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>>17467100
>literally anyone can get into debt for a liberal indoctrination center

If you aren't already rich or talented you're wasting your time

>>17467105
Harvard has the best financial aid there is. It's also fucking Harvard, so who cares about the liberal environment?

I'm musically talented, but I was thinking more about the behind the scenes involvement, not the main actor.

>>17467114
Who cares of course! Its 2016!

>>17467055
You could stop being a little bitch about it and move on.

That's literally all there is to it. You either have the strength of will to move on or you do what you're doing.

My gf of 2 years broke up with me right before I was about to propose. I didn't sulk and cry about it. I accepted it couldn't be changed and within a week or two I had moved on and was fine.

Also, if you do manage to get past your little bitch stage, don't fall to pieces just because your mind wanders to that person again. It's natural especially if you have no current prospects and you were with the other person a long time. Just accept it happens and move on.

>>17467055
You're in a stage of limbo right now. You don't know what to think because you're unsure as to whether or not he is going to come back to you. Your mind is playing tricks on you to rationalize maintaining contact with him, when really, you should be doing the opposite.

It's easier said than done.

I'm not sure how I can help you, other than telling you what to expect:

1) You're going to come up with all the reasons in the world to continue talking to him
2) You're going to think that you should give him time
3) You're going to feel really bad, like the world is ending
4) You're going to miss him immediately
5) If you continue to talk to him, you're going to make it worse by delaying the healing process
6) When you've realized its over (finally) you are going to want closure of some kind
7) You're most likely not going to get it


Good luck, and remember: learn from this as much as you can. Grow... but do not let this change who you are. Do not become jaded. Do not let this destroy you.

>>17467068
while I agree with this post, sometimes its extremely hard to let go, especially if the will to stay in touch is mutual and the feeling of togetherness and compassion is still there.
obvsly speaking from my own experience.. sadly.

Pretty much the same brother. I think it's just dedication. A lot of people have had their hobbies since they were little.

I'm still looking for something I really enjoy. I think we drop things because we're not actually interested in them and are just pursuing them as a way to make ourselves look like a more well rounded individual.

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>>17466984
If you enjoy hiking through the woods become extremely fucking knowledgeable about woodland. Take a book on plant identification with you and learn names, growth rates, soil types, leaves and poisons.

Maybe become a forester or get involved with a woodland preservation charity. Fuck working in an office, if you love the outdoors make the outdoors your skill.

>>17466994
I'm going to reject your advice because in my country budget for foresters are really really low and some of the foresters take bribes for illegal logging to get by.
Also on a side note, it's so fucking mundane and dull, nobody will ever appreciate your work and I quit "le be urself!1" meme a long time ago. It doesnt work with the society im afraid.

Don't fall for the STEM meme.

>>17466971
yes, you will
hard science pays off

No. I'm doing a Chemistry PhD, which I'm frankly regretting because just now I'm realizing the shitty job prospects if you aren't a superstar, or very well connected.

below a phd it's also terrible

http://sciencenotes.org/working-as-a-chemist-what-real-chemists-have-to-say/

>>17466968
>I've been following the advice of Other websites
>leddit
>jewbook
Welcome to /adv/
Now get the fuck out here.

>>17466968
Tell her you don't send pics, tell her she has to come and see it herself. That way you avoid the trap and the onus is on her.

>girlfriend

Have you met in real life?

>>17466954
When did the US turn into an Orwellian dystopia? This shit doesn't happen in Europe.

Shave your head bald (or very very short), shave/wax everything else, and wait for decent hair growth via taking Fish Oil/ Vit E / Roids, and youll pass.

>>17466959
September 11th.

if you arent ready to love another, then you dont fucking lead the new guy on.

Plus your barely 19, nigga you barely finding out about life, calm down.

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>19
>desperate
Fuck off.

>>17466945
Doesnt seem like skin color has anything to do with it, you've just started dating someone else after a long term relationship and you might not have been ready for the change

>>17466846

This is an over 18 website anon, you should come back then.

>>17466847

Well, we had a lot in common leading into this. She was in a 5 year relationship that ended last spring and I was in a 4 year relationship that ended in December. She had acted volatility in that one year span, but after returning from field work, had marked substantial emotional growth. I recognize there are countless other women out there, in between my long term break up and now I had been with several women, but this one made a very deep impression.

>>17466846
You guys were in a three week relationship. If she couldn't commit beyond that, honestly my man, I'd begin to look elsewhere.

He may have some big problems in home/family that makes him sadistic person he is. He may be living in real hell and only way he can interact with people is through abuse, because it's the only way anyone ever interacted with him. Or he may be psychotic.

Either way, this forum is over 18 years old. Only advice I would have for you, it's easier to leave with friends and in big group of friendly people. You are less vulnerable there.

That is actually quite hard you see. We have a lot of mutual friends

I just want him to stop , and I've tried being nice. But he even disgraces us in public now. We are also in many group chats. I need to teach him a lesson

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>>17466826
Open your mouth and make the words come out

>>17466829
Well I've been doing that, but I want to make some friends not just exchange numbers in short interactions. Would like to meet and hang out with some people.

>>17466833
"Sup dude, bruh I'm bored did you eat lunch yet? Want to get some food?"

Works for me every-time

Let's get a few things straight before we begin.
>Girl likes you
>You like girl
>she's only gone for 10 days
>back in 4
What would possibly happen in that small window of time to change your chances, anon?

>>17466822
>Now I'm willing to bet literally nothing will happen when she's back. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if she completely forgot about me.
Even if she does forget you, who cares? You can't expect someone to form a major attachment to you in the course of a 10 minute conversation. She liked you before and there's no reason she wouldn't like you again. So just find some way to get in touch with her again and you have a good chance of getting somewhere.

>>17466839

Chad swoops in, reks her pussy and fucks off

The good news is that, like for men with their penises, women not only have differently sized (both width and depth) vaginas, but there's also no significant correlation between pretty much anything (height, width of the hips, light or heavy frame) and the proportions of the pussy. So her being small does not mean she necessarily has a small vagina. What I'm less certain about is whether Asian women have a slightly smaller average, like Asian men do... but even if they do, it would hardly be significant for this one singular woman. So that's fine.

The bad news is that if you are seriously close to 9", you have to accept now that you are out of proportion and many, many women will not be able to take you balls deep, only be able to do so after loooots of foreplay, will not be able to suck you off comfortably, not be able to endure long fucking sessions or having (rough) sex multiple times a day or two days in a row. Whether or not this specific girl will have issues is uncertain though, take the plunge and go slowly. Let her get on top so she controls the depth and pace of the penetration.

>>17466840
I forgot to add that lube is your friend.

>>17466821
Truly anon, good for you once she gets used to it she'll love it, thankfully I fit the bbc meme and there's nothing more satisfying than the reactions, own it and ease her into it

>>17466815
I think that the problem is that a lot of guys who actively pursue women think that there's a certain set of qualities they need to have and actions they need to do to get a girl.
On one hand, girls want different things so not everything works for every girl.
On the other hand, one of the most important things in general to have successful interactions is feeling confident and comfortable with yourself. It's hard to feel like that when you're pretending to be someone you're not.
When you stop actively trying to pursue someone, if you keep your options open and keep meeting new people, it's much more likely to meet someone who likes you for you.

>>17466815
>I'm just wondering what /adv/ thinks when people say that if you give up pursuing women, you generally have more success in meeting them?
There's definitely something to this. There isn't a whole lot that pushes women away more effectively than desperation.

But truth be told, you don't have to give up completely. Really, you need to do two things. One is that you need to deprioritize it: not having a girlfriend is not the most important problem in your life, and getting one will not fix the other problems you have, so there is no reason to obsess.

The other thing you need to do is accept that even if you never get a girlfriend, you WILL survive, and you CAN be happy. This is the basic idea of "confidence" that women often seek in men: a reassurance, both for you and for her, that you can survive when and if things end or get denied outright.

Some people do find that giving up, at least for a time, is the easiest way to accomplish both goals. If this is the case for you, then do what you must. But do not lose sight of WHY you're doing it: this is not about despair, or quitting, but about preparing yourself. Because you AREN'T prepared when you're desperate; indeed, not being preapared is part of what makes you desperate.

The problem isn't that you pursue. It's that you're desperate about it.

You have to be willing to walk away and take a loss. If a woman thinks that you'll get on fine without her, then she'll want to be with you more.

Listen to the Black Phillip Show. They're all on YouTube. Educate yourself.

>>17466802
I just don't know what else I could reasonably do better to affect these negative opinions about me. **** Edit

Don't worry too much about being exhausted after work, it's only natural if you've been unemployed for a while. This happened to me several times already and it usually takes a week or two to get used to it.

And don't take the rumors that serious. Most supervisors won't fire someone just because of a rumour at least not before having a face to face conversation.

Good luck in your job anon!

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>>17466828

Thank you for the suggestion. You're right, if there is a problem they would bring it up to me personally.

I'm going to try going into work early today to see if I can leave a good impression by being their ahead of time, but also I've been looking at posting for other jobs just in case they decide to let me go. Since I'm in this probation period before I'm unionized they can let me go for any reason they see fit, so it's an especially worrying time.

The only thing I can do is keep a good attitude and do my job to the best of my ability. No sense in over worrying about it.

>>17466774
If you're peeing blood you best go to the ER

>>17466774
Do you have something called urgent care? In the states it's a doctor's clinic for when the regular doctor isn't open, but it isn't quite an emergency.

If not, you probably should go to the emergency room. Looks/sounda serious

http://www.m.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/tc/understanding-hemorrhoids-basics