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Should I be concerned 2016-07-26 19:39:27 Post No.17395412
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Okay so I've been dating this girl for about 6 months now and very thing is going great. We both lost our virgininty to eachother a month into it, and we both have voiced and talked about how we've been in love since the first month or two. My only concern is she talks to other guys as friends she says. I've told her that I'm uncomfortable with it, and we've been in arguments because of it because she says there is no problem and she only wants and loves me. One of the guys she was talking to said in one of the texts "what happened to daddy?" Talking about himself. She told me they joke like that but I've told her it's really inappropriate to talk like that even as a joke when your in a relationship with another guy. So I'm just wondering do you think I have to worry about other guys and her? I mean she's told me I have nothing to worry about because she only wants me and only wants my body. What do you guys say? How can I get her to stop talking to her "guy friends"?
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Also she always has guys hitting on her on social media and she replies but she does not ever make a move herself in a way that would be flirty. She keeps telling me I'm being to insecure and jealous and that I shouldn't worry.
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>>17395412
Do you trust her?
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>>17395418
I do but it makes me extremely uncomfortable. I mean she even talks to one of her exes. But she told me she feels stronger about me than him and that no matter what she'd never get back with an ex
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It's almost like this whole case is stacked against me.
To make a long story short: dog escaped from the house yesterday, biting a little girl in the thigh before I could retrieve him. I didn't know about the bite at the time until today when an officer came to visit. The girl had to go to a hospital; I don't know the severity of the bite, but I'm guessing they're going to sue. Then, to make matters worse, he bites the police officer when she tries to pet him or something (I wasn't the one at the door). It's nothing major with no blood and no stitches need. Still, it isn't helping my case. I know a lot of you are going to say the dog needs to be put down, but you have to understand. I love this dog. He's my partner in everything and best buddy. This just seems so out of nowhere. I don't know what's wrong with him, but I *am* willing to take the steps required towards a treatment plan. But still, I dunno. Two bites already being filed with the police. This is bad. I hope the girl is okay. I just don't think I'm ready to give up the fight for my friend. I want to find a lawyer who specializes in this kind of law, pay the defending family, take the steps necessary for my dog, etc.
Anyways, anyone have any advice for me? Legal, hopefully.
P.S. I live in Illinois. Here's a set of laws for this sort of thing. http://www.alllaw.com/articles/nolo/personal-injury/dog-bite-laws-liability-illinois.html
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immediately look into some sort of dog training class, and get him in it immediately. when you show up, explain. explain hes in class. dont show up and say 'OH I PLAN ON LOOKING INTO SOME SORT OF CLASS'
hopefully hes young and you can argue that you havent had a chance to train him but by your bond sounds like you've known him a long time.
but if you REALLY love him, you'll get rid of him. find him a loving family as far away as possible and pray he doesnt bite again.
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>>17395417
This, definitely this. Also, if he's a rescue, you can definitely argue that you're trying to fix the bad habits of the previous owners, but you need to show that you're taking steps to train. Not all dogs are people friendly, my chow HATES BEING TOUCHED like she's autistic, but they should be able to see a person and have a person approach them without going off. If it's a pitbull then you ESPECIALLY need to get some discipline classes for you to learn to take chaege in because they are more prone to biting if they have poor leadership at home.
Exercise is another thing. Biting can be a symptom of a lack of it, especially if he goes nuts on people when he gets out. Walk him a lot so being outside isn't that big of deal.
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>>17395410
>The girl had to go to a hospital
fucking dog owners. Oh he is such a good boy no way he be bad. Bullshit, I hope the little girl isn't scared for life and her parents sue your ass into a hole.
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Girlfriend of 3 months tells me she's really into daddy dom shit and wants me to get into that shit with her
Im not into it
What do
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>>17395399
experiment with it to see if you can be into it.
i had a partner who had a REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY weird sexual fetish and though its not my thing i gave it a shot just to say i tried.
if you dont like it after, dont do it, but you know you'd want your partner to at least try something with you, yeah?
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>>17395402
Not really a sexual thing it's a "lifestyle" and I don't think I could do that shit at all
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>>17395414
okay, so ur not looking for advice.
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When I was hired by my work they said I would be part time and work 20 hours, and that the times I would work wouldn't change too much. When I first started working they started me out working fucking 40 hours a week, and then they kept throwing in early opening shifts all the time even after I had worked until closing. This coming week they had me scheduled to work 9 days in a row, all 8 hour shifts, but I called in sick today.
I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm going insane working this much. And it isn't like sitting in an office in a chair all day, I'm on my feet all day running around an entire huge 2 story store. I come home every day and my entire body is sore and I just eat and go to sleep, I don't have any free time at all anymore. On my days off I just sleep.
What do I do? I'm not hard up for cash so should I ask for less hours? I don't want to get fired though. I feel like if I keep going like this I'm going to have a nervous breakdown, help
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no matter what you do there is a sacrifice, so decide what is worth more. i doubt they will fire you for asking for less hours, they will likely simply not listen to you. and if so, you'll want to find a new job anyway.
so essentially there is no harm in asking.
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>>17395398
I unfortunately can't find a new job, this is my first job and I need some more experience to put on my resume, I've only been there like 2 months.
I want to quit so badly though, every day I hope they fire me but instead they just keep giving me more hours and keep asking me to do more tasks. No one else I work with works as many hours as I do, and they call in sick way more than I do. When they call in sick they don't have a back up system either, I just have to do parts of their shift for them on top of my 40+ hours a week getting paid minimum wage.
I can't fucking take it anymore.
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>>17395405
>Only been there 2 months
I had a jobvas a valet long ago and it took a few months but I got used to it and it helped get me in pretty decent shape. I know its hard but if you stick with it you'll get used to it, a day at work will become a walk in the park, and you'll have a job witg experience to put on your resume and all the time you need to find another job so it doesn't feel rushed or desperate.
I was at my college orientation a while ago, and this girl in my group was ALWAYS looking at me. We did some stupid game in the beginning and she was supposed to talk to me and find out more about me, and we did have similar lifestyles. I didn't care much for her but she was always looking at me to see what Iw as doing. In the middle of a lecture I was sitting in the back spacing out and she literally turned 180•, looked me in the eyes, and when I noticed her she spun right back around. She'd even sut right next to me during lunch.
I'd say she liked me, but she never really spoke to me, just did those things. I'll probaby never see her in my classes or anything, but am I being autistic? I've never really had girls interested in me so this is a new thing I can't judge. Also, since I don't even know her name I can't contact her.
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>>17395381
do you think she is worth pursuing? if so, pursue her. just wait until you see her again, chances are you will. then just go up to her and be like
>hey, how have you been? how's college going now? what classes you got? etc?
then end it with
>we should hang out sometime, XX or YY is going on this weekend.
worse case scenario she kill herself in front of everyone and curses you with her dying breath, so no reason not to do it.
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>>17395392
I wasn't necessarily speaking in specifics, I was just wondering if that means she likes me, so I can base it on other girls.
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Becoming a more likable person 2016-07-26 19:16:27 Post No.17395347
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What steps must I take to becoming a person who will be welcomed into online communities, easily make new friends, not make a romantic relationship boring after a while, etc.?
How do I pinpoint what is unlikable/boring about me and fix it?
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>online communities
Pretend you're a girl. 100% chance of becoming popular, well-liked, and validated
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>>17395347
you arent asking how to be likeable so much as how to be popular.
there is a big difference. some of your things also contradict themselves. being likeable is something that is hard for you, so easily make new friends is not an option. it is hard exhausting and a struggle to become the manipulator you want to be. the biggest tastk is manipulating yourself.
as for being popular
>be attractive
>always hold the popular opinion (leftist mostly, but depending on the place you are at, might need to pretend something else)
>always be willing to try new things, and repeatedly do them even if you hate them.
>mix comedy in with everything without being a clown
the list can go on and on.
as for being likeable
>make a list of everything that you dont like about yourself.
>Reflect on that list twice a day for a couple of days
>decide if its something you dont actually like versus something that society doesn't consider mainstream
>change it if you dont like it, keep it if you DO like it but society doesn't.
>seek out communities specific to your interests and what you find likeable about yourself.
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>>17395359
He's right, OP.
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>most of my friends are female
>my aesthetic has been called "coffee shop"
>straight, but have been called feminine and "everyone's straight gay best friend"
Never worried about this until this morning. Should I try to change myself?
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>>17395340
You're giving a fuck. Never Do that.
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ya I fail to see the problem here
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>>17395340
depends. has this hindered you? in what ways?
post a picture of yourself as well for more advice. if you're too afraid to do that we
1) cant give you advice and
2) know you wont have the balls to use any advice we give
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Is my hairline receding? 2016-07-26 19:13:37 Post No.17395336
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Is my hairine receding? I'm 19 y/o and this shit is really bothering me. I can't tell if I was born with a fucked up hairline (never noticed it or took pictures 'til now), or if my hairline is actually receding. I've always had really fast growing thick hair since I was young. I don't want to lose this shit, man.
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sorry for the big ass pimple
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also sorry for the low quality picture
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I freaked out too. Most men lose some hair around their temples. It's receding, but usually it's at an unimportant rate that won't matter til you're in your 40s or some shit and look like a dog anyway.
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Tfw I sat on a bench today smoking and two drunkards/tramps sitting on a bench nearby saw me and tried to get a cig.
I'm tired of dealing with those types so I just told them I have nothing, even though I just put the cigs in my pocket.
Later on I sat on another bench and they were nearby again, and one of them went up to me and asked if he can have a question mister.
I said fuck no and as he continued fucking with me I got angry and stood up to signal that he should fuck off, though I had trouble staying cool and confident so it was more like I lost control than coolly told him to gtfo.
I'm 6ft/170 lbs and he was shorter than me but rather stocky, and was all covered in tats, probably been in jail.
I have some kickboxing and karate experience but I'm not some pro fighter and more of a pretty educated middle class guy, so I don't feel too confident dealing with those bydlo types. Anyways he fucked off.
I wonder why do they like to bother me. I dress fashionably and as I said am kinda the educated, polite looking type, so perhaps they think I will give them money for their alcohol; unfortunately I don't intend to. Perhaps I should increase my neck size or just get more muscle and practice keeping my calm with dealing with such shit. Also I wish I had a deep voice, it would be helpful with influencing people. Alas it's nasal due to deviated septum.
Additional information: I was under the influence of GBL during the whole incident.
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>>17395322
Move out of brown town.
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>>17395322
maybe stop being a piece of shit person and start being an actually good person, helping out those who were less fortunate than you
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Money spent for alc or cigs is nothing but wasted. Moreover you have the right to decline if someone asks you for a cigarette. Just keep calm while doing so.
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I'm pissed. Some fast food worker was very rude to me today and I'm not sure if I should call the manager about it.
>Be me, 18 y/o male who looks VERY young
>Lots of times people will ask me if I'm old enough to drive
>Pull up to the drive thru window
>Older lady stares at me with a horrible attitude and says "Really?"
>She then yells at her worker to "Come look at this" while looking at me
>Other worker peeks through the window and stares at me
>Gives me my food then I leave
Am I just pissed and overexaggerating, or should I call her manager because this was very rude?
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>>17395299
ehhh. its hard to say. id be pretty fucking pissed to to be honest.
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Just because you look like a baby, doesn't mean you should act like one.
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>>17395299
I would complain to management and say that she made you feel really uncomfortable
>I kept scoring 20-22 on the ACT.
>My parents spent a good sum of money to enroll me in a practice ACT class.
>My score has not improved at all.
>All we do is review grade school math and how to read, as well as take a practice test once every two weeks.
>I know how do all of that just fine.
>I am unable to focus through the entire test.
>My scores decrease as each test goes on.
>My parents don't listen and just tell me to try harder.
I am beginning to run out of options here /adv/.
I tried drinking cold water and even sneaking in coffee (not permitted on the actual test).
Any ideas on how to consistently stay focused during the entire test would be much appreciated.
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Adderoll
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>>17395264
Work out, go early to bed, rise early, eat vegan or at least healthy
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>>17395264
If you want to do well on the ACT, then you need to become more familiar with the logic behind the questions. I don't know what they do in ACT classes, but you don't need someone to tell you how to take the test.
What are your subscores?
>I got a 30 on the ACT
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How do I stop being a clown? 2016-07-26 18:40:08 Post No.17395248
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Every social group I find myself in, from middle school, to high school, to college, to post-grad life, I end up being "that guy". It's fun to be silly and make jokes for me. When people just sit there and talk about boring shit like the weather or how many errands they ran that day I just want to jump off a bridge.
The problem is that this leads to people seeing me as a "clown" and overtime, I get taken less and less seriously until I have 0 respect in the group at all and I just peace out to find other people to hang with.
What do I need to fix?
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had a similar issue, not anymore.
first and foremost, stand the fuck up for yourself. one of my friends started referring to me as a female cuz he thought it'd be funny. by joke three i said 'call me a female again, and I'll hurt you'. he said 'geeze, sorry birthday girl' so i elbowed him. laughed and called me 'christina' (names christopher) so i whacked him hard in the face with a gallon of water. hasn't called me a female since.
when it comes to jokes think about the joke before you say it. is it
>self deprication? dont do it. even if saying 'i have a big penis' doesn't sound like self depreciation, it very much can be cuz you're reducing yourself to sex jokes.
>clever? do it. clever jokes, play on words, etc. tend to go over pretty well. you arent seen as a clown, you are seen as a comic.
>really that funny? if it is, go for it. but heres a tip: if the joke is essentially 'so bad its funny' then its not funny at all. dont do it. dont be like 'HAHAH I MADE A BAD PUN, THATS THE JOKE LOLOLOL'
make sure you avoid the following
>your mom
>thats not what your gf said last night
>thats what she said
those kind of simple things.
now you are probably thinking
>ugh norma conversation is boring
try to guide conversation. you will figure out who is actually worth hanging out with, and who is not. this isnt tos ay you are better or they are better, but rather some people simply cannot mesh, and being a clown is an easy way to gain that acceptance. you dont need the acceptance.
try to guide the conversation, be a leader and those interested in you will follow.
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Depression, Grades & Future Dreams 2016-07-26 18:38:56 Post No.17395243
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For years now, I have been carrying something which felt like a heavy burden. Something which always negatively influenced my concentration, academic performance, mood, to an extent my social life.
I carried this feeling and problem to university, thinking everything would be all right.
>It was not.
I formally didn't pass my first year at university, not getting enough points as i didn't pass enough exams (passed about half). And the exams I did pass, i didn't pass well, just barely passing.
Now, it is suspected by my advisors and university psychologists, that I may be suffering from long-term depression, which i carried around with me all this time and that it is what has kept me back all these years.
>It is possible that I may get another chance.
>By either being able to continue my studies with support from supervisors, who support me
or
>Taking a one year 'break' to get my failed exams and life back in order and get a new start into the second year after that.
I am very lucky, should i be given this opportunity be the people around me.
But at the same time i basically lost this year to mediocre performance in the subjects i passed. And these bad grades cannot be erased.
Even if everything goes well and I finally see my grades climb to where i feel they can be (given my abilities), I still have these few bad exams tagging along throughout my GPA and CV.
After I get my life back in order:
>Is this going to screw with my prospect of going into higher academia and becoming a university lecturer? Or doing other things which demand almost perfect grades?
All people i know who have achieved professor / docent status, were almost perfect achievers - with no perceivable bumps in their lives. Perfect grades around the clock. Going on to great research university.
>Only win at life
>have i already lost?
>Any experiences you could share?
>How did you deal after you got better?
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My wife has depression. It took months, but I talked her into treatment after she skidded through her first year and bombed her second. She got a Master's at Columbia and had a six-figure job lined up after graduating. No one gives a fuck about your first few years in college, since those classes are all time-wasters designed to weed out the idiots. Future schools and employers only care about the later, more focused coursework. You have nothing to worry about.
...except that you write like a C student, at best. Take some pride in your writing or getting your depression treated won't change anything.
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Those are very reassuring words, anon. Thank you.
The only main difference between your wife's situation and mine, may be that i am in Europe, where we don't have those 'weeding out' college years.
It is major all the way through, for three years, after which you have a Bachelor. Therefore, theoretically every exam and grade may have a deeper impact.
Then again, this is not to discredit what you have said and your wife has done.
It is reassuring to know that there may still be hope to achieve my goals.
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Hey... I'm having the same problem.
Except I don't even know if I am doing the right thing in Chemical Engineering. It all sounded so promising, idk. Its just that I don't really have a second plan, I tried spending some months away and nothing. I just want to do nothing. I have a few people that matter to me and spending time with them or procrastinating is all I REALLY feel like ever doing. So since I already luckied out and got enough grades to be approved on such a good university and courses, since I know I have the mental potential (never had to make an effort in middle/highschool) and since I would still feel like doing nothing no matter what, I might as well stay in what holds the most economically promising future.
I just want to skip class all the time, I've even skipped many tests before and its all piling up now where I have 0's accross the board in a couple harder classes.
At least I tend to do well on the rest, but it's still a heavy weight snowballing effect. I just can't study. I'm right here, a test tomorrow, and because I haven't kept msyelf up to speed with the classes, I just can't make myself grab the material I have for tomorrow. A feeling of dread and futility just overcomes me completely.
Does treating depression involves taking meds? My biggest fear is of getting an addiction or some other heavy medicine problems.
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Found a guy on a dating site 2016-07-26 18:25:24 Post No.17395215
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I found a boyfriend using okcupid. Kinda ashamed at the fact that I had to stoop down to using a dating site instead of using in real life. I'm very shy and there's not a lot of choices near me since I'm a small town girl, living in bumfuck nowhere.
Best of all he's 22, I'm 24. He's not some run of the mill 19 year old. I get a ton of 19 year olds attracted to me and I just can't help but think of their immaturity and age gap.
So yeah if I tell someone "we met on the Internet" or "we met on a dating site" how do you think that information would be taken? What's YOUR first reaction?
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literally everyone is on tinder these days, so no one cares. its not 2006.
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>>17395215
It's not uncommon these days. Most people won't give a damn.
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Would have to say first reaction would be how long had you known the person and how was their personality from what you could gather.
My gf of 2.5 years broke up with me, she said we hadn't been spending enough time together and she felt I wasn't treating her right. A few days before we broke up I noticed her texting some guy, didn't think anything of it at first, then a few days later she asked if I wanted to hang out with them because it'd be weird for them to hangout considering we're still dating, they decided they shouldn't
However, literally the next day he gave her a ride home from work because he worked near her, again I though, fair enough, she needed a ride home. The next 2 days they hung out together, without her telling me, I would ask her what she's up to and she said at the park talking to that guy, the next day she went to his church, day after that we broke up
I asked her if she had feelings for him and she said she doesn't know
I don't know where to go from here, 2.5 years down the drain after her talking to a guy for a few days, the other issues she raised were legitimate but I don't believe they were breakup worthy, I feel so broken and betrayed, I've thrown up because of how sick I feel, I've cried in front of family members I haven't cried in front of in years
I guess I'm just asking for some wisdom and support
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Now you suck it up, learn from your mistakes, and get a younger model.
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You got enough replies last threat.