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>>17467951
Relax and cut yourself some slack. It is a good bet that at least 50% of teen guys with a teen sister have done that at least once. At the absolute worst, you have a fetish which might complicate your maturing sexually, but that's unlikely. What is far more likely is that you are just using what is handy to get off with, and that when you start interacting with real live girls you won't need this anymore.

>>17468070
>It is a good bet that at least 50% of teen guys with a teen sister have done that at least once.
A tenth of that, at most, and even this is unlikely.

>>17468115
I remember when I first smelled panties my ex wore all day

It was awful

It will be hard but get a job and move out.

>>17467897
Have you tried ignoring them? You are a grown ass man (or woman?) how the hell do you let your parents dictate what you do?

>>17467912
Not OP but you need to understand that this kind of behaviour on the part of his parents didn't start yesterday. He was brainwashed and puted down since he was in crib. They stunted his growth and put leash and muzzle on him. You are on 4chan, if you are not victim of such a thing (which I guess you are not, because you are not able to sympathase) you should at least be familiar with this phenomenom. It's the cause of all this neet/manbaby/numale bullshit. Not only their parents don't do their job at teaching and growing this people as a adult, mature, responsible people. No. Their parents are actively or uniwittingly stunting their growth with plethora of methods.

Go no porn for two weeks. Track each time you fap, how long, how often ETC. After you hit two week of no porn, start braining the number of faps down.

>>17467795
>Any tips for going nofap longer than a few days?
Don't count days. Or, if you must keep count for some reason, then at least don't keep count in your head: put pennies in a jar or something. I recommend swapping low-denomination coins for higher ones as soon as you have enough, because this will make it harder to remember the total. You WANT to forget it.

Why do this? Because the total is a distraction. Your goal isn't to have a long streak: your goal is to stop altogether. The more you think of numbers, the more you'll be tempted to give yourself a break, the more demoralizing your inevitable slip-ups will be, and the harder it will.be to start again.

Instead, take it one day at a time. Don't think of going for a whole week or month: just focus on getting through the day. and then, on the next day, do it again. And the next, and so forth, until it's no longer about stopping: it's about not starting. You want to avoid this, not to keep a streak going, but because you don't do that anymore.

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>>17467795
Why do people keep falling for the no fap meme?

No, it's called be the bigger person and remove them from your life.

>>17467766
Pretty much.

Adulthood is the ultimate fuckery. People screw you over so you brood over it; so in some time you eventually get the chance to fuck them over. A shitshow of fucking people over because of hurt feelings

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>>17467766
>Is this adulthood?
No, it's adolescence.

Do what I did, just walk outside and grab an ice cream from DQ. Being jobless for any time feels good. Just don't become a hobo

>>17467725
Just quit. If your hearts not in it, it's not going to work.

I hate to say it, but sometimes we need a reset. I was in car sales for a few years. I decided to quit my job and go back to school. I quit, and the day after, I applied at a bunch of minimum wage restaurant jobs. I worked at a jersey mikes, a pizza hut, and a mediterranean restaurant... all at the same time.

When you've been in a real career and you decide to hop back down the ladder a few steps, you realize how different it is this time around.

People, like the owners for instance, notice your ability to conduct yourself... they notice you're not some tweaked out high schooler that's just doing it so he can save up for a car. They notice your clothes, your professional mannerisms etc. And in them, you make connections.

I worked for about 3 months moving up and up and up. I'd look for jobs everyday and if I spoke to the manager and it paid a 25cents extra an hour, I took it, and quit the previous job.

By the end of the 3 months, I was working as a GM at a papa johns (not kidding). I have since moved on to better prospects, but the reason I'm telling you all of this, is that I don't believe for one second that anyone should feel backed into a corner when it comes to jobs/careers.

Once you leave... you'll find that if you put just a little bit of effort into finding something, anything... you'll get the ball rolling. And once it's rolling, you'll be hopping all over the place like a fuckin kangaroo, until everyone in town knows your name.

>>17467762
>>17467787
Do you feel there's an age limit on working low-status jobs though?

I don't ask this because I look down on people working those jobs, but because I have never really felt "young" in the sense of feeling free to enjoy myself or anything. I've always felt burdened by the need to succeed and prove myself to others, which has made me a rather pathetic fellow. I just don't want to trap myself in minimum wage work and realize how good I had it before.

>>17467707
Why did you use that image for this thread?

>>17467728
is this relevant?
Im 29, and that is the problem.
Or maybe the problem is trying to get advice from 17 year olds...

>>17467761
No but seriously don't lie on your resume it could seriously hurt you in the long run. Don't worry if people are younger than you (it's not a sport where younger automatically means better). Just do your best and don't lie

>>17467672
bump

>>17467672

yeah its called infatuation but love is accepting someone for who they truly are and you can't see that through your emotions. It takes a good while to really get to know someone, infatuation stunts your judgement badly.

>>17467672
Because there is a huge cocktail of mating hormones and natural narcotics swimming around your brain in the early days of a relationship, whether its strictly sexual or emotional.

It feels amazing because your brains basically feeding you heroine to encourage you to mate.

That wears off pretty fast, and there are other hormones and chemicals involved with intimacy and 'monogamy'. Those chemicals are less feel good but more sustainable and last a lot longer.

Once the first set wears off, your brain looks for entirely different qualities in your partner to justify long term child rearing before releasing the next set.

If they arent there, you dont feel anymore.

Tl;dr your brain trains you like pavlov trained his dogs.

>>17467618
Most people make their passion instead of finding it. Even then, though, passion is largely bullshit.

Find a job that you're good at that also gives you the down time to pursue your hobbies and interests. Passion gets the ball rolling but you're the one that keeps the momentum. Do that Sisyphus shit you faggot.

18+ to post here. Reported.

>>17467618

>To make things short, I'm about to enter my last year of High School and I'm completely lost on what I want to go to college for and a career I would enjoy.

Believe it or not, you don't have to go to college right away. Unless you have a shitload of money I would recommend you going to CC before you know what you want to do. Focus on the GE classes while you're there. Otherwise you're going to be paying loans forever until you find out what you really want to do.

>I was contemplating about going to college for Japanese Language and doing Computer Technician shit on the side while I find a job as a translator or something. I just want to make enough money to hold a hobby and live comfortably.

Don't waste money on a college degree on something you don't need a degree for. You don't need a degree to be a translator. There are plenty of bilangual native speakers or people who have been speaking japanese since they were a wee lad that will have priority over you anyways. You need a degree for most STEM fields however, so computer science? If you just want to be a repair man why not try a stint at geek squad?

Say to her that if she is coming to your house in the morning that sex is a payment inside the house. Seriously let her know that you value your free time or else you want to bang her.

If she gets grossed out tell her that you just want to enjoy the quiet morning in peace.

>>17467636
I'm not planing about that because I could ending broking with her and i'm don't wanna ending up being a jerk because we have friends in common

I have a friend that always, every day goes to his gf house, I have stopped entirely to ask him to do stuff, is always like "oh I'm going to my gf house now" fuck it then man.

Now on your topic, you shouldn't expect alot about woman in general, they want to get in your world and experience it, they wouldn't give initiative most of the time, just do what you want and they come along with you, at least I think is that way.

Community College is literally just your lower division, general ed classes with minimal classes actually relates to your "major."

Just switch majors when you transfer.

>>17467586
>It makes me sick to my stomach knowing that I'll land some shitty 20k job after I graduate
go to graduate school

>>17467599
Fuck off.

>>17467608
I can't switch majors because the University I'm transferring to requires me to take certain classes for my major. I already took them so I'm stuck.

>>17467616
So should I go to graduate school or law school? How risky is law school?

are you 7 by any chance?

>>17467587
no, much older

I know that you 're not supposed to scratch them or you 're in danger.

It happened last Friday and I 've had the same bandage on since then.

>>17467587
when I say "scratched", I meant that it bled.

should've kissed her, my man

>>17467561
what level of physical contact was there?

you didn't kiss her, did you?

did you setup the next date?

get your shit together. just kiss her.

>>17467561
>The only problems were that she insisted on paying for her own things
Buying stuff for a girl you aren't sleeping with yet is beta. Going even on a first date is healthy.

>she I guess was nervous to be flirty?
Usually the guy will try to push things along and the girl will make a show of resisting in order to look virtuous. You should always be pushing it, it's part of the courtship ritual.

Basically everything seems to have gone well and she wants to do it again, so I don't know what you're worried about.

and what exatly was the law you broke?

>>17467498
I guess that non.. I send just a photo of a penis to a woman that said on her profile that she was older that 25 years and was not my penis but I'm worried cuz she made a colash with my photo there saying that I was a perv.. I'm thinking that she wanted to scam me

>>17467498
lewd and mischevious conduct onbecomming of a netizen

the cyber-police are no joke, he is probably being backtraced as we speak

>>17467483
Diarrhoea, probably.

>>17467544
nice. thank´s, i´ll do it

For how long? A few days, probably a stomach ache. A few months and you are looking at malnutrition.
Why would you even want to?

>>17467453
why do you still live with them? You are 19 and a man, move out and start your life.

>>17467467
not a guy, but i can't. my parents are extremely strict because i'm a girl, they don't want me to. and this job+school won't find me a place

If you can't move out then just treat home as a place to sleep, nothing else. Spend as much of your free time either with friends or in the Library studying. Do all your schoolwork in the library instead of at home, see if you can take on more hours at work as well. Just try to stay out of the house as much as possible.

As for wanting to get your parents help, it's admirable but they won't change unless they want to. Perhaps you becoming so distant will help in that regard, but maybe not. Be prepared to break away from them and move to the other side of the country when you graduate.

Btw the one English mistake you made was calling them alcoholists, the term for people addicted to drinking is alcoholics. Good job otherwise.