to believe she might be a closeted lesbian /adv/. She grew up in a house with 5 sisters and she's always said things like 'she's so hot' when talking about sexually attractive girls (I know this is a common thing, but she does it really often). I always thought it was just one of her quirks but now maybe not.
The puzzle pieces just fit, you know? She's always had seriously low libido levels. Maybe she's just not that into the dick?
What do you think /adv/?
Just try some new things with her, mix it up a bit. You're bother comfortable, so don't worry about asking to do some weird shit, like choking.
this is the perfect chance for a threesome OP
next time she says 'shes so hot' blatanly suggest the menage a trois
dont you dare fail me OP
>>17326913
Hey OP my gf is like that too, but she gets really shy and upset when i ask her if she is bi.