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>>17337874

>we love each other but theres a disconnect

maybe you dont love each other. maybe you enjoy each other. maybe you find each other attractive, the sex is good, the hanging out is fine, but its shallow and surface level and you cant find a way to get passed that.

and now you are 'used' to each other so the thought of not seeing each other makes you sad.

g enerally speaking the things that bond people are
>alone time
>long times alone (like a weekend of just the two of you)
>sharing personal things
>tough situations (not necessarilly hardship, but even being on a road trip for two weeks is 'tough' and stressful in its own way

>>17337915
Thanks for the reply. You may be right. I used to doubt if she loved me, but i'm pretty sure now I know at the least she thinks she does. I think I do love her, or at least I have more than anyone else. I don't think love is the thing that's missing. I think it's something else and I just have no clue how to find it.

I've encountered a similar problem with my bf. Good thing i go to /adv/ and read what anxious and awkward guys get told to do/be around girls. That wad exactly the problem. He kept his fears and "weaknes" fromme because he thought he needs to be "tough and manly" for me. I told him to cut that out and let me in instead. We are a perfect match. I love him with all his "flaws". But him putting up an act seriously drove us appart. I can imagine it something similar in your case. Someone or both are putting up a kind of act. That can be only partial and with best intentions, but it will make you feel very distant

You should take photos then see your regular doctor and go from there
For the time being drink more water and try prunes. The softer your poop the less likely to bleed

>>17337862
What would prunes do?

>>17338001
Prune juice makes your shit softer.

>>17337853
A large majority of people "meant to be alone" are meant to be dead, but society, out of pity and a need for working bodies, keep them alive.

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>>17337853
No, they are meant to be... different

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>>17337853
May you find your worth in the waking world

>>17337790
Drink lots of water before you passout when you're drunk.

Now that you're hungover, drink pedialite and pop some aspirin. You're in for a bad day.

Greasy fuckin breakfast.
Bacon. Eggs. More bacon.
Drink lots of water.
Strong coffee.
Painkillers for the headache.

After you've done all the above have a cold shower.

Now curl up in bed and feel the regret.

>>17337790

there is no REAL cure to hangover. you can prevent it with lots of water the night before.

the best you can do is find what works for you comfort wise.

i tend to just drink a LOT of pepto bismol for the stomach, and take showers so long i get fined by the california government for wasting water.

if you are experiencing any sort of diareah, you can try giving yourself an enema / anal douche.

i also just chug water.

how do i break up with my boyfriend?

I don't want to be in a relationship anymore.. It's not you, it's me..
I've met someone I want to fuck more than you.
Sorry.
Bye.

Dont feel bad about making him hurt because that's unavoidable, despite what you say.

>>17337788

Tell him you're being a vapid cunt and got bored of him

He'll understand

Step 1: stop rooting for the lakers
Step 2: either acquire willpower or stop writing checks you can't cash

>>17337712
I don't watch blacksgetball. And the problem is I make plans, then when the day comes, I don't feel like it anymore. It could be anything from feeling sick, to feeling depressed, to simply not feeling like it. This even happens with close friends.

>>17337721
If what you want is to stop flaking, then just stop making plans.
Otherwise get someone to force you to go out.
Like get a friend to come over and force you out of your house

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>>17337689
meditate

>>17337719
How would meditating help?

>>17337689
Logistically, life is meaningless.

Whatever makes you happy, is what makes life worth living. Academics, relationships, friendships–these are all very viable reasons to enjoy life and make it meaningful.

>the ones you know and trust now will almost always end

Nothing in life is permanent. All material possessions you own are essentially borrowed, everyone in your life will eventually pass. Either accept this fact of life and enjoy things while they last, or continue to mope around wallowing in self-pity you fucking faggot.

/x/ is down in the basement

>>17337670
I always drift to that girl that is fucking any guy that can crawl on and she's purring like a kitten as everyone waits their turn

>>17337670
lol
first time doing drugs, huh kiddo?

>>17337666
Because having a vagina means you have dating on babby mode. Being fat doesn't matter because dudes are thirsty enough to hit that.

>>17337666
When I was fat, I attracted guys because
>I was actually nice to be with
>I shared their interests
>I was willing to do whatever in bed
>I actually pursued them

Then I lost weight.

>>17337674
Yeah but hiw come all the fat bitches have bfs but i don't?? What do you gotta do?

>>17337663
Learn a web dev tech stack. Some backend framework like RoR or Django since you already know Python. JavaScript and a modern frontend framework like Angular or React. Pick up CSS along the way and make some browser games or a cool website. Learn the basics of source control, use GitHub to host your projects. Read up on relational databases and know how to write complex queries. Understand the basics of data structures and complexity and common algorithms, you shouldn't be afraid of math. Be familiar with operating and navigating a Unix shell, along with commonly used tools like grep, xargs, find, sed, etc. Practice with some regex, it's useful as hell. Multithreading. C, C++ so you can appreciate and get a deeper understanding of just how much a scripting language does for you. A purely functional language would be cool too. Off the top of my head.

>>17337858
Well.... Jesus. Do you think I can do all that until next summer if I devote at least 2-3 hours a day?

>>17337877
Probably not but you can always learn and try to switch careers later.

>>17337659
Bump

>>17337676
What?

the problem with you (and a lot of guys, particularly on 4chan) is that you think the world is made up of 'nice guys' and 'assholes'.

human interaction is a lot more complex than that. we aren't chads vs. betas.

being 'nice' is not the same as being a push over or being someones bitch. being nice simply means your default mode is kindness. when someone acts in such a way that doesn't warrant kindness, you simply ignore them if you can, or respond if you feel you have to. its not 'being an asshole' to retaliate to someone who is being an asshole.

its not being 'nice' to treat someone kindly when they've been rude.


Oprah says 'we teach people how to treat us'. so let people teach you. treat them with the respect they show they deserve. do not base respect on intelligence, strength or looks, but simply how they react to you and the people around them.

be nice as a default. if they aren't nice, dont be nice to them.

>>17337658

regular size is better.

>>17337658
how red neck are you

>>17337778
Actually im black

>>17337637

dont worry man. things are weird and rough and hard to figure out. but thats because were meant to figure it out for ourselves.

I dont believe in texting more than casually. like sending a funny pic or a funny little note about the day. checking in. i dont believe in long texting conversations each day. why bother? other people like that.

the point is you are supposed to find that out for yourself.

now heres a thing op. this girl isnt the girl you are going to marry. i know that sounds surprising but pretty much no matter what you do, this girl is not who you end up marrying. just saying.

so with that in mind, ask her out. do something 'serious' and just learn as you go. this girl will be the girl you learn not only what you want but what to compromise on.

>>17337656
That's I good point I hadn't thought about, I mean I know most likely I wouldn't marry this girl but I didn't think that because of that this would be a good oportunity to learn. That's actually good advice, thanks

>>17337696

no problem man. i know no one wants to think of what they are doing as just a learning opportunity but 99% of the time it is in some way or another. that doesnt mean you cant enjoy it for al lthe same reasons. something isn't beautiful because it lasts.

Eq?

>>>>>/mu/

>>17337668
It's like an IQ test, but for emotions. Think of it as Tumblr's alternative measure of intelligence for those who lack traditional patriarchy-defined high IQ's.

I'm currently enlisted in the navy so my experience might be wildly different from yours. Basic was shitty while it lasted, but if you do what you're told its not hard, you just don't want to be there. Make sure you can do the pushups, sit ups, meet the run time etc. Don't shoot for minimal standards, because it'll be easier if you just prep yourself for harder physical challenges. Once you get out people tend to ease up on you. In the navy rank isn't really taken too seriously as far as NCOs go. I'm assuming the army is different in where you have to listen to the guy one rank above you. For the most part its just another job man. You're an adult and everyone knows that, if you want to keep to yourself no one is going to ostracize you for it, as long as you can work with others when need be. You don't need to lie, you just need to have common sense and you'll be fine

>>17337675
Thanks for that.

>>17337675
what r8 m8?