How do you convincingly fake not being angry when you are filled with seething rage?
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>>17366445
Immediately start talking about something completely unrelated to what made you angry.
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>>17366454
My problem is that I have to explain why I'm angry about these people fucking up at their jobs, TO the person who fucked up badly enough to cost me three months of my life because he doesn't understand speech, without seeming at all angry or dismayed at him, or implying that it was his fault.
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>>17366465
Well to start, maybe you can explain it on here and maybe someone will have advice on it.
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>Wait, are you asking me out?
What is the correct answer to this question?
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>>17366440
yes, deal with it.
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You just answer it honestly man don't overthink it.
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>>17366440
Whatever you're heart desires.
Or what's honest.
Could /adv/ help me determine what kind of stone this is?
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>>17366397
I think its carnelian, but im not sure..
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>>17366397
Kidney stone
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>>17366406
Oh, you!
So I met this girl on Tinder a few months back, got close and we call fairly often. She's really hot in terms of aesthetics, but has this really bizarre personality. She speaks in this really odd monotone voice, and makes every sentence sound like a question, and she will occasionally mispronounce simple words such as "turntable". From what I've seen of her social media, she has few to no friends, and once told me that she found Charles Manson hot, suggesting that Sharon Tate's killer wanted her unborn child for herself, a statement which viscerally repulsed me.
She also lashed out at me over snapchat last night after I uploaded a video of me with some female friends of mine at a party. She told me to "go back to those trolls", and when I explained to her that they were both in relationships with two of my closest friends, she asked how they could have boyfriends "looking like that". I basically told her that she got the wrong idea completely, to which she said "we'll see about that XD". No conversation since then. She basically went full-on psycho on me.
Is it just me that suspects she may have some kind of mental disorder such as borderline personality disorder, or Aspergers?
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Seems pretty reasonable to me
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She pretty well would have lost me with everything after
>She speaks in this really odd monotone voice
Just watch her out of curiosity. Wouldn't get involved if I were me.
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no
nono
nonono
nonononono
abandon ship, im not even joking. if shes this jealous and controlling and youre not in a relationship, when you do it will become literall hell. you will be munipulated and controlled by her. dont fucking do it.
please dlnt take this lightly, im being completely serious. block her and walk away. im not fucking around
There are no resources for someone like me to help make my decision. I feel like I'm at a loss.
In short, I'm a pervert who wants to get it on with dogs and has since I started my post-pubescent life. For the very first time it's becoming a possible reality, and is something my friend has now acted on for the first time too.
I'm also very sensitive (about sex, and in general), anxious, depressive, and have some deep self esteem issues. I don't see anything wrong with what I might do, but I also don't know if I could live with the shame. I also wonder if I should be with a totally different crew of people if they can't understand this hangup of mine.
What do you think /adv/? I kind of posted yesterday about this, but I still don't know what to do. This is the point where I feel I have to make a decision.
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>>17366352
>I don't see anything wrong with what I might do, but I also don't know if I could live with the shame.
See, this is where your story wears thin.
How does one not see anything wrong with it AND worry that they couldn't live with the shame?
I don't mind people making up stories for /adv/, I just wish they were better writers.
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>>17366360
This is the point of misunderstanding that makes me feel alienated from my friends. I don't understand it either, but it is VERY possible to not feel something is wrong rationally but still have intense (internalized?) guilt about it. Why can't people understand this?
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You want to fuck dogs or be fucked by them?
Either way, just keep this to yourself.
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I really want somebody to beat me up, possibly blunt force trauma me into a short coma. I am not going to do this. However, why do you guys think could be a reason I would I want something like this?
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>>17366261
What would happen during this short coma?
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>>17366275
Nothing really
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>>17366277
Can I have sex with you?
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Went on tinder thinking I would actually start a relationship with somebody
>Girls just looking for new friends
>Girls that already have bfs
>Girls that most likely want to fuck your dog
If I see one more "if you have a dog I'll probably swipe right" I'll delete this fucking app
>inb4 use OKC
Sorry, I don't really want to shell out money to get rejected and see who rejected me
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>>17366255
I've had a number of promising relationship-wanting girls from Tindr, might just be your age group. How old are you?
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>>17366292
18
Not gonna lie you are probably right in my case. Living in southern Louisiana sucks for 18yo guys unless you are shitting cash
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>>17366302
I'm 26, and the dating pool has probably shrunk to sluts and girls wanting a serious LTR. I'm in Nebraska, and am currently seeing two girls who want a serious relationship.
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>gf of 3 years
>break up
in the end there wasn't a future. but theres this feeling of wanting her back. shes moved on and told me she fooled around with a new guy. How do girls move on so fast?
I broke up with her, but damn. in 4 weeks. pretty sure she just installed tinder and found a match.
how do I get over her ? We are still friends. but fuck. there is a feeling of wanting her back but another of wanting to step up and meet new people.
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install tinder a slay sluts
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>>17366232
>How do girls move on so fast?
It only seems fast because you didn't know she had already broken up with you months ago. She didn't wake up last week and decide to break. She has been thinking about it and planning it for months. During that time, she emotionally disconnected herself from you and started thinking about new guys. The guy she fucked recently? He has been running around her mind for a long time. She just finally let you know about it when she got the courage to formally break from you.
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>>17366253
I broke up with her
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What is a nice way of telling a girl that if she doesn't want to go out, she doesn't have to make up excuses?
The catch is that I'm not 100% sure she is making excuses like she might have legitimate reasons for not going out rn
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>>17366229
"If you don't feel like going out, just tell me, I really don't mind."
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>>17366229
Wait until you ask her out again and say "By the way, if you're just not feeling it that's cool too. I won't be hurt."
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>>17366239
this. though to be honest if a girl wants to go out, she will make the time. there are extremely rare cases where someone might be too busy for some time, but i am the only case i know of where that happened, where id been busy for so long that i didnt see a girl after a month of promising, then finally did and we dated for six months.
but for the most part peopel make the time if they want to meet someone.
if a girl cant settle on a day then she clearly doesnt. i mean if she wanted to wouldnt she be inclined to say
>cant this weekend
>maybe next weekend?
ior you could even suggest that nad see. but when people say 'yeah im just really busy lately' they are too busy to care
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is suicide a good idea?
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>>17366216
Always.
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Yes but it's not practical. If you're so intent on killing yourself then live a little before you do. Ask out ALL of the girls, drink all the drinks, jump off the bridges, go where you're not supposed to etc.
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>>17366216
>is suicide a good idea?
No.
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tldr: gf wont do anything sexually and im unhappy but i love her
>be me
>22
>high sex drive
my gf is 23 and has a sex drive but repressing it because of guilt and her religion. she grew up in religious family. both grandparents were penecostal but he mom n dad wernt. they were kinda crzy and over protective, siad if she had sex or did sexual things before marriage she was a whore.
Had sex with first bf out of fear of him leaving, he took her v card and forced her to do sexual stuff for him . hurt her alot. he chested on her and laughed at her about it then she dumped him.
next bf caught her off the rebound and she fucked him right away , then dumped him
now.me months later, reinforces she will not not have sex agaon or sexual stuff till marriage. she cried whenevr she thinks of sexyal past or we do anything sexual she feels guilt and will cry.
i turn her ln because when we do get sexual shes wetter than a ocean. but feels extreme guilt about it afterwards.
she recently asked me if we could stop anything sexual for good. and idk what to say. i love her but im not sexually satisfied here and it makes me unhappy, but i cant force to do sexual stuff and make her hate herself.
what do
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>>17366211
Bro. She fucked two other dudes, and now she's not willing to do shit with you. You're just the nice kid that she's with right now so that she doesn't feel alone, but she doesn't like enough to fuck. It sounds like you're too pathetic to get another gf, so you don't really have any choice but to put up with it. Sorry mang.
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>>17366211
Get her some help from a therapist or something OP, that sounds like some pretty intense trauma for her.
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>>17366236
This.
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I need /adv/ about how to best go about learning Kanji. I've memorized Kana but everytime I attempt to read something remotely Japanese I have to look up what every single piece of Kanji means because there's so fucking many. Is there anyway I can go about this better or will I just have to look up what every single word is in Kanji?
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I would use memrise. Also, take post its and put them on things with the kanji and kana equivalence written on the post it.
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There are plugins for most browsers that display kana above kanji for beginners and children to be able to read. Start with manga or news articles aimed at grade school children. Learn words in kana first and kanji will come with seeing them so frequently while reading.
Also stop being a weeaboo fuk. This won't matter to you in 10 years.
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Hi /Adv/. I'm 22 years old and Im a total failure. Im fat. I have no friends. I havent even started college.My family thinks im useless as fuck. I wasted my life playing video games basically. Can i still turn it around adv? Is there still hope for this fat fuck that doesnt even have job experience
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What do you want out of life?
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>>17366192
Yea, if you do everything right and nothing dramatic comes up.
You have to actually do shit correctly though, and more so than people who started early.
Your chances are pretty bad though and expect to hate life for the next 10 years.
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>>17366199
I want to be able to make my parents proud of what i do. i want to make more than them as well (real estate developers...pretty hard). I wanna lose weight. I wanna have friends. but # one on my list is my parents and money
Ok so I asked out a girl i'm pretty close friends with, we've been friends for a couple years now and we tell each other pretty personal stuff. She rejected me (politely) and said she doesn't want this to hurt our friendship, what should I do? Keep being friends with her, or just let her go for good.
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>>17366187
>what should I do?
Simply walk away.
If you want a relationship with her, her saying 'no' isn't going to change that. You'll develop stronger feelings for her and interactions will just become more awkward and it'll suck even more when you see her with another dude
She wants just a friendship. You don't. Just leave it at that and start talking to other chicks, or at least do other things to get her off your mind.
Never pretend to be a girl's BFF or accept it when you don't want that. All you can do is let her go for good. And if you push for a relationship, she'll just think you're needy and creepy
Walk away
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>>17366258
It's gonna be tough seeing how she still is asking to play games and stuff, but I can't feel guilty for my feelings and my sanity i feel like is more important than being her friend.
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>>17366187
friendship = friendzone
You brought this on yourself desu.
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Okay, so I have a group of friends and within this group is this girl I kinda fancy. She isn't too part of the group, she doesn't attend too many events, hangouts, etc.
Here is the basic timeline, met her about 4 months ago, my friends added her to our groupme app. I started to make it a meme saying that I loved her, and she breaks my heart. Then I find out she has a bf, I still continue my meme, and create a separate groupme that included only her and I as a joke. She breaks up with her bf, then on this group she begins to message me,s tarted off as drunk texts and from there we text 24/7 without skipping a beat. Started off as jokes about how I loved her. She eventually tells me she broke it with her bf, then I begin to get to know her then we are at party she gets sloppy drunk and hooks up with me a bit. Repeat that a few times, still no sex though. Then we actually go see a movie together a couple times and hangout for few hours. See her maybe once or twice a week. This leads to last night.
A little bit about her, she's super hippy/bar type girl. So she goes out a lot.
So, last night I go with my friend to a bar really late. I text her that I'm there. She's drunk, I see guys talking her up, this throws me off really badly, felt somewhat hurt. She eventually sees me, then changes her attention all to me but she's drunk and I didn't enjoy that. Then I pay my tab and wait for her but she's busy with her friends and I see her hanging with her ex. I just leave, she drunk texts me that night to make sure I was safe didn't respond. Next day she brings it up about the awkwardness, I say I didn't notice but wanted to know more about what she was talking about. She refuses to talk about it, I ignore her, she says she misses me and now realizes she likes more than she thought. This started a conflict in me, was originally going to end it with slowly bailing. Now I want to stick around but I don't trust my judgment.
Need advice on what to do.
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Also she's been texting me don't really know if I should respond
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An hero then
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Ask her out for a drink, just the two of you.