Let's talk cover letters!
I have always sucked at writing them. I think the biggest roadblock that comes with writing a cover letter is trying to write a short story about yourself and your relevant experience to get a job, but knowing deep down how trash you really are. This is probably the only thing that holds me back from sending out more job applications on a daily basis (aside from credentials).
How do you guys overcome these issues when you're applying for jobs?
my advisor helps me write them
no interviews after 8 applications though
>>17470832
I feel your pain, man.
I need someone to talk some sense into me /adv/.
I'm a 20 y/o guy and I met this girl at work back in may. She is 24 and has a 5 year old kid which I barely know, but I can tell she really loves him and takes care of him. We started hanging out almost everyday after work, she would give me a ride back home every day and we would talk and joke till 4 AM. Eventually we started making out for hours after work and she even took my virginity.
She told me she was talking to a guy from church and they dated for a while but when she met me she drifted away from him and started hanging out with me instead, however they still talked a little bit when they saw each other at church and the meetings they had. She told me she didnt see him as more than a friend, but that she once thought about having a serious relationship with him because he got along well with her kid and his family was nice.
I thought we were both catching feelings for each other, at least I know I was, and when I left to hometown for a month we promised to stay in contact and that nothing would change when I went back.
Here's where the shit starts, at first we would text everyday and I could tell she was still into me but as time passed she started being more distant and would take hours to reply even though I know she checks her phone very often. She then told me she had been seeing the church guy very often and was starting to fall in love with him. I told her I really liked her and would hate to lose her but that she had the final word. After that we started texting often again and after awhile she became cold once again. Then she called me and told me she had made her mind up and that she was choosing the other guy, I was devastated and I told her I loved her but that she had to do whatever made her happy, I also told her I was gonna cut contact with her. 1/2
And I kept my word, haven't talked to her since but I really miss her, thing is I'm going back to the city next week and I'll see her at work everyday and I just don't know how I'm gonna react. Tbh I know its a bad fucking idea to date a single mom, and I shouldn't be missing her so much but I just can't stop myself. I also know its a bad idea to try and win her back but that's my plan so far and I cant think straight. So /adv/, any words of wisdom will be appreciated, don't hold back, chances are if you say I'm a fucking dumbass I'll agree with you but I think I just need to hear it from someone else.
BTW English is not my first language. 2/2
>>17470790
Consider yourself lucky bro. She did you a solid, and let's be real, she's looking for a dad for her kid. That ain't you.
>>17470790
Femanon here. Be cold and distant.Play it cool.There is a chance the bitch might come around.
How easy is it for you guys to keep a boner?
I find that if I get distracted or stop paying attention, my little pal will deflate like within 20 seconds. That seems odd, and its also kind of annoying because stuff just like having to rifle through drawers to find condoms can really fuck me over.
Can you guys just maintain a boner without even thinking about it for extended periods of time?
>>17470785
my record is 2hours with multiple ejaculations without any cheaiting (viagra etc)
other times I just cant get it up. Depends on a day, mood and the girl.
Point is: If your little bro says you shouldnt be putting him in this hole he's probobly right.
>>17470810
but its really weird
on a mental level i consciously REALLY want to fuck + cuddle this person
but on a physical level things are challenging. not terrible, but challenging.
what could it mean???
>>17470815
How much porn do you watch?
I'm taking a p hard science class this semester.
The class comes with a lab manual.
I went to the publisher's website and found the answer key to the lab manual for sale "for instructors only."
Basically, on top of paying $35 you had to be able to prove you were a college professor teaching this publisher's material in your course.
Without much effort at all (seriously, I'm a fucking retard and I can't believe what I tried fucking worked holy SHIT) I gained access to the complete answer key in .pdf format ON THE PUBLISHER'S SITE. All I did was look at the source code for the link, pick out a .pdf, and copied it into the URL bar. And there it was.
Anyway, I have the file up in a tab right now and I'm prepared to download it but
1. I'm afraid I could be traced and ultimately identified and thrown out of class/barred from ever getting in to this program again
2. I'm a little guilt ridden at the thought of having the answers to the homework for the semester
Now, the fact is, I want to do well in this class. And even if I cheated on all the homework, I'd have to pass the tests and the lab activities, etc to pass the class. I don't intend to copy straight outta the lab manual, in fact, I think it could be an asset to being certain I'm actually learning this shit.
But I'm way scared of being caught by the publisher and sued/fined/shamed and thrown out of my program.
Can I be traced/caught by doing this?
Is there any risk?
Thanks, /adv/.
filler text for bumping
>>17470771
>english major taking biology for the first time detected
Don't worry you won't use math in real life anyway so cheat away.
>>17470771
no one will care. the publisher is not tracing all visitors to their website.
why is it, that society is so disgusted with female sexuality? why is it considered shamefull and a sin? why do girls have to act as if they are asexual and have no desires to be considered "decent"? why is a girl labeled a whore if she has a flirty personality? i´m not trying to defend actual sluts. i just want to know why
>>17470752
I don't feel like any of this is true.
>>17470752
You're arguing against something that doesn't exist. People generally dislike flagrant displays of sexuality from either sex, or from neither.
you're not gonna get an adequate answer here, read a book on this shit.
can't recommend one as i have no interest in it.
try your local library.
How do you manage nervousness and remain calm when in stressful situations? The deep breathing techniques don't work for me.
Just get a grip and stop being such a little bitch.
>>17470780
some people just can't do that anon. you should know better. are you retarded?
>>17470780
>get a grip
That What I'd like to learn how to do, anon-kun.
TL;DR : Girlfriend got kissed by another girl I got pissed off and we left. I asked for apology. Got one it was half assed, I explained to her what she did can't happen again and now my girlfriend's best friend (who's friends with the girl that kiss my girlfriend) is pissed and if I don't make up with her my GF and I will probably break up.
>GF(who is bi) asks if we could go to her best friend's friend (who's bi and is in an open relationship) 21st birthday party
>Say sure
>ends up being in the gay part of town (boys town Chicago)
>Sure whatever doesn't bother me
>get there and pregame in the hotel before hitting the bars
>end up getting to the first bar that's packed
>Start dancing with GF everything is good
>GF and her best friend need to go to the bathroom
>start heading there and the who time I'm getting grabbed by guys and one put his hand down my pants
>feel really uncomfortable tell GF and she says how sorry she is that happened
>we leave the bar and get ready to go to the next one
>we get in line
>Birthday girl says she lost her phone
>GF decides to try and call it
>guy answers 10 feet behind us and gives her the phone
>everyone is super happy
>the girl looks like she's going to give my GF a hug
>ends up surprising her with a kiss.
>right in front of me
>Pissed off and tell them that's not ok
>people in are group try and calm me down and still me don't worry it's ok
>get even more pissed off.
>tell the girlfriend we're going
cont...
>the ride home GF and I talk
>she's telling me she never expected her to do that and that she's been trying to fight the stereotype that just because she's by she uses it to kiss the same sex whenever
>Never had really crossed my mind, but I help her calm down
>I don't blame her I blame the birthday girl completely
>sent a text to my GF's best friend telling her that the birthday girl owe's us an apology.
>Get an apology that was really half assed in my opinion.
>"I am so sorry for kissing GF. I don't remember much from last night but I was informed about that. I was drunk and stupid and I'm sorry. It will never happen again. Sorry"
>I give it a day and monday I feel like I need to make her truly understand why this can't happen again.
>"I just want to let you know what you did is unacceptable. I don't care if you're able to kiss anyone you want with your relationships but not giving consent to the person you're about to kiss that's in a relationship is gross and potentially relationship destroying. Being drunk or because it's your birthday is never a good excuse. Your friends tried to defuse the whole situation with a simple she's drunk it's fine, it's not fine and is a huge slap to the face to GF and I. You had GF and I crying for most of that night. You nearly destroyed all the trust she has earned with me in proving that just because she's bi doesn't mean she's making out with anyone from the same sex like it's a free pass. I hope the next time I see you isn't for a good while and if I do I expect you to understand that all relationships have different rules and just because your ignorant to someone else's rules doesn't make it okay to break them."
Cont...
>>17470698
>Before sending this to the girl I made sure my girlfriend was ok with it
>she tells me it's a bit harsh
>show her the message I got
>see's what i'm getting at and says that fine send it.
>I send it
>not to soon later I get a message from the girl.
>"Don't take this out on GF, she has done nothing wrong and has no reason to lose your trust. I am the one who fucked up. And being drunk or my birthday is no excuse I know. I'm sorry but if your made at anyone it's me not her. She has never cheated on your or done anything for you to question her. So if you base bisexuals off of my behavior that is your problem. I am sorry and I already apologized and talked to GF."
>"Also for a general FYI being bi doesn't give you a free pass to make out with whoever you want. Being in open relationship lets me see whoever I want so don't base what I do in on my open relationships as what everyone does."
>Don't know what the fuck she's talking about and try and typing to tell her you're missing the point
>get a message from GF telling me that her Best Friend told her to tell me to never message her again
>that the girl is about to break down crying at work
>delete the message I was about to send. and block her at my GF's wishes
>later that night talk to the GF about what happened
>she's siding with her Best friend saying I was too harsh
>wtf
>then telling me her best friend is super mad at me for what i wrote to her
>wtf
>she's taking her side saying she didn't ready the message in full and what i said was not right
>WTF
>girlfriend asks if I can give her a clarification letter so hopefully she can fix this mess.
>Write this
>>17470700
>"What I was trying to get across was after GF and I left the group GF talked to me about the perception that she felt Bisexual people get and that she hoped that she didn't lose any trust because of that night. So when I wrote that message I was trying to get across what GF told me. And to be clear I have never thought of GF as one of those people that use the term bisexual to get away with not being faithful. The overall message I wanted Girl to understand is that because she didn't give GF consent she had the chance to destroy a relationship in a second and you can't forgot about these kind of event because maybe next time this happens when you're drinking and you give a girl or guy a peck on the lips that relationship doesn't work and that relationship does crumble. I know no one would like that on their conscience."
>GF tells me that's good
>next day freaking out
>call the GF at night to see what her best friend thought about the letter
>still mad at me
>WTF
>ask my GF why?
>apparently she's had deeper issues with me and this was just the thing that broke the camel's back.
>She's trying to get her to talk to her and I last night but she had to get up early and it was midnight
>talk to GF and it sounds like it's going to be a two vs one discussion with me by myself on this one.
>if I can make it work with her best friend i basically am losing my GF in the process
>The best friend has the power to end this relationship
>Couldn't sleep last night
>been depressed all day and just posting the most depression shit on snapchat all day
>5-6 hours till this talk happens...
What the fuck do I do??!?! I don't know what I did to this girl to make her have a deep seeded hate for me or whenever but clearly she's ready to fuck up my relationship for it!
I don't know I go into this discussion without feeling like i already lost...
What's the difference between loneliness and solitude.
How content you are
>>17470695
one is egosyntonic, one is egodystonic
speaking in normal language - you like one, while the other one gives you pain
>>17470695
Solitude is when there is not another person physically around you.
Loneliness is when you feel a dearth of human contact.
You can be in a place by yourself and still not feel like you're lacking in human connections.
Likewise, you can be surrounded by people and still feel like you have a painful lack of fulfilling connections.
Hey /adv/,
So I got pulled over yesterday going 81 in a 35 zone. The officer cut me some slack and wrote it off as 50 in a 35, and this all happened around 1:30 a.m.. I got pulled over alongside another guy who was going slightly faster than me. I'm most likely going to pay the fine and be done with the legal part as such, but is there any way I can avoid the insurance hike? First time offense, too, with a previously pristine record.
Negative. You should've paid full price...
>>17470682
To be perfectly honest, I deserved to pay the full fine. I was polite, respectful, and had everything prepared, so I'm assuming that's why the officer let me off easy. Can't quite afford an insurance hike for my momentary recklessness in a very low-traffic area, unfortunately.
Sell your car for something cheaper to insure, you fucked up royally.
Hi /adv/
What should I spend my money on that will make me happy?
I'm 19 yo still in school have a lot of money because I worked a part time job the last 3 years but didn't use any of them
Pic unrelated
>>17470660
people are not robots running the same scripst. what would make you happy wont make others happy.
>>17470660
Buy a sailboat
>>17470660
Don't buy anything that would require extra maintainance.
If you can, upgrade something you already have that needs a re-do, buy an experience, go do something new, or buy something that won't need much upkeep.
Maybe your computer is old, maybe you always wanted to skydive, maybe if you had a tent you'd go camping... think along those lines.
My girlfriend is vegan. I eat meat. Should I go vegan too?
>>17470637
My girlfriend sucks dicks, should i suck dicks too?
>>17470648
Fpbp
Yea it makes you healthier because you eliminate a bunch of junk food. Dive into slowly eliminating 1 item a day
Hey, do I have pectus excavatum or man boobs(is this a desease?)
One more
>>17470629
>>17470627
Idk why the photos got rotaded
You have fatty tits. That's all. Get in shape and lower your body fat and it'll go away.
What colleges can I even go to?
Got a 3.0 gpa in high school.
Shit grades in hs, did community college for free my senior year of high school, got a 4.0 full time college gpa.
I'm from Minnesota, but have no idea where I can go to uni, any help?
My extra cirriculars were AFJROTC (Air Force junior cadet thing) financial manager, I played bass. (not involved in anything structured)
Did you get a degree for Community College ?
What are you interested in?
>>17470614
You have a pretty good chance of getting into your first-string state uni (U of Minn?), based largely on the CC grades. You have a very good chance of getting into the second-string state school (Minn State U?) Apply to both.
J
She cheated on me, it's a fact, not going to go into details on how I found out. When I told her I was onto her and that it was over, she just denied it and insulted me, said I was the bad one.
It's over. How do I stop looking at her instagram and facebook profiles?
Remind yourself that she was never the person you thought she was
>>17470601
When was the breakup?
Man she shat all over you. No loyality, no empathy, no responsibility. When I confronted her I was out of my mind, shaking, breathing heavily, I was ready to murder someone. She calmly said that it just felt right and that our relationship wasn't going well anyway.
There are encouraging guides for no contact after a breakup on the internet, just google it. Spent hours reading stuff about people who got cheated on. I think there's a program that lets you block certain url's for your access irreversably.
>>17470620
Fuck I deleted the part where I said that I got cheated on two months ago
Hello, /adv/!
I have a girl problem (surprise!)
Basically, I was with her for 2 years and I love her to death
However, few months ago she broke up with me. We lacked communication and understanding and thus made mistakes. Happens
Like a month ago we started talking again. We talked about what happened and we both explained our regrets. She said she doesn't know anymore why she left me, that she still has feelings and if she was single, she'd try to fix it. Cause she started dating some cheating fag
Oh well, we continued being friends. We were cute to eachother sometimes, sending kisses on fb (lol dawwww) etc
Last friday she told me she broke up with that loser cause he was lying to her. Good move, girl! She explained me everything etc, and we just continued being cute
Day after I didn't message her cause I decided to message her every 2 days to not bother her too much. The day after that she said she was upset about it and so I explained everything and we continued on
We were going on ok, but today I went full retard and asked her about feelings and told her I am confused etc. I knew I shouldn't have cause it's too early and I can't just rush things, but well, I'm a moron. Now she said no more kisses or flirting, just talking now. I fucked up, basically
What do? Should I just try to continue as if nothing happened and hope it all returns on right track? Or is there something specific I should do? Help, /adv/!
PS: She also said she's in a bad mood today for some different reasons than my fuck up. I am not sure if it changes anything, but thought it's worth noting.
PS2: if this posted twice or in someone's thread, sorry. Using this Mobile App for the first time
PS3: pic unrelated
>>17470557
Not worth it. Move on.
>>17470560
Thanks for input. There's probably a lot right in that simple advice, however I hope someone tells me how to try to fix up what just happened
bump full of hopes