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How do I tell someone I'm fucking their best friend? 2016-07-10 09:20:13 Post No.17342536
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How do I tell someone I'm fucking their best friend?
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2016-07-10 09:20:13
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If the love of your life started fucking one of your friends, would you prefer to hear it from your friend or your crush? Apparently my gf as of 2 months best friend who I'm somewhat close with has had mad crush on me for a long time now. I would like to let her know what's going on behind her back before she finds out on her own. Should my gf or me be the one to break it to her? Should I tell her about how her and I being extremely different people would be bad off together (her a good and innocent person, me a toxic degenerate)? I need some help and advice, this is killing me.
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Did your girlfriend know about her friend's crush? If so, you're dating a shitball
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Apologies for grammar, I'm on mobile and the 4chan web app is garbage for formating.
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>>17342541
She did, but only after she had already developed feelings for me and knew I had no intentions of dating the friend.
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On our second date, the guy I'm seeing told me "If I could clone my sister, I'd marry her." In some ways I see that as big red flag, but is it? They lived together for 3 years while both going to college, and she is married now, it just seems like such a weird thing to say. Am I making too much of what may be a good quality?
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>>17342532
It sounds definitely really creepy. A girl I was I liked said something similarly weird after some family reunion about how hot her cousin was and how it was a shame they were relative. I was turned off pretty damn fast from that comment.
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That's really fucking weird
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Did he only say that in a physical way?
If not then it's not that creepy, he probably has created this image of a "good lil sis" in his mind, nothing sexual.
Still, on the second date? That's fucked up.
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Anyone wanna get something off their chest? I'm here to talk and listen no judgement
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3 weeks since my last drink. My severe sadness has turned into intense anger, snd I can't stop it.
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>>17342431
What makes you happy?
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>>17342429
I just finished talking to my ex. She just told me she broke up with her current bf. I am holding the urge if telling her how much I miss her. I'm 20, live with my parents, don't have a job, and gym and video games are my only thing.
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What do? I'm a bad drunk whenever I get blackout drunk, I start pissing other people off or doing anoying shit, and I get blackout drunk 70% of the time.
I'm pushing away the few friends that I have, but when I hang out with them I start drinking. No one forces me to drink, I just have to chance to drink. I'm slowly getting uninvited to shit.
I wouldn't mind slowly defriending my group of "friends", but my drinking problem might follow up during life, I'm just 22 and I drink because of depression.
Yesterday, some friends of my friend took me home, because one of their friends lives almost next to me. This shit always deeply disturb me the next day, I wasn't blackout drunk but I forgot lots of shit, I'm already known as the "drunk guy".
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>>17342428
Quit drinking.
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>>17342430
this
i was in a same boat
learn to have fun without alcohol before it's too late
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When you get blackout drunk things you're otherwise subconsciously counterbalancing, or suppressing, come out.
For a while if I got blackout drunk I would revert to a state like a cornered animal. Pick up large chairs and throw them around. People would try to give me water and I'd bat it out of their hand. Back myself into a corner and swing at anyone who tried to approach. Though I don't so much buy this one, if I'm swinging at someone chances are I fully intend to harm them, drunk or not. I would probably be intending to incapacitate, go for organ shots, etc. Not swing wildly. Anything else and I'm more apt to leave, or use force to throw them around.
Regardless... There was a reason for all of this, I had pretty severe anxiety and didn't like just everything about the present situation I was in. The place, the people. You need to look in your core self and realize where these things are coming from. Change anything you truly don't like, the bad shit while drunk will stop. At this point I don't do anything too out of the ordinary when drinking. Though I rarely drink anymore anyway.
How does one talk like Trump?
I don't mean like "build a wall" or anything.
It's just that he is always confident of what he is going to say and he nevers seem to be intimidated. When I watched the GOP debate, he didn't express any fear whenever he talked and wasn't afraid to express his sentiments towards his opponents. He would always insult them and if they fought back, he would come back harder.
Now that he is campaigning against Hillary, he doesn't have the fear to talk shit about her.
Little does he care about the huge ammount of people that call him a racist, homophobic, sexist etc. He doesn't care about all those little movements like "FUCKH8" or whatever that make videos talking shit about him.
TL;DR: He has some huge guts and high energy. How do I get the same energy and guts as him?
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Have many years of experience of working in business.
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>>17342422
E X P E R I E N C E
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I don't think personally insulting people in debates is a trait to be admired.
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I have a videogame "addiction", i spend all of my free time playing instead of doing things that benefit me.
I have no moderation and right after i finish playing an instant feeling of regret comes and makes me feel like shit.
Will selling the console solve my problems or only pass it to another thing?
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Similiar Situation here. Didnt play anything for almost 3 weeks now and i actually don't have any desire anymore.
I cut off everything that could enable me to game, only to find out, it was not much of an addiction to me(been gaming from 6-24, 3 weeks abstinence is huge for me lol).
Gaming was rather a way for me to 'Deal' with my problems. I ran away, gamed my issues away.
Tl;dr are you addicted or are you trying to forget underlying issues?
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>>17342455
Forgot to mention:
Actively participating in a self-help group helped me a lot getting off of video games. Like AA for gamers.
If you have such groups in your area, i really, REALLY recommend you visiting one. The people are in the same boat as you and mostly very friendly
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Are video games causing you to neglect other things? Or would you not do those things regardless of video games?
I play video games every day and have my entire life. What I don't do, is blow off school work or time with friends to play games. This is what separates an addiction from a passion.
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How to get over guilt re. dating and attraction?
I've been made single about six months ago, for a long time I was too distraught to change anything about it, but now I'm starting to get tired of the loneliness and I want to try and start dating again.
Problem is, I feel guilty even looking at women, I'm afraid they're not looking for my attention at all and that if I would give them attention regardless, even if it's saying hi, could hurt their feelings or annoy them.
Even Tinder didn't work out, I couldn't bring myself to like a single girl because I was afraid they'd somehow find out and then be insulted that I even thought I had the right to see their pictures.
Is there a way to get over this? Or should I resign that my first was also my last?
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What you are is afraid of rejection.
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>>17342367
you're forgetting one fundamental component
bitches LOVE attention, they don't really care where it comes from, they just want to feel desired
why do you think instagram is a thing?
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>>17342653
Also, but mainly guilt. It's a bit of an issue in general, I have a hard time justifying myself and the idea that I'm a negative part of someone's day scares the shit out of me.
>>17342669
Girls love attention from attractive men, but hate attention from men they're not interested in, it's a waste of time.
That's what makes me so unsure, maybe a woman would appreciate my attention, but she may also feel insulted or disgusted, which I don't want to make someone feel.
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So I'm renting a room to a friend I've known for 10 years or so.
To make the story short when our friends in common get together she just goes off and never asks me if I want to hang out with them.
(I do get invited by the other friends that I have but not when she starts the plans)
She does invite me however when the friends that we don't have in common get together to do something.
Is she trying to hog all the attention? I don't get it.
This is really getting in my nerves.
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What I would like to know also is how to fix this behavior without sounding clingy or needy.
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pls respond
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There really isn't much you can do to be honest. Do you have other friends you can hang out with?
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Sup /adv/. I'm extremely drunk right now. Any hang-over recovery tips? I'm gonna need them.
Also things to prevent hangovers, like if i can do something now to not hurt tomrrow.
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Before you go to bed, have milk and salt. Shoot the salt and chase with milk. It's gross, but it works. Drink lots of water too.
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>>17342321
There's a lot of broscience and wives tales about this, but honestly the best thing you can do for yourself is drink water. Down at least a liter of water before you go to bed.
You may also want to take a B vitamin supplement if you have one available. Thiamine (vitamin B1) is part of alcohol metabolism and gets depleted from your hippocampus (memory processor of your brain, basically) when you have too much alcohol to process. Having an excess of B1 in your system will make sure you body has the resources it needs to break down the alcohol and support your short term memory at the same time. Don't stress if you don't have any on hand, though. Water, along with getting enough sleep, \ is your first priority.
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>>17342321
You >>17342254 's gf?
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tl;dr how to turn down a job offer when they've agreed to everything I asked for
OK /adv/ so I'm not unhappy at my job really but I'm not happy at it either, and there is no chance for any advancement or whatever there so I keep my eyes open for other opportunities. I saw one on craigslist and got an interview. It's not the best job ever but maybe a little more in line with what I want. They offered me a certain amount that is like 3/4 what I make now, and I said oh I can't do it for that, sorry. So they came back, to my surprise, and said they'd pay very slightly more than I make now. They also agreed to the hours I requested. So far so good, right?
BUT I mentioned it to a friend and she told me that she had worked there, and it was a nightmare, high stress, super unprofessional, and she quit because they stopped paying her during a slow period while still expecting her to work. I believe her, and I felt a couple of subtle bad vibes in that direction when I went in for the interview. I've been in that kind of job situation before and it was awful. I don't want to take this job, it's just not worth it.
So what do I say? How do I turn it down without burning bridges, because who knows what may happen in the future? Give me your /adv/
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>>17342320
>due to personal reasons that suddenly came up I won't be able to work for your company
You don't have to excuse yourself anon
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>>17342337
That's pretty much a lie, though, you think that's a good idea?
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bump for more /adv/
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i have been single almost a year now. Also no sex. I, somehow, feel like a loser because of this..well...am i a loser?
Is this a long time being alone?
I have been in relationships pretty much 13 years straight. 1st relationship was 11years and then after came the 2nd of 2 years. Now, being alone, i havent had any interest being in contact with any girl in what evert the way. My ex is already fucking around like crazy, im not judging and i try not to be butthurt, but i guess i am because i perpetually keep asking myself am i loser being alone.
Are /adv/ singles for a long time?
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>>17342286
Youre only a loser if you keep acting like a shitdick just because youre single. Being in relationships isnt the most important thing.
Just go get some cake and eat it and then think about how cool it was that you didnt have to share.
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I have been single with no sex for over a year.
Few days ago a cute 20 yo girl liked me on okc, things going well. It's funny how you instantly feel better about yourself after just a few dates and a bj.
Put yourself out there. Tindr/okc/whatev, it'll turn in your favor eventually.
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I have been single for over 10 years for alot of issues I'm dealing with. Focus on yourself that's one person you have to spend the rest of your life with.
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Is a 3.6 gpa in community college a bad thing? Could I do well in university/college with such a grade?
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>>17342230
pretty good.
not great.
most mid tier schools would accept that and some of the higher ones might, too, depending on the program.
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>>17342230
No.
Yes.
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>>17342233
>>17342719
Good to know, thanks anons
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I did some really stupid today. After hedging out with some friends , I proceeded to drive home. On my way home I passed a park. Since I'm not in school right now, I have time to waste. I kinda like to watch little kids play, so I stopped by a park. I swear I wasn't going to take pics , I was just using my phone to zoom in. A parent saw me and went off. I feel really bad. I wasn't really doing anything wrong was I? I didnt mean any harm.
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>>17342223
Report yourself to the authorities
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Oh my.
I don't feel like doing any guesswork about what's really going on in your head. I'll just say, you must bear in mind how your environment will view what you're doing. Don't be stupid.
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>>17342234
I usually do....but I really couldn't help it today.
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Hey, /adv/. I'm feeling kinda bummed and I'd like some insight.
I've been invited to my friend's wedding. I'm gay and even though she's very religious, she treats me very kindly and said on many ocasions that she liked my girlfriend.
I received one invitation, and casually asked our mutual friends if she didn't want me to bring my girlfriend. They all said she was managing space and couldn't invite everyone. I shrugged.
So I got there and everyone was with their respective boyfriend/girlfriend. Except for two: me and this other gay friend of ours.
I was really sad and felt bad the entire wedding. If I knew she felt this way about my relationship I wouldn't have spent money with all dressing up crap to attend the wedding.
I know it's Her wedding and she has the right not to want... gay couples in her wedding. Like we would embarass her or anything.
Am I wrong to feel that way? What would you do in my place?
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It's a religious wedding. What else did you expect?
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It's normal feeling like that. But don't let it get to you, everyone lives their life the way they want, and such a thing doesn't change yours. You made her a favor by going over there and it's done, there's no use worrying over it
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I have no advice but would you have felt better if your friend would have invited your girlfriend as well, but asked you not to show affection?
It's very possible that her family was paying for the wedding. And them being religious didn't want gay people at their daughter's wedding.
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My best friend has a long term girlfriend of about 3 years now, they've moved in together and have plans for the future, pretty well settled in. He's recently confessed to liking me but I don't know how I feel about him. He's made it clear he doesn't intend to act upon his feelings and that he wants nothing more than to stay with his girlfriend. Is there anything I can do? Things have gotten a bit awkward between us, he's more distant than usual and I miss him.
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What do you want to do? You should do that.
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>>17342204
I assume he's gotten more distant because he wants to work on strengthening his ties to his girlfriend and weaken his attraction to you.
What you can do is give him that time and space, and try to be understanding about it. Maybe he'll get over it and be able to see you as just a friend, maybe he won't. Nothing you can do about it.
If you want a romantic relationship and you aren't in one, look for it elsewhere. You may find that if you are "taken", he'll have an easier time not thinking of you in a romantic way and it will make having a platonic friendship easier.
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>>17342204
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