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Hey adv my depression has been affecting my dick lately. Had sex a few months ago and I had to seriously work my dick till it got hard.
Over the summer I stopped fapping and it helped a lot a until a shitty relationship sent me back into depression.

I was out of my mind laying on the kitchen floor bawling out like I was about to die. I looked at my dick when I got up and it had shrank to an inch, there was no blood in it, my dick was straight white and lifeless.
I heard depression meds make ED even worse so I don't want to go to a psych.

Has shit like this ever happened to any of you? I'm only 23, my depression has never affected me like this.

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Anyone know what is happening to my order? Coming from uk to Canada and is fukt logs:
7/22/2016 - Friday
4:00 am
Left FedEx origin facility
SOUTHERN SORT GB
3:57 am
In transit
SOUTHERN SORT GB
7/21/2016 - Thursday
4:58 pm
Left FedEx origin facility
SHEFFIELD GB
8:18 am
Picked up
SHEFFIELD GB
3:49 am
Left FedEx origin facility
SOUTHERN SORT GB
3:47 am
In transit
SOUTHERN SORT GB
7/20/2016 - Wednesday
6:24 pm
Left FedEx origin facility
MAIDSTONE GB
12:36 pm
Picked up
MAIDSTONE GB
7/19/2016 - Tuesday
7:03 am
Clearance delay - Import
CALGARY, AB
3:46 am
Shipment information sent to FedEx

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My brother's 19th birthday is coming up. Being 18 and in uni he's been drinking a lot, and he really likes gin. I drink whiskey and know jack shit about gin. What's a good, non-shitty gin I can get him as a gift? I'm willing to drop some cash for this.

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Hey guys

To make a long story short this girl used to like me but I never picked up because she sent weird signals (talked about guys she was into etc). We remained friends and hooked up here and there. A few months back she brought up us dating, but called it off a few days later claiming that she "didn't want to ruin what we had going on and our friendship." She claims that it isn't anything to do with my looks that she wouldn't be hooking up with me if that was the case. I just feel like shit cause then she goes onto post shit on social media that is bascially like "I'm gonna die alone" when I straight up told her I would date her when she brought it up. It makes me feel like complete shit about myself. Is it really because I'm just too ugly and she's trying to get something better? Or do you think she's being honest? All of this is just really ruining my confidence like I'm just some low level scrub.

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So ive been close friends with this girl from work and at first i wanted to date her but she disclosed to me the first time we hung out she was in a LDR. Which was fine at first and since then we have hung out a bunch of times together. she texts me every day or calls to talk to me about things going on in her life and make plans to hang as we always have great times hanging out.

Lately though i've found that i have been still trying to get with her on some weird emotional level, and acting as if we were in a relationship and ive been too pushy/weird towards and around her and i cannot stand doing that to her as i'd rather us be JUST friends but i find myself very attracted to her no matter what i do. Every conversation is awkward over the phone as she is openly communicative which keeps me on my toes most of the time and it makes for really awkward talks. I enjoy being with her in person and texting her but over the phone? yikes. somebody slap me man. seriously wtf
Ive tried to stop myself from feeling that way towards her and just stay friends but i just get more frustrated and I dont want to ruin or lose the friendship, by disclosing these feelings and have her weirded/put off out by it. Id rather just stay friends and have her in my life and NOT have romantic/sexual interests going on in the back of my mind.

How can i force myself to not have this type of interest in her?
like just see her as a friend and nothing more than what it is?
Should i forget about her for a while to clear my head?
Ive never had this type of issue with other girls or friends who ive been seeing and its been bothering me so much that im starting to see its weirding her out and i end up hating myself for doing that to her...then again i have avpd and somewhat severe social anxiety so i don't know how to handle this situation. I dont have much close friends like her irl so i just need any bit of advice i can get to sort this out

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I'm in my second semester of university and now that I have a sort of social life, I am struggling to fit in my course work, extracurricular activities, friends, work (commission based so no set schedule), and down time.
I feel very overwhelmed as I am introverted and spending a lot more time around people than I am used to. In unscheduled/alone time I end up doing nothing instead of my work, or doing the least relevant work possible.
I actually do want to do my work, but I just can't seem to bring myself to do it.

How do people manage? Please help.

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Hello, /adv/.

So, I posted here a few weeks ago asking for advice about my father. He has been diagnosed with brain cancer and it was all very shitty.

And, well, a few days ago he had surgery, and what I feared the most has happened. Due to the tumor's location, he now has a condition called Aphasia (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aphasia).

He can't speak, write nor read. He understand what we say, but can't build a full sentence without stuttering hard or switching words so that it'll make no sense at all.

I'm simply crushed. My father's trapped inside his own mind. He's a teacher for fucks sake, and he may never be able to read again. I've never seen my mother so miserable.

Any piece of advice would be great. Anything really, just talking to anyone would be great. I have my friends but this kind of problem doesn't really get to us until it actually happens to us, so they don't seem to understand how fucked this whole thing is...

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Trying to teach myself how to play guitar via just toying with it along with rocksmith 2014. Any tips?

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I just became 20.
It is only around this point that I'm starting to get a grasp for freedom.
I grew up in a sheltered environment, yet I also was in a broken family.

After so many different circumstances and changes and bad things, I set myself up to be stable and focused on securing a future. I'm in the process of doing it now, and I feel like I can get several things done.

But after so many years of deprogramming myself, now I see what I can control clearly.

My parents (individually) provided so much for me in terms of physical human needs (down to paying for my tuition - somehow I feel embarrassed admitting that), but in return I spent the last nearly 2 decades under their eye and key.

A small but important example: Relationships. Being in a specialized school, I didn't really have much "choice" in finding a girlfriend there, but I did find someone in a childhood friend. We had some confessions, and maybe we did develop into some sort of relationship, but it all ended poorly and quickly. Being hurt, I locked away all matters of the heart for years. Only now do I feel like looking for such a companion again, but I lack so much experience.

I want to make my way in the world, but I feel so new to it! I was trained to live this life of "purity" and "behavior." I've developed so much focus that I didn't pay attention to my youth.
And everyday I see that as I go to my research lab in a pretty empty campus while my contemporaries live their lives to the fullest.

"It's all so silly! You have everything you could need! You are saddled with greed and complain about the stupidest shit! Look at this guy, he lost everything!"
I'd understand if you see it that way. But I have a long story (read: a long excuse), and the short of it is I need to make up for lost time. Please allow me to be selfish here. Any advice?

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So I don't even kiss people on the cheek until I know them well but like I nose nuzzled this boy I liked last year and got this thing on my nostril.

At first I thought it was because I was using old makeup but looking now I'm totally positive it's coldsores.

I know I don't have HSV2 because I got tested for that but like honestly I feel so dirty. Do I tell partners I have HSV1?

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Ok so I contacted a guy who was selling an Xbox 360 controller so I could get it from him since mine was not properly working. Thing is, a relative of mine managed to open and fix the controller, and I don't need to buy one anymore. How do I tell the guy? wat do

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So just as the title states, I think life is basically pointless. I actually dug myself into this depressive hole my thinking about life and what the meaning/reason/purpose is. I basically ran through the ideas of waking up every morning to go to school/work/etc. and having to do whatever. Every. single. day. That is all I see of life; waking up to do stuff, reach goals, "accomplish" things, and then face our inevitable demise. So we basically live to die, how meaningful is that

A great example of how I see things is like the myth of Sisyphus, in which he was cursed to just roll a rock up a hill only to have it roll back down. That is all he had to do for the rest of his existence. He was cursed to live a meaningless existence of accomplishing nothing really. So how can I go through life and enjoy it when this is what we have been obliged to do?? Live doing mundane activities until we die.

Now it's difficult for me to go through with anything in life so I'm just existing on this meaningless rock doing nothing of importance. Sure we make discoveries, solve things, have fun, but what is it all for? I don't know why everything just means nothing to me now. It seems I have torn back the illusion to life and unraveled the fake, subjective meaning we have once given it, or that I gave it. Therapy and meds are not helping and I've reached crisis mode already. I really need help but I've lost hope.

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I'm getting worse with girls as I age
>beggining of high school
Several girls flirt with me daily
>end of high school
Can still interact with girls but not attractive to them
>now
I get nervous around attractive girls and avoid their eyes

What do?

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Alright this is it. My girlfriend and I had a massive fight. Afterwards we had some failures to communicate that led to another fight and what appears to be a breakup. This isn't my first break up, but it's the first time I've tried to salvage a relationship. I've stuck out the olive branch to her and I think part of her still wants to talk to me but not enough to change her mind.

She hasn't responded to my last text. I responded to her thoughts that we're not good for each other (apparently because I'm moving in a few months) and asked her why she's bothered by my actions recently (I may have went off on her for standing me up twice after our first fight) but she didn't respond to it and I don't think she will.

My question is this, /adv/: I want to send one more message to her for closure. One that says I'm sorry for how things went down, that she's not the only one who's been hurt by what happened, but I still remember how good things were and that I wish her luck in the future.

Should I do it?