I Need advice on my Channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHNN_vXBYhUBR4tXUgqV2Jw
not sure what is your intent, but if its to grow i recomend sticking with 1 thing on your channel, you have a very wide variety of stuff and honestly from at least what i do on youtube binge watching similar style content is what grows a channel fastest. Youtube pays attention to time watched rather then views. So for instance im gonna use RayWilliamJohnson's old show =3. when i first watched that show i binged watched every episode in like 2 nights. that is litterally hours of content.
Id recomend sticking with one particular thing if you want to get big on youtube.
>>17371276
>Step one: https://www.4chan.org/rules
>Step two: Look global rule 2.
>Step three: leave
LICK MY NUTS
I'm thinking I'm addicted to 4chan.
I've spent the last 13 hours or so staring at the screen of this computer, lurking and making posts - both as replies and threads of themselves. Whenever I'm banned for overtly shitposting I immediatly start feeling weird. This is not even a joke. I don't really talk to anyone in real life, and this is the only form of social interaction I can get without pressure or violence. This has been going on for two or three years now.
I wish I could simply turn off the computer and do something productive instead, like practicing piano or learning a language, but I always feel attracted to this place, it's like a magnet.
Most of the time I have some 30 tabs of threads open on Chrome, and I'm constantly lurking and posting on all of them.
This must sound like a joke, but I feel addicted to (You)s as well. I genuinely feel comfort in being arround here.
I used to think I was extremely addicted to videogames. I had spent thousands of dollars on steam and on a good gaming computer, and when I noticed it I had completely dropped vidya and was spending 99% of my free time with this shit. I also visit other imageboards as well, it's not just this one although it's my prefered neihgborhood.
How can I end this?
TL;DR: read the title, I want to stop being addicted to 4chan and don't feel the impulse to be here
Take up meditation,
Reading,
Join a church/ymca
Workout
Switch addictions to Craigslist
Learn piano off YouTube
Try to ween yourself off of the problem and every time it arises tell yourself 'nah fuck that, I'm a man not gonna be controlled by sum faggot desire' not to say I'm speaking from experience, I waste tons of time on the Internet. Oh ya u could smoke weed too! (For its legal where u live)
When you realize you're being clingy as fuck and she only sees you as a friend
>>17371151
Not requesting advice cancer retard normie shitpost. Mods ban this faggot.
Hey /adv/. Kinda gonna ramble here, I'm not sure if I need advice as much as I'm curious if people can relate, just so I can get some perspective.
I graduated last year. In the past year, I met a girl and we've been going out for about 8 months. Lovely girl, beautiful, incredibly high aspirations and the intelligence and drive to pull them off, thoughtful, good in the sack... She's great. But she's also got diagnosed anxiety disorder and gets very upset over things very quick; she's also so meticulous about planning things that often they get to her if there's something she's unsure of. I'm the opposite and focus on being adaptable, so I just go with the flow. It helps her a lot of the time to cool her jets and work with bad situations but sometimes we're at odds.
One of her main dreams is to move to Philly and there's a program that seems perfectly fit for what she's doing. I'm like... 95% sure she will apply to it and get in without issue, just since she's her. Thing is, she's been kind of floating that she'll be probably doing this since we've been together for two months, and she's had her heart broken by long-distance stuff. I haven't really said much about it since it's still a year in the future, so she got really upset the other night, feeling I'm not supporting her because I probably don't want to go. We talked for a few hours and I gave her my honest answer, which is that I can't really know how I'm going to feel about this until next year but I'd be happy to go with her if that's where she's moving. She's cool with that answer, but wants me to be honest about it come, say, March so we can plan this if we're gonna move up there.
What do you guys think about following SOs around? How long were you with them and how did you end up? I do like Philly and I probably will be up for it, but it is a bit earlier than I thought I would be doing that sort of thing, especially since I've been in my area for so long.
>>17371140
Sounds like you're thinking this through and that you're with a solid partner. There's nothing wrong with moving to a new city with an SO as long as it is deliberate and you have a plan.
>>17371159
I'm glad it sounds OK. I'm just worried because it feels so weird coming right out of college to be in a relationship so deep as to move out so far... I've never devoted myself so deeply to someone and as someone really, REALLY heavily introverted it's kicking up some knee-jerk feelings that I need to slow down or something out of self-preservation for my usual habits.
I don't think self-preservation is even that great; I'm a really hedonistic person and my me time, right now, is rambling about feelings on /adv/ and playing VA-11 HALL-A with some mixed drinks. Not doing much for me or anyone else. She's the best thing that's happened to me in a long, long time and she's shaping me up to not be a dork with no standards. I reach for better because of her next to me. But being independent, making a damn good living that I can enjoy myself with never happened... It makes me feel like this is where I expected to be in four years instead of now. Guess I didn't put enough stock in myself being with someone like her.
I'm also concerned that my need for my me time is going to be in a ton of stress, I suppose. She does really want our us time to be us, and while I don't personally mind it I know I've had periods where my introversion has tuckered me out from being with her for really long periods of time. She's unbelievably extroverted and I don't know how to tell her it's not her fault if I get tired without upsetting her. Dunno if it's weird I'm concerned about that and not as much moving away from my parents, friends of 20-something years, or "home" but that... Ugh. I have no concept of what's normal or not.
(Thanks for reading, by the way. All y'all. I feel like there's a lot to sort through in my head and you guys always help.)
>>17371140
Just going by normal statistics, two years from now you will probably not be with this girl, and might not even remember her name, but you'll be in Philadelphia. Will that be OK?
I might get a lot of hate for being in a fraternity on here, but it's not the typical fraternity. I've been in it for 2 years now and thought it was going to be a group of nerds who I could be myself around, but all it is is failed normies who could only get into this fraternity and actively try to work against the interests of the few actual good people. I hate everything about it and the majority of the people in it. We are the lowest ranked in membership (only 12 members), social aspects and academically. The frat is so bad to the point where we don't even have any social events and have members getting a 0.0 GPA. I want to leave but i'm not sure if I should just stay and not participate so I don't lose the few friends I have in it. I only joined for the upperclassmen but they have all left and i'm stuck with 3 people that I don't want to kill. So i'm asking for advice on if I should leave and risk losing the few friends I have in it or just stay and not participate.
Anyone?
>>17371121
Look, man. You're in or you're out. Decide where you want your paycheck to come from and take the next logical step.
>>17371121
>It's not the typical fraternity
Seems like it judging by what you wrote.
If these people are so stupid why not come out on top? You'd be amazed at how easy it is to lead morons.
Im always honest....but its true. This is me. ....
Im pretty much a simple guy. I prefered to talk over then to meet up a place.
I get frustrated when being around people...im sensivetive i guesse...
Even though i get out much i tend to enjoy it more than those who make it...something :)
I enjoy education than reading books.
How do you say it..... As you witness youll experience....awfully...
Just because i write something that is true doesnt mean is bad much.
I may be offended but doesnt matter her...it only depends
I changed it..
Im pretty much a simple guy. I prefered to talk first than to meet up a place.i aint much of a talker though.....
:)
Even though i get out much i tend to enjoy it more. In my personal time i enjoy education than reading books.
What u guys think?
The reason for this is because i want to meet someone. I never dated so im considered a semi virgin ( i had a ex gf but they were hoes..... Long story)
As of today i need to pratice. Its more of a life changing experience since nothing comes to me. Especially puttin my mental focus between us.
Id would like to say.... Beind a kid isnt fun unless they push you there and know what genes you have...
Or just being paranoid....
Fuck that. If these humans r trying to hide myself then they should be scared...its saying trying to change an animal....
Fuk em! All they needs is 5 finger SLAP
I live with my mom at age 27 with my son. I have a love/hate relationship with her.
>1 year anniversary since I've been classified as totally disabled since my accident at work
>Am limited from a LOT of things. Ex: Can't walk for long without resting, can't sit for long ( Unless it's a comfy chair ) and can't do any rough/sudden movement
>Can't work until the case if finished
Anyway, my mom loves to get into arguments. Her biggest pet peeve is being online for extensive hours.
I cook daily, I do dishes at least twice a day, and I dust the entire house every week. The minimum-ish due to my back problems. I'm thankful for my mom helping me out during these rough times and stuff but it's difficult keeping my mouth shut at times.
>She ALWAYS makes comments on my bad habits ( I was never a clean person... )
>Always blames the net for any mistake I do ( Your food was underseasoned because you were in a rush to get back online )
>Would always tell me that I'm attracted to demonic stuff ( I read a lot of fantasy novels. ie: World of Warcraft )
>Threatens to take away the net or my laptop as a form of punishment for ANYTHING
Can't argue with her because she'll always think her opinion is word and whatever I say is invalid. Even if it's the same piece of advice she'd told me and I repeat it.
Today:
>Mom threatens to disconnect the net
>Tell her to do it if she thinks its best
>She notices that I don't care and tries alternatives ( Taking away the laptop and stuff )
>No effect
>Comments about expecting me to change now that I have internet ( We've had it no more than a month )
>Return the comment "Can't expect people to change in such a short time. You have high expectations for such a short time"
>Stays quiet and goes upstairs to drink
What can I do? I'm so stressed...and the only reason I'm here is because she's helping me through this tough time. My best isn't enough for her and I'm reminded of it everyday.
>>17371023
>( I was never a clean person... )
That's a horrible excuse.
>( Your food was underseasoned because you were in a rush to get back online )
Might or might not be true, most likely her being a retard though.
>Would always tell me that I'm attracted to demonic stuff
Rural Murica, eh?
>>Threatens to take away the net or my laptop as a form of punishment for ANYTHING
Wait, wasn't you 27? The fuck?
She sounds fucking annoying and there is honestly not much you could do in your current situation, she doesn't sound like a person you could convince with any arguments. Although I don't get why you would tolerate her taking away your stuff, unless it's her laptop that she gives to you.
I suggest you print this out and pin it up on your wall
>>17371023
On the surface, she sounds like a narcissist. She always needs to be in control, she infantalizes you, and she needs attention (positive or negative). There's not much that can be done about it, unfortunately. Most people have to go little to no contact.
What is love like? What's it like to care about a person more than yourself or how it positively affects you?
>>17370986
Love is caring about someone greatly mixed with humility.
How do I move past the idea of Chad and Stacy? I feel as though I categorize people into tiers and that this negatively impacts my social and romantic experience.
>>17370975
Education. Read up about psychology and behavior science; realize that thinking in categories is fucking dumb, ????, profit.
Alright guys, I need help
>be last november
>with friends at one of their houses
>we try acid for the first time
>it was amazing
>genuinely miss the way it made me feel
>fast forward to January
>meet girl and start dating
>still together to this day
>she is comepletely anti substance use
>alcohol, weed, acid, etc..
>i wanna do acid again but she will probably leave if I bring it up
Now I'm not asking how to convince her to be ok with me doing it. I'm asking, how the fuck do I get rid of the desire to do it again? It was such a stupid idea to do it in the first place but I've been missing it more and more. How do I get my mind off of it? I know I'm a fucking loser for doing it, but I have a job and a car and a apartment too now with this beautiful girl
>pic unrelated
>>17370954
Anybody?
>>17370954
>How do I get my mind off of it?
Think about your priorities. Does she matter more or not?
>>17371069
Of course she matters more to me. The acid was without a doubt fun but she cares about me and wants me safe. I just need help getting my mind off how good it felt the night I did it. I know she hates me doing it because she cares about me. I haven't touched any sort of drug since we started dating, but it's just been slowly creeping up on me
how do i get our dog to be calm around other dogs and people? she flips out every time i'm in public with her and barks her head off at people and dogs that go by.
>>17370940
Teach her through force. Pin her to the ground any time she barks and let her know you do NOT allow it. Don't yell at her, don't pull on her leash, simply snap your fingers and pin her down, making sure to keep a hand on the back of the neck. This seems cruel but after just a few days training your dog will start behaving.
>can't even take my boyfriend's 6 incher semi hard
>been together for 2.5 years
>still a total sweetheart and never complains about it
The first time it gets down my throat is okay, but it all goes to shit when he pulls out and shoves it back in. It just hurts and I swear I'll throw up on him. Almost happened once after too much popcorn at the movies.
Somebody teach me how to deepthroat. I would love to surprise him next time and really let him fuck my face.
Practice practice practice
>hot dogs
>bananas
>cucumbers
Everything takes training to do well
>>17370884
Practice often. There are probably pornstar tutorials online for free which could serve as good guides also.
How likely is it to get pregnant by the condom plus pull-out method while not on birth control?
.1% chance.
I was planning to visit my bf in Texas this summer but I've never traveled on my own and I'm getting increasingly concerned over all these shootings going on. We were planning a trip to Dallas and I feel paranoid that something will happen. How irrational am I being?
Also how the hell do I calm down enough to travel alone? I've literally never gone anywhere without my family/friends - not even dosmetic flights.
Tl;dr how safe is Dallas? Tips for traveling alone for the first time?
>>17370826
Mass shootings are so astronomically rare in the grand scheme of things. You're much more likely to die on just the drive to the airport, or from a common mugging, or food poisoning, or undiagnosed malignant tumor. But I assure you, mass shooting is pretty low on the t"hings that will end you" list.
Paranoia is a good thing though so don't try to purge it all out, because it keeps you aware. Don't let fear control your life, or ever stop you however.
Traveling alone is pretty fun by the way.
You're never really alone as long as there's cell signal.
You always get to do what YOU want, eat what YOU want, rest when YOU want.
There's really nothing to fear, just don't go out into dark alleys alone.
Bless you, anon, this was incredibly helpful. Just what I needed to hear to calm down.
Think I'm gonna go ahead and book my flight. What a shame it would be to miss the chance to see him.
A question for the oldfags out here. Does raising a kid get easier the older they are?
For the longest time, I've tried making it work with my SO in part because I do love her, but more so because of my son, but I've just hit that point where I can't stand her any more. He's almost two and is definitelyore attached to me than to her.
I guess why I'm really asking is how are most of your relationships with your kids? I'd like to hear from everyone. The more works of life,the better
>>17370820
at some point theyll clean their own ass and make their own food so yes time does make things easier.
>>17370820
I get you anon.
I have a 20 month old, love him to death. Most days i am trashed by 10 pm, I heard it gets better over time, but not before it gets worse by the time they hit 2-3.
I know I'm not being helpful here, just wanted to show some sympathy.
>>17370877
Thanks dude, this actually made me feel a lot better.
Sometimes I feel so guilty workin twelve hours, but its for him.