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>21
>friendless
>NEET
>depressed
>haven't left my house in 5 months
>haven't been in a social situation in 4 years
>lost the ability to hold a spaghetti-less conversation

I want to get myself back out in the real world, but I've become so socially inept the idea itself terrifies me. I'm trying to work on my conversation skills at home, and in doing so I've realized something awful about my mother (who also rarely leaves the house).

>mom has become self-absorbed
>only talks about herself
>rejects all my attempts to steer the conversation towards a topic we can both participate in, shining the spotlight back on herself
>her stories rarely include anyone else, it's always focused on something great she was doing and how she felt about it
>retells the same stories on a daily basis
>can't get a word in, talks over me
>talks continuously for hours
>guilt trips me if I try to leave the conversation/room
>it's not just conversations, day-to-day life revolves around my mom
>walking on eggshells trying to not inadvertently offend her
>starts arguments over the most ridiculous minute things
>always yelling at my dad and I
>dad is pussywhipped
>spends his money on frivolous things
>berates and belittles him in front of me
>drinks herself to sleep every night

This isn't the mom I grew up with. I want to help her, honest to god. But I don't know where to start. Furthermore, I also want to help myself and I know this has become a toxic environment. I'm an introvert, but I can never be alone. I take hour long showers just to have some peace and quiet, but end up feeling guilty because of how much fucking water I'm wasting.

What do, /adv/.

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Two days ago I went to subway and ordered a Footlong tuna salad sub with cucumbers and spinach (no cheese). I also ordered a bag of salt and vinegar chips and a 7up.
I was struck by the urge to use the bathroom and rushed to do so prior to paying for my sub.

I quickly completed my business and then rushed back to pay for my meal. The cashier was a older woman with a forearm tattoo and she asked me loudly in front of other people "Did you remember to wash your hands sir?"

I don't think it's the responsibility of the staff to worry about my bathroom habits, especially since I was rushing back to avoid holding up other customers.

I went back to Subway this afternoon and ordered a steak and cheese toasted flatbread with pickles and oil and vinegar. I also got a cookie and a 7up. The same cashier was there and offered me extra napkins, Implying my hands were still filthy from a previous visit.

Is it part of subways corporate culture to embarass customers? I would like to see this changed in the future. Whom should I contact to address my concerns?

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Does getting /fit/ actually help with confidence boosting? Keep in mind I have shit tier confidence with social anxiety and depression to top it off.

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For the last year after I masturbate, the part between my penis and testicles aches a fair bit. Not agonizing but certainly painful. Is this something to be worried about? This only happens ocassionally.

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How do you make friends as a 25+ adult who's graduated college and so on?

I basically lost all my friends from high school, progressively have less and less in common with everyone I used to be friends with.

I'm just very lonely and tired of spending every single weekend by myself watching movies and playing video games. I can't remember the last time I just walked outside with someone else.

I'm not even that interested in finding a girlfriend (although it's been a while since I had one of those too), just to start having friends and feeling human would be nice.

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the older I get the more I can't fucking stand being around anyone. Maybe I just haven't met the right people? it's like I just want to live alone inside my own imagination 24/7. I know this isn't healthy but I seriously hate being around what people call 'normies' because it's always dealing with immature bull shit or just shit I really don't care about.

all I care about is reading and eating good food. should I just stop giving a fuck?

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Okay homeboyoes here it goes
>be me
>18 junior in high school
>may or may not have been held back thats none of your business
>know this boy since I was 8
>never talked to him much until the 1st semester of junior year
>he picks on me alot like shaking my desk when I'm drawing or taking my phone
>thought he was just annoying
>complain about him to a friend infront of her stepmom
>stepmom goes "Ooo looks like someone has an admirer"
>stupid little light flicked on
>never thought of him like that
>I start thinking of him like that
>he has all my favorite characteristics
>brown eyes, tan, red-brown hair, taller than me, athletic etc.
>cannot stop thinking of him like that
>he continues to pick on me and I pick on him
>flirting buried under the rude remarks
>last day of school
>he rides my bus
>right before he gets off the bus I tell him I like him
>heres the kicker all he says with the most shocked look I've seen on a person is
>"okay"

Pic related its me I'm wondering if it could be becuase I'm not so cute

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hey /adv/,

I am an obese 24 year old virgin from a small wealthy city in Florida. I am running a failing niche business with my parent's retirement funds along with having thousands of dollars in credit card debt (the card is a gold one though). My little brother goes to a highly ranked university while I didn't go to college.

I am obsessed with a girl and we hang out at inappropriate hours doing very appropriate things (not having sex, just talking). This has gotten to the point where it effects how I interact with my friends and other people in my daily life. I don't have a healthy schedule, I don't have a college degree or a future. I am in debt, I am overweight and in denial of it. I spend too much time with a girl I have a very small of ever hoping to have sex but keeps leading me on and makes me spend my money on her.

I am jealous of certain in my life and restrict around me because of my jealousy.

Basically I want help to figure out some things.

How do I get into better shape?
How do I get over this girl?
How do I have a future?

Overall, how do I get my life together?

Any help is appreciated, thank you.

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Thinking about getting a fleshlight since girls don't want to sex me. Guys who own one, do you ever feel ashamed of owning one? What are your thoughts on owning one?

For functional questions:
>How do I choose one? How do I know a good one from a bad one?
>How do you maintain it?

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>never used to care about tits
>would take a good ass and flat chest any day
>get a gf
>she's flat chested but I don't mind and all, sex life is fantastic
>fast forward just under 2 years
>absolutely in love with her, but sex is getting worse
>rarely finish
>think about tits a lot
>can't help but notice girls racks when I'm out
>my porn habits (couple of times a week) have gradually shifted to almost exclusively big tit porn

Aside from obviously cutting the porn which I've now done, what can I do? I can't get it out of my head and its ruining our sex/my attraction to her.

I don't want this to let this take a toll on our relationship.

Only reply I got yesterday was to talk to her about it, which I really can't do without destroying her self esteem.

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Any help with these?
My gf is a retarded Australian girl and apparently in Down Under men are meant to spend 40k on this shit.
What do I need to be careful about when buying one? I'm paranoid all this shit is a scam and I will be jewed out of my money. Might aswell buy fake/synthetic rings to begin with.
Are synthetics worth it? Will it be noticeable? My gf's life seems to depend on having a good ring.
Also, I'm based in Europr. Is it worth going to 'diamond city' in Antwerp?

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hello guys ,in 10 hours im supposed to get above 80 on a not easy math test that will decide if i go to college this year or not,ive studied enough but i still have that awful feeling that i might freeze in the test, advice from those who have been through this and made it would be much appreciated.

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Is anyone here dependent or "addicted" to their ADHD meds? (Adderall and other stims) how bad is it and how did it start?

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Hey /adv/,

I'm 19 and I live in the UK, my parents are both on Benefits for disability and therefore do not have to pay any rent, only domestic bills.

Recently they have been pressing on the matter of me paying rent and bills, the latter of which I am eager to begin paying, however, I am reluctant to pay rent. I am aware that legally they have no obligation to keep me in the house, but is there any way I can get around paying rent? Are welfare recipients legally ALLOWED to receive rent payments? I doubt my father would declare the extra income, which I am sure is illegal... I would google, but all that pops up is forums of benefit recipients asking how their rent will be affected.

Thanks

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Femanons would you flirt with customers at your job?

Normalfags feel free to comment aswell.

There's this kind of plain 6/10 cashier girl working at a local food place. It's right down the street, good food, decent prices, so I've been visiting about once a week recently. She's not always there when I go so I only see her like once a month or less. When she's there she always greets me by name "hey anon! :)" with a wave and a smile even when she's doing something else or helping another customer. Today she tried to make small talk "so how's it going? :)", and I said some bullshit about how the weather's been hot lately.

It seems unusual for her to remember me by name and always act so friendly towards me. I'm not sure what to think. Normally I consider this kind of thing off limits because I don't want to be the weird guy flirting with store employees so I've pretty much stone walled her but she's just so nice. It hurts my heart. How would I go about determining whether she's interested in me or just doing her job? I don't want to throw away a possible relationship just because I'm being intentionally dense. I've always dated women whom I already knew or that I met thru mutual friends though so this kind of dealing with a stranger is new to me. Obviously we can't get to know each other while I'm standing in line and she's busy at work. Would it be weird for me to ask her out then? Or like... how do I bridge the gap between don't even know her name -> asking her out?