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Start medication

15 year old me?

"Keep your emotions under control, and start caring about school. You can get started on your future much earlier, and might even be able to bring a girl who means the world to you along for the ride, if you take this advice."

kill yourself now, it only gets worse

>>17421902
>bald
???
OP, you're fine.

>>17421920
I'll be bald before too long you can't much tell but I'm thinning in the front. I don't think I'll make it to 30 at this rate

>>17421902
You are absolutely not "reasonably good looking". Don't flatter yourself.

By "stay safe in crowds" do you mean "stay safe in the event of some sort of disaster event". If so I've got nothing for you.

>>17421891
>Clinton rally
Degenerate

Conceal carry... nevermind

After reading all that I'm sure no one wants to, but I have my paper and the other paper to compare if that helps.

>>17421882
b-bump

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>>17421914
help

Because you're clearly not a 6/10, or you fit some character archetype that she's into. Like how someone who's into let's say shy girls will take a shy 7/10 over a loud and boisterous 9/10 if they want a sustained relationship. Also stop quantifying attractiveness in numbers like shoe sizes and pay attention to more than looks, be an adult.

>>17421854
>stop quantifying attractiveness
Why? It's pretty important, it's the first thing you see.

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Deviations from the guidelines occur regularly.

>You got lucky, foo', don't mess this up.

>>17421816
What state are you in? Some states like Georgia have scholarships that everyone can get if they meet certain requirements.

>>17421926
North Carolina, right near RTP

>>17421816
Can someone help me too?
I'm a latino who got a little above average grades, want to study computer engineering

>>17421797
I have no problem with abstinence but I think purity rings are fucking gay.

>>17421802
Can you be more detailed about your opinion on purity rings? I'm wondering about wearing one

>>17421820
They look stupid and they're pointless. No one is going to immediately know that you're a virgin if you wear a ring (inb4 the jokes). Just tell the girl you want to wait till marriage or just try to pick girls at a church (do people do that?).

>>17421788
I doubt anyone outside the most autistic spergs actually practice. Just look like you are having fun, it's not like its a competition and you are being judged.

Reload animations

Get drunk. Flap about. Do shit like the sprinkler, wetsuit, lawnmower.

The clarity you feel when smoking weed is not actual clarity, but the distorted thinking caused by chemical influences on the brain. You can't see into someone's soul, dumbass, you only think you can.

>>17421863
You're right but there comes a point where you feel really sorry for people and you can see them as the helpless creatures they are. It's discomforting but a mindset I can't escape on drugs (weed or psychedelics).

>>17421776

she says she is still confused about her last relationship and it wouldn't be good for her to be in another relationship right now
>I feel retarded at this point, tell her not to apologize and say it's good that she's being honest, and that she knows what's best for herself
>this isn't me being beta, this is me recognizing that she's a really close friend and I don't want to ruin that over some stupid 2 week crush
>next day I became a victim of my own thoughts, and apologize to her for putting her on the spot, told her I was drunk etc. (i kind of was, and probably wouldn't have made that call if I wasn't)
>she assures me it's okay and all that.
>after that she was super distant...the once flirty, talkative girl I knew was giving me 1-2 word responses. eventually stops texting me again altogether.

fast forward a couple days to now
>we're supposed to go to a concert with some mutual friends sunday.
>i text her today and ask if we're still all meeting up beforehand
>she tells me yeah, and to clarify with one of our friends about the plans cause she "doesn't like planning things"
>again being very distant, replying once an hour

fuck man...is there any way to fucking salvage this? I regret ever telling her how I feel since I'd probably rather just be friends with her anyways. Should I even go to this fucking concert on sunday or do I just drop this shit and go no contact.

>>17421776
>>she had been in a 5 year relationship until recently
OP regardless of what happened or how the relationship ended it takes any normal person time to detox from a relationship. If you really dig her be patient if you cannot then bail. However, as the transition guy you'll have to deal with her having second thoughts about leaving the former bf and that means loose ends, emotional conversations and sex occasionally with him.

>>17421841

I'm not in a rush but what am I supposed to do at this point? Do I go with on sunday? Should I stop initiating any contact with her?

>>17421721
My advice is to dump your man and get some strange. That's what you really want to do, right? Everyone needs to get that out their system before they realize it ain't all it's cracked up to be

>>17421721
>How do I get rid of this infatuation? I don't have the balls or the lack of compassion to try anything else in this situation.
Your infatuation is likely the result of your unresolved relationship issues. Until these issues are resolved, you're going to feel this way about others from time to time and you will probably end up doing something stupid.

>He has little stamina and will to go out now and the sex is very routine. We've discussed it, "circumstances blah blah" and all that.
Is he just making excuses or are the both of you taking steps to fix these issues?

>>17421721


>He has little stamina and will go out for sex and the sex is very routine

I love how you're already trying to rationalize it to make it his fault.

you want to cheat because you're a coward little bitch who can't break it off. and you're also delusional and possibly low-IQ. Stay subhuman.

>>17421709
Once a girl told me she's in love with me so I was like fuck it, why not give it a go, even though I didn't really love her, but over the time I grew more and more fond of her to the point I thought it was love (can't really say if it was or not). But then she broke up with me and the strange thing is, I was all emotionally fucked up for only 2 weeks, after that it was like it never happened.

Don't know what that means, but yeah, that's all I can say about that.

For me the feelings usually come first, but that's because I'm not somebody who feels a particular need to have a gf or friends or anything like that. For normal people, I could see them getting into a relationship before the feelings come along. It's not really my style, though. I like to keep to myself unless I have a very good reason not to, like if I really enjoy someone's company.

>>17422455
Are you my ex? I feel like that's how he probably handled the situation, because he's autistic like that.

Real love is there and felt by both parties. It's like an electric shock running through both people. Love and relationships are two different things though, you can care about a person and live a fulfilling life with them, but it doesn't mean you're in love with them. It's just settling.

On the other hand, real love is wild and can burn out because you're incompatible in practical ways. I love this thread, grabbing my blanket, going to chill here for a bit.

Nope you gotta be happy on your own, works most of the time but sometimes it won't be enough.
Tried connecting with people but it doesn't work because I'll always lie feeling the real me is inadequate hence not building a real relationship ever, just be crazy aka make yourself laugh with jokes and be your own best friend.

People might think you are crazy but since you're alone most of the time they won't see you do it anyways just don't do it at work or something.

If you live your life always expecting to be completed by someone, you'll never find wholeness. Heaven or hell are found within self, and as Edgar Cayce once said, life isn't something you can commit to some big feat, clap your hands, and say, I'm changing forever! It's a slow steady growth. Think of everyday as a brick. Other people may laugh because their houses are straighter or bigger, or fancier, but one day you'll have a tower that soars over all of theirs. Maybe not on the outside, but within and that's all that matters.

We're caught up in a society that assesses value based on a perceived social appraisal. That's why some of us flock here to hide, and "MUH EXPRESSION OF TRUE SELF BEHIND ANONYMITY!" All that does is fan the flames of what you don't want. The truth is you should never be anything, ANYTHING, you don't feel true to.

I always remember this when I'm interacting with others, even if I can't live up to it, the fact that I'm among good company is comforting.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=58o8FfKYvdc

>>17422448

Yeah true that. I just checked out the video and now im a fan of bruce lee.

Tell your professor, "I'm coincidentally having family issues at the start of the semester. Some things are more important than class." Don't throw an autistic shit fit, but be firm, reasonable, assertive, but of all things calm.

Missing the first week isn't that bad, just make sure to catch up quickly as you can fall behind easily.

>>17421664
>I went to one class and my lecturer made fun of me for being 'that guy who doesn't participate or prepare'
Fucking rude. That's not how you run a classroom.

You should show up even without the materials. Highly recommend emailing your professors about your situation. You can just say due to a family member passing away, you'll be unable to get the course materials for the first week." They'll completely understand.

Email the professor of the class you already went to, too. Cant hurt.

Just so you know, your professors will probably drop you if you don't show up and don't tell them in advance.

Look for examples online. A general template is
>generic opening paragraph
>detailed paragraph about his job specifically
>generic closing

Keep it under 1 page. Write things not on your resume. Whyd you like to work there. What you can bring. Properly edited with header, date, etc

Lots of people are terrible at CV, so if you write a great one, you'll go far. Spend a LOT of time on it because it is very important.

The goal of the resume is to get into an interview. To pique interest. You dont need to include every single detail.
The appearance-at-a glance is very important. Imagine you have a pile of 30 resumes in front of you. At best you can spend 1 minute looking at each, but more likely you'll spend 5 seconds. Those 5 seconds need to leave an excellent impression.
Create a brand for yourself. It can be anything from 'experienced software engineer' to 'young working professional.' Every single line in your resume should somehow tie into your brand and those words should to appear both in your objective (if you have one) and your cover letter.
Dont BS. It'll be obvious at the interview. Instant trash. You should be able to defend and elaborate on every point you have in there.

Get folks to read it. Take their advice to heart. Rewrite multiple times.

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