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wow. how did you find out?

>>17343241
I am sorry for your loss.
You try to separate emotions.
You allow yourself to be angry for her cheating, to feel hurt because of it. And you allow yourself to grief and to feel like shit for the death of a loved one. It won't be easy, it will be painful.
Go to therapy. Take some time to figure stuff out. Talk about this as much as you can.

>>17343246
>>17343246
I was logging onto her laptop to try and figure out how to do the Facebook memorialize page thing

And I read her messages

And there were so many guys

I feel ill

Literally nothing

You just missed out on needless family drama

>>17343217
Emotional stability, self reliance and masculinity.

Watch this and you'll be golden.

http://m.imdb.com/title/tt2479384/

>>17343188
Tell her to stop being a clingy fucking cunt.

Do the same to her

Wow, what a great relationship where you can both talk honestly to each other without fearing the other one will get upset :)

They don't hate late-term virginity, they hate the kind of personality that causes late-term virginity. Like being too stupid to understand basic social facts.

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>>17343191
You can learn all the "social facts"
>which actully should be called social "ques"
And have a girl laying down in your bed ready to fuck. If she askeds you if you ever had sex and you say no she will walk out immediately.

Clearly its not about personality. Or you wouldn't have been able to get them in that position to have sex.

Its not a made up story also, I heard of this from many people. A perfect recoloetion of events every time.

>>17343168
Most girls don't hate virgins.
But there's a reason if you're virgin after a certain age - maybe your looks, maybe your social skills, maybe something else.
Girls hate that.

>>17343108
Prepare yo' ass boi.

I went to Thailand a few months ago and ended up seeing a hooker. I'd say go for it, it's way cheaper than in the states or any western country. Just go to one of the red light districts in the evening and you'll see tons of brothels/strip clubs.

>>17343108
>if so how safe is it?
Fairly safe if you get her from a bar in one of the main tourist red light districts (Soi Cowboy or Nana Plaza). I've heard they have to have STD tests, also she's not likely to rob you if you know where she works and could get her fired. Just don't waste all night bar hopping paying for overpriced drinks for you and the girls and end up going home alone and out $100 for the night, that's the fucking worst. Baccarat bar on Soi Cowboy is usually pretty good for finding a girl.

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Has a career or working towards getting one. A cashier at Lowe's trying to become Assistant Manager doesn't fucking count.
No kids, ever
Doesn't have any bad financial habits, like gambling
Either non-judgmental or only judgmental about shit that they actually know about
Isn't an ice queen. Someone who enjoys sex as much as I do.

>>17343128
Hey, quality list. The person you describe doesn't have to be a romantic partner, though - I'm more interested in what you admire in people.

>>17343148
I was describing my fiance, since she has some of the best qualities a person can have,
Except the sex part. I cheat on her because she doesn't have a sex drive.

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Rephrasing my question from last thread: how can i get my bf fond of the idea of having sex in public? Obviously not in a way that anyone can tell/see

Putting this in from the last thread.

To girls:

Would you consider it interest in a person if a girl often wants to chat with you and doesn't hesitate to message first (it's not such a big deal where I live but it's something) or just overall talk, is honest and open, can talk about both serious and funny/random things, jokes around and so on? I'm a fresh fool with low amount of social knowledge when it comes to these things.
Also should say that the girl we're talking about has said that she likes me/finds me interesting but that was a while ago and I'm not sure how it is now and how if I should even pursue such a conversation.

>>17343049
If he's not into it, then he's not into it

>>17343022


I just like don't think its right I go over there and a bunch of 18 year olds are there and he was drunk as shit. the only reason I didn't leave is bc I was scared he'd cheat on me? like ahhh, idk what to do, I feel like we're way too different people ....

>>17343022


I'm really unhappy in my relationship but I'm scared to leave. I'm scared ill make a mistake, and I'm just crazy/overreacting..

but I feel like hes so inconsistent too, sometimes hes SO sweet and acts like hes a dream, and then other times hes just like... immature, obnoxious, puts in no effort.....I think that's who he is, and he tries sometimes and that's when I'm happy, but it goes away in like a week and its back to him putting in no effort and doing the bare minimum

>>17343022


ohhh, and I want to break up with him, possibly. but were going on vaca in two weeks and hes paying for most of it. I feel bad going then maybe breaking up with him, but I'm not ready to break up with him yet/know if its what I realy want, but I don't realy see myself spending my life with him anymore.. I'm tired of worrying about what hes doing, him being drunk, doing shady stuff, making me feel uncomfortable.. I realy don't like his friends and I feel like that's a bigger issue than youd think it would be.....

>>17343007
No you shouldn't be worried
Don't be a dumbass

Just because they have the opposite genitals doesn't mean it has to be any different than friendship with same sex.

He could just as easy want to fuck his guyfriends.

>>17343013
Stop spewing this bullshit you cheating asshole

>>17343018
Fuck you, paranoid sluts.

If you honestly think like this you must have zero trust in yourself with the opposite sex.

Become a carpenter.

>>17342990
Hmmm elaborate

>>17342988
Buy some alcohol?

>>17342983
>What kind of militar training or courses could I find being a civilian?
Carpenter training.

>>17342983
You guys have a 1.1 birthrate. You need to have fucking children. Have as many sons that can grow up to protect you as possible. Get the fuck out of your house and work towards getting married because you have about 20 years left until the caliphate really starts. You people are literally being replaced. Take up some martial art.

Martial arts (boxing and jiu-jitsu) and gun-fire. You can also learn Arabic so you can understand what they're saying.

>>17342963
It shouldn't be your friend's job to keep you on the self-improvement path. You're putting them in an awkward position by having to constantly be watching over you to make sure you're living life correctly. A true friend will try to point you in the right direction but they will not intervene so completely in your life that they're micromanaging it for you.

I have no idea what a true friend is because i've put in 0 effort for friends which is why i only have ppl im "friends" with but no actual friends. I assume a "real friend" is someone who is good to you and will be there for you.

>>17343447
i should've made note that i was not referring to myself or anyone else.

what i meant was, would a friend allow another to follow their dreams, even if it meant they would become a reprehensible person, or would they try to steer them from that path with gentle criticism? personally, i think friendship should be beneficial to the growth of both persons.

It's a vintage drawing. If it was some HD pornstar I'd find it tacky but this seems completely fine.

Your phone, your business.
Its not like your lock screen is a chick taking a dick.

>>17342936
If they don't like it, don't give a shit, just note their opinion and continue breathing.

Or don't, you can do that too if you want to.

tl;dr let them complain.

Just be a good person. I get dates easily even though I am ugly, I'm just smart, fun to be around and very nice.

>>17342889
Lower your standards
You're only a 5/10 because you're only trying to get 10/10s

You should poll for multiple opinions and correlate results by demographic. See who thinks you're a what, and try to control for why.

Also, self improvement. If you're overweight, lose weight and build muscle tone. If you're underweight, exercise some. If you have bad skin, stop consuming dairy and excessive sugars, as well as red meat. If you have bad hair, iterate and learn until you have sexy hair. The goal is to find how to accept yourself.

Travel wherever you want. Part of me gave up on romance a long time ago as well. Chronic pain, lots of problems and psychological overhead, other interest and shit to do. Don't really care if something kills me off either, but I'll still somewhat avoid it. Never developed meaningful relationships with other people, so I'm largely incapable of seeing myself as even a friend, much less a lover. Having no experience in those roles causes me to think I shouldn't bother at this point, or I'm not worth it.

My post assumes you're female, but it works just the same if not.

Bump. No one?

>>17342948

She's a cunt and you should drop her out of your life. But you already know this.

>>17342958
Yes, I do. And that's central to my issue: I know this thing is fated to fail, but even you also know it's never simple to let go.
It's basically frustration fueled by wanting to make it work vs. knowing it won't