I live in NY, there's a warped tour concert going on right now. I went like 3/4 years ago and it was pretty fun
It's supposed to on/off rain today, but I heard from Facebook people that there's a lot of people there anyway, as is to be expected
I feel bad because I had no idea it was coming up - don't get me wrong, in not into a single band there, I dont like emo music, but I love emo sluts. I want to go so bad and just hook up like the first time I went, but I'm getting older, 21, and it's hard for me to justify spending 60$ on something that could get rained out in a few hours
This same thing happened earlier this summer when EDC came to New York and my neighbor went. That shit is probably a blast but at 150$ it's just making me gag. At the same time I feel like I'm not getting out, like I'm not going anywhere. And that depresses me too. I'm not sure what to do or feel
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>>17340308
>going to social events literally just to try and score easy crazy girls
Wow, hows your depression?
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money is an illusion
go out
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>>17340322
What's wrong with that?
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I have crippling anxiety, I'm not assertive at all, and I have no clear path in life. Would joining the US military be the best or worst decision I make? I graduated high school several months ago and haven't been able to find a job, so I'm running out of options.
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God no. Especially not if you have anxiety.
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We're all aware of the ill social consequences of technology as it relates directly to it's social availability. Anxiety is no longer limited in it's scope or even a geographical region.
Anxiety is normal. We all have it.
Debilitating anxiety is normal too especially in this day and age. There is help.
Behavioural practices, medications, support groups...after all when you meet others like you you'll see anxiety is prevalent and many have it.
Perhaps you should consider furthering your studies, take a minute for yourself.
The military is highly stressful and anxiety perpetuating.
You don't want to be a grunt do you, a number, a tool? I don't think so otherwise you would not have taken the time to ask.
Help is readily available and accessible but you must seek it out.
Take a moment, lean on your supports, before you make that decision.
If you are comfortable once you have support and those you trust are too then decide but not before, please.
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>>17340428
I do some self help stuff to cope with everyday situations, but when I'm in distress and having an attack it is meaningless. What I really want is just to be able to survive and be productive, but since I don't have any skills it seems like I have to work a dead end part time job, or join the military and the military has far better benefits though that's no reason to join and is also a factor weighing on my decision.
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Im still trying after 5 years to forget and move on from a girl I have feelings for online.
Shes in a relationship but I don't know if it will last, we still tall often and she still thinks I'm a friend.
I don't believe I can move on, she is not a model person but to me she is the personality I've always been looking for and it's hard for me to accept other people instead.
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>>17340219
>after 5 years
wow
just wow.
you could've gotten married, had a kid, graduated college and started a career in the time you've been waiting on someone you've never met.
good job in derailing your life, stalker.
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Honestly you need to move on. There's so much in life youre missing out on because youre wasting it worrying about her. Go out and live, and i guarantee that youll meet a far more outstanding girl.
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Help me convince my sister.
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My sister is a gender-queer tumblrfag who dresses in two different ways, tomboy and girlish. I am a straight male and have a skinny body with feminine attributes, and I've been having thoughts about being or dressing up as a girl. Part of me thinks it's just my horniness but another part of me thinks it's my identity. I've no intention to commit any sexual acts with the same sex, but the thoughts still linger. I think that my sister is my way into becoming a quasi-girl, and I think that she'd probably be open to it. Probably. How do I convince her to help me? Should i just ask? Or should I just abandon. I know this is a stupid and retarded thread, but humour me, please.
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Explore new things, you should be able to live how you'd like.
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Also, I didn't focus on the actual questions but tell her how you feel. Explain to her that you're interested in trying this new thing but you aren't sure how to start it. Before telling her, make sure you're able to tell her this and that she's going to take it seriously.
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>>17340174
You are retarded and on your way to make yourself more unhinged than you already are. Try to ground yourself in reality instead of chasing after made-up bullshit.
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Relationship trouble. 2016-07-09 15:56:43 Post No.17340171
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Currently im in a situation where im in love with a girl but the girl I loved is diffrent from the girl she is now.
Lately ive been thinking stuff like: should I break up to make it easier for her? should I stay with her to avoid her being sad?
Reason i ask these questions is something that has been happening lately. il try to keep it short. (Im bad at keeping it short sorry beforehand)
I visit girlfriend after 2 months of skyping
Honeymoon week goes nicely and we do what couples do.
next week she barely wants to kiss me or hug me and makes it harder for me to sleep with her.
She complains and thinks many parts of me are annoying (like example being that i chew loud while i eat)
We argue and fight to the level where i get hurt with scratches and marks which last for days (I have done nothing against her to hurt her physically)
Question is:
Should i break up with her when the moment presents itself or stay with her in hope for her to love me like she used to.
Opinions also appriciated!
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I think you should talk to her about the way you're feeling. I can't tell you to break up with her but I can tell you that she's acting this way because there's something going on with her, too! Maybe she feels there is something off about you. Discuss it and find out what's wrong. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and I can most certainly say the things we loved most about each other are now things that get on our nerves. It happens, and if there's a problem we talk about it. Communication is key. I can also say, it becomes quite easy to get accustomed and annoyed to your partners ways, things that seemed so beautiful and non-aggravating when you first started dating just aren't the same anymore, you move on from that cute little honeymoon phase! Communication is very important. As for the physical abuse, that is very serious. I cannot stress the importance of respect. If you don't like this physical violence you need to stop that asap. Let her know exactly how you feel about that because nobody deserves physical or verbal abuse! It's very scarring and it's not right. She needs to learn her boundaries and to respect them, as do you. I can't pin the blame entirely on her because there are two sides to every story and there is always a kernel of truth in both. Talk to her, if nothing changes then make the decision that you know will be best for both of you.
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Thanks for taking time to write that first off. I tried to talk to her about it and we kinda agree that we have changed viewpoints and thats why we act like we do. Problem is that sometimes she just flat out wants to controll/dominate me, not in the good way, this is normaly where the physical harm comes in. It starts off with her trying to limit my choices which seems cute and innocent to begin with but it ends up with me trying to prove that shes not my boss and she starts to claw me on the arm and tells me to go away. I can handle the abuse but im not sure if i can handle the fact that she doesnt care enough about me to stop herself from doing these bad things. Im going to be honest and say that ive might said some mean comments but ive never yelled at her or hurt her mentaly on purpose.
I just hope that the positive things we do togheter overweights the negative things. I just want her to be happy, even if that means being happy without me.
Il have a talk with her tonight and see how that goes. wish me luck.
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Good luck, stay composed.
How do I get over a girl I love. I feel like I'll never find another girl like her. I love everything about her from all her personality to her physical body. Even all of her imperfections. I can't stop thinking about her and it's tearing my heart apart each day. The worst part is she's my best friend and she's a lesbian. Please any help would be appreciated. I just want to get over her already, it's making life unbearable.
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Time.
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I know what its like to fullheartedly love a girl like that and im lucky to be with her right now, i fear things ending for silly reasons. Its painful and it hasnt happened yet
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>>17340157
>not being degenerate
Also this >>17340297
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>>17340141
How do I lose weight?
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Dr. Asshat here offering terrible advice for all your problems that no one gives a fuck about. Ask away!
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Put the fork down and run.
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I wanna fuck my bfs dad.
How can I not?
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You don't, stupid.
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>>17340109
If your dad cares about his son, he won't let you near his dick
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by not opening your legs. dont be a slut.
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I have a coworker who creeps me the fuck out... its not like he does it on purpose... its how he looks and the kind of aura he puts off. He has yellow teeth and strangely long canine teeth, he breaths very heavily a lot, and he shambles when hes not doing anything important at work. He is a very very nice guy, always smiling, always happy, but hes very jumpy and easily made anxious... he seems to be particularly nervous when sirens go off, when loud pops go off (the recent fireworks going off near the store seemed to make him jump and cringe) and he avoids police. Now heres where things get really weird, he has caught spiders in the store, spiders freak me the fuck out, but he just caught them by hand and instead of smashing them, he'll walk them out to the nearby bushes and release them. He won't swat flies, he won't even kill cockroaches, yet he eats cheeseburgers for lunch... once he was frustrated with a customer, who was being a complete bitch to him for no reason, he held an empty metal paint bucket one one hand and dented it when he squeezed it... which I have never seen anyone do, specially a chubby hairy nerdy guy... also a homeless guy was yelling crazily outside the store, he walked out there, stood still and said stop, and the homeless guy shut up and walked away, no longer hunched over, no longer ranting and raving, just very calm and collected. Also one morning I came in with stomach pains, and I thought about going home early, when this coworker walks up to me and asks whats wrong, I tell him I'm not feeling well and he grabs my shoulder and says,"Hang in there, you'll feel better" and I felt this horrible chilling cold where he was touching, but my stomach pain went away.
I have tons off odd occurrences with this guy but I don't know if I'm going crazy and hes just a normal dude, or if theres more to him I don't know about...
am I going insane?
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>>17340107
What do you personally think is wrong with him?
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>>17340107
Your coworker is into the occult or esoteric things. Most likely he's not into anything weird or fucked up. He seems very RHP and he like a nice guy. I could go down the list of everything you wrote and explain each point individually, but I have the inkling suspicion that you won't care because you're likely just a cunt.
t. an occultist
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I have no idea, but he fills me with this slight dread I can't explain, when he hands things off to me, they're always cold where he touches. All my other coworkers don't seem to be put off by him though, in fact, were happy when he said he wasn't transferring to a location closer to his home. Some regular customers really like him, animals seem oddly drawn to him, people who bring in dogs, the dogs are oddly like, obsessed with him... we had a bird in the store once and when he came in, it flew onto his shoulder and he walked out and it flew away.
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Is there any way to unlearn fetishes?
I'm very attracted to a fetish that I am realizing is not normal and makes me extremely embarrassed. I haven't told any of my exs but they did kinkshame me for a couple other things.
I honestly want to try to unlearn this before I get with another guy, is there any way to? Or does it not matter? When I'm not in a self-hating mood I quite enjoy it but I figure it's not normal (to reference what it is, it's being a pet cowgirl for a master).
Any advice?
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>>17340092
>being a pet cowgirl for a master
I'm vanilla af, can you explain what this is?
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>>17340095
um
it's pretty much like being completely obedient and loyal to someone who owns you, doing whatever they say and please, and as a cowgirl getting milked and fucked whenever he pleases. I'm not on the furry side of things but it's enough that sometimes I feel revolted with myself.
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>>17340110
Even though I'm vanilla, it actually sounds rather appealing to have a girl like that.
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>meet a nice girl irl and exchange facebooks
>see each other mostly online
>because I'm of the shy sorts, one day I admitted I really like her but she wanted to stay friends
>ok I said, but over the course of a few months I keep pushing my feelings on her again and again to the point of becoming annoying and she stopped talking to me
>one day she contacts me (what a relief I felt) because she happened to find out one of my family members was famous and that she had forgotten everything I said and she wants to talk now
>my feelings from that point onward about here became mixed but I still wanted her to be my bf and again she said 'no' to the point one day that she blocked me and even threatened to call the police.
I admit I was a bit annoying but I something tells me she got what she deserved.
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>>17340063
>something tells me she got what she deserved
get rid of annoying desperate fuck? yeah
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You cared too much, bitches don't like when you care.
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>she blocked me and even threatened to call the police.
>I admit I was a bit annoying
> a bit
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Why is being around other people the single most unpleasant experience I regularly encounter?
Is this a normal feeling?
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>>17340048
You most likely came from a sheltered, hermit family. Or you have aspergers. Or autism. I dont know, cancer maybe?
But I know what you mean, to some extent. I cant bear to ride public transit (Milwaukee fag here) because of the dumb, smelly, nose-picking, grunting, scratching, mouth-breathing, phlegm-swallowing scum of human beings seem to be 80% of the bus.
I usually have an earbud in for music anyway, so I learned to ignore they exist. Walk around better neighbors with friendlier vibes. Literally any stranger could win me over by just flashing a quick smile to me and giving some eye contact for about 2 seconds.
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No, it's not.
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I'm similar. I know I'm this way because I've encountered constant negative experiences when it comes to interacting with others, and to avoid the pain I began to draw away from other people.
It's like having something sharp embedded in my foot. Every step I take I'll feel it, and while I'll walk around when I need to I'll generally avoid it, because if I did it all the time I'd be in a lot of pain and unhappy.
How do people afford to live in places like Chicago and Atlanta? I know it's expensive but it seems like tons of people do it. I live in a small as fuck town in some rural area far as fuck from everything and would rather live paycheck to paycheck poor as fuck in some bad part of the city. I have literally nothing here and I'm just so sick of seeing all the rednecks, knocked up trashy teenagers, and broken down houses in the middle of grassy fields. I don't think I would be any worse off than I am now I live in a 300 year old house that no one takes care of and everything in it is total shit.
I don't even really want to attend the colleges out here as they're all jokes when compared to colleges around the cities and I don't want to waste my time living here. I'm in a non stop cycle of depression living here and really don't think I'll ever figure out what I want to do or try anything new unless I get out and actually see the world or something.
My town basically has like 3 buildings, it's just old people who are afraid of the world walking around grassy fields while doing the same exact pattern of nothingness all day. My entire family is abusive and poor as fuck. I barely have a way to get to a job now I share a car with my parents and I have been unemployed for awhile so it's going to be really fucking hard to find a job. I checked the classifieds for jobs in the paper and it literally goes 2 weeks without a new job being there.
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Update I found an sro in south side Chicago for 145/week can anyone verify if shit like this exists?
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>>17340065
I live in Chicago. It probably exists but trust me you do not want to live in the south side.
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>>17340087
Actually it depends where in the south side. Tell me the nearest interestion
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Yes, this is yet another pre-relationship/crush /adv/ thread.
I'm crushing hard on a cammer. We flirt and joke around during their camming sessions, and one time they gave me their number in a private message (after they saw what I looked like on my profile).
I freaked out and said I don't give out that information (privacy reasons, being a cammer myself), but I would happily join them for future shows.
Now I'm kicking myself for not writing down their number and I'm unsure how to bring up means of contact outside of the camming website again.
Now, it was a lot simpler when they supplied that information as opposed to me requesting it. I feel terribly awkward.
What would you do/say in this situation, /adv/?
I can answer some camming-related questions as a token of my thanks for different perspectives on this, if there's any interest.. as long as they're not identifying questions.
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Both of you are degens
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>>17340037
Autism works in mysterious ways.
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>>17340037
>Error: You cannot delete a post this old.
What? When did this happen? I haven't been on /adv/ for about a year.
Did the new site owner do this?
Apologies. I was going to delete the thread, but can't now.
>>17340122
Yep.
>>17340134
That, too.
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>Be last year
>Be me, 20y/o
>Just outta 5yr online relationship
>Was pretty much my only consistent friend in the world the entire time
>Lost place I was living in last summer
>phone broke, lost internet
>had to move in with strangers
>started smoking weed daily
>made friends I think
>new bf, been together 9 months
>he's relatively socially adept
>I have problems getting along with other women (mum gave me a hard time) + anxiety disorder + pretty isolated life (bullied kid, homeless from 16 onwards, no rl friends etc)
>not sure if aspergers or lack of practice socialising but I fucking suck
>Like I really fucking suck
>Turns out I have a nervous stutter/twitch/mild trichotillomania & other tics I didn't fucking know existed because I've successfully avoided everyone until now
>Selfconcious about it obviously
>Never knew I was this bad
>Weed is helping mostly
>On mid dose prozac/propranolol, can't get doctors to help me any more than that although they all seem to agree I have a "severe case"
>Agreed to let a girl straighten my hair yesterday because I thought I'd finally get to experience same sex bonding but I actually just flipped out and started yelling then apologising then crying because what the fuck do girls actually like having somebody stand behind them fucking with their hair with burning hot irons?
>girl is mad at me, bf is mad at me
>says I really need to get used to people or we're done
I'm embarassed enough to consider just dumping him and saving both of us the inevitable social scarring. I like him too much to make him "that guy who dated the psycho," and I have a lot of paranoia about whether he or anyone else talks about me behind my back already etc. Thing is, we're in the homelessness thing together and he's relying on me to get a place with him because he needs people. We're actually a pretty good couple despite the obvious, but I'm not sure if I'll ever get used to people, if I ever can or if I ever want to.
Is it worth it, /adv/?
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Shameless bump.
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sort the homeless thing out and then worry about other shit
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>>17340409
Working on it, obviously.
Been living more or less like this since I was 16 so I'm used enough to the prospect of moving around to worry about other shit.
I just wanna know if it's worth actually investing effort in other people or if I should just say fuck it, quit while I'm ahead and work towards eventually living with a few cats/dogs in a trailer in the mountains.