How to fix relationship with a parent?
Recently I've turned 19 bit since I was 14 I've always argued with my mom and we don't get along. Last time we said "I love you" to each other was arround then.
What do?
What do you argue about, what is the main reason there is friction between you? A successful older sibling? Daddy not being in the picture? Money issues?
>>17468718
You dont have to be bestfriend with anyone in your family. I dont have a very good relationship with my brother even though I would die for us to do activities together. He gets annoyed by me and literally doesnt care about me. Ive come to accept it and you should too.
My father was a provider and thats it, he never gave us emotion support.
I dont hate them I now understand that we are family and thats all.
Have you tried moving out?
Thats what did it for my parents and me. I was about a month from an heroing over their bullshit, moved out, suddenly everything was fine. After putting some distance between us, they were able to see my side of it and I was able to see theirs.
Damn idk what I'd do without my parents now. I just needed them to see me as an adult though. Now they do, and now I appreciate the fuck out of everything theyve provided for me over the years.
I have a gut feeling my girlfriend of ~5 years is cheating. I noticed she guards her phone more than she used to and what might have been a hickey on her back the other day (https://www.askthedoctor.com/questions_images/hi-i-have-noticed-a-hickey-like-rash-on-the-img-1.jpg) somewhat similar to link.
She's been my best friend for a long time so this hasn't been an easy thing to come to grips with in terms of being a possibility
What do I do? I have access to her iphone, if necessary, but I would imagine she deletes everything if any of these potentially paranoid thoughts I'm having are true. Some alternative viewpoints would be appreciated
I'm also aware of my potential cuck status. I've been in other relationships before but this is the first girl I've invested parts of my life into. I don't want to blow it out because I'm being crazy
Ask her. Tell her you feel insecure about it.
Scenario 1: You're overthinking it. She will tell you so, and will be extra affectionate for a while, to make sure you remember it.
Scenario 2: Your suspicions are right, but nobody can handle a guilty conscience for long. She'll either fess up and apologise, or disappear.
Either way, no sense delaying in finding out which is true. Talk about it as soon as possible.
>>17468639
Thanks for the response.
However I do not wish to discuss it with her initially. If she is hiding something then its unlikely a direct confrontation would bring it out based off of previous experiences with her even with minor things (nothing negative or serious like current situation).
It seems more like option 2 is the current choice
There's this guy I like and we went out before but broke up with me 5 days later cause he jumped into a relationship too quickly and now he says he likes me and cuddles with me and kisses me and flirts with me by tickling me or stuff like that but he won't ask me out and idk what to do I even asked him why he hasn't and he just shrugged his shoulders please help me and no bullies please
He is using you anon, he sees you don't have any options and does whatever he wants. Hold him accountable and don't let him feel you up like that. I know you want to ask him out because you "like him" but the guy has shown his feelings for you are fickle. A shoulder shrug? Are you kidding me? Grow a spine and kick this faggot to the curb.
>>17468585
I do really like him and I've talked to his ex which is one of my good friends and she's said that he does that and it just takes time...
>>17468603
Well how much is taking time exactly? You do know guys can stretch this out for years right? You have asked him why he hasn't asked you out yet and he shrugged his shoulders. That is how he sees you. Bottom of the ladder in terms of importance and can be done whenever he feels like it.
I don't think you understand how badly he treated you there....
So long story short, my roommate recently told a friend he could stay with us without asking me or even telling me until I got home just now. We're not on a lease, it's my moms house and she's letting me stay here as long as I pay rent.
Is there a way I can legally kick my roommate and his friend out?
Pic unrelated
That's hardcore tilt material right there
kick these faggots out op
Tell your mum you want them gone.
>>17468551
>>17468561
So as long as my mom (the homeowner) asks them to leave they have to? I've read they still have 30 days after being told to leave
I thought this show was supposed to be good. I'm half way through season 1. Does it get better or should I just stop
Just stop and watch American Dad dude...
>>17468518
>>>/tv/
to answer you though, yes. The first half of season 1 is shit. It starts getting better after that and subsequent seasons are top tier.
>>17468521
>this
Bobs burger is absolute shiet. Its completely unfunny. Its the show redditors watch to whack off to.
I feel like I fucked up. I graduated college a little over a year ago and couldn't find work. In the meantime, I pretty much lived as a NEET at my mom's. I liked it, but it was somewhat depressing. So my job searching continued and continued and I finally found the job that I have now. Had it and been living on my own since February (hour away from my mom), but I feel fucking miserable. I feel like I should've saved more or something and I just can't help but feel like I rushed into this.
Ideally I'd love to freelance from home and I've even contemplated moving back to my mom's after my year is up with the apartment, but honestly, that's probably just more emotion than logic talking at the moment. I don't know, I feel like a wreck. I'm constantly depressed, I hate my job, and I just feel stuck. I really don't know what to do here.
You the typical millennial. You're not alline in your situation. You'll be fine. Keep working hard and things will come together
*You're and *alone. Damn keyboard
Sounds like you're homesick. It's a pretty common feeling, usually for children. Are you a child OP? Not necessarily by age, you could be a mental child, too.
You have to "grow up" eventually, most people will tell you it's doing what you're doing, working, supporting yourself. But what they won't tell you is that only you decide what that means for you. If you want to live with your mom forever, go for it I say. But there are social consequences of that lifestyle depending on where you live and who you surround yourself with. Unfounded as it may seem, people will judge you for it. Personally I'd probably still live at home if I didn't enjoy the freedom of blasting my music late at night and smoking weed and drinking as much as I please. My parents aren't very understanding of that and generally kind of annoying and judgy, but that's just my situation. I don't think less of my friends who live at home, it's fine.
What is some shit 2 people can do while drinking alone in an apartment? Not gonna fuck or anything, I just think it's gonna get boring even if drunk if we don't have some ideas.
Playing video games
Board games
Watching a movie
Watching cartoons like American Dad or Family guy
By any chance is it girl and boy or boy and boy
>>17468500
It's me, guy, and a chick, but just friends. We've drank together before with people around but I dunno what the dynamic is gonna be solo. I have a gf, don't want to do anything with this chick
>>17468506
Definitely go with a movie then or board game.
My parents died when I was eight.
I was playing GoldenEye with my dad before bed. We were having a blast. He put me to bed.
I heard my mom and him laughing as I drifted off to sleep.
I woke up to a police officer shaking me awake. Something bad happened, and I had to go with him. He escorted me out of the house, blocking my vision to the livingroom.
My grandma was in the driveway. I went in her car and we drove to the police station.
My dad killed my mom, and then he drove out to camp and killed himself. He used a low powered gun and had to shoot himself like 5 times. He strangled her.
I ended up falling into a deep depression. I was 8. I've never been the same. I'm mentally ill. I have borderline personality disorder, major depressive disorder, PTSD, and ADHD.
I can't work because I can't do anything. I'm literally mentally ill. I'm 24. I desparately want to be normal, but nothing ever works out. I ruin everything for myself.
I'm a high school dropout. No friends. No license. I've had casual sex, but I've never been in a relationship. No girlfriend.
I'm a hardcore perfectionist and completionist. I screw myself up by being so anal. I obsess over writing neatly. I even ruin video games for myself.
I'm sorry guys. I just need to vent. I don't even know what to do. I've commited suicide like 8 times but I've always failed. I have a massive scar on my throat after the last time.
I'm crying because I drank for the first time in a year. I shouldn't have. Now I'm all emotional.
fug
This is too much for us to help, considering how fucked up most of us are. Maybe you need to see a therapist who can help you with your problems anon...
This was hard too read...
proof of scar
18M.
I'm attempting to improve myself. Assuming a budget of $800CAD, how should I split it up?
Clothes/Stuff/GymMem/Otherwise?
>>17468447
Invest it in making more money. Spending money just because you have it as the poor man's mentality.
>>17468447
Dude. My shoes were 500cad. Hyou gotta invest more for wardrobe. It doesn't have fto be my level but you'll need to do more
>>17468505
There is no viable reason to spend more than $400 on shoes and they had better be american made goodyear welt leather dress shoes with lifetime warranty
Okay /adv/
>company sending me on business trip
>at business trip location, meet old friend there for an unrelated event
>her and I hit it off, start texting and are making it clear we're down to fuck casually
>agree to split a room
How do I NOT fuck this up? What is the actual process for casual hookups and how do i approach it in person?
do not share your feelings/problems/issues/insecurities with her. nothing will dry her up faster.
live in the moment. share all that other shit after you get your dick wet.
Condom
Anti-bacterial soap for your balls
Cologne sprayed once on eat pit and then spray some on your hand then wipe at the back of your neck
Fresh underwear with a shower to boot
As long as you clean, you talk casually, tease her, make her laugh, stare deeply into her eyes and then make out. From then on you have sex.
>>17468430
>>17468424
Good tips lads, i know not to be some cry baby open book but the tips on actually leading into the sex is valuable stuff.
If you've been together with a guy for 3 1/2 years, and living together for 1 year.
And you asked him, informally, if he'd be willing to marry you and he kind of shrugged it off.
Would that be grounds to break up?
I found out recently I have to get a major surgery and I asked him if he'd want to marry me to make sure my parents don't make terrible medical decisions to save a buck or get any of my savings if I die in surgery. (My family is very abusive and I never talk to them)
I let him know if we wanted we could just have a secret elopement and then a real wedding later if he wanted and he did say that he'd just only want our main friend group and not his parents if we do a secret elopement. So I think he's receptive?
I didn't bring it out again and he hasn't either except to make a joke out of it by saying his reaction was "wow she really thinks she's dying" because at first he thought I was joking by asking him.
I know he has said before he wants a "real"/expensive wedding, so I'm not sure if he'd not want to get married until we could afford that. In the past, he has also weakly tried to get me to like wedding dresses in the past and asked my ring size jokingly.
And I could see myself spending my life with him but if he waited to propose until he could afford a real wedding/after my surgery when I'd kind of need the legal benefits of a spouse I just see myself being really mad at that. Or even if I somehow finagled for him to have all medical decisions and make sure he's in my will and all and then later he wanted to get married it's like "now there's no point".
I've also told him before I'm willing to sign a prenup under watch of a lawyer and all that jazz before this devolves into a
>All women are whores who want to get married to steal a man's soul circle jerk
So you want to marry him for the medical benefits to help for the surgery? Like I get you love him and everything but that seems to be the main reason why you are pushing him for marriage...
Also no offence but he comes off as an indecisive pansy who can't make up his mind. A man should be decisive in his decision and not be taking his sweet time not sure what to do.
>>17468362
It sounds to me like he's considered marrying you, and you're forcing the issue a bit on him, which is scary. Maybe he's not ready to be solely responsible for your medical decisions? Maybe he's not ready to tell your parents to go fuck themselves when it comes to making plans for your long term wellbeing? Maybe he's not ready to take care of you if you do end up getting damaged?
I mean, this is a matter of expectations for sure... what you're willing to accept, and what he is. I'm just saying, I'm not totally ready to tell a girl's parents that they have no say in their daughter's life as some kind of "gotcha" moment.
A guy who doesn't want to marry you will make all the excuses in the world xD !
He is just with you for the fun and doesn't really care about you.
Better get off that relationship soon before he brakes your heart a year later.
Take care.
Skipping the intro because I don't want this to be too long, I have an older brother who is 21. To describe him, he leaves food, dirty clothes, and trash everywhere he goes, he's honestly stupid and does poorly in college and just school education in general, he can't hold a job, he thinks he's a big fucking deal and walks all over everyone, and he works out a lot, so he thinks he's huge. He actually is pretty muscular mainly because he takes steroids.
Out of all of this, the one thing I can't ignore is that he verbally abuses our mother to the point where I think they are about to reach physical confrontation. My father never seems to end the fighting because he just doesn’t want to deal with the headache. I’m about to reach my breaking point, what should I do? The reason I don’t beat the fucking shit out of him is because I don’t know if it will make the situation better or worse.
Should I just fight him next time they fight? Should I seek therapy for my whole god damn family? Should I do nothing? Help me out here please.
If you fight him you could cause a major rift in the family. You will be seen as the aggressor and even though your actions were noble, you will be ostracized. I can already see your mother saying "sure we had problems but beating him up isn't the answer. what is wrong with you?"
Stay neutral and do nothing, bide your time until you can move out and can leave after the incident.
>>17468337
I could always take that route, to just ignore it and move out but family means a lot to me. I don't want to see my mother hurt and my brother even has some moments where he seems like a good guy but then he bounces back to being an angry douche.
God forbid something actually happens between my mother and brother, I would feel awful knowing I could have done something.
>>17468372
Do you live with your parents? I need to know the situation. Like does your brother go to college and visit the family during the summer?
bought 60 dollars worth of weed. did i get ripped off?
That's broccoli OP
Ebin
Make you screencap this thread for your Reddit buddies
>>17468322
u mad brah xD
Hey /adv/, I have a serious health problem. It's a sleep disorder. But it's affecting my entire life. For some reason I'm not getting enough oxygen at night and I'm really exhausted/ fatigued all the time. I've been getting bad chest pains and migraines and have been to a sleep doctor and 2 ENT doctors. So far what they've done:
>prescribed me sleep medication
>got air purifier/ humidifier
>turbinate reduction surgery
>nasal steroids
>antibiotics
>oral steroids
>maximal medical therapy (was on 3 steroids and some other shit)
>catscan on sinuses
I weigh 140. For some reason they all refuse to give me a sleep study. I've asked multiple times. I also have a deviated septum and nasal bone but they also disregard that. I'm not sure what to do. I can feel my body becoming seriously weakened from all of this. I've been seeing doctors for almost a year now and my sleep has only gotten worse. I'm afraid they're just draining my insurance but I hope to god they wouldn't do that. I've tried expressing how serious this is and have even cried when telling them the severity. I've been falling asleep in public places and even behind dumpsters and stuff. Like I feel like a crack addict, but for sleep. I really would just prefer to be euthanized at this point.
Idk what I should do
We aren't doctors anon, sorry but we can't give you a diagnosis.
>>17468324
You're right. Sorry for this
Do you feel better when you leave your house?
I found out today that I'm making sharply less money than I should be. I'll admit, I was very excited about my promotion, and didn't stand up for myself hard enough in the negotiation process - mainly because they gave me the position without having to interview.
I literally found out that the guy I'm going to hire is likely going to make just $1,000 per year less than me. It just so happens today that a headhunter called me to interview for a position that will make $20,000 or so more.
But I love the people that I work with, and especially my flexibility. Unlimited vacation, work from home days, boss loves me and stays off my back, a bunch of free dinners, etc.
Is money worth leaving? Or should I suck it up?
If you 3 to 5 years of experience then you leave until then stay. Once you stockpile experience you shift to another position quite quickly with a significant pay increase.
Make your boss aware of the offer you received and see if you can negotiate for better pay. It's possible that the firm you're with just can't afford to pay you so much, but you should stand up for yourself and show how valuable you are. My guess is, if your boss likes you, he'll be receptive to negotiating for better pay. $20K is a lot so I doubt he'll match, but I'd say it might be worth working for $10K less a year if you like where you work.
So yeah, I'd say try to negotiate for higher pay, and then decide how much money you're willing to sacrifice to work somewhere you enjoy.
I should also make it clear, though, that I'm not talking from experience. I'm going off logic and second hand advice.
>>17468293
I have 6 years of experience in the industry, a little under two years at this company.
>>17468312
It's not an official offer, but taking the time to interview and such would be a pain in my ass just for leverage... the other job doesn't seem as cool either, so were it not for the money, I'd be bailing on it.
Another note is that I signed on to this role three months ago, so I think my boss would laugh me out of the room for trying to negotiate that soon.
Thanks for letting me know that's second hand. I still appreciate it.