How do you cure a sore throat? I keep coughing constantly and it sounds incredibly gross. My family is sick of it and I just want the nagging to stop.
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If it's been persistent you need to see a ear, nose and throat doctor, man. Otherwise, cough drops.
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It's been a few days I guess. Started out super dry, like I had nothing in my throat to cough off, but now there's pleghm or something, and my nose runs like crazy.
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>>17329838
Wait it out. Unless you have serious symptoms like light sensitivity there is no need to see a doctor over a sore throat that's only lasted a few days.
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She is unsure of herself, has low self esteem, doesn't always get treated the best at home, and there is always family drama going on.
Some people might tell me to run but its too late for that. She is completely in love with me, she hand written me 2 letters and is always saying how much she loves me, she wouldn't change me for the world, how I make her feel safe and how my smile makes her forget all her problems etc.
However last night I told her how some random girl earllier in the day hit on me. I obviously turned her down saying 'I already have a girlfriend'. It felt good saying that you know, so I wanted to tell her, but holy shit she took that the wrong way. She barely replied to me and went to sleep. Then this morning she is saying I deserve better and someone who has more time for me (she sometimes isn't allowed at or goes to work so some days we don't see each other). I tried telling her that doesn't matter I only love you and she tells me she doesn't know what to think then left for school.
What should I do or say? I feel so useless, she hasn't done anything wrong I'm her first boyfriend and her first kiss, hell just the other night she was sending me cute pictures of herself and talking about sexual stuff. And now she's acting really cold. And basically saying how I should find a girl who can give me the time but I was just like I don't care it's only her I want. Told her to stop thinking these negative things and she says she is a negative person etc.
It's just so weird I always think the worst and think this means we will break up but I just don't see it happening because she loves me so much. I remember for example when I bought her ice cream she just wouldn't take it, at all. Because she isn't used to being treated nice like the way I treat her etc.
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Run, she sounds like a crazy, guilt-tripping and whiny kid. The fact is, you can't repair a broken person, and she sounds like one. You kust realise that no relationship can survive when one partner constantly needs reassuring, has a pathological tendency to bring him or herself down, has zero self esteem and is daily abused at home. With time it will be too much for you to bear but by then she will become even more clingy and will rely on you too much. I think you should let her go gently because it sounds like she is not ready for a relationship yet. She needs to find her inner strength and sense of self worth first.
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Man, I hate shit like this. It's more or less saying that broken people don't deserve love any longer, simply because shit happened and they got damaged by it.
And the assumption that somehow they'll fix their problems alone is wrong in the majority of cases, I've found.
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Broken people deserve love, no less. However, broken people have a tendency to break other people because of who they are and how they act. And they might not do it on purpose, but, like OP's girl, they create issues and burden their partners down, to a point this person either leaves or gets broken, unless the broken person fixes his or her shit first. OP's gf doesn't even try to talk with him though, just builds more walls and goes 'I'm a negative person', like it's an excuse for being shitty and overly dramatic.
You can't help someone who doesn't want to get help, and at least from OP's post I can infere that this girl is not trying to get better.
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>she isn't used to being treated nice
is a huge red flag
I have a date later today at this music festival thing put on by the city, and I just remembered I don't know how to dance, nor do I have much desire to learn.
How fucked am I /adv/?
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Not fucked at all. Dancing is all about expression. You may look like a goofy flailing white boy, but if you aren't afraid of what people think she will find it attractive. Especially if you initiate. Grab her hands and do one of those cheesy spins or something, she'll love it.
I get that you're absolutely terrified though. But you need to go to the festival or you'll regret it. You can either:
>Suck it up and dance. Take a deep breath and just do it
>Drink a bit and do it
>Get one of those plastic casts or borrow a cane and tell her you hurt your foot skateboarding
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>>17329680
Push your way up to the stage, throw up the horns, and head-bang.
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>Dancing is all about expression.
Unless that person's going to some strange artistic interpretive dance, not it's not. It's just popping and copying a bunch of moves to a beat.
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>on tumblr because bored af
>exploring random shit
>come across a tumblr of a girl who's totally got similar interests to me
>dark souls, bunch of black metal, metal in general, etc.
>very likely pure but has a really kinky side with someone she loves
>hasnt been in many relationships at all, only one real relationship
>really, really like her, cute af, awesome humor
>cute voice, kinda popular, livestreams and is really talented
>want to get to know her more
>she's really stoic and doesn't hold conversations a lot
>still manage to have good conversations with her, probably moreso than other guy friends
>still, she's very stoic, not flirty at all (at least with me), doesn't always reply at all
>loves gaming, but my computer sucks, so i can't game with her
>don't know what to do besides just talk with her and stuff
>also isnt comfortable with voice chat really, so cant necessarily talk with her, but could try
>dunno what to do
how can i grab her interest? she's into metal guys it seems (which i am), long hair and stuff, beard and shit (though i cant grow a good beard, kill me)
dunno, really like her, though. she's super cute and has a lot of traits i would absolutely love in a girl. she also has the best, curviest, thickest fucking thighs ever. what do.
will answer questions if anyone asks for more clarity. legit advice extremely welcomed. thanks guys
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>on tumblr
Leave.
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>>17329687
nah, senpai.
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bump, plox. off to bed
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anxious about phone calls with strangers 2016-07-06 11:53:12 Post No.17329668
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i have this fear of calling some people on the phone and talk about important topics.
i generally don´t like getting called except by a few chosen people in my life - i guess because i have a fear to not being able to think about stuff said and react properly in time
i just had to call my landlord and i was extremely nervous because i was missing 15 bucks from my rent and asked him if it´s possible to pay those next month.
eventually it all worked out and he was cool with it but still, every time i have to call companies for job offers or strangers because of other topics i am really scared of the call.
does anyone know how to get rid of this problem?
have you ever been there too?
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Find 1800 numbers for random products that you own and talk to their customer service representatives. Maybe even record yourself to hear what you sound like and see what can be improved on.
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>>17329672
Great advice.
Wouldn't record yourself though, no one likes hearing their own voice played back.
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>>17329668
I have the same problem. I have absolutely no problem talking to strangers in person, but over the phone is always hard for me. I usually imagine the person I'm calling is sitting at the other end of the table with me or we're taking a walk together, then I just walk back and forth between the kitchen to the living room. I pretend they can see me and make gestures and do facial expressions and at the same time I'm visualizing the stranger and their gestures and expressions.
When I was first told to try this I thought that's a lot of things to focus on at once while already being nervous, but it felt pretty natural quickly, especially if you have a picture of the person you're calling.
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darling, I will be yourd wife. I do
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J,
I am so fucking in love with you. I never told you, because I am really an idiot, but holy fucking shit. You're literally the best thing that ever happened to me.
I need to wake up next to your stupid face every day for the rest of my life.
Yours,
M.
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Still alive?
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Halp
>be me
>friend with this girl for 8-9 months
>never found her attractive
>i friendzoned her, she friendzoned me. it's the best friendship ever, i swear.
>hang out alot, calls me everyday
>been with her at a pub yesterday
>she was talking about a douche that she wanted to invite next week here to hok up again, but in my presence
>"Fuck him" i say (after 7 beers). "I feel a little jealousy here?" she asks, "Just a little"
>she waited my bus with me at 5 in the morning 'cause idk why but she did it
>arrive home
>sleep
>DREAM.GIF
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>dream about me and her having the best time of our lifes
>suddenly i am on a plane
> think about my feelings for her, i never said that i loved her. never said the real feels
>have a bad feeling about the plane, it starts to move. i am starting to regret more that i didnt told her how much i love her.
>it crashes and i die, go to a place. start crying like crazy, some dude hugs me and say "there will always be a "too late", but not now"
>have other 3 fucking same dreams, but with different crashes. one with a truck, one with the plane just falling and one with a broken wing that led to a fire
>in each dream i had the occasion to tell her i love her, but i didn't and everytime i regreted
idk what is this... but it's making me feel strange. i've had a girlfriend for like 7 months, but.. this is another type of feeling. what the fuck. what do i do? i don't want to break the friendship with her for a fucking relationship. it's the best friendship i've ever had, and i had many friends, but apparently a part of me want a relatinship. idk why... i need help.. what do i do
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It was just a dream ffs. It means nothing.
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Smoke pot and jack off thinking about her baka senpai
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I've had something quite similar
For me, it never really interfered with anything regarding out friendship (or workplace status since we work together) but it definitely put a new perspective on things. You sound much happier to be in a friendship so there's no reason to ruin that for either of you.
Ignore it. It might feel weird for a couple weeks but it will fade in time.
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Depression getting to me 2016-07-06 11:20:08 Post No.17329640
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Alright, friends. I need help. I need your help.
For a while now, I've been a negative person. Often unhappy with how things are and pretty vocal about it. I used to go on about how my life sucks and whatnot. This led many people that are dear to me to distance themselves, including my now ex-wife(although this isn't the sole reason for the divorce, but this post isn't about that).
I'm not going to list the reasons I think my life sucks, that's probably counter productive.
Oftentimes, I have these intrusive negative thoughts, such as "I want to put a bullet in my head" or "Going on isn't worth it". But I don't want to kill myself, as much as I do struggle to find reasons to go on. Not only that, sometimes when I leave a certain someone a message, and they don't reply right away, replying after several hours, I get greatly upset. Logically, there's no reason for that, at least not immediately obvious ones.
Friends, bottom line is: I'm a negative person and I want to change. I need to change. How do I do that? Pic may be related, hell if I know.
Thank you for reading.
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i was depressed in my youth, here is what I do different since then:
>find things you like
for me i came to the conclusion, that i find it fascinating, how people grow up from a child to a humble human beeing, and even if I would never achieve anything, i would still not kill myself for the sole purpose that I want to watch kids grow.
I put off the preasure i and my parents put on me. I basically said, it's ok if I am not the center of attention, if I dont play the main role in the world. It's enough if I am an bystander who just watches and enjoys.
Since then I'm not depressed anymore.
>So what are things you like?
Since then I also have no regrets doing what i like, I love computers and love building them. nobody will ever take that away from me.
Once you learn to see the big things positive, you will also start to do the same with small things. When my GF doesnt message me back right away, i think that she is bussy, which is good.
Try to find a positive explanation for everything you are unsure off.
e.g. If your wife doesn't tell you about her meeting a guy, don't assume she tries to hide it from you (which is a negative thought) but just aswell, she could think it's not a big deal, because she loves you so much.
This has implications for a relationship. When you educate children and trat them like unreasonable little shits, thats what they are gonna be, but if you treat them like little adults, you educate them to become adults.
A relationship works good, when you think positive about your partner, and yes, you can change the way you act. just as much as you could beat her, but dont, you can give her compliments but dont.
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This does put things into perspective. It's true I didn't compliment her as much as I should have, or encouraged her or simply been there for her. I'll try and work on making my interpersonal relationships more positive.
I have no passions for hobbies, other than playing video games and GMing for my friend(s). I do plan on learning more skills and reading more books.
Thank you for your input, friend.
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>>17329659
how old are you?
sports is always great, having friends iRL is great aswell, a lot of guys are lonely and the best quality to become a friend is listening.
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it has come to the point where the funniest things I've said are from others and this just fucks me up
how do I stop and start being more funny myself
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Join an improv club. It'll help you learn to think on your feet.
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>>17329637
And do what in the improv club? It wouldn't make much sense if I already rarely make good jokes by myself
or i just don't know how improv clubs work
I guess that's not an option though because I doubt there are any in my country
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>>17329642
You aren't open to new ideas. I'm willing to bet you are stuck in the same ideas and values in life as well. It's not necessarily a bad thing, but coming up with something clever or taking a different twist on something is difficult with your mindset.
Once you get over the public speaking barrier, improv is simple to get into. Just say yes to everything.
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So basically I'm falling out of love with my girlfriend. I cant do it anymore. Should I break up with her? And if so how should I do it?
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got any more context to the situation?
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I have a massive exam year next year and I will not have time to see her. She lives far away from me. I also want to focus on my future.
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>>17329625
do you not see her as part of your future?
Will she understand why you will not have time to see her?
is this just bait that I have fallen for just now?
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Hey,
so i finally have a girlfriend for the first time. Shes experienced and im obviously not. When we tried having sex, i was erect but i could not maintain my boner. This happened 2 times and now she thinks somethings wrong with me. Shes really hot and i get a boner almost every time we are together but i simply cant hold it. On the one hand I think it has something to do with my psychological condition, i have a depression and im currently under high pressure. On the other hand i have a really strong fetish, but i cant really tell her because she is annoyed by guys like me. I also stopped watching porn but it didnt really help. What can i do?
Thanks for your help, i really appreciate it.
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more foreplay, get her to calm you down
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Im not nervous, but i always have in mind that i cant satisfy her even though she gets really wet.
Our foreplay was really long and thats the phase where my dick gets flaccid.
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>>17329602
what kind of fetish?
your situation reminds me of mine
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I've been with my gf for 6 months. Few days ago she started to work in a coroporation for summer. She's in a group with one girl and two guys. How do I stop being insecure about her spending time with these guys?
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Do you expect her to not come in contact with any male other than you for the duration of your relationship or something?
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>>17329596
No. I think I'm just insecure because of all these stories about cheating I read and heard.
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>>17329661
Stop reading or hearing stories of cheating
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people telling me to shave and get a job.
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>>17329590
Get a job i dont want to waste my taxes on you.
I don't care about the shave unless you look homeless or smth.
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Just get laser removal instead? It's not that expensive nowadays.
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>>17329590
Go shave and get a job, fucking useless.
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I feel like I'm on the verge of making a really bad financial decision because depression.
I really wanna buy a motorcycle so I can live free, die whenever. Is it possible to hook up a trailer to a cycle or nah? Like in the case I'd have to move
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Eh man I did that too when I was 20. Got rear ended, bike totaled, nearly killed through no fault of my own. Just some idiot woman texting and driving.
Get a pickup, you can throw all your shit in it if you need to move or sleep in the bed under the stars if you want.
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I'm sorry to hear that. It wasn't even your fault. Do pickup trucks run on diesel or gas? I just have a normal ford sedan. I've never driven something on diesel before
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i bought a motorbike when i was my poorest ever
i think it really lifted me out of a mental funk and the financial demand of motorcycles since then (i now own 5) has kept me going on a pretty happy, productive tract
don't get me wrong, when they get fucked up you'll also be fucked up but if it's what you enjoy, it's worth it
So I'm in such a predicament and don't really know what to do.
>have female best friend of about 14 years now (I'm male)
>we have experimented sexually together quite a few times back in our teens
>always kept the sexual stuff kinda separate from our friendship and never dated or anything
>she's been in a relationship for a couple years now
>going through rough spot in the relationship so she invites me over to help cheer her up so she's not sad and alone
>end up having just a fun and good night (nothing sexual happened)
>put on a movie and I fall asleep about halfway through
>she gets a phone call and it wakes me up
>she doesn't realize I wake up
>it's her boyfriend
>pretend to sleep and overhear their conversation
>he's trying to fix up the rough patch and asks if it's he could just come over and work it out in person
>she tells him it's not really a good time
>he replies with "oh so you're with anon?"
>she tells him we're just hanging out and watching a movie
>he gets all pissy and upset cause I guess he's just jealous/uncomfortable with how close of friends we are
>asks her if she loves me
>hesitation from her
> "yes... No... I don't know. Can we just talk about this some other time?"
>rest of the call isn't really important
So she doesn't know that I heard their phone call and I don't know what to do. I don't want to ruin our friendship or anything and I kind of feel the same way but I also don't even really know how I feel. I've just been distraught since. Advice?
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Anal fuck her beastly. Show her u rep u alpha dog
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Man I'd love to get back on that piece of ass but I just don't know if all the headache that would cause would be worth it
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It's totally worth it life moves on and of them will learn a valuable lesson. Arse fuck her though. No kids no unwanted commitment.