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Entertaining/Pleasing people 2016-08-12 18:10:10 Post No.17454247
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I have a very bad habit of entertaining/pleasing people. I always crack jokes and people laugh,this habit has become very strong,but i have kind of developed thinking that people consider me insecure because of this.
Girls consider me as their brother or just a friend,they tell me beforehand as not to try flirting with them.
Frankly speaking i don't even try to flirt.
I have confidence issues,i have a very crappy self-esteem.
I keep rethinking the same old stories over and over again.
What can i do to lift myself up? i don't want to be an entertainer or affectionate or nice guy.
I feel bad when people criticize me or make fun of my behavior.
How can i be resistant or emotionally strong for criticism?
How can i not feel hurt with people's comments about me?
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Just stop trying to entertain people. You can still do it just as long as you find it funny yourself, but don't do it to be accepted by others, or just to make them laugh.
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as a general rule i avoid the 'too easy' jokes and the sexual humor jokes.
no matter how great the set up is if you are every saying 'thats what she said' or 'so is ur mom' then you are doing something wrong. let them make the joke. if its that obvious a set up someone else wil lsay it and they will make themselves the clown.
i realized i was the clown when a really ugly fat guy started beating me to those punchlines. i realized that he is a clown, and when hes not there, thats the joke i would have made.
better to let them have it.
just think about your jokes before you say em. avoid sexual humor, avoid anything thats 'too easy' and avoid puns and and the like or the general jokes where the joke is that its a bad joke.
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moving on: in regards to girls, if you are after a woman because you want / hope / would like to date them, then leave them once they friendzone you. if they friendzone you you can try to make a last ditch effort to get em, but if they flat out reject you at that point, go ahead and ditch em.
if they are legit just there becuase you see em as a friend with no potential in romance, then it doesnt matter if they 'friendzone' you. you already friendzoned them, yeh?
Is it possible to become a lesbian?
what would it take? Hypnosis? Hormone therapy?
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Well you have to be a female to start. Then date me. Problem solved
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>>17454251
What country you at?
I have a sixpack of beer and a bottle of koskenkorva.
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Coastal NC, USA. Never had a decent gf but im gay af and looking and I'm pretty so hmu
But really. /qq
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My first love just broke up with her (I guess) current boyfriend.
What the fuck do I do?
I've loved her for a number of years through a couple periods of dating, and off and on type stuff.
Now she's acting like maybe she wants a relationship with someone who cares about her, truly. I feel like I could either go along with it and possibly get my heart broken yet again, or just blow it off and lose her forever.
I'm conflicted as shit, and my life just started to pick up. Do I go the lonely/safe route or the love/uncertainty route?
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What caused you to break up in the first place?
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> lonely/safe route or the love/uncertainty route
tl;dr you go love route with someone else
Well, noone here really know your full situation and all the niuances of your "relationship" with her but it's not healthy for you to have unrequited oneitis and moving into relationship with such a person can be very bad for you.
Try to forget her and find yourself someone good and wanting you.
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You have to have your eyes open.
If she makes you happy- and you're not just idolizing your first love and seeing only the parts you want to see- then take your best shot, and I wish you well.
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Is it okay if I turn off the Amber Alert for my phone? Somebody told me it's selfish and immoral to do so. I don't have children, if that matters.
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Sure. While you're at it, tell me how to turn it off. I'm at work all day so I'm not going to see the criminal even if I was looking.
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Do what you want. Who cares what someone else thinks? Why do you let people influence over such minor shit and then come on here and ask us? Are you that insecure about your decision making? Be your own person and make your own decisions; especially about shit as inconsequential as this.
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>>17454217
But children could die.
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Hey bros, I think I goofed..
I hired a uhaul moving truck and backed into a parked car with it while moving. The owner was not in the car, but saw the accident and got my info. I did not get their info. There was no damage to the truck, but the car got a dent like pic related. It is an old car, probably worth like $2,000. At first they wanted me to give them 200 cash but I said I have insurance and they filed a claim.
What should I do now to minimize the fallout?
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>they filed a claim.
Nothing you can do now. $200 would have been a lot cheaper
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>be me
>24 years old
>shitty personality
>trying to be nicer and keep my mouth shut
>starting college this winter
>will have 4-6 roommates
>dont want them to hate me but also dont want to be awkward and quiet
Thought i'd have sorted this out by 21 but socialising is so much work, I have to internalise everything I am about to say incase it comes out wrong
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I'm a similar situation, send help
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There's your problem OP. Don't internalise everything.
This is a brand new start not just for you but for your roommates too - they are (likely) just as eager to get on with and live in harmony with you too.
Just try to be yourself best you can, offer to help out with things. If you feel yourself getting wound up use some kind of excuse, say you've got to go to the bathroom or have a cigarette and get yourself away and calm down. You'll be surprised how naturally people bond when they're thrown together.
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I'm in the same position, shit sucks. I'm just gonna plow through and try to make friends with people, but I'm afraid no one will want to talk to me because I'm a weird fuck
My gf told me that she wanted die and started hinting about killing herself. She also said that in her last relationship she tried to off herself due to the break up but didn't because her friend called her that day to hang out. So my question is how do I put her in the crazy house or make her seek some professional help by force? Should I recorde her and send it to cops. I know if I tell anyone she'll deny it.
So what do niggas
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Tell her to get help if she's serious about that shit. Just talk to her. If she's suicidal she would want some professional help.
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>>17454157
But by making sucidal claims is that enough to put her in the crazy house
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>>17454153
> but didn't because her friend called her that day to hang out.
If she really wanted to kill herself, this shot wouldn't have mattered.
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How long does weed stay in your system for if you're not a frequent user?
I don't even like smoking weed. I used to be a daily user last year, but I stopped and only did it infrequently for the past 6 months. The past 3 months I did not even smoke at all.
The other night I smoked weed on a whim just because I completely forgot what it was like and I was curious. My dad bought a drug test randomly and wants me to take it. He has no real reason to not trust me and I'm 20 anyway. But if he finds out that I've ever smoked it will go very badly.
I vaped it out of a Pax if that makes a difference. I also work out daily and only drink water. It's been a little over 30 hours since. Keep in mind that this is the first time I've smoked weed in a VERY long time. How fucked am I? What can I do within the next few hours?
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update: My mom forgot to flush and there's piss in the toilet in the room over. Would it work if I just got a bottle of that and said that I've been drinking a lot of water recently (which would be why it looks diluted)
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here's a link for you http://bfy (dot ) tw/7BtI
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>How long does weed stay in your system for if you're not a frequent user?
depends on metabolism, body fat, etc.
Typically, several days.
>Would it work if I just got a bottle of that and said that I've been drinking a lot of water recently
Not recommended. They might find elevated levels of "women chemicals" and alert your dad.
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I dont know shit about computers but I got this pop up that will not go away. It started after I downloaded Utorrnt Bitlord or Photoshop. How do I make it go away? I already deleted the file called stack player
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Got any nerd friends?
This type of thing sometimes can be tedious to remove.
You could try "malware bytes" to see if it can get rid of it.
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>>17454140
You probably didn't pay attention during the installation. A lot of programs will slip in other programs during the installation process. You can't keep clicking "next" . You need to actually read the prompts. I guarantee you didn't and agreed to download load this program (Stack Player) by accident.
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>>17454152
You probably didn't delete the program all the way. But do download and run malwarebytes
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Alright guys
What are some protips for surviving an 8 hour drive?
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>>17454094
Take a break around the 4 hour mark
Make sure your AC is cold as hell.
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Don't die.
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bring food with you and eat as you drive. default speed 80mph. dont be a pussy and push through it, 8 hours isnt that bad.
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Is it possible to overcome damages done by sexual / emotional abuse alone? 2016-08-12 16:25:36 Post No.17454065
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Is it possible to overcome damages done by sexual / emotional abuse alone?
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I read the book "Perks of being a wallflower" and I cried like a fuckin lunatic. I haven't cried in years, at least not that way. Anyways I have too much in common with the guy Charlie in that book. But he had so much support and help. Problem is that people who made me Charlie are the ones who are suppose to provide support and help.
Considering I work a minimum wage job and I go to a university. Can one truly overcome shit like this on their own? to be honest recently I have grown so much that I really do think that I can, but another part of me wants to ask here hoping I will get advice I had never recieved before. I have been posting here quite alot recently and every single advice is so helpful it blows my mind. That is why I am asking here, how does one do it on their own? do you guys have any tips and resources on how to care for your own needs over others, how to deal with past abusers, how to overcome painful memories, how to feel strong like a man, how to be assertive etc etc?
Maybe i need to watch some sort of anime, read a book or read some blog that may be helpful. DO not refrain from posting anything. I have two more weeks till classes start and I really want to be a different / happy person when they do.
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Thats pretty heavy stuff op. My heart goes out to you. Well outside of the usual, the best you can do is go to a pyschologist and talk about this. Not the ones who give you drugs, the talking ones.
Besides doing that, you can only try to move on and help yourself develop and grow. Do this by engaging yourself in hobbies, clubs and sports. These arent absolute solutions but remember to be strong and what happened wasnt at all your fault. Stay strong anon.
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how old are you? I think it also comes with age that you begin to feel more like a man
also
is the book better than the movie? I only watched the movie
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>>17454160
Movie is pretty faithful. Only thing is the book was a little more subtle about Patrick being gay and way more subtle about the molestation.
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Arachnophobia and ways to overcome it. 2016-08-12 16:14:48 Post No.17454033
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Arachnophobia and ways to overcome it.
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I need help getting over my fear of spiders. I've always been scared of one no matter it's size. The worse part is that I'm also afraid of virtual video game spiders or anything that reminds me of one. I haven't been able to able to play/finish certain video games because they're always giant or fast spiders in the (games such as Half Life, Might and Magic, Skyrim).
This fear also disturbs my day to day life. Whenever I see a spider in real life my mind imagines them jumping at me like they're jumping spiders or something and I either stop what I'm doing and don't move for minutes or vacuum the spider, but I never touch it even with paper.
Anyone got ways to get rid of this feeling? I can't even look at a picture of any type of spider (excluding toys) without cringing. I don't want to waste a therapists time with something so trival.
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It's not trivial, OP. Arachnophobia is a very common and justified fear.
My advice would be to gradually expose yourself to spiders. Start by reading about them and looking at pictures. If you live in the US, the only spiders you should fear are brown recluse and black widows.
If you see a spider on your floor, or your wall, and you can muster up the courage to catch it in a jar, spend some time looking at it. Just be close to it, realize it can't hurt you when it's sealed in a jar.
It might also help to think of spiders/bugs as nature's tiny robots, because that's what they basically are.
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>courage to catch it in a jar
It's a nice ideia.
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Op, pic related it's a small tutorial.
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Hey OP,
I too am pretty fucking terrified of spiders. Not quite as bad that I can't play video games with spiders in them but the game will definitely make me uneasy. I hate looking at pictures of them because I'll be itchy and anxious all night if I do.
But I have gotten over a lot of my fear, and I am getting better every day I think. A spider actually crawled on me during my sleep last night, normally this would have been enough to keep me up the whole night buy I actually managed to go back to bed.
My advice is what the other anon said, gradual exposure. I have learned a lot about spiders over the years, theyre actually super great for the planet you know? They don't want to be around just as much as you don't want them around, they even eat other spiders. Read up on them, when they are in your house gradually try to get as close as you can to one and watch it, try killing one with a paper towel, etc. Just don't let it build in your mind how afraid you are, confront it. But also know you may never get over it, I'm still too afraid to even kill a spider unless with a shoe out of fear it will crawl on me
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Both my mother and my stepdad are smokers. They smoke a lot, especially him, probably 20 a day and he's currently in Summer break (so always home). For a week now the smoke has been unbearable for me, even with my door closed I can still smell it and it's attacking my lunges and making me cough all day. I'm kind of fragile at this level (used to be smoker myself in the past but managed to stop).
I don't have any plan B at the moment, I won't be moving any time soon. I'm already in their care so I can't exactly ask them to stop smoking or "smoke at the window" or something. I already more or less tried to make them stop in the past by hinting at methods like e-cigs etc but they have no plan to stop at all since they're already too deep into it.
What can I do to protect myself from the smoke? I can't stand it anymore, it's driving me insane, I already plugged everything I could, I always put a towel underneath my door to block it but I can still smell it whenever they light one. Should I get a mask or something? Please help.
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>>17454032
Move out.
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>>17454056
No way to do that at the moment.
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>>17454032
Open your window and door, get a fan and face it out the window. It'll create a channel of fresh flowing air.
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So /adv/, I come to you as someone who's been smoking weed on and off for about three years now. In the last year it's become a pretty full time thing where if I'm not going to work, I smoke as soon as I get up. If I am going to work, as soon as I get home I load up a bowl. I spend as much of my time stoned as possible.
It started because it used to just sort of flip my depression into an "off" state. I'd be high and my mind would wander and I'd enjoy things. I actually tell my friends that, and I've told two therapists the same thing. The problem is, recently my highs don't feel the same way anymore. Now when I get high it feels like my depression has crept into my altered-state.
There was a period where I'd saved up about $700 to move in with a friend and his gf a few states away, but they broke up and that whole plan for my future fell apart. In the wake of that I quit my job and slowly ate away at my savings buying marijuana until I was broke again. Ever since that little period of time my highs have changed. Even my normal life has changed. I realized a lot of the things I was insecure in and wanted to work on (since I was doing nothing but applying for jobs online and being a pothead at home I spent a lot of time thinking) but now I think about them all the time. I've developed a much more anxious personality, especially around people. I'm not dreaming the same way I used to either. Then when I actually get high I spend the whole time hoping I won't have a bad high because they're all becoming bad highs. I don't relax, my depression doesn't go away, and I don't feel like doing anything. Then I end up sleeping way earlier than I need to and wasting my days off.
I guess the tl;dr of this thread is a question: should I give up pot? It isn't doing it for me like it used to, but I worry that without it I'm going to be bored and even more depressed. I'll just be sober constantly. What do you think /adv/?
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>>17454010
You ask the question because you know what the answer is, but you desperatley hope that we will tell you.
Nah, fuck it mate. Just continue smoking that green!
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>>17454037
Well no, that's the thing is I do feel like I should quit. I guess what I'm really hoping for is someone who'll come in and go, "Idiot, here's how tou regain your original depression defeating highs."
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I would say yes give up weed. I was doing the same as you about a year ago but with alcohol. Really fucked me up and I'm just now starting to crawl out of the hole I dug for myself.
With alcohol there are physical health issues, with weed you don't necessarily get that so it's harder to have a wake up call moment. But you said yourself it's not fun anymore and at the end of the days it's not a good thing to be dependent on a drug to get through the day.
Sobriety is a little tough to get used to but there is really no downside to quitting and having a clearer head.
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Guys.. what's the worst thing a girl has done to you?
Did it motivate you, or take the wind out of your sails? How do you get past it?
Just realized I've been dating a massive whore for the past 8 months... I feel a little sick, a lot humiliated
I don't know if I can show my face anywhere in my town anymore. My ego is bruised, sure, but I feel like I can't act like a man anymore, I've been demoralized by another guy fucking my girl. Pretty sure she slept with someone on Tuesday, and I slept with her on Wednesday. He could have came in her, I don't know
Help me bros... this is embarassing
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>talk to her about being a whore
>if she vehemently denies it and says she was doing something on Tuesday that she wasn't , she's lieing
>break up with her
That easy m8. If you're in a "relationship" with a whore or not , you should still be able to talk to her .
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>>17454013
Already broken up now
But, I can't get the idea of another guy cumming in her the day before seeing me. Feels like I've been robbed, and cum on.
Ergh.
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don't talk about her to anyone and if someone asks just laugh and say you're glad you left her. Just portray that you're happy and happier without her, you want to imply that losing a girl means nothing because you can just as easily get another one, in your head you've got to be the prize, not the player.