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Hello

I've been suffering from depression, PTSD, and bipolar disorder for a few years now. With depression, you start to think negatively of yourself and doubt a lot. One of the things that bothers me the most is my intelligence.

I feel like I'm a total moron. I have a small circle of 3 friends and 2 of them are in engineering and the other is training to be an air force pilot (he is probably the smartest person I know personally). The problem is that because of them, I feel like being good at math = high IQ, and I don't see why it wouldn't be the case. I had a bad experience with math in elementary (I had a teacher who made me hate it so I started ignoring it) and I guess it fucked up my learning foundation.

I have always been an awful student. I never did my homework and never studied for tests because I would rather play video games or something. Because of this, I don't know my "true potential".

Is this normal thinking behavior for someone with depression? Am I just overthinking?

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My close friend invited me to his going away party and i dont know anyone thats going.

Im really introverted and have no idea what to do in a party setting. And advice how to survive the 5 hours of bullshit?

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Hey guys, need an objective point of view on things..

Friend of mine is dating a girl for a little over a year now, and her and I have gotten very close over the last 8 months or so. We all hang out at least once a weekend, and get a long very well.

I am single, and the topic of me finding a girlfriend came up.. In the midst of the conversation, she said this to me:

"On another note & I hope this doesn't sound weird either or freak you out but I have to approach it. And please don't bring this conversation to Jack or any of our friends but I hope I'm not making it hard for you to find someone. Not really sure how to word it. I'm absolutely not saying that I'm like anything to rave home about but I feel like we have this interesting dynamic and I'm like sending you food and interested in doing all of the things as you guys do and you and I talk pretty often, and the fact that we're on this conversation I just wanted to mention it. I guess I'm saying if I'm making it at all hard for you to find someone I'm sorry. I might sound very crazy right now so don't hate me after this lol"

Is she implying that I am comparing other women to her and that they cannot possibly live up to her standards? Or is this a subtle way of coming on to me?

If you were me, would you tel my friend about this?

There are a few other suspect texts with the same tone that I can post if this thread takes off... Just wanted to hear everyone's opinion on the above

Thanks

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I was in a serious funk earlier tonight. I was feeling bad about my life and also about the way I was feeling. Those suicidal thoughts were creeping in at the edges again. I slumped over on my bed next to my cat and started petting him. He jumped jumped away from me and I felt even worse.

After a minute or so, he jumped back up, sat down, and stared at me. I felt shitty enough that I asked him out loud, I asked him, "Richard, do you know anything about melancholy?" He looked me square in the eyes, and then he started licking his asshole.

Well that fixed me right up. Bad spirits, gone. If you're feeling down, get a pet.

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Is it bad that i bought $6,000+ on stuff for when there is the day that earth is now a wasteland, while everyone is fighting for survival.

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I cant feel any more, no love, happynes, fear etc. Im totaly depressed and i dont know what to do any more at the beginnning of this jear i just wanted to kill myself but meanwhile there is nothing. Im only 18 and my life is just shit

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Everyday I wake up, it is like a movie. The days that I choose not to smoke weed all day, life seems like a vision of lifeless color. So serene and captivating that it reminds me of The Little House on The Prairie. Everything is really slow-like, whereas the days I choose to smoke begin to fade. I've been in this thought for a while. A great compulsion of acts were bestowed upon my conscious. I had the choice between good and evil, it was simply to stay good and live the life that of which is not pleasurable, or leave and commit the act of desire. I had chosen good among all odds, and realize through time that knowledge is a helpful tool. Through age a lot of knowledge is gained if the human learns to be humble. To kill with honor and duty rather than temptation or curiosity. Whenever I see myself in any situation, life is simply a facade and I begin to realize that the people I am talking to don't even matter. They're simply people put in a world, just as I. The levels of which I care about the standards of this society begin to wither and I become a unique character. I talk with a sly tongue, and act with a quick hand. It is relatively hard to find willpower to do the ultimate right thing. It feels as though it is not within my destiny, but rather a more treacherous path in a way. A path that will maintain the dignity of my soul, while at the same time building character, without the character becoming myself, for it is myself who rule over my own body and soul. I'm coming humanity, I know I stalled a lot. But I'm still coming :)
-C

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Last month I graduated from High School. I have no money, no Scholarships, no Grants, I could have gotten the Pell Grant, but did not apply in time.

I originally planned on starting State College in Fall, but now must wait until Spring 2017.

If I don't find something productive to do such as schooling or getting a job my mother would likely kick me out. Not that I don't want to get a job.

I was wondering what a good entrylevel job for an INTJ like me. I have started writing a screenplay but that won't help me with money until it is finished.

So please, /adv/anced gentlemen I need some guidance on jobs, life choices, and other stuff.

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Sup adv, i need some advice, yesterday i went out with this girl, we went to a park and smoke weed together, the initial idea was to meet with her friend and her friend's boyfriend but they didn't show up, we've been chatting a lot and the evening was nice EXCEPT, that nothing happened. I mean, not a kiss, not a hug, anything. How the fuck can i tell if she's just being nice to me, or she wants something for real?. Because she's always behaving like she's interested in me but at the same time she doesn't do anything. Should i just try and kiss her or just let her go?.
I'm very serious about relationships because i had some shitty experiences before and i don't want to suffer all that shit again.

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Hey /adv/ i need some help with my study sessions.

It takes me forever to memorize something so studying takes a long time for me.

So far i been using caffeine and caffeine naps for my study sessions.
any academic secrets to help me study and retain information fast to be competitive?
what more can i do then caffeine and repetition of information to retain it?
Thanks for the help /adv/

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If the pharmacy suddenly starts telling me I need an id does that mean I have a reason to be watched or something? My dad gets the same prescription and he said they never said anything like that and they are full of shit.

Could this mean I'm being looking into for a crime or put on a medication watch list?

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My parents severely abused me. They dropped me out of school and said they were "home schooling me" They were tired of dealing with child protective services. A completly worthless government organization.
I dont know how many people i have told i was being abused and nothing was ever done.

A child protectivr service agent who was "on my case" would come to "evaluate the situation" would come in my parents HOARDED house with drug paraphernalia everywhere and gave them a conplete pass dropping the case.

Once they dropped my case my parents dropped me out of school and locked me in the house. The beatings were almost everyday. I was scared to leave my room. They said i was not allowed to go pee at night because i might wake them up. Wasnt allowed to take showers vecause they would scream at me for "wasting water" never fed me and said "im lucky im even alive"

Even though the police and cps knw i was being abused nothing happened. My neighbors even called 911 a few times saying they thought my parents killed me. Even after that the police literally did nothing. They took these serveral calls as "time waster calls" There precious time was wasted and they diddnt even check to see i was alive. .

Ever since i turned 18 i have been trying to get an id. I just turned 23 today without any help. So i can finally start my horrible life. But ever since 9/11 they made it impossible for someone like me to get an id.

I need some kind of church program or a friend to help me... How do i get help to at least something as basic necessity as an id. I cant get any mental help or anything without an id.

I am or have gone completely insane from isolation and not leaving the house for 10 years.. I wake up and a day pases in what it feels like 1 hour. I have extreme headaches and have never seen a doctor after tons of head injuries.

The physical abuse has stoped because i got larger. But the mental abuse still goes on.

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Is this the right place? So I'm new to this whole dating thing. Do you just meet up, walk, talk, notice if you like each other after like 5 meetings and then decide if you stay together or ditch for a new guy/girl.
How does dating work compared to one nighters at a bar or a club?

I'm a 20 year old male and I don't know what's appropriate to say at a date. By the way should I hide my real name on social dating websites till the actual date?

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hi /adv/
>got my degree
>slaved trough internships
>first internship was at a multinational industrial tech company
>really stiff "archaic" envrioment
>strict management, high degree of management
>wasn't able to become friendly with anyone and felt quite alienated fast
>end up isolated and miserable
>think maybe it is the company
>second internship at a bit smaller tech company
>prides itself on employee "self-management" which just resulted in me screwing up all my deadlines
>have a bit of awkward conversations with my direct colleagues
>try to lunch with my cubicle colleagues
>notice that I'm not really fitting in
>eventually stop that
>end up isolated working again
>company now wants to hire me for real
I don't know what to do /adv/
I'm not the least social person I know and I do have friends but I just keep ending up isolated at work and it's really bringing me down
is this normal? is this my fault? should I try again at a different company or hope that things will get better?

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I spent a lot of time alone with my aunt when I was growing up. She's like a skinny, healthy, prettier version of my mother. When I was going through puberty, there were a few times when she walked around in front of me in her bra and panties for a short time. She wore, especially night, clothes that had a lot of cleavage and always invited me to sleep in her bed with her. She never closed the door when she showered, she liked to play-wrestle, she was cuddly, and she would sometimes ask me curious questions. Eventually, I started dreaming about her. One day, I achieved hands-free-fapping because of her... while I was sitting in a school classroom. Luckily, I was able to somehow shift my clothes and cover it up without anyone seeing.

She would sometimes bend over to pick things up and seem to intentionally stick her wide ass in my face - and sometimes even be like "oops, I'm sorry to stick my big butt in your face, heh". I'm starting to think she did this all on purpose. Now, I have a serious incest obsession. It feels weird saying this but I'm starting to realize recently that I might have been in love with my aunt and it actually hurts that I never got to make love to her. I live out of state now, haven't seen her in years, and she's probably much too aged now... though there's a chance she isn't. My aunt is my number one fantasy of all time and it was so strange when I realized it years ago. I'm not really sure if I'm looking for advice, maybe opinions or relating situations.