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One last shot, what's the worst that could happen? 2016-07-18 06:57:07 Post No.17368151
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One last shot, what's the worst that could happen?
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We dated a bit in her senior year of high school. She was deathly shy and I had fallen head over heels for her. We had a few dates and hung out a handful of times, and talked quite a bit. Then as her senior year picked up, she got more busy with captaining a team, working part time, and she's told me her parents push her to get straight A's, stressing her to tears. We went off and on and made time when we could for about 6 months. Because of the off and on schedule, we never got passed a hug, also because while I wanted and had so many opportunities to kiss her, I didn't feel right if she couldn't feel comfortable hugging me. She told me a few times that she had feelings for me, but is just really shy. Time went by, and I got fed up with how things were going. It got to the point that I was the only one making an effort to do anything, and I passive aggressively brought it up. She said she did have feelings for me, and she knows it looked like she was stringing me along, but "It's not fair to you, and I'm so so sorry, anon."
She's always been awkward about dating. I was the farthest she had ever done anything with dating-wise, and still am. It's been about a year since then, and I've only messaged her once since then, apologizing for how things ended, that I was a dick for bringing things up the way I did (I basically told her I was the only one who cared enough to pursue the relationship, so it'd be better for both of us if we stopped.)
>I'm gonna message her. She's been on my mind at least a few times a week for the past year. I might not mean anything to her anymore, but she still means the world to me. Like I said, I really fell for her.
>I'll post basically what I want to message her, but I would love tweaks/advice from the female perspective, but will take any advice/outlook on how this will turn out. I don't talk to her anymore anyways, so I have virtually nothing to lose.
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OP again
What I'm pretty much gonna message her. Thoughts?
How I look at it is, you said you didn't have time for us because you had to captain your color guard team. You had to work and you said your parents pushed you to do well in school. You were too busy at the time. But you also said you had feelings for me. You've been out of high school for a while now, and myself for even longer. While it's obvious that makes us both busy with our own pursuits, I can't help but feel that if we met at a later time, as adults instead of high schoolers, that things could have been different. We both have more freedoms now that we're not bound to high school. I can admit I still have feelings for you after how long. Maybe it makes me crazy for thinking to ask this of you, but is there any part of you that thinks it's worth giving a real shot?
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>>17368156
Also note I'm not gonna send >>17368156
right out of the blue. I'm gonna ask her first off if we can talk, and see if she's even willing to hear me out about what happened.
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I'm going through a divorce and I feel like shit, I still love her but our relationship and marriage is toxic. It's the best thing for the both of us and for our son. We both a mutual agreement about him, I will be his main provider and she will have him on the weekends... I'm staying at my sister's at the moment, sleeping on an air mattress.... I'm depressed as fuck and I want things to go back to normal, normal as in I have my own place, and happy with my son... Someone please tell me the pain will go away soon.
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It will. It will pass, and someday you'll woke up feeling great. I'm sorry you have to pass through this... but you made a brave decision. You're admirable because you're strong enough to survive. and YES you are.
i hug you from the distance, OP
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It's a scary feeling, I've been with her for 5 years and now I'm back on my own. I have my family support but there's a loneliness that lingers with me. I love my son dearly and the challenge of raising him is will be difficult because he has a mild case of autism.
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Need help: Hot chick but she's mormon 2016-07-18 06:35:54 Post No.17368085
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Need help: Hot chick but she's mormon
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>been chatting up this hot chick for awhile
>brunette, big tits, that sort of thing
>find out they're Mormon
>they invite me to come hang out at their church
I am not a Mormon, nor do I ever intend on being one, and they're obviously trying to get me to join the church. Do I just tell them no or do you think there's a slim chance they're NOT trying to get me to drink the kool aid?
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If you have no intention of becoming Mormon you should drop any idea of being with her. She'll only date you if you are Mormon, and must be at least fairly heavily religious considering she invited you. Your chances are very, very slim. Save everyone the headache and drop out.
Also what state do you live in? Just curious.
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>>17368091
That's not true.
I dated a Mormon girl once. She and her family were very nice and she never once tried to convert me.
Granted, if she's asking you to hangout at her church, that may mean something different.
Why don't you just ask her to hangout outside of church? Say you're uncomfortable with the church thing and suggest somewhere else. It is entirely possible that she goes to her church recreationally and simply suggested it because it is what she would normally do with a friend.
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How do I learn and train to control my ejaculation and orgasm as a male?
I've seen a book about it somewhere and I know it's possible for a man to train yourself to the point that you can last as long as you want and then cum within a short time, if wanted by any of the sexual partners or "time runs out" for the intercourse.
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start masturbating and before you cum stop, wait for it to die down a bit and then go back at it, repeat this for a while and do it whenever you masturbate, should get the hang of it after a while.
As a child I was emotionally abused by my parents, and to say that they were controlling is an understatement. I was treated like a marionette doll. Every aspect of my life was up to them. My friends, my love life, my schooling, my interests, my hobbies, my passions, my dreams, the music I listen to, the movies I watched, the clothing I wore, my spirituality, my political beliefs, my sexuality, my emotions, my feelings, and so much more. If I attempted to defy them in the slightest. Well. I don't want to talk about it. But at midnight 3 days ago (my 18th birthday) I woke up my parents and gave them a big "fuck you" and some middle fingers. I trashed the house and took anything important to me and left. I'm currently at my friends house who was emancipated at 16 because he was physically abused. For the past few days I have been getting very drunk and very high. But now the question is what do I do now? How can I reclaim the childhood that was torn away from me?
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Looking for something that is long gone will only get you in a hole, OP. Look for ways to recover and to become someone you're proud to be as well as someone free from their past. Also the habits of drinking and playing with drugs will take you to much lower lows than anything you've faced with your parents, ensure that you'll never have even a glimpse of a childhood, and fuck your future. Not good for you, friend.
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first love dumped me -gay sob story inb4 2016-07-18 05:41:30 Post No.17367954
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first love dumped me -gay sob story inb4
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hi /adv
i met my now ex girlfriend in fourth grade - lets call her... "ashley" for sake of anonymity. we became quick friends, inseparable, adventurous, i knew i loved her the moment i met her. she was just so full of such...light and love.
the summer of sixth grade came and i had to move but we stayed in contact over facebook
while talking we ended up confessing our feelings for each other and dated long distance over three years. we were never able to see each other but that didnt stop us.
as middle school came to a close i became more and more anxious with how serious our relationship was becoming. i didnt know how my family would react to the news. i hated myself for being how i was, for being gay. ashley has always been so much stronger than me she didnt worry about other peoples opinions she just was so much stronger
this is getting long alread, so to sum up
i told her i was seeing someone else to hide my gay shit bc im a huge coward.
i broke her heart and we didnt talk for years. junior year of high school we reconnected and started dating again
senoir year, present, she broke up with me saying she could never trust me again, that it could never be the same.
i still love her and i miss her so much. im thinking about suicide desu
she doesnt want me to talk to her anymore.
tldr; im gay for childhood friend and took a cowards way out and know she'll never trust me again
help
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There are other people in the world.
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thanks for responding, based anon
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I feel deep pointlessness and I don't know why? 2016-07-18 05:36:34 Post No.17367940
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I feel deep pointlessness and I don't know why?
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Venting more than anything, but would appreciate any advice if you could think of it
>19M
>About to start college full time because I took a year off to work/save up/decide what I wanted to do
>Living with two good friends, and come August a 4th room mate that seems cool for the most part
>Transferred to different store under same company to work in town. Things seem good there
>Plenty of hobbies, although certain ones I can't do in town because no place to do them (Shooting range for one)
>Never talk about this with anyone because I just don't care to vent to people I personally know. I don't feel it solves anything, and that their responses are biased
>Going off of prior experience/women telling me, I guess I'm a handsome guy. I've been told 7 or 8/10
>Only a few small time relationships though so no real experience
>I've had a handful of chances that I've either fucked up or just wasn't interested
>Sometimes feel desperate not for anyone in-particular, but for a relationship in general. It's been two and a half years since my last official, 9 months since I've even been interested in anyone
>Watching anything with romance makes me feel sick because I don't experience it much. Not like "Wahhh I'm lonely" sick, but physical nausea.
>Until school starts I just hang out with two friends, play vidya/4chan/cook and work.
I feel like right now I'm just on standby until school starts in a month. I'm really excited to start my degree, and except for these slumps once or twice a month, lasting a few days each, I'm very happy with my situation. But I'm always gloomy at times because lack of romance in my life. I feel like these are my prime years and I'm worried about going through 3-4 years of schooling and not experiencing anything.
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Just pick a girl and go for it man. If you're a 7-8/10 it should be no problem. You're never going to find your fucking fairytale love, but you can at least try to make one.
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duuuuude I'm 20 right now and will be finishing school in March. I had just been mindlessly grinding out school, smoking weed, working part time job, and hanging out with friends. On paper it doesn't sound like I did anything (and maybe it isn't) but I did grow a lot as a person during these last 2-3 years and have changed my thinking vastly.
I can't wait to be done with school and move forward in life and actually get out there and try new things but I definitely felt (like up until a few weeks ago) that I had been missing out on shit but that's only because that's what everyone else tells you. You don't need validation from others to make you happy. Even if it seems like a load of crap just keep moving forward even if it's baby steps (going to one party, finishing the first term at college, joining X club or whatnot) and you will look back and realize how far you've come.
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Are there any jobs that pay close to 15 an hour? I have some college hours and I plan on going part time and working full time.
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I worked in a call center where the starting rate was $14/hr with a raise every 6 months
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Rob a liquor store.
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>be me
>F 20yr old
I started a friendship with a girl and she's really cool. I feel like I'm too boring for her. I'm not trying to change myself but I want to hang out with her more and develope our friendship. I haven't had a friend in a long time so, yea, I'm excited that she's in my life but I'm also completely clueless on how to have a friendship. When we're in person, things seem okay but our texting is dull and I feel like It's because I dont know how to text a friend.
I need advice on how to get past this early stage of our friendship and develope a deeper connection. I would love to have this girl in my life as a friend, or best friend for a long time.
Keep in mind I'm female and I'm not gay. I just havnt been in the friend fake for a few years. I don't want to come on as too strong but i also don't want to come off as boring or uninterested
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This is such a contextual issue lady. You know what your friends is like better than any of us could ever hope to guess. You have an infinitely better clue about how she will react to things and take certain advances in your friendship. Fucking Christ, what is wrong with people? Do you even think when posting or is this just for attention?
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>>17367883
Be yourself. Try to be a little more outgoing, ask interesting questions, keep conversation flow going, hang out together and to shit you both like. Don't drop your darkest secrets and lean fully on her yet, but if you just keep spending quality fellowship time together your conversations will occasionally become deeper until you get to that point. Once you're close, drop everything you need help with or are worried about on her (not all at once), there's no point in having a friend that you can only partially trust, or only trust to an extent. There's also no point in her being friends with a fake you.
Q: What do you find to be boring about yourself or the way you act, that she would become disinterested in a friendship with you?
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>onset ringing in ear a week ago, no especially loud noises or traumas that could've caused it
>saw doctor on wednesday, just cleaned out my left ear
>went to urgent care clinic next day because ringing was still there
>they just said to see an ENT
>earliest appointment I could get was this friday, the 22nd
>ringing is driving me insane, definitely don't want to live like this
Is there any hope that this is temporary and will go away or will I have to live like this forever? I know I can ask the ENT on friday but seconds feel like days to me as long as this ringing is going on and I just need some hope to tide me over til friday
tl;dr can ringing in ears that has been going on for a week go away?
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I've had it since i was 5, you get used to it dunno what lifes like without the constant shrill noise in my ear
Whats worse is visual snow which i thought was normal until i found out about it last year
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>>17367856
Your condition is called tinnitus. Not much you can do about it. Wait till your appointment with the ENT. He will do some tests, ask some questions.
>can ringing in ears that has been going on for a week go away?
Possibly. It's only been a week. I've known people who had it for years. You get used to it. In severe cases, psychological training is recommended. It's that or cutting the nerve, which makes you deaf on the inflicted side.
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Hey I am a 22 year old fatish male that has been single for a very long time. I have had one night stands but have not had a girlfriend for almost 8 years. Can you give dating advice? how can I meet people I might like? how do I start a conversation with them?
any tips in general really.
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lose weight.
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Do you think your weight is holding you back? Because it is much more likely to be your attitude.
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How do I become a more decisive person, /adv/?
Even mundane things like "what show should I watch today" drive me crazy with my indecisiveness. Let alone big things like career and education decisions.
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download an app that gives you random number generators and the like.
number your choices, set the limits for the number of choices, and let it randomly generate.
make sure you have whoever is with you hold you to dhwatever it chooses.
after awhile you will either
A) lovei t because it makes your choices
or
B) realize you do have a preference and dont want the app ruining it for you
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>>17367819
Flip a coin. Do what it tells you to do.
After a few times you'll realize how very little most choices matter, and you'll be less afraid to make them yourself.
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What do you do when you think the texting conversation is dying or the other person is trying to kill it?
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Be the stronger person in the scenario, bring it to an end before they do. You'll feel like you're in control, you'l probably maintain confidence, and you won't get pushed around.
Obviously do it in a way that suits the context. If you want to keep a solid relationship with the person, just say "well I'm gonna go, I'll catch you around" or something.
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First comment best comment, and it also has dubs. /thread
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Help /adv/! I've fallen in love with a girl who lives really far away, what do I do?
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pack your bags or fly her out
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>But I would walk 500 miles
>And-a I would walk 500 more
>Just to be the man who walked a thousand miles
>To fall down at your door
>DA DAT DAT DUH DUT DUH DANANUNANALANANANANANA
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Just saw a picture this girl sent me of one of our messages and next to my name in her contacts are the red X emojis, an SOS and an unlocked lock.
She sent the same image twice and in the second image it was just a smiley face. What does this mean, if anything?
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>unlocked lock
Her vagina
>sos
save her from her lack of sex
>xxx
Usually used to indicate sex
I could definitely be wrong, and it really depends on your personal relationship with her and her personality, but I think she wants to have sex.