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My resentment toward my girlfriend has started growing. We initially dated for a few months about a year ago, acquaintances before that. We got along awesome, did a lot of great things together, really promising that Im with someone I really click with..compared to the previously dated girls.

Then one of her harlot girl friends gets dumped, needs a crying shoulder, then girls nights out, new fun friends are made and i'm slowly sidelined. Not much time for me anymore, then at all, but plenty for the others. I got the message and broke that off. Felt like a real chump

Few months later she comes back, apologizes and wants another chance. I hesitantly go along, making her put in the work and for the sex why not. It's going good until this friend comes back in the picture again.

I definitely have negative feelings toward this friend after getting in between the girlfriend and I the first time around and also the same feelings I had of "was I not good enough for her? then that's her loss" are resurfacing.

Now I'm just on autopilot getting busy with work, thinking am I just being a bitch or am I having legitimate thoughts here? Now she's saying I don't have enough time for her blah blah and I've built it up in my head that it would be better just being friends

Am I being rational here??

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one of my friends thought it would be funny to wax a random patch of my leg about 6 weeks ago. i have quite hairy legs and the affected patch barely has any hair growth. how long or will it go back to normal?

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Anyone recommend a certain type of credit card? I know none of them are "good", but maybe one with a descent interest rate that you haven't been too disatisfied with.

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So I am writing a letter in past tense about a recent camping experience. Should I say "the mountains WERE beautiful" or "the mountains ARE beautiful"? What about " This was the coolest beach I have been to"?

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The world and the people in it are enemies. Every last one of them wants to hurt me.
But how can I ever win?

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tl;dr I think I'm being taken advantage of financially, what should I do?

>been working since I was 16, squirreling money away
>lent some money to a friend at university to help him with his project
>he started a company that later got bought out by a tech giant, earned me a nice amount of money
>still working full time

>don't really like people so don't have many friends
>spend a lot of time on the internet
>meet a girl and fall in love, buy her some stuff for her birthday a year later
>doesn't work out in the end, but remain friends
>seen her on cam so I'm not being catfished
>she says she's been stalked before so doesn't give out her details
>the guy she's currently with has her phone number as well as one of her internet friends, but I don't
>only way to contact her is via Skype
>talking less and less, has never initiated contact
>is having financial problems, her mum can't pay the phone bill in time and wants to borrow $250
>say I'll send it when I get to work, go to bed and wake up to 3 voicemails from her (goes through skype) to check whether I sent it
>even calls me at work to check whether I sent it
>we talk for a few hours when I get home and then she goes cold turkey again

>3 months later same thing happens, she needs $300
>keeps calling until I send it, then cold turkey

I know that I'm being taken advantage of here but due to the small amounts and the fact that I have money I don't really care. I realise though that it's unhealthy, so should I cut contact with her or say something before I do? I've left out a lot of details here but she's not really a gold digger as there are times when I've offered to pay/buy things and she's said no. I enjoy talking to her, but it seems she only really talks to me a lot when she needs money. Otherwise it's a few typed messages every other day or so

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Hello, I'm having a hard time chossing between CS and SOEN (I'll be starting this fall as an undergrad). I like to program but I really don't know how to pick one of them. Can you guys help me?

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Ever since I was little I've had a bad temper and I've also received all kinds of help with techniques on how to calm down but the problem is that when I start to get angry all those techniques go out the window along with any kind of rational thought. Whenever I look at situations where I lost my temper in hindsight, it's easy to understand and see how irrational I was being but by then it's too late. I need a way of reminding myself to calm down before I go past the point of no return and lose my temper. I'm pretty much a man now (19) so there are more consequences to my actions than before and I'm capable of doing a lot worse things too so I really want to fix this problem before something happens and it's too late. Any advice would be appreciated greatly.

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Started working out and eating lots/healthy about 9 months ago. Face was always a 6.5-7/10. Body went to 8 in my country (coz most ppl are lazy fat fucks so being a bit toned and low bodyfat is almost perfect).

Started getting the feeling that im too much for my girlfriend. Started getting attention from hot girls, telling me to go out sometime etc. I dont think it has to do with my body change only, mostly confidence issues i guess.

Eventually I broke up with my girlfriend , but thinking about it relationship had tons of problems, especially in the last 4-5 months.

We had problems in sex, I didn't think of her as attractive as I used to. She had some bad behaviour habits that came out annoying to me (her swearing, her complaining about almost everything - ex. couldnt find our language subtitles on a GoT episode and it was my fault bcz "I didn't download a proper Episode" she can't even speak english gee).

Also we had had a duiscussion about all of these, she said she was trying and that I wasn't respecting her trying to fix these for the relationship. I didn't see any progress.

Am I a bad person for breaking up with her ? Was this a toxic relationship for me ?

Also about the "not finding her hot any more etc" I guess a) my type changed. relationship lasted almost 3 years
b) getting attention from more attractive females instantly power ups your ego I guess ?
c) she wasnt ugly. a strong 6/10

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Guys i have a dilemma, i have a medical situation in which I need to get a full nights sleep. So baisically for the thats 11 to 6 , but rn im dealing with this girland she a late night talker and theres still lots of guys after her even though im dealing with her, what should i do/tell her?

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I cant cum from having sex, my head gets over sensitive and I find it impossible to climax.
I can keep going for like half an hour before it gets annoying and I finish myself off by hand.
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I've always been pretty absent minded and airheaded but it seems to betting worse and worse. I'll have conversations to my partner then immediately forget what I've said and i fear that I might have repeated things.

I've locked my keys in my car three times in the past 12 months, each time with the keys still in the ignition. I forget important items that I need like my gym clothes, phone, etc and also frequently leave items behind at friends houses or cars. Constantly losing my phone/keys in my own house.

I'll suddenly forget the name of a family friend I've known my life or a work colleague I've worked with for years.

I study fine and get above average grades, it just seems i can never pay fucking attention to anything. Should I see a doctor or is this normal.

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Is it bad to have incest fantasies without actually having any siblings? It's not like I can actually act on them but I've got some weird wanna-be sister complex where I'm just obsessed with the idea of having a sister and caring for and protecting them aswell as having an intimate relationship with them. It's something I've always thought about and I even kinda fulfilled this through my best childhood friend who I've always looked up to as a sister figure and even ended up fucking her. But I can't shrug off the feeling that what it's wrong and that it's more messed up than I realize. Feel free to share any experiences you have with stuff like this, it'd be a bit calming to know I'm not the only one who has fantasies like that.

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1st relationship i was in in 6th grade i told her that i loved her, and she broke it off on the stop. (we had been texting all night) thats one of the most pathetic things in my life that i can think of, and i have told only one person.

2nd relationship i was in, i was i guess not clingy enough because almost all the things she said i couldnt trust and i thought she wasnt serious. we only had a serious discussion once, and i learned that she'd been raped as a child. eventually we stopped talking because she didnt think i was into the relationship enough. besides experience, is there anything I can do to improve knowing the acceptable boundaries with a girl? i dont really understand how playful i should be and how distant/jokingly mean is a good amount. any anons got advice?

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Hey /adv/
I am in a tough spot. My family thinks they are taking care of me WHICH IS A FUCKING LIE. My family moved in recently with my uncle "dads brother" and cousins "disrespectful pieces of shit". I cannot stand any of them. But we are in no shape to move because we pay my uncles bills while he goes off and gambles like a fucking faggot. I have a job making 7.75 an hour in the US. Been here for half a year. The longer I stay here the more pissed off I become. My mom and dad are okay with feeding his gambling addiction his note is outrageous. My parents get angry with me each time I plan to take a loan out I have great credit. My brother doesn't like living here either I may add. So /adv/ am I better off alone or what I am having it hard I don't know what to do I can barely sleep anymore.