Alright I need some advice, /adv/. My sister paid fifty dollars for a broken kitten. The little thing has hella fleas, and I'm pretty sure ear mites. I've combed her with a lice comb and I'm pretty certain I've gotten most if not all of them. Ive never had a flea problem. I just want to know what precautions and / or steps I could take to prevent an outbreak. Ive only had her about two days. Pic related, its her after bath to murder fleas.
I have alot of experience with stuff like this.
1- You absolutely need to get it the proper shots.
2- You never comb fleas or ticks out, use a shampoo first and then comb them out. Also, I hope you didn't have her inside the house while she still had fleas on her. Go and buy a 1$ shampoo, use that on the kitten.
3- Don't call a kitten "broken".
How old is she? Depending on her age, please avoid using flea medicine because it's too intense for her little body.
Vacuum any furniture/floor she's been in contact with and wash fabrics with hot water. A big part of stopping a flea problem is controlling the environment to prevent future issues. Consider isolating her in a small room until the problem is 110% cleared up.
Consider popping over to /an/, shit like this is that board's bread and butter. Also seconding >>17397039 to please not refer to this kitten as "broken." She's a cutie, reminds me of my own Captain.
>>17397078
She's only about 7 weeks. Knowing this I mixed natural shampoo with about five percent flea shampoo and washed her twice with it. I did do the comb thing tho with out doing that first, about a days difference. I got a lot out that way and drowned them. The room she was mainly kept in marinating in flea killing vacuum dust
this spans over 7 years but i'll try to summarize it as quickly as possible
>be freshman in hs, male
>make group of friends, shits chill
>have really cool house, pool w/ waterslide, guest house for parties, cool ass parents, etc.
>nagging feeling only have friends bc house
>become depressed
>can't talk about it bc no one would admit something like that
>don't seek help bc i think its all in my head
>contemplate suicide from time to time but never come close to actually attempting
>hs experience is mostly normal
>time passes
>be present
>best friend finds gf
>cool-good-for-you.gif
>call friend Andrew and girl Daniela
>Andrew is increasingly emotionally unavailable for Daniela
>makes her feel like shit
>one night she's freaking out and asks for my help
>after that we start to slowly develop a friendship separate from Andrew
>Andrew gets super jealous and starts suspecting me of swooping on his gf
>thought wasn't even on my radar
>i get super heated and almost terminate our friendship then and there
>week or so later he breaks up with Daniela
>she wants to see me, she's devastated
>ofc i'll i'm here for you
>i am an extremely loyal friend, but i hadn't had any poon in like 2 years and she pulled out all the stops
>i cave and we have sex
>what-have-i-done.jpeg
>already a piece of shit so we have sex a few more times, might as well milk my sin for all its worth
>some complicated faggot shit happens now they're back together
>realize i'm in love with Daniela, but I want her to be happy so I let her do her thing
>cuck2.0 amirite?
cont
Sounds like she's a parasite and you got suckered in.
One host to another.
Never ever mistake attention for affection.
This is op. Idk why but it won't let me post from my computer anymore. Will retype the rest on phone
>still really good friends with Daniela
>Sleep over together, cuddle, basically dating without sex
>It hurts a lot but I do it anyway. Shes done a lot of really good shit for me.
>Andrew doesn't know this
>Daniela tells me how much shit Andrew talks about me, mostly how insanely jealous he is of me
>Feelsgoodman
>Only joy I can get from the situation
>Because of friendship with Daniela he is still suspicious of me
>Understandable, hut he's too chicken shit to confront me
>Andrew doesn't stop, he's actually obsessed
>This goes on for a week or so
>Daniela finally tells me all the awful shit Andrew has really been saying about me
>Includes:
>Nobody likes [me] people only make friends for [my] house
>Our friends ignore him because he is disinteresting and weird
>[Me] thinks he's a bodybuilder but he's not even ripped (9% 140lbs at 5'7 not amazing but not bad)
>I'm told there's even more but Daniela won't tell me to spare my feelings
>Heard him talking like this on the phone to someone else, definitely true
Cont
i guess i'm looking for a place where i can write a public diary, like on a forum. google isn't so helpful. found some reddit board but it's basically dead.
anyone know of a place?
Livejournal/tumblr you dumdum
>>17397026
i don't really get how tumblr works, but it seems like just a blog. hoping for people to actually read and sometimes comment on my journal, and on big sites like that it's kinda hard to get a following.
does this make sense? a lot of what i want to write is really mundane and uninteresting, so a smallish yet active community would be ideal
>>17397029
i did something like that! i wanted to make it private but ended up making it public. i found out i was getting a lot of traffic and a lot of people read my personal diary entries. i was very shocked and embarrassed that day. ill try to find the website for you
>tfw 200 people have read your diary
I made a thread earlier, either I didn't make it or I can't find it.
I will make it short. I just came out of a 10 yr period where I was exposed to sexual, psychological and at points; physical abuse.
I had zero self esteem before I cut ties with parents. Now I am going to college and I have people talk to me, but they can see something is off with me. I miss what people say because I am too focused on my work. This girl called my name few times but I didn't hear her. I do talk to people, I make nice comments and I notice my superiors always like me - i guess they can see i have a good heart.
Problem is I am really closed off. My self esteem is so low I never start conversation first, wait for others to talk to me. I never make small talk and I just make comments / agree or laugh about little things.
Since I am handsome alot of people assume I may be a grade A prick, which I am not. I am lonely as fuck and I want to make friends =/. Before the dark period started I was completely fine so I know I am not an autist (not that there is anything wrong with that).
But how can I be more attentive to people so I don't go through life being a wallflower man? I am tired of missing out on things.
(However, I have been making alot of progress. I am just asking for alot in little time maybe. Like before last week I would not talk at all but now I am making progress).
Maybe there is a book? a guide etc
>>17396998
It takes steps. Every day you try to overcome yourself and spark a conversation. Say nice things to yourself when you do something productive, this will get your self-esteem a bit higher every day. Try to search for a person who'll show interest in you enough to try and open you up.
Alright, this may not be a topic you come across every day, but I'll just cut to the chase.
>Be 18, exchange student in Japan, really introverted
>Everyone told me that there's no problem even if I'm not an extrovert.
>Now been here for five months, really just want to end it and go home. The program is originally scheduled to last until New Year's.
>No freedom at all -- I'm told to do something and I basically have to do it. People list me up for some events and stuff for me, without even asking if I want to go.
>Everyone in school acts like elementary schoolers. I was told that they were childish before I left, but this is way beyond my expectations.
>Can't make friends with people due to the above and just not having that much in common.
>The only people I really get along with are my host family, but they want me to "experience Japan and talk to as many people as possible".
>I even wrote in my application that I'm an introvert and prefer activities that I can just do with a few friends.
>Tried talking with some of my friends whether I should just quit and come back home.
>No one really seems to care, my closest friend just says that since I'm here already, I might as well stay here until the program is over.
>Some days ago I got this overwhelming feeling that everyone hates me. My friends back home, everyone here too.
>Parents saying it'd be nice if I'd be here until the end.
>Starting to get depressed again. Had some problems a few years ago but managed to somehow sort them out by myself.
>Probably can't go see a psychologist until I'm in Finland.
>Even if I'd return, I'd just be seen as the guy who dropped out.
I want to clarify that this isn't exactly culture-shock or homesick or anything like that. I just don't see myself gaining anything from being here any more.
Also, I'm almost fluent in daily Japanese, so I can actually communicate with people etc.
So, should I just go home or try to force myself to suffer five more months?
>>17396996
I'd stay. The depression of leaving is going to be a lot worse. Power through that bitch.
Look at it like this. You will never see this opportunity again. You are young, force yourself to go out. Ask you friends to take you out or introduce you to some females. Go to the gym if there is one close or ride a bike to the park. Fuck some chicks mane, there are people who wish to be in your position, everything will be forgotten in the years to come.
>a depressed Finn
try to be less of a stereotype, geeze
/adv/ I have ptsd and severe depression. I went from a bright sharp young kid, to what feels like a traumatic brain injury victim. I cant concentrate, some days I can't even follow along with a TV show. My memory has been reduced to foggy bits and pieces of nothing, My vision is very clouded, fuzzy and looks like a static tv (confirmed nothing to do with my eyes) and to make matters worse im only 22 years old. From what i've gathered, this doesn't go away and i'm stuck with this.
/adv/ I havent done anything with my life yet and it's extremely difficult maybe even near impossible to learn with my cognitive and memory impairment coupled with fatigue that leaves me wanting to sleep 24 hours a day. I have 800$ I can spend. Is that enough to get an escort to hangout with me and watch stuff and cuddle or something? I have no one, and my best friend killed himself.
you should join him
That's more than enough, to be honest.
Buy the rest in weed.
>>17396993
You sound like you need the help of a professional. Go spend your money on a psychiatrist, would make you happier anyway.
My friend started dating a known slut. Began changing him in various ways. Few months in she started asking me for advice on their relationship. Things progressed and convos began to turn sexual. Friends began noticing we acted weird together. I pulled it together, told some buddies, and we tried to tell him we were talking. He told us he didn't believe it and threatened to kick my ass. Later that week she asked if i wanted nudes. I fucked up. Is there anyway i can salvage our friendship?
>>17396946
Receive nudes
@
Send them to your friend
@
'Look what she did, talk to her or something'
>>17396946
Your friend is a stupid faggot who is not worth your time and honestly. Accept nudes from girlfriend, fuck his girlfriend, film it for fun and future fapping. You could also send him said video but that is like the atomic force of cucking and might send him over the edge or over to your house with a gun.
If he doesn't trust you, he's not your friend.
But, if you really wanna keep the friendship, just wait for him to find out she's cheating on him, because of she's not yet, she will.
Then, he will come back and apologize. If you give a fuck, you can go back being buddies or whatever.
Plz halp /adv/, this shit is driving me crazy....I'll try to keep it short
>25
>met girl at work a year ago, she had bf, I had gf, so we were always friends
>fast forward to last month, she breaks up wit her bf, I'm also recently single
>find new job
>during "2 weeks notice" period, me and girl become close
>take lots of breaks together, talk a shit ton
>finally have last day of work. 2 days later she texts me
>we begin texting daily for like 3-4 days
>one night she asks me what we're doing
>i didn't know what that means and asked her to clarify
>she goes on to tell me that she likes me as more than just a friend etc
>i tell her it's mutual etc
>catsoutofthebag.jpg
>we set up time to hang out during the following week
>she cancels same day, less than an hour before...acting very distant
>reaches out to me following day basically indicating that she met with ex to tie up lose ends
>kind of irritated but whatever
>we continue to text during the week, she starts convos about 50% of the time.
> earlier this week we talk about actually hanging out, she says she's free this weekend
>set up hangout on saturday
>fast forward to today, we're texting as usual
>the topic of saturday comes up
>she asks what we're doing
>i jokingly ask if she's gonna bail on me again
>she insists she's not
>i tell her i'll think of a plan
>she sends me a text, word for word: "Make a plan that doesn't seem like a date tho. K cool"
What the fuck.
After that she said "i'm sorry that was rude, we can do whatever"
At that point I just suggested that we grabbed a drink somewhere and that was it. Is this salvageable or do I cancel this and just not talk to her anymore? It reeks of friend-zone and I don't feel like wasting my time.
>>17396938
Well lots of problems I see on /adv/ is not being blunt. Sometimes you have to be blunt. Something like... 'Dear lady, would you kindly clarify our relationships for me because I'm a little bit nervous you might have friend-zoned me?'
She's back with her ex, OP. Move on.
>>17396953
She just moved out from his place....I'm 99.99% sure this isn't the case but it's always a possibility
I've thought of suicide for over a year now. I feel like I have reached my breaking point. A friend of mine committed suicide a year ago today, and I feel like it is time to join him. Life has just been so shitty. Does it ever get better? I want to retain the hope that it will but I am beginning to doubt myself.
you are not alone
it does get better.
Fucking thing wound let me post the number you can call for help
>>17396934
Yes, it always gets better, I can motherfucking asure you. You can get trough it anon, think about what your friend would want for YOU.
I don't fear death, yet I'm just waiting to slip away.
>Meet a girl during high school, she says she loves me but doesn't want a relationship.
>I slowly drift away. She says she still loves me yet I'm still upset that she didn't want to commit.
>Go to college.
>I'm not attracted to anyone.
>I become a workaholic once I got a job.
>Work out twice a day
>I study in my free time because I'm my biggest rival.
>My scores/grades are average at best
>I want to be great and loved for me
I feel really aloof. I can't feel love anymore. Sometimes I wonder if I'm gay because nobody does anything for me. I just can't see beauty anywhere. What do?
>>17396930
It feels like you've stuck in the routine and are in dire need of experiences. Go to a concert or shit.
>because nobody does anything for me.
Nobody owns you shit, OP.
A woman told you she loved you and you didn't care, so, why should anybody else give a fuck about you?
Wanna see beauty? Take some ecstasy and enjoy life for once.
>>17396972
Yeesh. This isn't really where I'm getting at... Trust me I cared that she loved me, it just hurt that she wanted an open relationship essentially. I think I'm just going through depression because of that actually. She's still my friend but we've lost the romance. As Elvis would sing, YOU'VE LOST THAT LOVING FEEEELING.
Hey /adv/ so I'm going to start college this fall and I'm taking a bi major and am in pre-med. However a problem has came up for me right now and I'm taking calc. for life science since I passed my ap exam and I was planning on taking stats after since its going to be a requirement for the med school I want to go to, but now I've been doing research on life science calc and its seen as easier than reg. calc. so now I'm not sure if I should take it or just take stats and work my way up since I read that med schools like it when you take rigorous courses
Also, college advice thread
>>17396925
Is life science calc a degree requirement? Does it lead into anything else? Do you think that the class would actually be helpful for you in your major or is it more of a throw away class.
Yes of course med schools like it when you take rigorous courses, but try not to overdo it your first year or you might run into some trouble. How many credits are you taking? What else are you taking? Pre-med can be tough, there are classes out there designed to filter out students who can't hack it. I always heard classes like organic chem were tough and caused a lot of major switching. Which class do you think would set you up better to excel in the harder parts of the major? One math class taken in your first year probably wont make a big difference, overall you just want to finish at the top or near the top of your graduating class. Worry more about the major specific stuff which might actually challenge you, doesn't seem like calc is going to tear you up.
My biggest advices for new college kids is
1. be comfortable with failure. You will fail. Probably. Really probably. Suck it up, deal with it, don't let a fuck up generate more fuck ups.
2. make friends in the very first week. When you go to college, people want to make friends. Within a week or two groups are already formed. You will have a really hard time getting into one afterwards.
When I was a freshman I didn't talk to anyone because I was in a rough patch. 5 years later and I still don't have many friends in college.
>>17396941
>Is life science calc a degree requirement?
Yes it is
>Does it lead into anything else?
Not sure what you mean by that, but its the last math class for the degree
>Do you think that the class would actually be helpful for you in your major or is it more of a throw away class.
I think that it'll help me
>How many credits are you taking? What else are you taking?
I'm taking 12 credits. I have psych, uni writing, and some freshman seminar
Thanks for the advice tho anon, that was pretty helpful
Guys sry for gross pic but my stitches are still in and my skin has mostly healed. Do I go back to the doctor or will they fall out later?
>>17396908
>srry for gross pic
What website are you on?
is this a real question
>>17396908
Nope, the doc should take out the stitches.
I know that my boyfriend doesn't hate me, but my constant insecurities make me constantly feel unloved, especially when he's doing his own thing and not paying attention to me. I force myself to give him space and time to do his own thing, and I logically know that he loves me, but I want to be able to /feel/ that everything is alright when I'm not with him to see the evidence. Any advice on how I can stop being a fucking idiot?
Practice self validation.
Being in a relationship should be because you want to, not because you NEED to.
Even though you're both dating, it's not his job to be your constant source of comfort and security. You have to be your own person, too.
Be grateful and accept what you have.
>>17396809
Yeah. Stop.
Go do something else for your self esteem like work out or paint or accomplish something.
My gf is stashing benzos acting up and down all the time FUCKING with my head constantly. Doesn't know I know. Savage drama every day. Ativan to be specific. Mixes with alcohol also. I'm worried as hell. Any advice?
>>17396795
Ativan to be specific.
>>17396795
Get her family involved, tell them she is abusing prescription painkillers.
>>17396818
She has no family. Also they're not painkillers!
>june 2016: new female coworker in the company
>find out she's my soulmate
>but she has a bf who still in the university and lives far away
>I'm leaving the company for a new job next month
I'm thinking about telling her about my feelings this week... Or maybe it's not a good idea... I dont know. any advice?
Wouldn't hurt. You're leaving anyways. If you're moving else where, even if she rejects you, it might be easier to move on but if you don't take a chance, you might end up wondering "what if...?"
You found out she's your soulmate in a month?
>>17396771
She's not your soulmate.
But tell her, not like a total idiot, and then be either:
Pleasantly surprised if something develops, or
Cool with a "this won't work out I'm seeing someone" and no regrets.
and find new pussy.