How do you get over the anxiety of pregnancy from sex?
>Meet this woman on tinder
>8/10
>huge tits
>huge ass
>slim
>texts me every day telling me all of the hot perverted things she wants us to do
>wants me to fuck her ass and cum on her face
I'm having a problem where I freak out after we have sex. Like I silently have a panic attack. I am scared to death that she is accidentally going to get pregnant any my entire life will be ruined.
Does this stop anybody from having sex? She has gotten very angry at me over it, she doesn't even want to use a condom. I'm thinking about just not having sex anymore because it freaks me out.
>>17449765
I tell them condom or fuck off.
No joke.
I'm also scared of that I have a bright future.
>>17449782
The other day she tried rubbing my dick against her pussy without a condom on. It touched a little bit. I know I'm being paranoid, but I'm worried that a bit of precum got into her vagina or something.
I'm also starting to worry that she has taken cum off my cock and rubbed it into her pussy, like she's trying to get pregnant or something. Why else would she not want to use a condom?
She keeps saying
"Most guys just tell me it's fine! I used the pull out method with a guy for like 5 months straight and it was fine!"
>>17449782
Same here. No condom is a dealbreaker for me. There's no shame walking away from that.
I also talk to my sex partners about how they feel about abortion. You can't completely trust them not to change their mind later but at least you get an idea.
/adv/, I just got kicked into the real world since graduating college this May. I enjoy the modern lifestyle of dicking around with friends, watching movies together, playing games, etc. but I fucking hate the modern working life. I can't stand a 40 hour a week job at some large corporation that leaves me feeling like I'm just a terribly insignificant and irreplaceable piece in somebody else's larger vision. I'm envious of the people who run small organic farms or craft artisanal goods. I'm aware that it's hard work, but it's something that you built with your own two hands. However, that leaves people poor as shit. Been considering growing drugs as a middle ground between the two.
tl;dr I like having money, I don't like white collar jobs. I want to do farming, but I don't want to be poor. Been considering growing drugs.
What do?
>>17449723
>irreplaceable
I meant easily replaceable
You need to manage your ego. You're not a special snowflake.
Go do farming. I know a guy who graduated from my highschool, went to Oxford, just went "fuck it" and became a farmer.
He lives below the poverty line, but has a fine living eating food he grows, reading books, and doing whatever he wants to.
What do you want a lot of money for anyways?
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Im 18 5'11" 240lbs. I need to loose weight for college and an overall better life how can I go about doing this without already causing anymore damage to my knee.
Also Im a virgin so how do I get laid bros.
>>17449700
Cut out junk. No soda, no candy, no chips, no snack cakes, no sugary cereals, no fast food. If you can do that, you'll drop 10 lbs after a couple months, maybe even a little more weight.
>>17449700
you need to eat better, excise does help but proper food does a lot more. also girls are easy.
>>17449740
Honestly even though im a "big" guy im shy af. I have trouble ordering food or going to the cash register. How do I talk to someone outside of texting.
Hey guys, so months ago I started to engage in pretty unhealthy fapping behavior. I took pictures of my female colleagues and posted them on /r/ to have them cumshopped. Fast forward to now, I have basically gotten all of them removed (at least the really important ones). Some of them were professional photographs. If they were to ever figure out I posted it (I did not alter the images) how fucked am I from a legal standpoint?
>>17449682
You might be socially fucked but not legally.
>>17449682
Why would you ever get caught?
Just delete any pictures you have and if it ever comes up just say it was someone else. Have no fucking evidence that you ever did that shit. Change your IP or you ISP. Get a new computer, destroy all photos, get a new phone and you are good.
>>17449689
Well the photos that I had altered for me were professional photos of themselves. There was a moment in time where you could google them click on an image click view more sizes and see the photoshopped image there. Also one of the images that I had requested to get altered was recently taken down from her website. I dont want to assume she saw it but I dont want to say its a coincidence either.
How do you quickly say "Japanese people" or "Japanese person"?
Useless backstory: An Internet community I'm a part of pretty much speaks its own dialect of English stemming from its foundation by poor English speakers. Now we all speak to eachother in poor English with foreign grammar structure (I think it's Russian), repetitive statements, obscure slang, and tone/emotion is conveyed through the presence/lack of spelling errors and the inclusion of special slang words. Many groups of people are referred to by typically derogatory terms in this group, but these groups are actually revered and respected by the group. Japs and Buttes for example, but we love Japan and Bhutan, it's just annoying to type out "Japanese people".
Relevant backstory: In almost every scenario where Japan is mentioned, I say jap and japs. It runs in the family and I don't mean any wrong with it, it's just tedious to say "Japanese people" over and over again.
How do I quickly say Japanese?
"Jin", because I think the word for "Japanese citizen" in Japanese is "Nihonjin".
Call em Japs, slant eyes, chinks, good, yellas.
Elevens.
Hey guys, my 1080 just arrived and while I wait for the rest of the parts I thought that I might as well toss it in my old build and try it out. I noticed though that speccy is saying that It has 4 gigabytes of vram when it should have 8, any ideas?
Specify isn't really the most reliable when it comes to information.
Did you order it used or from China?
>>17449657
Nah man i got it from mass drop
>>17449647
Speccy had this problem with the 980 or the 980 ti where it would also only show 2gb vram, nothing to worry about.
How do you figure out when it's the right time to have kids?
Seriously, do you just have to do it one day? Because it feels like there would always be something that could get even better first.
>>17449608
some people have it happen spontaneously and regret it but grow to enjoy it, others plan it out when they feel they're both financially stable and fulfilled in other areas of life.
if you feel like there are other areas of your life you want to improve on first, be selfish and focus on those things so you don't feel regret that you can't do them when/if you have children.
despite how much my parents love me, I know they regret not doing all the things they wanted to and it will stay with them the rest of their lives.
>>17449620
In my case, it's a question of timing. My fiance is in the military and we had planned to try to get pregnant when he's back again. Which would have been in autumn. Now he will have to stay longer. Probably untill autumn next year. We had decided to wait till he's back because we don't want him to misathe whole pregnancy and possibly even the birth. But now i'm debating to try to get pregnant in autumn anyways. I really, really was looking forward to it. I don't want to wait so long... What should we do?
I moved into a studio apartment recently and my friends and family are trying to pressure me into hosting a housewarming. How do nicely I tell them that I'll be happy to show them around the suburb and meet up for lunch or dinner at one of the local restaurants but I don't want them over because my place is my "me time" space?
Just roll up your anime wallscrolls and show them around for like 7 minutes, then do dinner elsewhere.
>>17449605
You don't. You suck it up and show them your studio. Offer them sodas or coffee and then go out for lunch.
I had this same problem. My friends can't seem to grasp the concept that I don't won't them in my home because I won't feel as relaxed. I just tell them when I'm home I don't want to be bothered because sometimes I need to chill alone. Don't like it? Get over it. They finally stopped asking once they saw I wouldn't budge
I had a crush on a girl in my grade that was moving back to her home country, so I decided I'd do something about it before she left. Avoiding cringe - I tried to kiss her in a not-so-smooth way (asking), which didn't fare well, obviously. I figured it didn't matter since she was leaving anyway. Well life has its ways; she's moving BACK at the start of the second semester. So I'm thinking - what if I ask her out? Would she already be creeped or would I have a chance to forge a relationship right the second time? I waited too long last year, but I'll have more time this go-around. Thoughts? I expect 4chan to be brutal, as per usual.
>>17449600
Explain not-so-smooth?
Did she act like you were violating her space? If so, you are fucked. If you just caught her by surprise or the timing was bad then you may have a chance but I kind of feel like with this wording that you are beyond fucked. She''ll probably think of you as a rapist if you came on to her after you violated her space.
Nah I just asked, she turned me down. I did get hug, for what that's worth. :p She said I could text her whenever, but I don't have her number. But no, I did not go John Waters.
>>17449621
oh then yeah there might be a chance but grade? What grade? If you two are kids then she probably just didn't want to do anything sexual but might still like you. Also this site is 18 plus so fuck off.
Is there a way to obtain motivation?
When I was younger, I had a purpose and an idol. As I grew older, I ultimately failed such purpose and lost the perfection I used to see in my idol.
Without such things, I feel lost. I wonder what I should be doing now. Now that I have failed, what should I do now? Those things used to drive me to get out of bed. Everything felt structured and right. It made me push myself to do better.
Does everyone have a goal or idea that drives them? How does one find that?
I think for most people having a single goal or idea to drive you is a bad idea, unless it's some wide spread concept or something. A bunch of little, more reasonable goals might be better than putting all your effort into one thing.
Just for obtaining motivation in general what helps me best is having reasonable expectations and forming habits.
Often I lose motivation when I work towards a goal with too high an expectation for the outcome. I become a perfectionist and start fearing failure, which leads to procrastination. Now I try to put more value into the work I put in towards the goal rather then the outcome, because the outcome is always less then what I wanted.
For example I had a piano recital a few weeks that I worked my ass off for, but fucked up mid performance in such a way that I basically had to restart the whole section of the piece. Instead of letting that demotivate me I congratulate myself on how hard I worked for it. Looking at the effort you put in is a much better way to motivate than looking at the results, at least in my experience.
And building habits is really strong for building motivation. I'd recommend starting with this because you don't need a driving goal or idea. Just a pick a few things: read for 30 minutes each day, get a good nights rest, take a walk outside everyday, etc. It doesn't really matter what you do, what matters is you do it; well it should at least be somewhat healthy. Don't worry about why or what you're trying to achieve, and don't make it anything to difficult at first. The point is you'll feel better about yourself and find more motivation to do stuff.
I think my point is that you don't have to have some big raison d'être to center your life upon. You can just start with feeling good about yourself, then maybe figure out what you want to do from there.
Sorry if this is a little rambly, I've been thinking about this topic a lot lately. Hopefully you'll find something useful here.
>>17449597
Maybe you can go full nihilist and start believing you are your only idol and god, or you can accept that those idols you had back then were absolutely false, then search for new ones that are actually real. Maybe religion could help you. As well as Nietzsche. Idk.
The only concrete advice I give you is: read. Anything. But Philosophy is a must. I'm not implying you don't read, but if you do, just keep it up. Also, lift. Working out helps finding some purpose, at least for me. Do you fap really often? Then stop.
>>17449743
I don't know why but it's very hard hard to form habits for me. I really want to do it but my brain doesn't like to work for me. I've tried rewards, demotivation, praising, and even self harm at times but nothing really seems to work after a while.
It's also even hard for me to do small goals since my motivation is so fucked.
I dunno what's really wrong with me.
>>17449762
I personally wouldn't like to go full nihilist since I kind of went through a sociopathic phase when I was settling into some medication. I'm quite sure I would go full edgelord.
Also, religion doesn't really help me since it feels like the higher ups are a bit disappointed in me because I can't do anything properly and regularly. I tried to celebrate some holidays and it ended with me sleeping and laying in bed.
I tried working out too but always ended with me setting a very simple goal and struggling to do it.
I haven't read anything in a while but I'll get back into it. I'm not really a philosophy person, though. It was always so stuffy and reminded me of sermons I used to have in church: just stuff I didn't believe in or gave other people hope and motivation I never really had.
A few months ago I had dream of someone squeezing my testicles, and woke up with pain for two days. Until recently I didn't know that I was suppose take very extreme care of my balls.
Anyone know if theres a chance that I messes them up, or if there's some tests I should take?
Almost zero. Testicles are actually made of very tough but sensitive tissue. Ruptures, torsion, and lumps are the only things to really worry about. If it were a rupture (you would not be able to easily do this... you could get hit with a baseball bat and not have this happen. ) you would see blood in your cum but the pain would not stop and would be to intense to keep going.
Torsion is when they turn around and the blood flow gets constricted. This would hurt at first and keep getting worse. You wouldn't be walking around and it would never stop and your testicle would eventually die. People that have this happen are completely incapacitated. This is extremely rare. The fact that it stopped means it wasn't that.
Lumps would mean tumors/cancer you can check that yourself. Getting your balls squeezed wouldn't cause that though.
Realistically, your balls were probably just sore from getting squeezed too tightly. If you're really worried, get a checkup and tell your doctor and ask them to check if they feel anything odd. They'll explain the same thing I just did but will likely go into more detail to calm you.
>>17449590
Get a gf,
After sex tell her you are worried about you balls.
Insist by talking about but cancer.
tell her it has to be checked thoroughly every day.
Get a lot of regular attention down there.
>>17449900
Thanks for the info, bit do you know why it was hurting, since the pain was from a dream?
Hey /adv/, It's likely that I'll be losing my virginity in a few days time and I'd like some help with a few things:
A) How can I last longer in bed on my first time
B) How can I ensure that the girl gets off
C) Any general tips to achieve peak performance
Any help is appreciated /adv/, thanks!
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First off, let her know it's your first time and she'll understand unless she's an absolute bitch - in which case you shouldn't be fucking her anyway. Don't fuck people who aren't considerate and nice.
Trim your nails, read a few guides on fingering. Make out with her a long time, do foreplay-ish stuff like kissing her neck and playing with her breasts. Ask her how she likes to be touched. While you're fingering her, take note of how she breathes and responds to certain movements and try to fine tune it for her.
>>17449583
>How can I last longer in bed on my first time
M8, more likely than not you won't be able to cum the first time, especially if you're wearing a condom.
>>17449583
>A) How can I last longer in bed on my first time
Some people advocate jerking off beforehand, but above poster is right that if it's your first time wearing a condom (and if you're not wearing a condom, you may be stupid) your sensitivity will likely be reduced anyhow. Don't worry much. Lots of foreplay for her, don't stick it in too soon (also relevant to the below).
>B) How can I ensure that the girl gets off
Cunnilingus pretty much always works for me. Points above about manual stimulation also make some sense, although I've been with relatively few women who get off with fingers alone. But the best bet is to ask her what she likes and do that.
>C) Any general tips to achieve peak performance
It's your first time. Peak performance is neither expected nor likely. Sex, like most things, takes practice. I recommend you try as hard as you can to relax, talk to her, and have fun.
So I just recently started dating a girl in one of my classes, and I'm currently wondering what the I should do. We started dating with the knowledge that she goes to school out of state most of the time, so it's really just something short term, which I'm fine with. The issue is that shes currently living with her parents and doesn't want to spend the night out to be respectful I guess. I really like the girl and we get along great, but I'm starting to find the situation really frustrating honestly. I feel as though I really like her but can't do anything about it. She's implied that I can go for it during the day and see what happens, but I don't know how much she's willing to work with me on this when my hands are so tied. What do?
>>17449561
>I don't know how much she's willing to work with me on this when my hands are so tied.
What?
>>17449564
Feel free to tell me why I'm retarded
It's just that a curfew when you're adults is pretty limiting m80. Especially when you're students.
>>17449572
Of course curfews are limiting. But they're not a complete bar. She's basically said that you can do shit during the day, so I'm not quite sure where you think the problem lies.
Anyone here have the experience of immediately clicking with someone you've just met and feeling a special bond with them in just one day? This is even possible?
Could be just infatuation, give them time to disappoint you.
Yep. We started dating about two and a half years after we me, and we've been dating almost three years now.
Yes. A mutual friend introduced us over an online messenger, and we clicked immediately. We didn't know what one another looked like either.
The mutual friend said that we both reminded her of one another but she had been hesitating on introducing us because she feared we would start dating and stop hanging out with her. We eventually started dating a few months after that.
I need help it seems everyone my age has already started there careers and know what to do. Im 20 and i still havent gone to college. Iv wasted 2 years my life working at a dead end job. And i dont know what to do. I tried the military and that didn't work. I feel so lost.
It also seems that every career choice im intrested in is shit.
What should i do? The years feel like they fly by.
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You're only 20, chill. Lots of time to get good at something or find what you like to do. Pursue what you're super interested in or what you're good at. Most people are just in college at this time, trying to learn more about their future jobs.
Remember that some people are still in college at 26-28 because they changed their minds about what they wanted. Its not that weird to have your peers some years younger or older.
>>17449524
Just pick something, seriously. Anything. When people complain about millenials, this is what they mean, and I'm a fucking millenial. People your/my age haven't found some magic calling, they just picked something reasonable and stuck with it. If you can't do that, then you're fucking yourself over.
Just pick a trade or a useful college degree. There aren't any you absolutely love? Then pick one you can tolerate. It's either either work a shit job for the rest of your life for low pay, or work a shit job for most of your life for good pay. With the second option, at least you get to retire.
The "do what you love" saying is a meme. I'm sure it does happen, but I'd say 95% of the time you just have to pick something you're capable of that doesn't make you want to die, but that isn't necessarily amazing. Work is called work for a reason, you're being paid to do shit people don't want to do, or aren't capable of doing. Accept that.
>>17449696
This is a nice sentiment, but it doesn't make sense to dick away time doing nothing to "make up your mind". A decision shouldn't take years, and being old and inexperienced in a specific field is death. Plus, you're essentially using years up now that you could be using in retirement, with a good amount of disposable income and lots of free time.
Good luck OP.