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>>17339495
Cut them out of your life, like the cancerous cunts they are.
But seriously if you're letting some website decide your friendships then you better take a good look at yourself, and suggest the same to them. I find it silly.

reddit isn't that great, but it's a great way to keep up with the shit people are talking about / things going on around the world. Just lurk if you want to socialise, it's pretty fucking easy.

They sound like dicks though if they're lording the fact that they reddit over you.

>>17339495
I think they just want to get you on board because they want to share their experience there with you. If they are great people like you said.
And if they are, just decline and tell therm again you don't like the site. If they keep insisting they may not be as great people as you say and basically this: >>17339512

To be fair, i do think you love the idea of her more than HER. you can't know her in and out after a month. That's just not possible. And since you only know fractions of her, you can't "decide" if you might be capable to love her when you discover the things about her you don't know yet. I think she has a point. Also, everybody gets hurt. If you aren't willing to be vulnerable again, you HAVE intimacy issues and might not be capable of love at this point.

>>17339497

I should clarify. We were friends and talked to each other for like 6 months before getting together. We know a lot about each other. I had a crush on her for pretty much the whole time but didn't act because I didn't think dating was a great idea (she doesn't live in my city, we'd have to travel to see each other, I would constantly worry about her and be a mess etc.) but we ended up talking about our feelings and dated anyway. Now we're together and I can't shake these feelings anymore.

And even if I really do have intimacy issues, what's wrong with me saying "Let's work on it together"?

They can be selfless if called for

>>17339474
A few criteria come to mind.

First, they generally don't want to hurt anyone if they can avoid it.

Second, they would be willing to help someone who was down if they had the means.

Lastly, their moral code is good by default and not just good because they are avoiding social/legal repercussions. (This may even mean breaking a law in order to help someone.)

>>17339474
A bit of selflessness plays a part. Doing the right thing even when it's annoying, a lot of work and sometimes even against their own best interest.

Knowing that everyone's personal moral code is different and that you shouldn't impose your belief on others. Being open to being wrong but not letting it stop you from doing what you think is right.

Not holding grudges but also not being stupid. Understand who you are dealing with and how to deal with them without hurting them, others or yourself.

Lastly, believing that doing the right thing is the right thing to do. This includes times where it's simple and great to do and when it's difficult and painful to do.

That's what I think makes for a good person.

I am right now.
It's so satisfying when they were really cunty and we're relying soley on their looks for the longest time, and they slowly but surely realize they were always shitty people and everyone begins to leave them.

>>17339503
I saw it hit a woman's face one time at a dinner after being ignored because a younger prettier girl was dominating a room. Every time she tried to give her useless opinion that people only indulged in before, because of her looks. She was ignored, I mean guys didn't even look at her. For the rest of the night she stared at her food and looked like she wanted to cry.

>>17339455

I hate to break it to you, but a lot of good looking people are also nice people.

Once their looks fade, they're still nice people.

Yes, they have everything.

It's much rarer for a girl to approach a guy it just doesn't happen as often. Not that it never does but you're better off initiating because that's what is expected

>>17339457
And then why do Females yell about equal rights :/

>>17339459

Just because they want equal rights doesn't mean they want to use them.

They just want all the rights, all of them.

And then they'll just sit on them like a dragon guarding its gold.

just get a gopro like anynone else

>>17339417

Record while you have sex too ;)

>>17339445
if im just sitting down is it necessary to get a gopro? or is there a cheaper alternative that would do the same job?

>>17339407
Do what you like man, in the end its what only matters, being happy doing what you like.

If it fails you will learn a lesson and keep on with your life so you are not really losing anything.

>>17339407
Professor writing here.

You're right in thinking academia is structured so that everyone is pigeonholed and stepping outside your specialty is suspected.

But there are ways around it. Say you become a Latin teacher and continue your person interest in Sumerian. You might be able to convince a university classics department to offer a course in the language, with you as visiting or adjunct professor.

Meanwhile, through your experience as a teacher you can figure out what publishers are most likely to be interested in a Sumerian book, and send them a proposal. If they see a real hole in the market, they won't care what your day job is.

>>17339407
Holy shit do not study dead languages. I'm an English teacher. Don't do it. It's a waste.

I keep $20 folded up in the corner of my wallet for emergencies. When I'm out of town I place it in my sock instead because I'm a paranoid fuck

>>17339395
This is why God created credit cards and ATMs.

>>17339395
Every time I leave the house I religiously check that I have my keys, wallet, fags and lighter, and my phone - if those things aren't in my pockets, I won't set foot outside the door.

Usually keep £100 ($130 US) in my wallet. For me, that amount is the sweet spot between having enough cash that it's worthwhile carrying it while still being little enough that it's not a big deal if I lose my wallet or whatever. There's also about £20 in various coins in the ashtray of my car (I don't use it as an ashtray though) in case I need some change, but I don't often use cash for much. I also carry my fuelcard (I travel a lot for work, so my employer pays for all my diesel), my debit card (which I only use 3-4 times a month, just to draw cash from the ATM), my AMEX card (use that to pay for everything I can, has a good cashback deal and because I pay the balance in full each month I don't get charged interest) which has a limit of £20,000, two visa credit cards to cover me at places that don't take AMEX (it isn't widley accepted here) with a combined limit of about £7,000 which are both on joint accounts with my wife, and a mastercard credit card that I use once in a blue moon just to keep the account active.

Other than that there's a couple of photo's of my wife in there, one of the kids when they were little, half a dozen of my business cards, and a Canadian $50 note which was left over from our holiday there about 18 years ago that I keep meaning to exchange for proper money but never get round to.

find a semen starved succubus and jerk off on her

then you'd be saving a life
other than that idk

Do it for the children.

>>17339352

With bravery, and might.

So here's what you do;
>Without masturbating, go a few months working on arm strength and grip strength.
>Get a 'utility belt' (A fanny pack with a hole cut into it..., for your 'batarang').
>Whenever you see a crime happening, run into the nearest phonebooth, and unzip the fanny pack, unleashing your super-identity, the 'Wanton wrangler'.
>Run out, gripping your lighting rod as hard as you can, in an attempt to shock any villains in proximity.
>Furiously masturbate over the wretched villains and leave them 'webbed' to something for the police to find.
>This must be how you fight your arch-nemisis, Anita Sakastico, and another of a blue haired ogre henchwomen.

NOw this post may sound silly, but as I read through it, I would pay to read this as a comic.

4 on top 2 or 3 on sides. Also man, you look fine. Cant see your face but you look handsome enough.
Dont stress too much. Even if you have a bald spot try not to give a fuck. Rather than using rogaine or taking fin, exercise and slowly start cutting it shorter and shorter. Fighting nature is a slippery slope. Easier to just go with the flow if you can, man.

>>17339543
Thanks, i havent used a buzz cut since pre-school, i don't think i can pull it off right now.
I'm using finasteride and Minoxidil, also i go to a dermothologist to get mesoteraphy and a stimulation session, its working out but i know sooner or later i'll have to give up and just let it fall, its just hard to accept it when you started balding at 19(i'm 23 right now).
But yeah, i'm starting to lift so that may give me the confidense boost to just say fuck it and shave my head.
And i hide my face just because i know people who browse this website and i'm kinda ashamed of asking for advice in an anonymous board.

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You need to cut your hair relatively often if you have a short haircut. Once a month or so.
Try to mention to your hairdresser that you want a haircut that covers your bald spot and a haircut that is easy to maintain.

I'd say you've already played your cards pretty well. Unless if there's anything specific you think you have a problem with, I think you need to just keep conversations going with her and don't piss her off or whatever. Good luck anon

>>17339340
>We're gonna share a double room

Gonna be painful if you make a move and get rejected while on that vacation. Two people's vacation is then ruined.

OP here.
I think it mainly has to do with me lacking confidence when establishing physical contact. But I think it's looking bright. Normally we just hug when saying goodbye. Last time we parted ways I added a kiss on the cheek. Got a photo from her in underwear that same day á la "I'm chilling in the sun". Dunno if I'm kinda limiting myself with the cheek kissing itself or if I should just see it as a step further.

>>17339329
Being vegan is a redflag.

>>17339368
Yeah I agree, most vegans are crazy cunts. However, she might be normal even though she likes vegan food from time to time.

Wtf is a "potluck" btw?

>>17339385
A bunch of people each bring a dish or meal or food item and you get to eat food from different people

To op: vegans are insane attention whores, do you really want to deal with that

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I apologize for my English, it's not my native tongue and I just woke up

>>17339308
maybe find out the name of the artist that did the illustrations, find out when the books were published as that particular drawing style might be reflected in other similar works published around that time.

Ask /ic/ instead of /fa/.

Prepare yourself for a lot of criticism tho.

My advice is to just give it up op. If you can handle being friends then you shouldn't hangout or talk to her. You were the one who said you were cool with being friends but you obviously aren't.

>>17339317
I said this out of being a coward at the time and thought it was a safe way to keep her in my life
This was a mistake
Is there really no okay way to go about pursuing again, like extra light flirting or whatever, that won't make me seem like a desperate creep?

I just can't really deal with failing myself in such an extreme way, it almost causes me physical pain at times

I don't think it's a terrible idea to try and pursue her again

But yeah take it slow and don't burst out with all these feelings, just play it as cool as possible and see where things go

How close were you guys? What's changed about her life since she was sending you signs?

Are you me? None of that is a problem, it's human nature stop being a pessimist.

>>17339297
>win lottery
>tell only them
>buy car and some homes
>move them in
>their friends start spending more time at mine
You probably thought you were being nice, but telling friends about your money and moving them in was a huge mistake. It's imperative that you keep these things quiet because you're only setting yourself up for failure. These people are out to use you.

You should travel and meet people who don't know you or your wealth, travel like the average man and experience the world. Just get average rooms in nice hotels in fun cities (I like Hong Kong, London and Shanghai).

I wouldn't think too much about the friends of your friends, some may legitimately like you and some may be leeches but you will soon be able to pick the good from the bad by the questions they ask and how they treat you.

I've been very wealthy for 6 years now and I've learnt my lessons the hard way, my biggest piece of advice is find a good financial planner and accountant who can keep you in line if you make bad decisions.