Damn. i have a problem with myself for a good few years now. I really want to find a good loving girl for a relationship but for all these years the i only had 3 relationships with all ended within a month or shorter. One of the girl was a really fucked up person that could not think who she wants to be with, one was a both was fuckup me drinking too much and her being a asshole to me and the last one was my best friend for 2 years before we been together. She lived in a different city and she broke contact with me just as she did two times before. The problem is that i have been trying to hit up on my other long time friend for some time and it did not work out so well. I really like but even before i was intrested in her i was disgusted by her doing some casual sex with another friend with to me is unbeliveble. Fucking outside relationship with a friend or something. Stinks like some degeneracy or something. Anyway. Today i talked with my friend about me hitting on that girl and my problems with finding someone and one of the things is that somehow alot of people i know consider me a friend but noone thought of me as a person for a relationship. How the fuck im supposed to cope with this? What im doing wrong?
Self bump.
>>17369636
Why don't you try casual sex yourself? Fucking annoying faggot frog posters.
hi /adv/
>got my degree
>slaved trough internships
>first internship was at a multinational industrial tech company
>really stiff "archaic" envrioment
>strict management, high degree of management
>extremely regulated because of the industry it is in
>wasn't able to become friendly with anyone and felt quite alienated fast
>think maybe it is the company
>second internship at a bit smaller tech company
>prides itself on employee "self-management" which just resulted in me screwing up all my deadlines
>have a bit of awkward conversations with my direct colleagues
>try to lunch with my cubicle colleagues
>notice that I'm not really fitting in
>eventually stop that
>end up isolated working again
>company now wants to hire me for real
I don't know what to do /adv/
I'm not the least social person I know and I do have friends but I just keep ending up isolated at work and it's really bringing me down
is this normal? is this my fault? should I try again at a different company or hope that things will get better?
No worries I have a hard time truthfully connecting to people too. I just have small talk with most and then avoid doing social stuff with those I dont like. If its forced it will get awkward fast. Give up on trying to like everyone and focus first onto making one friend who you have something in common with
>>17369696
do you really think it will work even after half a year?
I think most people already consider me weird
How do I approach people on the street for potential dating, friend making, information chatter exchange.
I see all these interesting and appealing people every day from my window, they're constantly walking under my eyes and I can filter the shit from the good people, but I'm too autistic to know how to approach a complete stranger. I always ask myself who the hell am I staring at, who is that person. Even a name would be enough.
Boop
>>17369578
on the street its not something you do so much. its rare to strike up a conversation on the street wtihout reason. its al ittle easier with pokemon GO cuz we all know whatsup, but outside of that, its weird on the street.
you generally meet people from shared activities and places, and the street isnt really a place you hang out. its people on their way to somewhere else, so why would they want to stop and talk,
Have comfy internship that is boring but pays well (15 an hour) considering I dont have a degree, and I can easily see myself going insane for going in every day 8-5 just helping people who can't do anything with their computers. From updating firmwares and windows update, to installing a bunch of applications, I will go insane if I make this my career.
I am an intern but the full timers do what I do and a little bit more (set up images, help out with network infastructure slightly), I don't think I'll be happy doing this.
Also I saw that entry level salary is $60k, that's alright but 20+ years I'll only be making $120k? What the fuck. I want to hit 6 figures at the latest 8-10 years.
I'm charismatic and success driven, is ti too late for me to escape the IT Help Desk? Or maybe are there other job opportunities that someone with a IT major can pursue?
How do I stop caring about global events?
I don't mean smoke a joint and lose my mind, I mean, keeping an informed view on things and well aware without getting worried or feeling prejudiced.
For example
>Immigration crisis in Europe
>Culture deteriorating
>X is terrible, Y is great
While all of them have a small semblance of genuine concern, particularly the first and recent attacks in Europe, I am becoming very paranoid and obsessive over it.
A few visits to /pol/ didn't help and even though I only briefly visited it, its begun to make me hyper cynical and discriminatory. For example gov is out to get us/SJW ruining everything. The rational side of me knows this isn't the case but I feel like I've become obsessed now trying to rationalize this.
How do I break from this mindset?
> few visits to /pol/
First of all don't do that unless you're already past the point of caring about outcomes.
Second of all, this is the same dilemma people have when they first realize what worldwide suffering is. They feel compelled to fix it because we've all been raising to take care of our immediate neighbors.
But you can't. Even if you were the president of a country you couldn't. So just kick back, throw your vote out occasionally, and laugh the rest of the time because ultimately you have no power in the situation and it wouldn't matter if you did.
>>17369491
Alright, I'll try to move toward that mindset. Its hard though, especially if what I think is the right view in how things are functioning but acknowledging that I can't do anything about it, despite that being the case, is difficult to process.
>First of all don't do that unless you're already past the point of caring about outcomes.
How do you mean?
And thanks anon.
Is there a way to lower make sex drive?
I'm in my thirties and could use with a method to control my sexual feelings. It's seriously as bad if I were 16 and I still remember those times. My wife's is a bit annoyed at times when I approach her in sexual manner pretty much every day.
Working out really hard and dieting seriously is the only I way to control them urges, but it's hard to get anything done when you feel exhausted all the time.
pic related, stuff that turns me on
ballectomy
>>17369436
try not too hard to approach her with obvious attempts.
I guess atm the two of you are in a situation where you already adapted to roles due to the differences in sex drives, right? This causes some degree of predictability and also acts a s a source of frustation.
Maybe instead, try to approach her with putting her in the center. Acts of kindness and payinga ttention to her needs and stuff like that. Take her out, or cook. Or simply take on jobs in the household; cleaning the dishwasher, taking trash out. This little shit s significant. Also women always feel pissed when they cant get physical affection through cuddling without immediatly getting the feeling that it has to end in sex.
Its literally hard but yeah; she shouldn t be bothered by diamond boner. This gives her kind of the impression that she acts on her own giving you sex.
I know it sucks; got the same problem. On the other hand it could be worse.
And it is not really an uncommon problem. What you should try is to make your communication less stereotypical again.
Good luck m8.
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I'll be leaving for the Navy in November. Until that point comes, I don't want to work but would much rather continue to work out and keep myself busy to bide the time. My question is, as a NEET of sorts until that time, does anyone have any good ideas as to hobbies or things I can do to keep myself busy that don't require to much money? I spend all my day smoking cigs, reading, and watching movies/playing vidya, but it has become mind numbingly boring by this point. Any advice? Thanks everyone.
>>17369329
get a part time job. having an obligation actually makes doing the fun stuff more fun, and even the hobby stuff more fun.
when ur unemployed, every day is tuesday.
Ok soooooo heres what's up: me and my ex broke up a while back (year or less) and I still like her be she said she dosn't like me. I have a SHIT ton of fair tickets and she messages up asking for one. So should I give it to her? And/or is this some kinda thing where maybe she likes me again? Idk (pic unrelated)
she only wants a ticket, don't give one to her.
Ive been going to school at the local community college for the last two semesters just taking math classes and prerequesits and im starting to think that a 4 year degree is not for me. i work full time and i enjoy hard labor much more than just sitting in class listening to a lecture, so the idea of being in class for 4+ years, not earning money seems like a waste to me, and just for it to lead to a desk job that i would probably hate as much. I want to get into a trade, preferably plumbing or hvac but dont know which route to take. I can get an aa in hvac/plumbing or a one-year certificate, or should i try and apply for an apprenticeship.
Both? A certificate would help but a degree in that area would be best. I would suggest doing the certificate program and looking for an apprenticeship while you go to school for that. And then once you have that all settled go to school and get your degree while you go to work doing what you like.
Just bought Windows 10 Phone
Can't use apps cause apparently I have to set up "My Family"
WTFFFFFFFFF
My age was above 18 to start and I even set up a "My Family"
I can't get any apps wtf is this shit how I fix
>>17369309
Follow the guide on their site, my brother had the same problem with his wp phone because when he made his account some box about parental bullshit was ticked off automatically and he had to change that manually. Anyways, google this shit, first result will the guide from windows support.
>>17369352
OP here, I fixed it with a factory reset, I'm saging the thread now since it is useless
Is it possible to get into a PhD program if I flunked out of college after 2.5 years the first time I tried it but graduated with honors after I went back to school?
Depends. What kind of PhD program?
>>17369257
Probably.
Not in one of the best Universities, there's just too much competition.
How can get a haircut like pic related?
Can I just show them the picture or are their barber terms I should use?
>>17369231
pictures help but not everyones hair is the same. they will do their best but also they have cheap products at most places and between different styles and different types of hair its up to you to find the right kind of product to shape it like that.
>>17369242
My hair is essentially a longer version of pic related so I know I can pull out off. I basically want my current style but shorter. Just not short enough to be a buzz cut.
Hey guys
Ive had vacation now for 4 weeks, and its been great, my batteries are recharged and I feel good, except for 1 thing; Going back to work.
I like my job, its nothing wrong with it, but I enjoyed my freetime so much that I have severe anxiety at the moment.
What is this crap feeling I have and how can i not feel shit about going back?
>>17369191
How did you get over the anxiety when you first started working there?
got back from the dentist and I have some bone loss around my too canine tooth and it guess across my top teeth, since the gum is the same level throughout there. I have the small black triangles on between them. I still have enough gum that's visible when I smile, but it's still there regardless. I'm only 25 years old. I blame my shit diet, smoking weed and cigs like a chimney and just not taking care of my teeth, not brushing every night and never flossing. I'm gonna stop smoking all together and get a good routine going, hopefully to stop this from getting worse for as long as I can.
anybody else dealt with this at an early age too? most people don't worry about this until they're in their 40s, yet I'm 25 and I'm scared I'm gonna be losing my teeth by the time I'm 30.