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>>17352804
Major in Physics, teach yourself Python and C++ in the meantime. If you want to continue your education through a PhD, which is the only real way to get a job doing Physics, learning how to program beyond trival shit will help you greatly. If you find your interest isn't enough to sustain you another 6+ years, your coding experience will help springboard you into a development job. A Physics major will prove you're smart. The rest is creating a good portfolio.

>>17352946

sounds like a good plan thanks.

What would you like to do for the rest of your life? Is work THE meaning of life or a means to a life style? You don't want to invest 6+ years into a degree only to be stuck in a job and debt for more years. If you dream of discovering new theories then an advanced physics degree may be worth it. Chemistry and engineering are quick big bucks right out the door

>>17352797
Unless you intend on trying to cause/partcipating in a revolution you should only buy it for self defense or as a hobby, in which case you should head on over to /k/ to get into guns.

It is a very fun hobby.

>>17352797
Depends on where you live man.

If you live in the city I would say yes almost definitely, at least for home defense. If you're out in the suburbs nothing is going to happen to you.

>>17352808
I live in Cleveland Ohio, the Republican National Convention is going to be here next week and its supposed to get crunk af...

Black Panthers are supposed to be bringing guns to their protest and all I have is a baseball bat at home.

don't sleep with someone just because you can;

A real friend would have reserve, dignity and security in himself to say no.

It's her fault for having sex with you after you've said this; but she's obviously only trying to convince you (and herself) there's something there.

Stop being a dickbag

>>17352794
I see no issues with casual sex.

Don't listen to your fuck buddy's friend, do what you want for you.

You told the girl you didn't want a relationship, and she said "okay but let's still fuck". You're doing nothing wrong.

>>17352799
>>17352800

This is 100% the problem because I see both of these sides of the argument being valid.

At the end of work today, I reflected on the entire situation and am leaning more towards the idea that I was in fact being an awful person but how exactly would I go about stopping? She messages me constantly and even when I tried to go cold turkey on the whole thing, she still asks about it. It's only amplified by the fact that we work together so we see each other for a minimum of 40 hours each week.

Oh, and if it helps, she's a mother of 3 who is divorced while I'm a father of 1 who is also divorced. Both of us are in our early 30's but she doesn't have much in relationship experience since she married young and has dated very little after that.

He sounds bored of you. Start being more assertive and be a lady with a backbone. Give him a run for his money, or he's going to find excitement somewhere else.

>>17352781
perhaps he is worried about something totally unrelated to you and preoccupied

Was it really sudden?
How long has it been going on?
What is/was your living situation?
Has something about you changed?
Either of you have career changes etc?
How long have you been together?

Yes. Whatever gives you hope.

I think religion preys on those who are week, but religion teaches people stability. Just like anything; it can be good mostly in moderation.

(This isn't ONLY about Christianity, as well)

Turn to the Occult instead. It's basically the same, only less sanctioned, and less dogmatic.
Nothing is true, Everything is permitted.

Op cont.:

This then led me to realize that the issue probably lies in the fact that I don't really have any goals to pursue or a plan for my life to go on with. I'm just floating about like a flag in the wind going with whatever makes me happy for the moment because I simply don't know what to do with myself, what I really want and how to get it.

And then that further led me to realize that the real problem is my depressing, nihilistic perception of life that nothing I do really matters, it's all just pointless and worthless and we all just die anyway. I just don't care much about anything. Not enough to put any effort into it or try to change anything about it. Might as well just get the most fun out of it while it lasts. And that's just what I do, I've done just enough to get through school, got bored of everything back home, didn't want to go the average joe's career path so I fucked off to travel. And I don't even think I enjoy travelling much, I just want to get away from friends and relatives judging me for doing fuck all with my life. Also, these days I really don't like being alone anymore. I don't care much about what I do or don't do but I really just want to do it together with someone. Makes everything so much more fun. But that's a stupid mindset because I can't depend on others for my own happiness.

I don't really know where I'm going with this. That's just my thought process and I'm working on a way of fixing my life, find some sort of motivation and grow a pair and go on my path. Any thoughts or advice on any of my rambling is highly appreciated.

>>17352761
Get comfortable with solitude because its you at the start and end of each day you answer to.

That is step 1.
Best! SLAINCHE SALUD PROSIT

>>17352763
Man this is what everyone should achieve. Stop thinking in the society patterns, just have fun and fuck up your life all you want. I live exactly like you and I would never choose a life full of lies and things I believe I want. Don't get taken down, you're living the dream life

Anime

Well good is subjective. If by good you mean happiness then there are easy things you can do to trigger the happy chemicals in your brain. Getting enough sunlight and sleep, eating right, exercising and spending time with family and friends are just a few.

I'm a fan of food, alcohol and porn.

Wind surfing and skiing. They don't really make me a better person, but they do make me feel one with nature.

Sewing, hiking, gardening, kayaking, camping, vidya, and reading novels/comics.

They don't really make me a better person. At most it keeps me busy so I don't feel like I'm wasting my life. Each one I have small goals in and I feel better about myself when I accomplish them.

>>17352773

What would be your goal in the comic department?

hell no. you stopped playing video games because your grew up a little. you might as well be asking if you should get back into wearing diapers and shitting yourself

>>17352701
Hello. Yes, while i do have more social life today, i don't care much about going after women and stuff, too problematic(had bad ending relationships in the past).

I focus a lot on my uni(Med School) but when i'm on vacation like now, i literally have nothing to do. Gaming is surely a way to spent time, gotta tell you.

Any hobbies recommendation? Started going to the gym but don't think that counts as one.

>>17352696

Playing video games is not a hobby. That's like saying watching movies is a hobby. Sure, you could be a movie enthusiast who loves to interpret movies, but you're still just consuming something.

>>17352681

Men don't have to be seduced. Just show up and make it known you are available.

>>17352681
Maybe... You could not be a fucking tramp and just leave your boyfriend and go to an AA meeting and get rapped by handsome adults there is thats the type of man your looking for. Nobody gets hurt.

>>17352681
Please PLEASE do come back tomorrow and tell us how this went wrong.

>keeps women in their place
>emphasizes unifying social institutions
>provides guidelines for self-fulfillment
>anti gay/trans/etc
>degeneration
>wat

>>17352661
back to your cave son

The way to to it is to lead by example.

Get your life in order: be physically fit, financially stable, own your own home, get married to an attractive wife who isn't a nag, have a bunch of kids, go to church, network with other like minded men.

Sorry for the poor level of English... I feel really disturbed while typing this

>>17352655
AW, my mean big brother is picking on me.

>>17352655
>I'm 18, does anyone have advice on how I can personally cut him out while still living with him
You can't. I'm sorry. But as long as you are living together, this toxicity is going to continue.

If you want this to end, one of you has to leave. It shouldn't have to be you, but it would probably be easier to arrange that. You mentioned being 18: what are your plans for the near future? Depending on what's coming, you may be able to make this easier.

>Sorry for the poor level of English
Actually, that was quite good. It got a little awkward in places, but that happens sometimes, even to native speakers. If you hadn't mentioned it, I wouldn't have been able to tell the difference.

>>17352632
She should have seen things from your side knowing that you actually had physically fought these people and is totally aware of your feelings towards them.

Maybe she just wanted to be on speaking terms with them but it still does sound like you got shafted abit.

Dont worry about hitting her. She instigated the violence. Yes self defence.

Did the make-up sex consist of any apologise from her?

do you really want a relationship with someone like that

demote to fuckbuddy status

Fast forward, have a great 4th of July until she gets a little too drunk and starts getting mouthy for no reason. No fight ensues but her behavior when she's drunk is getting on my nerves.

After the 4th, we both go home, a few days later I decide to break up with her. She lives about an hour and a half away and my car isn't in good condition so I make the decision to break up with her over the phone. I call her and break the news as calmly as I can, promising to answer any questions she has. I answer all of her questions and the reasons for breaking up with her are the following:
>The way she acts when she's drunk
>Not moving in with me when I've asked multiple times
>Being prude with sex (always missionary, refuses to try new things, do things I like, or use toys)
>Sex being too infrequent. Maybe a couple times a week when I'm used to a few times a day.

She's crying but agreeing with me, telling me she'd change and do all this for me. She says she was planning on being kinky for me soon anyways and she's noticed her drunk behavior. I'm not buying it and tell her my mind is made up.

The next day I get the following text "I don't want to live anymore"
>shit
I call her and ask her if she's thinking about killing herself
>yes
She hangs up and I call the police who show up to her house while her mom and little sister are there with her. They have no idea whats going on or that she's this bad. It's prudent to note that she suffers from depression and anxiety among countless other issues.

The next couple days we keep texting and she says she'll change for me and that she's sorry. She'll do anything to be with me, but the relationship is toxic and I know it. She has a doctors appointment tomorrow in my town and is coming down to see me and grab her stuff that's at my apartment.

I love her and I'm worried that when she comes over it will lead to make up sex. Part of me wants to get back together but the rational side says I don't think she'll survive another breakup

What would you consider your orientation to be?
Gay? Bi? If bi, straight-leaning or gay-leaning?

Are you matched up wrong for your orientation? Or are you a total fucking gaylord experiencing the shitty internalized pressure to have a het relationship?

How long have you been with your bf/living situation/etc?

I'm a les-leaning bi chick married to a dude and I get intense longing for a qt gf all the time. I sometimes feel like I made a huge fucking mistake and I'd be happier if I had married a woman, on the other hand, my husband is an amazing person who understands my sexuality and pretty much everything else. Couldn't ask for a better partner. Is that worth giving up to chase my dream girl? Not really.

Better advice pending more info, but the short generic version would be:

How strong/lasting are these feels? How attached are you to your bf? Do you see yourself with him long-term? If you feel like a relationship with the right woman would give you more than your relationship with your bf, break up and hunt dat pussy. Or be a shitbag and find a woman now, decide if you like her more than him as a partner, and leave his ass (or not).

>>17352652
Me and my bf are talking online. We do plan to meet and have done sexual things together as best we can ( videos of each other jerking off)
However I know vaguely of a girl who MAY be into me , and I have the biggest fetish for black chicks so that desire exists
I may be see myself staying with this person long term , they seem to want to. So it's hard
Also I'm bi but I don't know if thata legit or me being a lonley loser wanting some kind of relationship

I randomly get this desire to want to fuck a girl , other times I only want to fuck a guy.
Recently it's been girls more
Also this bf of mine is really wanting to get locked down with me.

In addition, she's finishing her degree. She deferred her first year and then didn't want to go. I pushed her into university and convinced her to go to alleviate my own insecurities about my girlfriend being an uneducated bimbo. She won't tell me her GPA or marks - I think she's insecure about the intelligence gap because she can tell I'm bothered by it. It became a lot worse after my mother told her what my IQ is, but when she was assigning classes for her semester she was logged into her University account and I found some of her exam results and she's getting good grades. I also know that she's qualified to study abroad in Korea which has a minimum of a 3.0 GPA and she hasn't been worried meeting it so she must be comfortably above that.

So how would that be possible if she was mentally retarded?

I'm not one of those neckbeards who assumes IQ is everything and everyone else is just beneath me. The only reason I even know my IQ is the board of my company wanted all candidates for a senior role tested. One of my best friends who I work with is one of the most articulate, knowledgeable and intelligent people I've ever met and he only has an IQ of 110. But my girlfriend and her father stand out to me.

So, is my girlfriend retarded or not?


I don't really want to slam her but I can give examples of why I have pretty good reason to believe she's mentally handicapped.

what do you want from a girlfriend, a buddy to discuss astrophysics with?

get some male friends for that, enjoy the intimacy with her.

do not get married

RE: The Dallas shooter

"Did he do the shoot up deliberately tho?"

Even when I take her out to an expensive restaurant, she drags her sleeve through her food and has food all over her face like a child. Doesn't wipe her mouth until I tell her to.

When taking out the bin, on more than one occasion she takes the garbage bag out of the bin, ties it up, puts a new bin liner in and then puts the old garbage back in the new bin.