What do you do when you enter a new milieu and you realise you're much dumber and less educated than everyone else there?
I'm a high school dropout and have always been kind of lazy intellectually, but now I have a new gf and her entire family is made up of very well educated, academic types, and her friends are also educated. She went to one of the best schools and universities in my country.
I feel intimidated af and really afraid of saying shit
You just accept your place honestly. If she's worth it, prepare to enter a life of humility.
>be me
> start communicating with girl online
>find out she is Japanese
>have been learning language for past few months
>communicate more
>girl has same interest I do
>girl is loaner couch potato
>has no friends
>age unknown
>girl shows interest
>show interest back
>communications continue for few months
>fairly sure not catfish
>both want to meet in person
Be honest with me /adv/, what are the chances this girl is ugly or underage?
>>17387025
Above average chance that she's below average physically but probably not underage, because you would have noticed by now.
Anyway loner couch potatoes are actually fun if you're one of them too.
Don't be too shallow
Senior year coming up:
What would be more beneficial for me:
- Spend my last year learning a new language
- Spend my last year learning about trading stocks
>what other skills I try should learn with whatever free time I have?
Senior year in high school?
Well it'd help if you told us what your plans for the future were.
>OH anon, you should study logic. It's super important for philosophy phd's.
>>17387011
Trading stocks
>>17387011
Just do what you're most interested in. If you don't tell us what it is we can't say much.
Trade stocks if you want cash.
Hey /adv/. My boyfriend's gone away on holiday for a month. We spend a lot of time together usually so it's a bit difficult but I'm really happy for him. The problem is he's been acting different since he got there. Whenever we do talk he's pretty distant and he won't tell me about what he's been doing so I mostly just talk at him until he has to go. I tried talking to him about it one time but it just resulted in a pretty heated conversation and I don't want to ruin his holiday so I don't think I'm going to bring it up again, at least until he's back. Is that the best thing to do?
Don't bring it up, and move out till he's back.
I recently became friends with someone a few months ago. It seemed to be mostly fine but after a while I started falling for him (I'm also a guy but we're both bi). I told him how I felt but he didn't feel the same way so we're still just really close friends.
I thought I could get over these feelings but they just keep resurfacing any time I spend time with him, which is quite often. He's probably the closest friend I've had in a long time. I'm really not sure how to deal with this, he's a really good friend and I want to keep that but at the same time I'm just going to keep having these unrequited feelings.
And even if he did decide to return those feelings it wouldn't work, I know him well enough to realize that now. He's a pretty flirty person (I don't think he realizes it himself) and he's talked to me about other people that confessed too (before I said anything). I can tell this wouldn't work.
I'm not really sure what I'm asking here. Is it okay to keep being close friends with him while working to move past these feelings? Even though I'm basically friendzoned.
be rich
buy his affection
>>17386964
Just stay friends with him, and try to fall in love with someone else. Crushes come and go, and afterwards you probably don't even know why you were so hung up on him.
Can take a while to find someone else, i know, but loving someone else is the only good remedy against loving someone.
>>17386983
Yeah, I'm trying to do that. It would be nice for that to happen but I've met so many people lately and really don't have any interest in any of them (though that's a plus probably, it's nice to make friends and not have feelings like that for them)
I don't know why.
My life seems to be going well. Im in good health, have a decent amount of friends, and might start dating this girl soon. But I still have this hole in myself, and still feel terrible. I'm missing something. I don't know why.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory
your mum was a bitch
>>17386963
Nah she loves me
29, unemployed, live at home, overweight guy. Probably the walking stereotype of the average fat vidya dude who lives at home. I've lived myself but shit was too expensive even when working, have lived with exs but broke up. Not had sex for over a year. A good portion of me is actually glad not to give a fuck about girls and relationships. Being my weight, trying to date is like trying to apply for a job you're barely qualified hours. Massive amounts of effort and time into it with very little results.
I guess I'm looking for motivation somewhere in this advice forum. Because right now I'm content just to sit and game. I don't hate my life, I've come to accept it for what it is. But the biggest motivator for me to lose weight, get a job be productive etc was females. But I have become bitter towards them due to the treatment I've received being a bigger guy. I don't hate females, but if it's a choice between sucking up, pandering etc to females or gaming, I'm choosing gaming. Which means my motivation to improve my life completely evaporates. I'd be interested in hearing advice other than "do it for yourself", even if its questioning the way I'm thinking just now.
why keep trying
kill self
>>17386905
you sound like a fat lazy fuck that just leaches off his parents. what a disappointment to them. you don't need to get in shape but as an adult you should try to support yourself and stop being a pathetic neck beard in his mommies basement. don't you think it's a let down to have some man child that doesn't work and just games all the time. work hard make money live on your own. find a girl that wants to suck up to you. there are females like that out there that aren't full of themselves and want to be a good partner. start a family, make something of your life. if you don't your going to wind up a sad fat old man with no money or family.
help, how to stay up when sleep deprived? only 3 hours of sleep
>>17386856
Why not sleep?
>>17386856
Coffee, fear
im confused about my sexuality.
Im a 23 yo male. I always watch straight or lesbian porn, no male gay shit. But the thought of pleasing a guy by sucking his dick always turns me on. What does this mean about myself? The thought of watching gay porn kinda disgusts me to be honest. But just something about the thought of pleasing someone always gets me going. Its to the point where I am starting actually look around on CL to find someone i might want to try it with. I am still a virgin.
>>17386696
don't hookup with some creep on craigslist, just go to a gaybar and hook up with someone there
if it doesn't feel right then don't do it
it means you are a slave to your cock
>>17386696
I can put my self in the same boat as you
Having a relationship or even kissing another guy is a no no for me, i simply want to suck a fat one every now and again. not too crazy about being sucked off either.
So i just moved to Florida because my gf couldnt find a job back in Maryland. i had a great job at ups and i wasnt even working there a year until we came down here. So here we are staying with her cousin and aunt. Before we came down we was promised to stay a month to find jobs and get off our feet. well 3 weeks go by and her aunt wants us out and she litterally lays in her bed all day not lying. So my gf mom gave her $2500 to find a apartment but we cant cuz no one will accept us because we dont have credit establish. So we finally are able to stay in this motel near the beach but my gf has a dog. she's a service animal. the worst probably. so my gf is at work cuz somehow she found a job 2 weeks being here and acting like she just been taking care of me the whole time which she kinda has but it dont matter cuz i had a job paying all bills while she wasnt doing shit ,but back to the story. i left her dog here at the motel while me and her cousin drive around and shit. we are basically in Miami and i get a call from her like oh where are you . i said im driving around with drew wassup. then she start going off cuz her dog not suppose to be left or she starts howling and shit. the motel lady calls my gf and she thinks were gonna be homeless and shit cuz i left her dog alone. so we turn around and go back up the road which took about 40 mins yo.within that 40 minutes im getting hella texts like " why would you leave her alone shes a fucking child " " if your fucking grown enough to move outta state with your gf and get a house together then stop acting like a fucking child " she was saying hella more than that but thats just to start. is this fucked up or what? should i be held responsible for a fake ass service dog who cant be alone with out crying about it. or are you guys gonna side with her because honestly i cant do shit when she at work cuz of this fucking dog. should i just murder the do and blame it on a tourist? need help now
>should I just murder the dog and blame it on a tourist
Don't hurt doggo :(
You didn't know what you were doing, now you know what not to do. Live & learn.
>>17386649
this might be a ruse, but you're a pretty bad person either way.
If you made this up to fuck with basement dwellers on a saturday night, you're bad.
if you legitimately want to end the life of a dog for any reason, you're worse.
Dogs are the guardians of america's freedom. See the pic foreigner.
I swear to god you fucking nigger ill hunt you down myself. I already reported this post to the FBI just in case this is real because if you want to kill a dog you might as well join ISIS muhammad.
So I don't know alot about the world and random little things. I went out with some friends and one guy knew all these facts about things and it made me think about how little I know and how little I retain about things. What are ways to learn more about life, and retain facts and gain more experience in life
>>17386629
Bump
>>17386629
by experiencing it and reading
If you're not the outgoing sort of person, reading is pretty great for "understanding the world" I guess.
New Yorker is good for investigative journalism or cultural criticism.
Foreign Affairs or Foreign Policy for international political news.
Buzzfeed. Avoid the listicles; it has some great longform writing on pop culture.
Longreads.com.
For news in general, nothing really beats The Economist. I like The Guardian because it's simpler to read.
The pinned post on /lit/ is great for finding both non-fiction and fiction novels.
Start a Twitter account and follow some journalists. They'll keep you up to date with what's going on in the world.
Idk, this might not be what you're looking for but if you want to be able to start and hold a conversation about something then reading is pretty unbeatable, though it won't net you any sort of personal experience.
hey /adv/ I'm a 22 year old student and I'm being asked to move out as soon as possible. There was no fight to cause this I was just calmly asked my by mum to leave.
I'm largely jobless depressed and get quite bad anxiety which makes finding work hard. I do some dog walking and dog sitting as well as receive centrelink (i'm in Melbourne, Australia) but I am terrified about being able to afford living out of home and being mentally well enough to not completely crumble. I'm really scared and don't feel very strong.
What can I do to ensure I don't die or something on my own. Where is cheap property in the south east? Will centrelink or my uni help me? I feel really worried and sick.
>>17386588
Talk to centrelink, youll get rent assistance, join a houseshare with a lot if housemates si rent is cheap, if you were calmly asked to leave does that mean you can get help from your parents? Advice? I'm sure they wouldnt kick you out on the street
Is this site legit I want to buy a phone case off of here but I see that every product has the exact same review comment
>>17386567
It's legit I got these off it a couple years ago
>>17386662
Pretty sure the comments are for the creator rather than for a singular product
I'm in Instanbul, Turkey.
Lately I have been seeing some spiders and mosquitoes in the apartment I'm staying.
They are pretty small, arround the size of a finger nail if you take into account wingspan/spider's legs.
They're all black and seem ordinary, but I keep seeing one of them every 40 minutes or so.
Should I be worried? What kind of health issues can these small bugs cause? How to exterminate them?
Thanks in advance.
Pic kinda related.
spiders are actually the number 1 predator for mosquitoes, leave the spiders alone and they'll eat most of the mosquitoes
How do people find jobs when they want to work overseas? I'm thinking of going to India (coming from Australia) to live and work for 3 years but I have no idea where to start.
Also thinking India or the Philippines.
google teach english in [country]
Maybe touristy places at first?
Or you could try working at a company that's international -- like McDonalds or whatever -- and see what you would have to do to transfer to a different country.
>>17386566
I found this by accident
https://amsterdam.craigslist.org/edu/5688244936.html
(Not op btw)