How do I get a bf if:
>Hate acting all cute and silly
>Hate wearing short skirts or slutty clothes and dancing sexy (suck at it too)
>Hate being all flirty and touching a guy every chance I get. Like "oh you're so silly! Teehee *touches arm*
Honestly all the girls I know that act like that have had sex with more guys they can count, so I guess that means men actually like girls when they act like that, Idk why tho, I find them annoying af.
>>17365966
By being physically attractive, and not emotionally unattractive, at the right time in the right place.
Yes. Men think in terms beyond raw sex appeal too.
>>17365966
Just say I want a bf in public, someone will take you up on it 100%.
Then lay out your rules before they really want to commit
>>17365966
>all the girls I know that act like that have had sex with more guys they can count
That doesn't mean any of them respect or even like them. It simply means they fuck them. Also, measuring romantic success by body count is fucking retarded, and you know it.
A few months ago I signed up for Comcast which might have been retarded but I don't have many other choices in my area. I signed up for $80 for a high speed internet/tv package.
I'm basically looking to cancel the tv portion, but keep the internet. I tried calling today and I was told "that's actually part of a bundle you signed up for so it's cheaper to just keep the internet and tv rather than cancel the tv and keep the internet."
Here's some of the bullshit fees I'm seeing which increases it.
(These two increased from $1.50 and $1.00 to the prices below a couple months after I signed up, lovely).
Broadcast TV Fee 4.50
Regional Sports Fee 3.00
Taxes and fees $10.19
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Franchise Fee 3.09
Local Programming Fee 2.04
FCC Fee 0.08
State And Local Sales Tax 4.98
I understand that Comcast doesn't really control all of the fees here but it's really scummy of them to not let you know.
Anyone with experience with dealing with Comcast? I'm sadly locked in a contract for 2 years because I wanted the lower price per month but I signed up for $80 and I pay around $96 which is pretty fucked.
I'd just get Google Fiber too but it's not in my area. Never thought Comcast was as bad as people say.
Last bump.
>>17365959
Yeah, those are the same fees/charges on my bill. Nothing you can do about it. That's a government/regulatory thing.
It's on you, man. As a consumer, it should be obvious that there are taxes and fees. Since this is your first time signing up for this type of service, it's understandable you didn't know. But it's definitely something that happens with every company like Comcast. They're not going to tell you when you sign up, because it's not a conversation worth having. They assume that you know.
You were a newbie, so you didn't know. The fact is, those fees would still be there even if you chose a cheaper package. And they're still there if you went with another company.
Take this as a learning opportunity.
Every time I talk with my boyfriend I always feel like such a shitty person. I have a difficult time paying attention and that causes him to be upset from time to time, which is understandable. However, it's not like I'm not trying. I'm trying my best, but I just can't focus to save my life. Recently, we were having a casual discussion and I was doing worse than usually. I could tell right away that he was pissed off. I just felt so fucking terrible about it because at that point I was fucking hopeless. Ever since then, his mood has changed and every time I try to talk to him, I always end up annoying him in some way and it makes me so fucking upset knowing that it's my fault and I can't do anything to fix it. So, to make up for it I usually write self depreciating sentences. I know it's not good to beat yourself up, but honestly I don't know what else to do.
>>17365949
You need to find a nice quiet place to talk. Talking in public is retarded if you want to pay attention to someone. Tell him that if he really wants to talk, you can talk at a quieter space.
>>17365970
We're always talking alone for the most part, we like staying home more than going out. Even when we do go out, it's almost always quiet.
>misspells disgusting
There is no hope for you anon
How to deal with...
Bf of five years - i just turned 30 he is 33.
I genuinely believe he loves me but he has never really seemed super attracted to me. Initially I greeted this with: get in even better shape, grow out hair, tan, wear more makeup/brand name clothes he likes but no matter what I did I never felt that sizzle from him.
Now I am getting tired of it and I don't like sex because I don't have fun and it feels like hes struggling to cum.
I feel like he has unrealistic needs and I dont like feeling loved as a person but like shit in bed.
In all other respects a great bf
He's gay.
Get a strap on and dress like a tomboy.
>>17365944
He always talks like shit about gay people. Ive seen him checking out super young thin girls with long hair
Like high school age
>>17365936
It's a Y chromosome thing. A lot of men get things the way they like them and then just coast - some might say get in a rut - and just don't realize the need to work at keeping a relationship alive.
He almost certainly doesn't realize anything's wrong and will be surprised if you tell him. But you'll have to tell him (or give up) because he's not going to figure it out on his own.
I dont really know where else to turn with this, so I thought I would just put it out there.
I have had the worst last 8 months of my life. My best friend of 12 years died in a car crash, my wife left me after almost a whole year of a loveless farce and my band who i spent most of my time working on broke up. It was the lowest point of my life, and i did attempt suicide but was unsuccessful. I wanted nothing more than to die; every night as i went to sleep i would dream of killing myself. Then, things started improving in life. I discovered new friends, took mdma and lsd for the first time and had amazing experiences, my writers block disappeared, i started a new band with some amazing people, but best of all im now in a relationship with my best friend; a girl I've known for so long who even helped me through my marriage breakdown. She meant the world to me as a friend and meana even more to me now.
Life seems to be getting better, but my suicidal urges haven't gone away. At night when i sleep alone i still think of ways to do it, and i have found myself hating myself saying that its all temporary and that everyone will leave again. I thought that when things started getting better the thoughts subside but its still there. Its got me thinking: what is the point of being happy when you still want to die? Nothing will change it. What is wrong with me?
I have suicidal thoughts when im sad and i have them when im happy. What is the point?
Are you doing MDMA regularly? Serotonin loss no joke, I've never been suicidal (besides the "oh, I just wish I'd never wake up" feeling that I'm sure everyone has), but the days following heavy ecstasy use I'd start contemplating ways to kill myself.
If not that, then maybe you're not as happy as you think you are? Maybe you think you're happy because these "good" things have been happening to you, and because your life seems like it's on an upward slope. But there's still probably something missing... do you actually care for your best friend beyond friendship?
I don't know. I guess what I'm saying is that maybe you're not truly happy, maybe you just feel the need to THINK you're happy because good things have been happening.
>>17365897
>suicidal urges haven't gone away
They don't go away. Or at least they haven't for years for me. And it's fine. I have develped a part of my personality to dismiss them instantly, because I believe that suicide is 100% against my beliefs.
>>17365905
Semi-regularly. Like once a fortnight but ill do 2-3 during the night. LSD once a month if that. I know its dangerous but fuck it i lost out on being 18 and 19 because i decided to get married young. Fucking dumb idea.
To be perfectly honest I've cared for her more than just a friend for longer than I can think. Even my ex-wife told me that she thought we would be good for each other. I think im starting to feel love again, but its only recent so time will tell.
You make sense though anon. I just equate good things with happiness. If something is missing i wish i knew what it was.
Can someone please explain an autistic manchild what's going on with the world right now, and what can I do about it?
I'm in northern europe, disqualified from the military, regularly needing nonvital medication, and I have no idea what's happening. Turkey had or did not have a coup, Russia is becoming more Russia, China is starting a war with somebody over some sea or something, the US is about to elect a talking turnip for a president, Africa has been weirdly quiet, the UK is about to break into pieces, and I have anxiety.
What can I, being white native-born scandinavian not living in a large city, expect to happen next? Should I be preparing for a war or famine over here, what is a realistic course of action right now?
I have no family of my own but I have a mom and a sister to look after. And I'm worried.
>>17365878
You should open your home to immigrants and let them fuck your relatives
Its the right thing to do
>>17365881
I'm sorry I called your candidate a turnip.
Can we have some actual answers?
>>17365921
I'm sorry you live in an irrelevant country
Hello anons, take the time of the day and love yourself, because if we don't start, we can't expect others to do the same for us.
Sure sometimes things maybe terrible and are out of control. But take that first step, and love youself. No matter what you think you are, there's bound to be parts of yourself that you love
Go on and get lovin'
Pic unrelated
Tell em
My nigga
Neat sentiment, but despite any accuracy it's devoid of even basic utility.
I haven't slept in 35 hours, it's 11:38 am, and I'm going to continue keeping myself awake with stimulants while drugging myself into apathy with sedatives.
>>17365879
I don't get it, are you loving yourself with that action or nah?
looking to self teach myself to drive.
I got a car and a huge empty parking lot to myself.
Is it possible and if so where do I need to look for info and tutorials.
also I'll be driving a manual car.
Yes, it's possible, but you might damage the car, someone else or their property.
Get a realistic car simulator with a clutch and drive that first
Tutorial:
>get in
>put seatbelt on
>make sure handbrake is on
>Press the clutch pedal to the bottom, and keep it there
>move the gear stick to first position
>fully press the brake pedal
>start the engine (fully rotate the key)
>disengage hand brake
>slowly disengage brake pedal (if you're horizontal it should be ok)
>VERY slowly: disengage the clutch until the car starts shaking - keep it in position. if you disengage too much, the engine will die
>accelerate just slightly
Congratulations, you're a driver
To stop, press BOTH the clutch and brake pedals
>>17365902
Also, to stop driving just follow the EXACT reverse order.
Leave the car with either 1st speed (if you're going up) or reverse speed engaged. (if you're going down). Don't leave it neutral unless the terrain is perfectly horizontal
Why does it seem like I always have nothing to talk about ? it's not about social anxeity, even with people who are close to me ( friends - family ) I have nothing to talk about, it's just awkward silence or talking about stupid shit to evade awkward silence.
>>17365851
Better to be silent than talking about useless shit
I mean, I was like you, I was worried I had nothing to say. That was because I had nothing light hearted to say and I would rather talk about something interesting.
I learned that being silent is often the way to go. Only talk when you have something important to say. At most, I have one conversation per week with my acquaintances, usually about school and to catch up. Those are for maintenance rather than winning impressions.
No, beeing serous doesnt work. If you wanna be miserable and alone for the rest of your life go and do what you do but if you want to talk with people and i assume you want that , otherwise you wouldnt post this here, listen practice the golden rule
<make an observation about a shitty think in your enviromnent,then ask shitty dump questions. After that start feeding the conversation with more questions etc. Its better with people even when you talkk about useless shit
>talking about stupid shit to evade awkward silence
It's 99% of all talks on this globe, just git gud at at repressing the void.
Also this 1% happens sometimes and changes lots for you.
What tools are best for removing a tiny shard from my brother's sole?
needle, alcohol
Exorcist
Sanitized tweezers. Once you get it, make sure to rubbing alcohol it, dry it, add neosporin and bandaid.
Hey /adv/ice.
Got a 10 mg vial. It says 7/2016 is it expired?
I wanna shoot it now.
But what do ?
Not expired, do it
Dont do drugs
Can anyone tell me if its expired?
Bump bump
>smoking cigarette outside depressed in morning
>head swimming with despair and shame
>neighbor normie Chad comes home from wherever and he's cussing at someone, he can see me
>start nearly having a panic attack because I'm a neet subhuman
Is this normal?
Given that you frame yourself as inferior, yes, it's normal for a broken and deficient thing to panic at perceived contrast.
At such a point you might as well get down on your knees and orally pleasure Chad on the spot. Let him use your ass if he wants. Because functioning in such a way renders you slave to Chad and probably everyone else kin your environment.
Ditch this notion of weighing yourself relative to some ideal, if you aren't using it to improve. It's naive and shows you don't know how life or people work.
>>17365839
>Ditch this notion of weighing yourself
You do know that acting like nothing you say or do has any societal effect is just as stupid as assuming it has everything to do with such, yes?
>>17365910
Depends what you mean by "societal effect". Some people's impact on their environment as far as branching outcomes probably really would be trivial, with any minute differences in other people quickly reconverging to the general range they would have been had you not existed at all. The idea of a butterfly effect is quite real, but often overstated in short range magnitude.
Otherwise, yes, it's incorrect to assume you're invisible. Or whatever you're trying to say. The point is that the OP would be served much better with a different lens to view the world.
>Age
>Professional occupation / Area of studies
>Number of sexual partners
>Number of relationships
>Something random about you / how you feel
22
Journalism
3
4
When I was a kid, I didnĀ“t have a lot of friends or a very dynamic social life, so I spent a lot of time practicing the piano and learning about music with my grandmother, who at one point was a private piano teacher
>>17365825
>20
>I've a profession (winery) but I dont work in it, would like to learn languages and something engineer lel
>0
>0
>I feel like shit
fuck
>>17365830
You fucked yourself up and he wasn't even trying to fuck you up.
>>17365825
26
Attorney
over 20
1
never want a husband or kids
Why would someone need friends?
>>17365818
To test your thoughts and beliefs - if you assume they are Human like you and you accept that your perceived truths can be factually wrong then friends would be a good way to test your perception; you could just argue with strangers, but you can also find people with similar interests (read: interests, not beliefs) and have prolonged conversations over the course of multiple meetings about topics which you wish to speak about.
These friends can introduce new things to you such as music, ideas and activities.
Thee friends can be connections for you to something you wish to access such as drugs or cheaper prices on items.
Being in a group of people you have grown to be more comfortable around can make you feel good if you do something with them. Going out in public with a group of trusted people can make you feel more safe or more confident.
These friends can possibly help you out if you are having an issue such as emotional confusion or money troubles.
I'm probably overlooking a lot of things so if I remember them, I'll come back an post them.
If you don't agree with anything I've posted, please confront me on it.
>>17365818
Basically what >>17366573 said alongside.
>help you get a job
>your friends are connected to other people
>doesn't hurt to have someone lookout for you
>you're less likely to be an autistic edgelord or at least appear so
>one of the friends can become your future gf/bf or spouse depending on how things go
>see things in from another's perspective
>>17366585
>>see things in from another's perspective
This is the one that has always interested me.
>>one of the friends can become your future gf/bf or spouse depending on how things go
This one too, I completely forgot to mention how deep and rewarding a relationship can become.
To all the femanons lurking here, I'm making this topic as an attempt to help you out. /adv/ helped me a little in overcoming my problems approximately 3 years ago. This is my attempt at paying the board back with words of wisdom.
This is directed to all the females here, but guys can listen in, too, and perhaps learn something.
Ever since I've entered the social sphere, grew confidence and got a life (so to speak), I've been observing women. Trying to understand them. Attempting to find a long-term partner. In my introspections to discover what I'm looking for, I've discovered a flaw in modern women, that very few people are aware of. Now I know what that last sentence sounds like, but bear with me here:
The word of the day is 'confidence'.
Women, like men, come with a certain set of behaviors and desires that are instilled in us by our very genes, by evolution itself. One such trait is a woman's instinct to find confidence in a man. Girls, you are handling this trait horribly wrong. 99.9% of all girls I've ever met strut around - trying to find the "perfect" guy like you're entitled to it. You refuse to date men who don't show confidence. I'm here to tell you - straight up, no bullshit - you will never find your "significant other" by dating only confident men.
I was a guy who had no self esteem. Confidence is one of the greatest achievements any guy could have. It's the gateway to success for us. Confidence can move fucking mountains. Now, when it comes to a relationship, it's crystal clear to me what does and doesn't make for a happy couple. I know this is going to sound extremely biased, but I swear on my life it's true. Girls who date guys without self-esteem are signing up for a relationship with the true potential to last a lifetime.
>>17365809
Why? Because if you support a guy who's on the ground, reach down and pull him up, inspire him to do greatness, he will be in-debted to you. His greatest moments in life will be a memory you share with him. That shit, right there, is "80 year old grandma & grandpa who married at 20 and are still happy together" material.
I know first hand of what it's like to build confidence all alone, without anyone's support. And sadly, that's what modern man is used to. Most guys are like me. We get our shit together on our own. And it's not fun. Not one bit. It's hard. And it instills a sense of distrust in women. Even if most of us don't realize it, we still know on a subconscious level that most women just want to use us. We do not respect you. On top of that, our confidence makes us aim higher and look for women who really are the complete package. A confident man is a highly wholesome creature most of the time. We now look for special and rare women who can unlock whatever hidden potential remains in us. Very few men out there are capable of maintaining their integrity after having built up their confidence. You're nothing to them. They're out of your league. Even if they have a 3/10 face or no money. Your intellect is nothing to them. Most things you complain about in men, though, are ultimately your doing.
Feminism is big these days. So I say grab that issue by it's horn and even the playing field on the dating scene. Guys ask out shy girls and losers all the time. It's high time you tried it out, too. Because real love blooms where both people are willing to help eachother grow and better themselves. And a confident guy? Well, there's not much need for him to grow anymore, so good luck trying to find meaning in that relationship.
In closing, you should aspire to build confidence in men, as opposed to seeking out those who already have it.
I guarantee your love life will improve.
Tl;dr