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Two options:

1. Out of honeymoon period. The thrill of the new relationship is done maybe? It's not odd to not want sex or to not want to talk all the time after some time getting to know someone.

2. Losing feelings from his behaviour. Is he acting needy, clingy, beta, anything really that puts you off? Think about if it's something that's been nagging at you and pulling away from how you used to like him.

>>17367594
Well he actually is clingy. We work at the same restaurant and every time i move to a different room, he's bound to follow. He wants hugs and kisses every second of every day. I can definitely overpower him when it comes to authority

how old are you? how many partners have you had?

Forgot to also add, my gf flips out if even a girl from college messages me relating to an assignment

sounds like shes seflish

>>17367713
I asked her why she didn't ignore and she said that she 'was worried something could have been wrong and people commit suicide if they don't have someone to reach out to'. Makes literally no sense but I can see she's trying to make it look like she only replied to make sure he was okay and I'm a bad person for not wanting her to make sure someone isn't in need

Just find a different girl, fucking simple.

simply act as your own person, persay

>>17367550
the girl I actually want to fuck I don't have her number, and I don't think I could make it happen before I leave for the summer.

what do you mean by fine? like are you saving for retirement or are you just talking about having some extra cash incase the shit hits the fan?

>>17367542
Kinda both? Also taxes at the end of the year and shit.

Well I don't really know but good luck.

>>17367528

Move back in with Mommy and Daddy.

>>17367528
What is so illegal?

>>17367528
>It feels wrong, illegal, and disgusting to live like that.
Why? I'm particularly interested in what makes you say it seems "illegal"; I've heard people say it was wrong or disgusting, but this is the first time I've heard someone call it illegal.

Shameful bump

>>17367527
Kek you're a terrible friend and literally the reason r9k is a thing
>this dude is a total asshole and treated my one and only friend like shit
>but nah imma show him my tits he's hot

>>17367582
Yeah my thoughts exactly,
So should I just own up and accept the punishment for it?

Depends.
Are you actually friends with her outside of your romantic feelings? You need to search deep down and figure that out.

If you are actually friends, and just want more on top, stay friends, try for more. Just know this is a hard route and will undoubtedly make it hard to move on if it doesnt work a second time.

If you are not really friends and just want a relationship then cut her out, you'll be scarring your heart otherwise.

Just take some time and think about the how and the why and go from there.

>>17367579
Thanks for the advice. But there's one more part. There is now lots of distance between us physically, which plays into why I'm not sure what route to take. What are your thoughts on distance and what route I should take?

>>17367579
And to provide an answer, I would like to keep a friendship with her, but also try for something more on top. I think that I'll remain friends for now and try for something more, unless the situation just becomes too unbearable in the distant future.

man i was in the same place only a couple of weeks ago
its like seeing my self post.
what i did was work hard and saved a lot of money.
working gave me so much energy that i could help around the house.
and i got my first girlfriend at work so now i have no time to play vidya.

so my advice is work hard at work and at home and enjoy every second of vidya.
especially at home because if your parents love you they'll help you
i helped my parents so much they bought me my first car

hit up a college for people looking for roomates, might be able to find someone who wants to split a room. don't know how many hours you are working, but if you bumped them up it would be less then contributing around your house. How much is rent around your place of living?

>>17367496
It's a power play. Your parents want you to try and move out or advance in life. They don't want to see you waste so much time.

So decide what you want. Do you want to join the workforce and get a place of your own? Do you want to get an education?
Once you decide, come up with a plan, present it to your parents and ask for their help. They will back off of the 8 hours a day thing for as long as they see you working toward this plan. They may even help you financially if you move out.

>>17367487
disclaimer - I am not a physcian

However I have been in health care since 1995

My suggestion would be go Med tech if science interests you. If you still have the desire to go to become a physician after you have finnished your bachelors - you will have a solid foundation. If you decide that med school is too much, then you still have a career compared to someone with a generic pre-med or biology degree.
If nursing is your thing go for an RN, then nurse practitioner.
Or if you neither of those sound good go for Physician Assistant.

The real question is do you like dealing with miserable people?

>>17367538
Well, I suppose I like the idea of "helping people" in the abstract, and I'm currently burnt out on my current real estate career path. I realize that's flimsy justification, but I hate that my hands are idle.

>>17367487
To be accepted in to med school it's not good enough if you just "pass chem and physics". It's not easy and every year a large number of applicants are turned away. You'd need:
>a high GPA (3.0 or better - so mostly A's and few B's)
>letters of recommendation
>a high MCAT score
>healthcare experience
>financial resources

Have you even earned your undergrad yet? How old are you and what's your current level of schooling?

yes. because exercise doesnt actually burn that many calories. evolution has made it hard to lose weight cuz it was pretty hard to put it on.

on average you only burn 105 calories when running a mile. assuming you do that, you still got 400 calories to account for. thats the cardio, the one supposedly good for burning calories. lifting weights doesnt burn much at all.


some advice for cutting calories
>get a food scale

this helps immensely. you think a bananas 105 calories but i can be a lot more or a lot less. its great.

>replace one meal a day with veggies

not hard, yeah? take your least favorite meal, breakfast or lunch, then replace it with veggies. you still get your two favorite meals later, but you can enjoy larger meals because you had a simple 100 calories of veg earlier

>low carb

bread and noodles and such are a horrible source of calories without adding that much to flavor. cut em out and you can add more of things like meat and sauces that actually contribute to flavor.

i also hear using squash is a great replacement. just google 'low carb replacements' for more information on recipes.

>take one day a week and just eat veggies.

jsut eat veggies / fruit one day a week. it can cut you from say 1500 to 1000 calories for the day, and helps balance out the other days where youknow you probably went a little far over.

>only drink water

. drinks dont make you feel full and really all they have going is flavor. drink only water to reserve calories for actual food.

>hershey syrup

to beat sweet cravings i just do a banana with a tablespoon of hershey syrup. its only 50 calories and gets that chocolate flavor so it helps. and one tablespoon is way more than a banana needs.

>dont be afraid to check for calories on foods.

i avoided ketchup for a long time cuz i figured it had too many calories.

its only 15 calories per tablespoon. thats it. one tablespoon is enough to cover a burger. especially if you take off the buns

Either you factor that in and continue to lose 1lb/week (TDEE - 500 = -1lb/week) or you don't factor that in and lose the weight even faster. 1000cal under TDEE is the recommended lowest ( -2lb/week), but you can go below that for a little bit.

It's very simple, allow me to use myself as an example.

My daily maintenance is 2500 calories, without doing anything. If I wanted to lose weight, I'd eat 2000 calories.

If I started to exercise, I would burn more calories, so my maintenance would then be 3000 as an example. I would then need to eat 2500 to have my maintenance minus 500.

Understand?

bump

anyone here go tru it?

Don't fap for a few weeks. See if that helps.

Try calling her but it seems like you scared her when you got mad.
Anymore info?

>>17367476
what was she crying about OP? you getting mad?

is op still here?

respect their relationship and move on

>>17367456
She seems pretty happy with it and I wouldn't like to fuck up their relationship but I have been keeping this for myself for so long that I want to tell her and there is the dichotomy

>>17367526
I understand where you are coming from but remember there are around 4 billion women on this earth. Its selfish of you to ruin what they have. How would you like it if you were dating her and in love and someone tried to ruin your happiness? Just cut contact and actively try and find another girl. You can't always get what you want

I'm 29, and I'd date a 19yo girl. Zero fucks given.

>>17367419
>consenting adults
>no other relevant information
I don't see the problem here.

You're living the dream faggot. Now stop being a little pussy and get banging that chick.

Nothing really matters?

Reality is fucked up.

Yeah?