Help me /adv/
I met a third hand cousin that I fell in love with
Problem is we live very far away from each other so we can barely see each other
We gotta wait at least a few months to see each other again
This is REALLY bad cause I can't keep the spark going without physical contact, I'm a really boring and limited guy through text and call
I don't want to lose her interest but I don't know how to keep it long distance
What can I do to keep the spark going
MMORPGs or some hobby you can do together online. Write a book together or something.
My dad is racist and kind of a scumbag, but is also my dad. He finds out about my partner of one year because he has nothing better to do but stalk people on the internet. Barrages me for weeks with hateful messages. Enlists in family's help to guilt tripping me over the phone at every turn.
I live away from home, I'm grown, I'm not dependent on my family whatsoever. I know that with all the other stress in my life, I don't need this weighing me down.
But it still does; I have constant anxiety and I can't sleep at night. I can't even check my e-mail anymore, and if I'm away from my phone for too long I have to ask someone to check my messages for me because I can't stand to look for myself. I carry tons of guilt and grief when I know that it's not my fault I was raised by ignorant people.
I don't know where to find relief if it exists for me. Do I act on this or just keep ignoring it hoping it will go away?
If this partner is someone you are going to marry, you could try three routes
First is to continue on as you have been and hope that you grow some tougher skin
Second is to force an ultimatum where if they do not accept your terms then they will be blocked and cut out of your life. I don't really advise this because you cant back down if they don't accept, and you risk losing your family.
Third is to force a meeting between partner and family members. Show them that partner is a good person and will take care of you.
>>17379941
There's no use in trying to diplomatically end this in good terms with people like that.
OP if you think your family can understand your relationship with your partner go for the third option anon wrote, but based on your OP i think it would make the situation worse than it is now, so i would go for the ultimatum.
>>17379941
I am very serious about this relationship. I do, however, already feel a strong disconnect from my family. I always have, though, growing up.
>>17379951
I also think the third option would be the most ideal but I don't see a scenario where it would actually end favorably. It's too unlikely.
Are any college societies actually worth it? Should I join one?
Do I become more qualify for a job or become lucky and get a scholarship?
>>17379880
It really depends on how well you socialize within the group. Basically a friend referring you to another friend, etc.
You can also achieve success by developing a network between the professors and other. Again, friend of a friend of a friend who might refer you to a job.
I am about to start a new job in 2 weeks. What should I do before hand?
I am thinking of working out, laundry, clean house, clean yard, meditate, oil change, & car wash. I won;t get a day off during the week for months so want to catch up on everything I need to do.
>>17379869
write a list of foods you need and go do grocery
prepare your outfits if you care about that
How do you make clear with a girl that do you just want casual sex?
Every girl I've ever fooled with thinks I'm relationship material.
>>17379867
Don't lead with "I want casual sex"
Heres my experience: You're going to have to be somewhat deceptive. Essentially flirt normally and hang out. After hooking up a couple times she will either get the vibe that you just want to be a chill friend or she will hit you with the dreaded "what are we?" It is at this point you make your goals known.
I feel this is the best course of action because it allows you to get laid even if she decides she doesn't want to be a fwb.
As soon as things are about to escalate to sexy shit, make it clear beforehand that you want nothing more.
"I don't know what you're thinking of me, but you should know that I'm not in a position to be serious with anyone. If that bothers you, we should stop now."
Worked for me most of the time. Usually she's already expecting to fuck you and she won't turn away a good pounding. Maybe 1 in 5 will turn you away, but at least no feelings are truly hurt.
Why does it matter? Tell them if they ask, otherwise put your phone on silent and let them believe whatever they want.
So long story short, dad was a shitty person. Workaholic, emotionally abusive, sent me to psychologists when I got a b- in high school (went a prep school). Parents are in the process of divorce, dad still acting like a dick. Almost done with college. He's been paying for half of my tuition for the last two years (rest came from scholarships and like 25% of in student loans). I kind of want to move to Seattle, Portland or KC after college. I'm a CS major.
How should I go about cutting him out and advice on how I should go about getting a job in those cities? I'm planning on working for a year in my city since my school is well known in my state. Also should I try to pay my dad back for tuition or just fuck off?
Taking his money and then telling him to fuck off is a pretty dickish, entitled thing to do. Even if he was a cunt, at least he paid your tuition, and you should be thankful for that. I would just make contact on important days, and maintain radio silence until you've grown out of the anger.
My relationship with my father was incredibly similar. I barely talked to him for a few years after the divorce (went to see him for Christmas or birthday, but no socializing beyond that). Eventually you grow up and see that, even though he was a dick in MANY MANY ways, he tried his best with what he had (go up at 3am every day to make sure he could pick us up from school, made sure we did our best academically so we could get into good colleges, made us work in sports hard so we would have good work ethica). It takes a few years to divorce yourself from those feelings of hurt, but just remember he was a stupid 20-30 year old too. He's allowed to fuck up.
>>17379912
Yeah that's why I want to pay him back before I break it off
So a few weeks ago I got completely black out drunk at a party, and some assholes poured washing up liquid all over me.
I slept with a bunch of the stuff in my eyes, and when I woke up the whites of my eyes were pink. I've never had perfect eyesight, so I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid, but I feel like my eyesight has been getting worse. Obviously, I rinsed my eyes a shit ton on the following couple of days, but I swear my sight has been less than 5 metres for reading license plates tonight in evening lighting.
Should I go to a doctor to have them check for remaining chemicals in my eyes, or should I just go to the optician?
If you have the choice, always see a specialist if you are even a little worried. General Physicians are shit for everything except getting basic prescription meds.
you are retarded for even asking this. see a doctor today and go to police after
>>17379849
Did you flush your eyes with a saline solution? Tap water has the potential of damaging your eyes even further and react with the chemical already in your eye.
If you are concerned then yes it is a good idea to see a doctor about it. He might prescribe you some saline solution to flush your eyes out. Or you can just go buy some yourself at any drug store.
https://www.reddit.com/r/pokemongodev/comments/4t80df/wip_pokemon_go_map_visualization_google_maps_view/d5feu2f
how to make this code repeat itself after certain time has passed?
info= pokemons go missing from map after half hour
C:\Python27\python example.py -a google -u username -p password -l "location" -st 10
windows or linux?
You guys ever take 18 or more credit hours in college? Long story short, I went to do summer school in a community college but I ended up not being able to take the class so now I need to take more classes at my university to graduate on time.
There is a fall semester, a mini-mester, and a spring semester. I need to distribute 12 additional hours to graduate on time. Normally I hear of people taking 1 class mini mesters, but how bad can two 3 credit hours be if I have nothing to do during the break?
>>17379770
I don't know about your system, but in Norway, it's not uncommon for students to take 120% subjects, or to work 20% part-time in addition to taking a full study.
>>17379824
I guess thats good news. I'm just bummed about maybe having to extend graduation to summer. Its not too far away, but I don't want to be late for job applications without having a physical degree.
Advice on how to make a really dim flat much cuter?
Right now I can't afford to move to somewhere better so I live in a flat that is small, a little damp, and the walls are old with a bed fixed to the wall that I can't move.
I'd like to give it a do up (within limits of course) so it's much cuter and happier. I have a lot of figures, posters and plushes but even then, it feels cramped and sad here. Here is an example of a smaller space that is still really cosy.
What kinds of things can I do to compensate for the state of the flat? this goes for the small bathroom too I guess!
I'm in need of some tips and ideas, I'm sure I'm not the only person who's had to make do with a glum place before!
Thank you!
>>17379765
pictures of your room would help. not all rooms are created equal as you are clearly aware.
but ultimately the key to any place looking nice is simply to make sure that it is clean and organized, but stil ldecorative. got lots of figures? get some stands or shelves for em. got posters? dont just throw em up wherever, think about where they go.
know someone with a nice room? ask them for help. you'd be surprised how moving the right things within three inches can change everything. I banged this dude on and off who just barely re arranged my living room. same basic spots but spaced more approrpriately i guess and it looked legit. cant figure out how to do that myself.
I am moderately experienced with recreational drug use, having done Weed, Shrooms and 1P-LSD among other things.
Yesterday I tried (powdered) Kratom for the first time, as my first opiate.
>put a larger teaspoon (approx. 4g) of the powder in a cup
>mixed with warm water
>added some honey
>drank
Yet i didn't feel any effects, including no ill-effects.
>i suspect i didn't injest it correctly
Might want to try again tonight using tosh-n-wash method.
>What did i do wrong initally?
>How is tolerance going to affect taking it one day after?
>Should i try it again tonight (or would it be a waste)?
>Experienced welcome.
>>17379753
You didn't have enough. Kratom usually takes more than you would think esp if you've done drugs before. My first time we put them in 500 mg pill capsules and I had 10 of them. One day after shouldn't affect tolerance. You can try it again tonight and tomorrow even if you know you're gonna moderate it long term, I knew someone who did it for a week and started throwing up and having weird symptoms.
>>17379877
Thanks for the info.
This inital pack is i have only a 15g pack.
It says on the box, the regular dose is 1-2g. Also people on other forums seem to consider 4-6g to be a moderate dose.
>so i don't know what happened there.
>i suppose 4g should be enough to elicit some sort of effect.
I don't intend on making Kratom a persistant thing. I mainly wanted to compare opiates with my experience with milder shrooms (which have also given me the warm feels).
>weird symptoms?
>please explain.
opioid*
and get some good kratom, thats not $15 dollars a gram.
My libido is going crazy
I beat off like 3 times a day for the last week
I'm 20
Good or bad?
3 times is nothing. Try 3 times per session 5 times a day and we'll talk.
>>17379850
>3 times per session
What do you mean by session
Holy mother of god day four of incapacitating hemorrhoids how do I get rid of this flare up faster I might have to kill myself
>>17379725
In taking turmeric pills, Drinking water, taking one shower a day and letting the warm water caress my butthole, and eating lots of fiber but these irritating assholes wont go away they usually go away after one day
>>17379725
Buckshot helps.
How do you pass time when you are waiting for something? I want to make a week and a half pass by crazy fast. I have classes, working-out, friends on the weekends, reading, walking, and so much more, but time still seems to just creep on at a snails pace.
>>17379707
meth
>finished STEM degree that I hated
>lived at home for over a year since graduation
>genuinely think I am smart but lazy
>have only £2500 in bank and wasted £500 in the past month on expensive food
>work a menial part time job for 18 hours a week (3 shifts of 6 hours) that I still find to be soul crushingly dull and a blow to my freedom
I'm still getting interviews for graduate jobs and I have specific goals (learn programming and work on projects for fun / income / resume boosting) but I just keep wasting shitloads of time on the internet, eating unhealthy food (my gym routine stops me being obese), and telling myself every single day that tomorrow will be different and I'll start eating healthily and working hard (I must've done that over 200 times in the past year, no joke).
How do I get out of this rut? Or better yet, how did you get out of it?
>>17379676
Welcome to being an adult. Get a job and get yourself out of your situation.
>>17379676
Its simple, find something that brings you joy and you really enjoy doing it. It will only get worse.
I suggest finding a GF. Not a fucktoy but a female best bro.
>getting a degree in something you hate
so what exactly was your plan for after you graduated?