Going to keep this short. I really have no one to talk to on this and never go on this board but figure what the hell.
>Girl
>Cute, funny, completely my type
>Seems like she likes me but then also seems like friend zone
>leaning more toward the friend zone at the point
>feel like shit because of this
I hate this feeling and I hate how it basically got dropped on me. She basically showed up out of no where and now I see her all the time. At this point I'm just waiting for my school to start on monday to hopefully take my mind off of her. If anyone wants to offer advice on how to either win her over or just help with forgetting my feelings for her.
>>17479042
>win her over
Just fucking ask her out, dude.
Either she says yes and you get a date out of it or she says no and you can move on with your life.
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She knows all my friends and it would be risky since they also know her ex which already hates me without knowing this shit. It's complicated to be honest and I don't even think it would work but here I am with my shitty emotions fucking with my life. Never really fell for a girl like this before and it's eating me inside knowing that it's fated to take a shit on everything. Also pretty sure she's still hung up on her ex even though she doesn't show it. It's a recent break up.
It's a gamble, either you lose a friend or gain a pussy. It just depends if you are willing to check.
Found out that an ex-friend who regularly shittalks about me online and has made thinly veiled death threats has been posting publicly about how shitty their job is on Twitter. Should I send anonymous screencaps to their work to get them fired or let nature run its course (it looks like they might be replaced by someone new at work anyway)?
Do it
Devilish btw
Let nature take its course. People in general will talk to them and think wow, what a negative shithead. Unless it affects your job. Letting haters hater is mature and people will notice it. So let the flame that burns twice as hot dwindle twice as fast
>>17479039
Don't get involved. Don't battle toxic people by becoming one.
You can either go down in the mud and sling shit with the rest of the pigs or you can be the adult, go about your day and focus on more productive things.
Make your choice.
I think I have some kind of fear of large bodies of water, and now my friends are taking me on a boating trip. I really want to go with them, but I'm extremely uncomfortable with the thought of being out in the middle of the ocean.
The last time I had a really bad experience with this was when I was younger, and my grandparents took us tubing out on a reservoir lake. It pretty much involved taking turns riding on the tube hooked to the back of a speedboat until you fell off. I was very nervous riding on the tube and when I inevitably fell off and was floating in the water while the boat circled around, I felt an overwhelming sense of dread and terror. I almost started screaming "get me out" as soon as the boat pulled up next to me.
I still get anxious thinking about situations like that. Ironically, I can't even play games like Subnautica due to the same anxiety. Point being, what could I do to get around this if I went with my friends on this trip? Does anyone have a similar fear?
I say go. Make them aware that your have this fear but day you'll try your best.
When you're there, take everything within your stride, but take your time, step by step, getting more involved with the water. Ignore any peer pressure and banter. In fact I'd say to them something along the lines of if they tease you about it then you won't even try to go in. Sounds sad but the last thing you need is ridicule.
I don't know a lot about fears and such, but I will say that the open water has the potential to be the most enjoyable active activity and bonding session you can have.
Good luuck d00d
>>17479158
But say*
Can you swim?
Going into last year of school with no male friends, When I had 3 close ones last year, They all graduated or transferred. What do I do? My school is really small and I don't want to make friends with any of the other weird guys at my school. I haven't had to made friends in years. What do I do? I don't want to be hanging out with girls the entire year. I can only hope that there's a cool group of guys that is going next year.
Are you a guy or a girl? Are you gay? What's the deal?
I went to a 600 student uni in a 40k people town. I met locals and hung out with them. Two I befriended so well we went on a month-long hiking trip this summer. I graduated this summer but I'm passing by next week to see some old mates and look at new girls from the other side of the room and imagine our lives together.
My blood serum creatinine is 2.1ml, my GFR is 44.4 mL, been feeling tired all the time for about 7 months now, my blood pressure spikes to 160/110 and sometimes i feel chest pain, what the fuck should/can I do?
Pic unrelated
Go vegan. No shit, it usually fixes these kind of health issues
>>17478802
OP talk to a doctor before doing this. this anon could be right, and I'm certainly not gonna argue against veggies being good for you. but you should be seeing your doc about this anyway, and you should get a professional opinion as to whether a diet change is going to help you.
>>17478798
>>17478798
OP you should really go to a doctor,. I assume you are not over 60 years old, so your serum creatinine levels are surely sign of renal isufficiency, which could have been caused by your elevated blood pressure. Those spikes in blood pressure and can be signs of dangerous but treatable illnesses, like pheochromocytoma. If so changing your diet will do absolutely nothing.
Been seeing a girl recently, we really like each other and have kissed many times and shit. Last night we met fairly late at night, she'd already had a little bit to drink (approximately three units) about an hour prior meeting me, she was somewhat tipsy (awkward gait) but not shitfaced. We both have intense feelings for each other, and I tried to resist, and ended up waiting with her until 1am, when she'd sobered up, before receiving a BJ and fingering her, going back to her house and sleeping with her on the sofa. She keeps telling me not to worry and that she was fully "consenting", but it's playing on my mind somewhat, I mean I consciously avoided letting anything happen while she was tipsy so is it acceptable? I keep having nasty thoughts.
She probably likes you more now, knowing that you didn't want to take advantage
GG anon.
>>17478785
>being this beta
>>17478888
>having just had sex with her
I'm dating this amazing girl who's caring and pretty and loving and were both happy, but every now and then she starts talking about how she thinks I'm "the important one" in the relationship and that I'm the "primary" to all of our friends.
I'm not wrong in thinking this type of thinking is really toxic right? She's dealt with anxiety and bad depression in the past and still grapples with it now with self esteem issues. How do I help her? I feel so shit when i don't know how to convince her shes not a piece of crap or a loser
u cant help her only take advantage of this moment and her
...if u RLY care suggest she sees a therapist/ you both see a relationship therapist
She's probably actually not that amazing. Our brains play a really cruel trick on us when we meet someone new of the opposite sex. We overlook all their faults, and rationalize away all their bad behavior. She's probably just like every other petty, jealous girl out there. What you're seeing right now is nothing more than a veneer. If you're still together in 6 months you will begin to resent her. If you're still together in a year she will become unbearable.
>>17478756
I will talk to her about it, thanks
>>17478770
I've been with her for 2 years, still love her more than anything, I appreciate the advice though, definitely did a lot of thinking in the very beginning
Is marching band good enough daily exercise? I'm in my college marching band and we practice outside 3-4 times a week for 2-3 hours each sesh. It's not that I'm lazy and won't work out I just need to know if I need to do anything else to get/stay in at least some shape.
ummm obviously yes
should keep you in great shape as long as you're eating well, etc.
like. you're not going to get fat at least.
>>17478644
Damn, guess i just need to stop eating like a fat fuck
I would think so, that's 6-12 hours of marching around per week. though
what do you play? if it's something like drums, I would think that would be plenty of exercise. if it's something less strenuous like flute, maybe go for a walk in the park once a week or something just for something different (and a change of scenery).
other factors to think about might be how much you're walking around outside of band. such as, how far apart are your classes, how far is it to the parking lot, etc.
shit, I need to take a walk.
>>17478648
you and me both.
I'm a 22 year graduate with a 3.4 GPA and a B.S. in Biology (Molecular, Cellular, Developmental) from the University of Washington.
When I first entered college, I wanted to be a doctor with all my heart. But as time went on, I realized how much stress, sacrifice, and time (8+ years including residency) that they need to go through. I'll be lucky to get in at 24.
I've been thinking about getting some clinical hands on experience and applying to PA school / hopefully getting in and starting when i'm 24. (It's a 2 years masters program)
Has anyone here been my same shoes and what did they do / what would you recommend?
>>17478563
I think you're doing the right thing. You're only going to increase your chances of getting into med school plus you're gonna be hands on helping people which will help you get a feel for things.
I'm 25 and I graduated with a not quite pre-med major (probably like one or two postbac classes away) and generations of my family are doctors, so it's always in the back of my mind. I too am intimidated by the commitment required for just the training, as well as the lifestyle of a busy physician (not that they're all like that), but based on everyone I've seen who got into medical school through something other than a straight shot after graduation, the biggest thing seems to be hands on experience and/or volunteer work. I know dudes who went to EMT training and were paramedics into their 30s before going on to be MDs. There isn't really a time limit on this stuff it's just a question of how old you want to be before you're in an established career and making money, yknow?
>>17478563
Off-topic OP, but I'm a freshman right now with that major, and like you were before, I want too be a doctor too. Any advice for me in college?
>>17479072
2nd year med student here- the higher your grades are during undergrad, the much less stress you put yourself under before applying. Don't fuck up and you'll be golden. When I applied, 3.3 was the absolute lowest many schools (DO or MD) in my area even looked at, and even then, that's with a stellar interview and good ECs. Don't put yourself in a hole and you'll be good. Good luck man!
I fucked up a year ago and cost my parent tuition money. They're now keeping my social security card and trying to prevent me from getting a job/learning to drive unless I do it through them.
What should I do here?
Find out what it takes to get a new card and apply, yours is stolen essentially. Do not tell your family, and If it comes in the mail check the mail every day before they do. Keep it in a safe place and don't tell them you have it. I believe the number on the old and new card will be different as well, by the way.
>>17478486
Learn your ssn like everyone else
>>17478500
How exactly is he going to learn it if they won't give it to him to see? How's he going to use it as a form of proof to get his license? Many states require it being present.
Is flossing actually important? I hear that it's unnecessary but i've also heard that it is necessary. I don't know which side is right.
No matter how awesome your tooth-brushing skills are or how rad your brushing implement is, you'll probably miss a lot of stuff being stuffed in between your teeth.
Just floss once or twice a week and don't forget to rinse. As long as your gums aren't constantly bleeding/inflamed you should be A-OK
>>17478441
This. Flossing is very important, and it gets rid of the studf between your teeth that you miss while brushing.
Personally, I need to floss more. I already have sensitive teeth and I can't let it get worse
If you're not getting bleeding or inflamed gums you're probably okay but if you don't floss chances are you're probably going to get decomposing shit between your teeth and that's nasty, regardlss of how "healthy" your mouth is
College freshman here. I just moved in today. I feel like everyone on my dorm floor is a fucking moron. Like I just moved in and they're all bonding but I had a couple of conversations with them and they're all fucking so boring they just go nuts and keep bragging about how much theyre gonna drink to make it even more apparent that they were all losers in high school that never had the chance to do it. these are the only people I met so far so I feel dumb and lonely sitting in my room. I'm not physically repulsive or socially autistic, and I want to just meet some cool kids. Any advice on what to do my first week to do this?
Look into clubs for activities that you enjoy and join them. Try to stay open in your beginning classes and see if you can't meet 'cool' folks there. Consider joining Student Organizations once you've gotten a feel for how everything works.
Above all, though, try to save judgement until after you get to know people. Lots of College Freshmen adopt personas to attract new friends because they're nervous. Don't give up just yet, but don't torture yourself if they really do turn out to be dinguses.
Join a club
Join a frat
Start hanging out with stoners
>>17478423
You sound fun to be around.
Seriously, though, even people you don't immediately think are cool can turn out to be pretty cool. But you won't get to find out if you dismiss them as morons after 10 minutes.
Does anyone actually get what they want in life?
'Get', as in, understand? Or as in, to acquire? Either way, for me, it's no in both cases.
>>17478432
Both desu
>>17478414
Yes, but it seldom falls into your lap. You need to make things happen, sometimes this involves MUH HARD WORK, sometimes it involves luck, a lot of the time it involves some combination of the two and a willingness to keep your eye out for tangential opportunities (like how I got my dream job through a customer I met waiting tables at a cafe).
Everything you've enjoyed, unless it was dirt and trees, was made by someone. Whether it was a happy childhood or a cool album of a fun game, people made it possible. You can make things possible too.
What do you do when your parent stops helping you in some way, and then gets upset when you attempt to help yourself?
details or GTFO
Is the pic related
Not op but
>Mom forces me to get summer job Even tho full time student
>Don't have licence so she has to pick me up late
>Gets mad when I want to go early to the dmv to get this shit started
>Same day, goes to sleep early and I have to call her to come get me.
Fuck other people. get your own shit, then laugh at their envy as you become better.
why cant I stop myself from buying weed
>>17478329
Because youre a bored 18-24 year old with no constructive or positive hobbies, you use it to hide behind a wall of ignorance to the time you could be spending on Knowledge/Skills/Hobbies.
Teach yourself to smoke only when you 'deserve' it.
Did you just pull a 10 hour workday? Go home and smoke a bowl. Just got a paycheck and paid rent? Enjoy a nice fat joint.
Stop wake'n'baking and smoking because you have nothing else to do. Take a shower, shave up your face and go talk a walk through nature. Bring some friends and a joint even, I dont care,
>>17478341
I feel this anon
>>17478341
He has a point. Just do things you normally would enjoy instead of smoking and turn weed into a reward if it's consuming too much of your money.
Go buy some new vidya or play an old game you never finished. Find a new series to get into on Netflix. Start a Youtube channel. Learn an instrument. Do whatever else.