Anyone have any advice for how I can guess my IQ, or gauge my intelligence? I was adopted and had a really traumatic childhood, so it is often difficult for me to tell whether my actions are due to stupidity or trauma (especially social skills).
Also does anyone here know how I could take a proper IQ test in Canada?
>>17338143
Your actions are yours alone so take responsibility for them.
IQ can be measured by an official iq test.
same. Wasn't adopted but had shit parents. It's self doubt btw that makes you do bad things as well. Same self doubt that makes you think you are stupid.
>>17338143
You can buy a do-it-yourself IQ test book in any bookstore.
But it will be worthless. IQ tests were discredited decades ago and no school or university or employer uses them.
If you care, here's the history. IQ tests were invented over 100 years ago, and since people scored differently on them, it was assumed they measured something. But decades of testing the tests proved that the IQ test measures only one thing - your skill at taking IQ tests.
For a while it was thought there might be some connection between that and doing well in school. But even that was shot down, since a lot of doing well in school involves being good at taking tests.
There are other kinds of tests, that measure your reading ability or your math ability. But nothing that defines how "smart" or "stupid" you are.
How long does it last in your system?
I got back from vaca early last month and smoked twice, once on the 4th and once on the 11th. Just one bowl each day. Prior to that, I smoked once - roughly 2 months ie late march. I have not smoked since june 11th
I literately just got off the phone now with an amazing offer for a job and they mentioned a drug test. I'm really fucking nervous. I told myself I wouldnt smoke in June until I find a job just in case they ask for a drug test. But it has been like a decade since I needed to take that test and figured I wouldnt run into any opportunities that required that test.
I eat healthy, I go to the gym about 4 times a week for about an hour. I drink tons of water, hardly any juice or soda. I sleep well. I have a healthy, fast metabolism.
I've looked online, one source said due to my infrequency, it would probably last in my system a couple of days. I'm sure next week I'll start going through the process of the background check etc. Will I pass a drug test? It will be roughly a month since I've smoked.
I'm going to go to the gym the next few days and sweat like a mad man with the cardio.
From what I've read thc will stop being g detected after two weeks, you outta be fine anon
marijuana stores in your fat cells so don't eat too much fat. Get one of those Niacin clear out kits at your local head shop just to be safe. I've passed a test the next day before when I wasn't smoking frequently, if you have a fast metabolism you should be aight. Good luck!
Stays in system for 3 months
Hair for 6
But they sell pills to clear your system from it being traced.
I always get so attached to a certain person, one I have a romantic interest and a crush on. I just want to stop caring this much. I work, I lift, I do a lot of activities, but I still think about crushes, and I often get pissed of from the slightest shit.
I just want to stop caring. Maybe it is a desperation that I get rejected a lot, but it is annoying. I get to involves and if I get rejected, it stays on my mind and I take it personally.
Tl;dr OP is a pussy who gets attached too fast to crushes and wants it to stop.
Sounds like me except when I get rejected I magically stop caring somehow. It's her loss because I'm fucking awesome.
>>17337431
I mean yeah. That happenes to me as well. But when she tells me. When I feel that it is done, that is when I get annoyingly stupid
>>17337428
Yeah man I know your not gonna want to hear this but that shit just takes time. It'll go away months or years but it will go away
Is it worth chasing my sissy fantasies or will it ruin my mental health and chances with girls in the future?
Would you prefer someone who owned who they were, or pretended to be normal to fit in?
>>17337394
Jokes on you Anon, everyone pretends.
>>17337401
Yeah, but do you want to?
Say you're dating a girl and she's fantastic. You click on pretty much every level, from deep conversations to /b/-tier crass shite like discussing weirdo fetishes while laughing your asses off. She shows you she cares because she's very physical and initiates as much as you do and you talk online and she actively tells you to meet up, she wants to see you, she likes you and hell, she even insists on alternating the bills for dates.
But say she breaks up with you because no actual spark developed during the dating period. Your feelings had started moving towards relationship territory but hers remained firmly at Dating. She likes everything about you, but that particular spark that makes you long-term relationship material she just doesn't feel.
Now, you didn't know this girl before you started dating so there's no friend time-period to really cushion the blow/help bring you both together again. Can a spark ever develop in the future, provided you both still click and hang out? After getting over the no contact grace period so you can recover enough to not want to kill yourself seeing her with someone else or just not show you physical attention like she used to.
>>17337310
>Can a spark ever develop in the future
nope it is why people date to see if it is a match or not and you move on when you find it isn't
Might happen, might not.
Shes likely seeing you in a less bright light than you her. Work on yourself.
Also, get over your one-itis and fuel that friendship. It seems you two might have a rich friendship ahead of you.
My two cents
you are the ugly cuck, the "friend", the handbag holder. Enjoy listening to her moans while she gets pounded by chad every single night
I found out today that my entire group of friends basically dislikes me and find me annoying, and that they only tolerate my presence because of a group activity we're all involved in on a weekly basis. I found this out through a mutual acquaintance after talking about how everyone seems like they've just been blowing me off.
According to him, I'm seen as loud, obnoxious and annoying by almost everyone.
These are things I've always had problems with since I was a little kid, and throughout the years I've been constantly working on things like boundaries and respecting other people with therapy. I feel like I've come along way but I guess it's still not enough. I also have a nice loud, projecting voice that I can't do much about. I try to control it, but I'm easily excitable and optimistic so I get carried away a lot.
The worst part about this is I rely on these people for support in our weekly groups (we're all in NA) and I'm supposed to be able to trust them and believe that they care about me and have my back, and now I don't know what to think or do. Why bother staying clean if nobody gives a shit about you either way?
I'm looking for some general direction here I guess. 4chan seems to be the only place I can be myself in without judgement from others anymore.
how are you sure that they dislike you?
if they did, they would dump you already
stop overthinking is you fucking cunt
>>17337089
#1- they all stood me up on my birthday
#2- last weekend they all took a trip up to a friend's cabin without me
#3- our mutual acquaintance basically confirm my suspicions that nobody really likes me in the group
Also, why are you being so rude? No need to call me a cunt.
>>17337096
>Also, why are you being so rude? No need to call me a cunt
Welcome to 4chan
Tell us what's on your mind.
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Hey. Re-read or previous conversations. You said you never loved anyone. Never tried to. Well, do you love me now, or am I just convenient?
I've decided i'm not going to kill myself. If you have a problem with my cheating ass you can just fucking deal with it.
I sound completely paranoid and neurotic but there is an old photo on facebook that I want taken down (friend posted it) because I'm concerned it may get re-shared due to that 'On this day' feature facebook now has. I want to ask them to remove it but it would seem bizarre if I asked for it to be removed. IDK
I'm back! Ask me anything that relates to the matters of the heart :)
>>17336562
how 2 get gf?
i've missed you
bumping for any potential lurkable convos
>>17336610
Start by asking yourself what you would want in a gf.
Hello /adv/ I'm looking for advice about my current situation. It will be a long greentext (posted it on another board but this seems the right place).
My GF hates me.
> meet a friend a couple years ago (she's way minor than me, ~10 years difference)
> never wanted to do anything with her for real, just met her online (she's from another country) and became good friends althougt she wanted to be my gf
> dropped her, just too young (too young)
> fast forward ~3 years we still talk and are good friends
> I meed my gf, some months later she meets this girl
> they become friends, good friends
> they even pass more time together than me and my gf in one moment of time, playing games and stuff
> fast forward ~1 year
> my gf, this girl and a mutual friend (somebody they know and I dont) are playing online
> this guy starts raging and flaming my gf (I wasn't present for this)
> this girl doesn't say anything and my gf starts to freak out and rage
> she feels betrayed, she expected this girl to do something to stop the guy for flaming her
> this girl doensn't do anything, my gf leaves the game and the girl + the flaming guy were still playing together
> days, weeks pass as the girl doesn't speak to my gf and still plays with the flaming guy
> my gf is heartbroken, she feels betrayed for trusting this girl and she doing nothing about that situation
> she decides to 'disconnect' from her, unfriends her from everywhere and so on
> I do it also, supporting her decision
> Couple months passed
> My gf talks with me about the subject
> she tells me that is missing her but its still in pain for that betrayal
> I advice her to get both together and talk to get things straight
> she tells me is not ready and that is not her duty since she was the affected part
> some days later this girls start IMing me
> she tells she was afraid of everything then and didn't knew how to react
> I trusted that since she's very young and might not be able to know how to react to problems like that...
> told me she wants to be friends with me and with my gf again
> good thing for me to hear since I always wanted the good for my gf
> I would be recovering and old friend also...
> so I tell her it's okay and tell her what my gf told me some days ago
> she's still afraid of how can she react (my gf haves a hell of a character)
> tell her to take her time
> I'm okay with this girl , it was my friend after all and since the problem with my gf I didin't tell her anything
> I assume it's okay to retake our friendship
> days pass and this girl talks to my gf, she says she's sorry and explains the situation to her
> her accepts to be friends again but saying "it will be hard to regain my trust, you'll have to earn it"
> we both add this girl as a friend
> this girl starts talking to me regularly, I just asnwer them friendly 'as usual'
> just being nice to her even advicing her for some doubts she had about her life
> I assumed this girl were talking to my gf as well as she did with me
> one day, one fucking day my gf gets my phone and starts reading my IMs while I was asleep
> I wake up just when she was getting ready to get out home
> She looks very mad, VERY MAD
> I look at my phone and see she was looking at my IMs
> Ask her about that and she starts freaking out VERY BAD
> She basically tells I'm a traitor that was talking to this girl like nothing happened when she clearly told the girl it would be difficult to regain her trust
> Im completely lost, didn't know what I did wrong
> Apparently this girl never ever talked back with my gf, only me, and I was in the illusion everything went back to normal between my gf and the girl
> basically makes me feel like a complete shit for betraying her (in her words)
> feelsbadman.png
> She tells me it will be almost impossible to regain her trust and my relationship with her is almost over
> Unfriend and block this girl from now on, no single message was told to her from me at this time
> Days pass and things start going somewhat good, we start hanging out again and smile and so
> One day, my gf decided to leave a message to this girl, asking her about what happened to me
> this girl, this fucking girl tells my gf she only started talking both because she wanted to be MY FRIEND AGAIN, "I consider *anon* as a father to me so it was important for me to keep him as a friend"
> gf starts raging very bad, I was working and unable to do anything at that moment
>started to IM me insulting me and a lot of painful stuff...
> I was petrified and with my mind wiped out
> feel tricked by this girl and got a big problem from my gf for this
> my gf wont hear me, she says "I don't believe in you anymore, I only believe in what I see, and that girl only wanted you and you did nothing about that"
> I REALLY DID NOTHING ABOUT THAT BECAUSE I DIDNT KNOW SHE WAS TRICKING ME ALSO
> but there is no way to get my gf to understand this
> days pass, she's in terrible pain, barely speaks to me and periodically changes mood just to tell me how much of a traitor I am and how much she hates me and this girl
What are the signs, traits, behaviors, looks that make a girl see a guy as a potential problem...
Im not talking about like someone she will be repulsed by, I am asking about like the red flags girls see in guys they may or are attracted too?
I guess what I am also asking is like how girls are attracted to bad boys or whatever, but where is the cut off, what is too much, and other variables in this topic
>>17336014
Any kind of promiscuity is basically a no-go for me. I don't like any body modifications either. Drug use (including alcohol) is also a big red flag or deal breaker honestly.
Basically every red flag a /pol/lock would have for a girl, I have for guys.
>>17336014
Wearing long sleeves in inappropriate weather.
Getting attached too fast and acting lovey dovey in a short span of time is a huge turn off.
okay, i've posted this once, but i need a motivation/opinion for the last time.
i'm gonna cut my shit hair today, i was going for a mohawk hairstyle, but since it is curly (aka shitty) im afraid to do it and ending looking uglier than i am right now. Should i throw fucks to the air and do it or should i go for a normal hairstyle?
again, i am so sorry for the repost, but i dont have any friends to ask this.
me in the pic (i know, ugly af, but i am trying to improve)
Ithink you'd look best with a short ceasar cut or a buzzcut.
>>17335109
just let your soul glo OP
How do I figure out what my gender identity is, or if I have one at all?
>>17334570
roll a d20 and have your character sheet ready
>>17334570
Personally I think this is the wrong question, as it is inevitably going to be filled with the social baggage of what it means to be a "man" or "woman". Instead, I would ask yourself more concrete things like "What would I like to change about my body?" "What would I like to be called?" "How would I like to be treated?" etc.
>>17334570
>How do I figure out what my gender identity is, or if I have one at all?
There is no "how". Most people who identify as anything other than their biological sex tend to just feel it very strongly, without going through a "process" to reach that conclusion. If you don't have a particularly strong sense of this, then your gender identity probably matches whatever your biological sex is.
So I applied to Best Buy for a job position (Inventory Specialist) about a week ago. I went in to check the status of my application and I spoke to one of the managers. He told me to come back in a few days and see the process of my application. So after a few days (which I went in today) he wasn't there as it was his day off. I just got an email from Best Buy saying "no longer under consideration" and the job status still reads "open." Should I still go in tomorrow and talk to the manager or should I let go of the position?
>>17339249
"no longer under consideration"
>>17339249
Talking to the manager wouldn't hurt.
>>17339255
The manager told me to come back in a few days though? And isn't an automated response? I am just asking if I should check in or not
holy fucking jews in a tub guys, I need some help
my situation is this: I'm home alone, I'm all by myself and out in the middle of nowhere and the fucking power went out but WAIT that's not the worst part:
I'm teething my way thru a panic attack right now, I want to gtfo of here I am so scared
Help calm me down, please. just talk to me about anything. actually I would like to no, to keep this advice oriented, do you have any tips for getting through a creepy ass night without losing your mind? thank you sincerely for any tips.
Here's some more so you can understand where I'm at:
-live in the middle of nowhere, rural OH (nearest town 20 miles
-power is OUT
-I'm alone
-saw creepy ass kids earlier, and now my power is out. are you kidding me? I have a flashlight on and 1 hour 30 minutes left on my laptop.
if anyone is really bored and wants to talk on the skype that wouldl be cool beecause all of my friends are not responding, thanks
btw I have had mild anxiety problems in the past but this is not that, I don't take medication for it or anything. but you know how sometimes there are just some nights you need the light on? I would leave if I could work up the nerve because my car is outside but I dont want to go out there
Do you have a proper anxiety disorder? If so, post your voice.
What I do for panic attacks is breathe in through your nose really for about a 4 count, then breathe out for about a 5. Focus on your breathing only. Your body is doing what it should do.
So I've been with my current gf for a little over 3 months now (I know isn't really that big of an achievement) and at 19 this is my longest relationship. I want to get her something special for it, price really isn't my concern it's more about sentimentality. What do you all think?
thanks
>>17339201
Something that she is into. Don't go spending way more than the norm, like mcdonalds normally then ruth chris. Step it up a little bit in price.
Sentimental could mean like something from your first date, like something you wore or did or anything tied to that, since it's an anniversary. That way, you express your thoughtfulness of your history together, if you think that wont make you look like a chump
>>17339219
Thanks man, that sounds good. I just hope I can remember some of the stuff I wore that night haha