Why do I feel everyone secretly dislikes me?
What do I do if my feeling is right?
Everyone feels that way. It's probably not the case, and the best thing you can do is act as if it isn't.
>>17477764
Because you're insecure. That doesn't mean people like you, though.
>>17477768
Most people over look their insecurities and possess enough intuition to not experience this.
>>17477792
c'mon, quit trying to make OP feel bad
OP, stay positive, and positivity will come to you
Do antidepressants really help? Meds for anxiety, nerve, and panic attacks? What side effects do they have?
My gf was having attacks lately and got the pills but didnt really want to take it.
Hours ago she told me about her suicidal thoughts and how she was about to kill herself. Similar episodes happened in the past too. I will convince her to take that meds at any costs, but do they help or make things worse? What should I expect from it?
>>17477727
Yes, the work.
>>17477846
*they?
sorry for the typo.
They're supposed to be used in combination with psychotherapy
If you want magic pills that make all the bad thoughts go away, you take mdma.
I am 21 and failed to take control of my life. For most of my life I would say I fit into a 4channer stereotype-fat, occasionally good with women but generally not, depressed and anxious, "above average intelligence" but a total fuckup academically. I have improved myself academically and am doing pretty well at a prestigious university (well, <33% acceptance rate), and my depression and anxiety comes in waves.
What I'm looking for is some guide. I've realized that much of my failure has stemmed from following those around me; an overweight family that too binge eats, sheds weight for a year or less, and then returns to Hamplanet. Being a follower like I have been would be stupid, BUT I also believe that there are many people like me online who have transformed their lives-gotten in shape, gotten a handle on what it takes to succeed in America, etc... Does anyone have some infograph or piece of writing that sort of specifically addresses what to do to fix it all? In other words, some sort of JPG life coach that tells me, you will eat this way, you will read these books, you will do this and that, until you are transformed in a year?
Pic related: I'd call her a 10. I've fucked girls that may be 8s, but failed with a 9. Please help me.
You're at the wrong place. No one here and espacially no 'JPG life coach' can help you. I could post dozens of links, images and motivational quotes, for you, but that's not what you need.
You need to get out! Out of the internet, your house, your comfort zone. Go to the next pub sit at the bar and ask the guys next to you how their days were. Then look for a new hobby, a new sport and a way to volunteer for something bigger than yourself. Humans aren't made to spend days and nights sitting in front of a screen. We evolved thousands of years to be social creatures. Everything will fall into place as soon, as you embrace the real world.
>>17477661
>Go to the next pub sit at the bar and ask the guys next to you how their days were.
When I had the cash to do this, it was actually enjoyable.
I only had a father figure from age 6 -9 and he wasn't much of a role model at all so I genuinly enjoyed listening to the old guys at my local pubs talk about their lives. I really like older people so I felt very little anxiety talking to them (beer definitely helped) and I would often walk away with a life lesson or two.
Kill the buddha faggot.
Also just get the ball rolling in some endeavour. It sounds like your academically inclined, so do that. As far as others in your life, be grateful to them no matter how much they've seemingly fucked you over. This is good. If you can't see why, then disregerd this vomit of text.
But basically you have to save yourself, as no one will do it for you. Ugly truth, but simple nonetheless. There is a limited time and persons you can blame on your circumstances before it becomes uncomfortable to the point of negativity. And that only makes it more difficult.
How do i stop being PHYSICALLY nervous around girls.
25 y/o virgin here. I'm improving. i can get cute girls from tinder but i can't keep them around for long due to my deep-rooted anxiety from still being a virgin. I know they say 'fake it til you make it', but how am i supposed to do that when my body betrays me?
Last girl i met i had her sleeping in my bed but we didn't fuck. I'm sure that's what she came over for, but i couldn't deliver; ny nerves made it hard to breathe and unable to even get a boner so all we did was cuddle. Even with her sweet ass against my dick i couldn't get it up. She never spoke to me again.
Anyways, i have a date with an even hotter girl next weekend, and i don't want to make the same mistake again.
How do i learn from my mistakes rather than just cringe at the thought of them?
And how do i control my body? The girl i mentioned, THINKING about her and thinking about having sex with her gives me a rock-hard boner and makes me cum buckets, but having her right there in my bed, her body pressed against mine in painted-on yoga pants, i couldn't even feel my dick. Almost felt like there was nothing there.
>>17477547
Holy shit senpai it's just women. Why do you give a shit? They are objectively beneath us.
>pic related
>>17477581
This type of thinking would actually help OP.
It sounds like a joke, but if you genuinly adhere to that belief then I'm confident you won't feel even half as anxious around them.
So my brother is about 20 years older than me, and he wants to get this software that records all the activity on a device for his kids called accountable2you (Yeah it's actually spelled like that). Despite the fact that he'd moved out while I was headed to preschool, I really care about him and his family. I don't want his kids to find these crazy sites like this that have porn and weirdos.
According to the site, the software tells the host all the sites the client(s) have been on, then it alerts the host when there's a suspicious tab in a/the clients history. So my question is:
>Does accountable2you alert the host when the client has been on a NSFW 4chan board.
>>17477530
I'd do it myself, but I'm pretty busy
>>17477530
I went on fucked up porn sites when I was a kid and I'm fine
>>17477620
>I'm fine
>browsing 4chan
Sure thing.
I'm supposed to go abroad to meet someone after 4 years of talking to them. Recently I've been applying for jobs like crazy and never get the offer. Anyway, I'm scared that I won't be able to afford the ticket to where the person will be, as well as spending money (around 50 days). Should I tell her this? This is also the only opportunity we've had since she's in uni (I'm meeting her at her study abroad) sorry I just literally have no one to ask this shit
Also I'm planning to arrive at the end of November. pls
>>17477526
MAKE the money, do whatever you can to get there and make the money to stay there
you can do it anon
i believe in you
How tho, I'm currently studying and I get like under 200 to me weekly, I feel like I can't get a job before 3 months is up, the flight is like 2000. By the time I finish studying, which is when I will leave, I'll have 4000.
I Live in a kinda small town, would it be weird to go and ask people at home if they need any jobs done?
Does anyone know what this is? It irritates my eye and I wake up with yellow things on my eyelid. I recently noticed it after a couple weeks of getting a new stray kitten (I gave him away now) any advice would be appreciated.
>>17477360
Heres another picture
Pink eye or just a simple infection from the unclean cat.
Go visit the doctor anon
>>17477376
I thought it might be that but I dont think pink eye caused the small white things to appear on the edge of my pupil.
Is it legal to buy codeine online in the UK?
self bump
Ask local pharmacy. It's not illegal to ask shit
Hey /adv/. For about a year now I've been having suicidal thoughts. I don't know why, but I just think about comitting suicide.
I'm not sure if it's "wanting to die", or if it's just because there's nothing actually thrilling for me. Nothing gives me joy or pleasure, I can't keep relationships, I barely have close friends, my family sees me as a disgrace, and I just generally lack motivation to do anything at all. Food that I used to love doesn't have the same taste to me, and everything seems bland. Like everything in this world has lost color.
I don't know how to tell about this to anyone I know, since I'm somewhat sure they would just say "just stop being sad and it'll be fine!", and that's just pointless conversation.
What is wrong with me? How do I fix this?
>>17477271
read books take meds
>>17477314
books about what? any specific subject or just random stuff?
Also meds for what?
>>17477316
for depression
Question to all people with gf's/bf's:
Do any of you ever get that feeling that you dont really know your partner and have no idea how they even ended up being so close to you and such an important part of your life? I just had a date with my gf of 9 years and while we where sitting there, eating, being all lovey-dovey when i just couldnt get that thought out of my head.
tldr:
>love gf for years
>suddenly look at her and think
>who the hell are you
>how did you even end up here
These sorts of dissociative moments are uncomfortable, but they're just part of being human. I wouldn't worry about it too much
>>17477172
Im not worryied about it. Just thought it was a bit weird.
>>17477149
Yeah. Just lost my virginity to my bf of 1.5 year and had a moment like that. Like.. I've been driving around town, eating, and cuddling with this.. other being. And he has been inside me but has a mind I can never know.
Why do I keep having dreams of my ex. They're becoming very vivid dreams and in them, it's always while she's at work.
These are the most realistic feeling dreams I've had. I feel happy to around her in these dreams.
What could this mean ?
>>17477068
It means you're a faggot
>>17477068
you miss her
It means that you're having dreams about your ex.
Spoiler: dreams don't mean anything. It's just your brain processing useless information.
Should i learn mandarin?
Would it make getting a job easier?
>>17477005
If you want to, and no, probly not.
Depends on the job.
Just learning how to scribble ching chong slang wont gain your liberal arts degree any worth, sorry.
So I'm doing shit at adulthood. Parents have been pushing me to be a Nurse cause good money basically and while I don't really have a drive to be a nurse, I've been going for it anyway. Tried looking into other career paths, but parents basically push those off as Nursing makes a lot of money and they say I can just do it for a bit, save up, THEN go for what I want to do. They basically make it sound like any other job would leave me living in a box unless I make $30+/hr. Well...Fucked up some semesters and classes. Taking Chem and Math for the 3rd time by now. Basically fucking it up because I'm stupid.
I'm still doing prerequisites for Nursing as a sophomore and am looking at 2 more years once in the Nursing Program. Assuming I get in. Parents are saying how I'm already "late" with more years added till I'm a nurse. I'm 22, still live at home, no real savings or anything. Basically wasting life at this point. Would end it all by now if I wasn't so afraid of death. What do?
Well, what would you like to do?
>>17476935
No idea. I'm good with computers and electronics, so I kinda figured I'd like to learn more about it. Maybe IT or something, but again. Parents basically said it was a waste of time.
Computers and games are my loves and it would have been nice to get into something that was related to those.
>>17476944
Forget the parents and what they tell you. You already wasted time, when they pushed you into a degree you don't want.
If you are interested in IT then try to educate yourself in your free time. Not only about the work, but potential courses at your university and how to switch majors.
Just don't go into this field because of video games and wanting to become a game developer.
How do I stop watching interracial porn?
>>17476768
You just stop doing it.
You should probably stop coming to 4chan, where you'll be exposed to interracial porn every single day
>>17476777
That's what made me start watching it
I want to learn more about how the human brain functions so I can manipulate it. Should I study psychology or sociology? Something else?
>>17476766
if you cant figure it out on your own you wont figure out how to use the knowledge to manipulate people
>>17476797
I would just go psychology, but apparently that whole field is a joke academia-wise. I'd like some information from people who have actually gone through these programs.
any basic anatomy you can read up on
naked ape by Desmond Morris
meditations on violence by Rory Miller
emotional intelligence by Daniel Goleman
nothing on how to be persuasive, sorry.
still working on that myself.