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>>17452265
Don't be afraid to talk with people in your dorm and randoms in tbe dining hall. They are as lost as you are. You'll get valuable social practice and potentially make friends.

TALK TO PEOPLE

don't automatically buy the textbook. evaluate whether it actually is important. See if there are copies of it in the school library. if you do decide to buy it, look online for cheaper prices.

join a club

>>17452247
I don't know if it's schizophrenia but I've had moments where I felt my husbando inside me wanting me to become him

>>17452247
I can't help you much, and I dunno if this will be useful but Laing's "The Divided Self" attempts to give a kind of existential depiction of schizophrenia, so that might be a way to deal with it/conceptualise it. Whether that'd have any effect on your condition, I couldn't say.

>>17452247

Get a doctor.

I don't care what excuse you have for not having one. Schizophrenia can and will get exponentially worse without treatment and proper medical supervision.

You cannot, I repeat, CANNOT deal with this on your own. You need to be under the observation of a medical professional, no if ands or buts.

I've been a mental health counselor for a decade and I can promise you the biggest mistake you can make is thinking that you can find some home remedy or technique to help with your symptoms. I've seen perfectly lucid patients suffer sudden psychotic breaks within a matter of days.

I had one patient who was in school, had a job and a girlfriend for nearly 4 years then within a matter of a week was found wandering a highway 6 states away because he had a sudden break and thought that people were trying to kill him.

Again, I don't care if its hard, I don't care if your previous doctors left a bad taste. This disease is not a joke and WILL ruin your life if you don't get treated. Being in denial about the severity of your condition is very dangerous.

I don't think you should let the potential difficulty hold you back. It interests you, you believe you'll enjoy, I'd say go for it. If you can qualify, I'd go for some financial aid and carefully watch how much you're awarded. Avoid student loans if you can and go for grants and (if possible) scholarships to minimize cost.

You should probably get a part-time job as well, but the job + school will definitely kick your ass. It can be hard to juggle, but it's worth it. I'm halfway done with my bachelor's and I have no student debt.

essentially it comes down to why you failed out of college before. if it was because of laziness or poor time management, that can be fixed.

I will tell you only my story. I was send to a labor highschool because I wasn't smart enough in maths, grammar and such. I am a creative person, but there was no highschool for that. So I finished labor school thinking, this is it you know, my family is like this. I should just settle for it. But I always felt there was something wrong. After years working in factories I finally made the decision to get the right papers to do the bachelore degree I wanted to do. It tooks me 2 years to get those papers. I applied for the bachelor and I got rejected....Another year in a factory it was. Next year I applied again and I finally got in. I am now going into my graduation year as a music composer and sound designer for visual media. And people dig me because I stay true to myself, I have an own style and I'm good at it. Just because I'm loyal to myself and don't make many concessions to fit in the status quo.

bump pls

Hey im the same way. I steal erasers, pens, calculators, lab stuff, books, random trinkets, and such from my past and current employers and university. I dont do it with malice, and I know these things will not be noticed or missed. I actually use these items myself, and what I dont use, I always give away to other friends - no sense in having something thats useless to me. I dont necessarily think its bad, Im not harming anyone physically or financially. I dont know. It hasnt really affected me.

>>17452299
But sometimes I do feel shitty and put the stuff back. Like one time I was,going to steal a really cool flask but then I put it back because I felt I would have been betraying my PIs trust

I don't understand, why you can't just register for courses?

tons of people take a hiatus from school, it's not like taking a semester off erases your earned credits or your acceptance.

>>17452167
It was more like two semesters...and also I don't think my logins are active for the school anymore, because when I tried it either I don't remember the password or I've been baleeted.

Should I still email him and be like, hey this is why I've been gone for a year? What do I need to do?

I still feel like I need the help of an advisor. Should I maybe just contact admissions instead?

>>17452176
Actually it was three semesters. Scratch that.

Nothing to worry about. That's normal in relationships anon.

>>17452203
Yeah, right.

>>17452148
Sounds like she was raped or somehow hurt by the person anon. You should sit her down, make her a tea, put out some snacks and kindly ask her about the situation.

>>17452147
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Anon, I...

People are going to assume the best but those are things people do when they cheat.

>>17452147
Your girlfriend isn't the brightest, is she?

On the other hand, you couldn't find time for a picnic in 2 1/2 years? Nigga, you didn't treat her right, anyway.

>>17452161
A detail I should have included that may change people's minds, the guy in question also has a gf.

I'm sort of more hurt by the idea that she was living out a fantasy of if she had dated this guy instead of me

yes. haven't you been keeping up with the latest in feminist theory? being attracted to women as a straight man is rape.

>>17452145
Yes, feminine dicks are the only ethical way.

>>17452145
I'll have what you're having

>>17452141
They're lifestyle is pretty depressing and selfish OP. I've been in that world and met some incredibly materialistic, personality-less and self involved people. They're just plain awful. They're all friends with each other but don't really give a shit about one another, friends are just commodities and things to them.

It may look like you're missing out but you're not. I was in there some time ago and realized how miserable all that shit is. I'm happier with a close knit group of friends and a gf than I ever was with a bunch of those other douchebags.

Think of it this way: if you were to present an extraordinarily curated and manipulable version of your life to your peers, which parts would you highlight? The sad and shitty parts? no dumbass

it all fake brah

>>17452141
Bet his pupils are the size of saucers under those shades

>>17452139
to make sure you're not a cop? this is my guess

What do you mean by that? Like, making you stay at his place?

So people don't run in and out of the house making it obvious.

You know this is sexual abuse right?

I can help out OP if you don't mind getting cucked a little

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>>17452117
OP here, to correct it, I might make it sound like she is abusive, but she doesn't give me shit every day, it just happened a few times. It's often the case that once we have sex once a day she is just satisfied too. Still causes a lot of fights, even indirectly.

>>17452074
It will be weird. It will be a bit awkward. It probably won't feel amazing for either of you. Not bad, but not amazing. And it probably won't last that long, or will last longer than you want it to.

You're putting it on a pedestal in your mind, and trying to make it live up to that expectation. It won't. There's no way you'll be able to make it be this amazing, mind blowing thing. Just de-stress about it. If you're stressed, you won't be turned on, and it won't feel as good/will hurt more. It's barely any different, emotionally, from oral. You're naked with each other, and doing sexual things. Do you love him? When you're in the mood, have him put his dick inside you. It's seriously not any more complicated than that, for your first time.

Once you've done it, you'll realize how silly your worries about it were. You can only really work on making it feel better for the both of you once you've done it. Without having done it, how will you know what you enjoy, what's comfortable and what isn't, what positions you like? You can only improve on it once you know what you're doing. Communicate with each other afterwards. Say what you liked, what you didn't. Be honest. You're both noobs, so it's not your fault if you suck, and you will suck. Allow yourself to take criticism.

And as for man-handling, I'd say that it's usually a good thing during sex, at least how I think of it. You'd need to give specifics if you want better advice.

>>17452131
The man-handling part, sometimes he will squeeze too much where my nipples will start to hurt and feel a bit sore. When he squeezes anywhere else it's totally fine. You're right, I probably should of been more specific about that bit.

Everything else is also a good point. I've been nervous about this due to my family and my last boyfriend I had for a couple years making it this sacred thing and how valuable and treasured your virginity is, so a part of me has always felt like the first time is going to be this amazing thing.

>>17452181
Then just ask him not to do that, that's not unreasonable. Tell him it hurts, and that that doesn't turn you on, but that anywhere else is fine/nice. In my experience though, stuff like that can actually enhance sex. A bit of pain mixed in, like scratching his back with your nails, or him spanking you. But that's getting a bit ahead.

It really isn't that special, and it won't be amazing, like I said. Just think to yourself, "Fuck it, it doesn't matter, I just want to fuck him". That's seriously a better mindset to have. Or even better, just don't think about it. Just act. Just give in to the impulse, as long as you trust and love him. It's definitely gratifying.

But it's not uncommon to be worried/anxious, it makes sense that you are. Just try and put it out of your head.

Also, families that actually try and impose stuff like that tend to be religious, and also tend to disapprove of birth control. Fucking use protection, get on the pill if you can. At the absolute minimum, use a condom. I hope you know all this, but I just want to make sure.

Learn Arabic, if Hillary wins Arabs will take over. If Trump wins you're going home and you'll need to speak the language.

OR

Learn a fucking programming language

>>17452079
>Learn a fucking programming language
Not everyone is predisposed to this you angry autist.

>>17452090
Im actually not autistic. Im not angry, getting amped up to work out in a half hour.

Im going to vote for Trump though.

French language will be dead soon anyway, muslims going to take over Europe in next 10 years, so learn arabic. Not good for the USA though, we will be the last Western Nation standing against Islam.

No need to decide right now. Spend the first couple semesters exploring until you find something that truly interests you. Any career path will allow you at least some time to pursue your hobbies (with the exception of, idk, finance or medicine or something)

>>17452072
I know I still have some time, I'm just asking so that I know a few options which I can whittle down to one that I like the most.

>>17452091
Hm, I get what you're asking, I think it's just that the relationship between college major and later career/hours per week is probably more indirect than you think. That is to say, barring a few very specific majors, most degrees can lead to a wide variety of jobs. An English major, for example, could end up with a 9-5 in some office, or as a professor (which, if you manage to get established/tenure, tends to have fucking great hours), or writing clickbait part-time (like a lot of my classmates lol). Especially in the current job market, in which millennials are forced more and more into part-time/contract work, I wouldn't worry about being *too* employed, so to speak. Rather, study something you're genuinely interested in, so that you'll be able to enjoy both your time working and playing music.

bump?

>>17452060
Google.

Pretend you have cancer. Shave your head and start again.